Non-monogamy and me

Couples have started comparing years spent together in lockdown to dog years. In which case, my almost five-year relationship is now approaching its 39th anniversary. For the majority of our isolation, my partner and I spent most of our time together in one room. We’ve always been big communicators, but as the world around us turned to chaos our conversations turned to deeper topics: death, our fears and whether or not we would ever want to explore ethical non-monogamy (ENM). We’d already nurtured a non-traditional monogamous relationship, compared to that of societal expectations. Even after our en-gay-gement, we’d adamantly agreed that our needs as individuals would always trump those of ours as a couple.

We didn’t discuss opening