The Truth

I’m going to come right out and say it: we are being sold lies about how to love ourselves.

Self-love is not a massage. Self-love is not a bath. Self-love is not whispering ‘you’re worth it’ while simultaneously crumpling with shame on the inside.

There are some good reasons why self-love is so hard for so many of us, and it’s not because your partner isn’t picking up their share of the load – though I’m not excusing that for a second, either.

Yes, we’re short for time. Yes, the expectations on mothers are higher than they’ve ever been and the support is arguably lower than at any other point in history. Yes, guilt is real. Yes, isolation is a problem. Yes, we’re carrying a disproportionate amount of household duties and the mental load is crushing. Yes, we’ve become compliant with a system that needs a huge value