4 ways to become more secure in your relationship

We begin learning about the world from the day we are born, and the most important person in that world is our primary caregiver, usually mum. There’s an energetic dance that goes on between baby and mother, where a baby learns to trust and get their needs met through all different ways, which includes crying, but also energy, reaching out, touch, and facial expressions.

How mum responds when her baby reaches out influences whether the baby learns inherent trust or not – which means whether baby learns that things are okay and their needs will be met, or whether they learn that their emotional needs might not be met.

There’s no judgement against mum here: she could have been going through her own stress or depression, or other problems. But baby picks up on that, and develops a sense that sometimes they get their needs