UnbeWeavable
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Darryl A. Ballinger attended a hair and fashion show where people of color proudly sported their natural hair. He was blown away by men and women, boys and girls strutting fashion as well as their natural hair in various, even extravagant hairstyles. It was then that his eyes were suddenly opened, which he calls an "Epiphany." He realized that "natural" hair was beautiful and a thing to be proud of.
There are children who have never seen their mother or grandmother's real hair. This book is not against weave, wigs or permanents. There's nothing wrong with a little change now and then, but what is explored in this book is the problem, and what Ballinger reveals about what he has seen and learned, well, it's "Unbeweavable."
Darryl Ballinger
Author, Darryl A. Ballinger (aka "DA") was born in Kansas City, Missouri and raised in Chicago, Illinois. He began his writing career by submitting treatments to some of the most popular television sitcoms such as "All in the Family," "Good Times," "That's My Momma," and "The Jefferson's." At the age of 25 he moved to Los Angeles, California where he formed his own company called DA Vending. Later, he started a health-focused publication named "Health Unlimited International Publications." Recently, Ballinger was inspired to pen his first children's book entitled "Hi Mr. Tree, It's Me Sarah," about the misadventures of a little girl who befriends a very wise but lonely tree. His latest book "UnbeWeavable" recently released in eBook and paperback is the first in a series of books that will examine, evaluate and provoke dialogue about social and other issues that are taken for granted and shouldn't be. Having traveled throughout the world, Ballinger now resides in and calls Los Angeles his home.
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UnbeWeavable - Darryl Ballinger
Introduction
Be advised. This book is not a Black history moment. It was written because of my awakening to a serious wrong. It’s not a book about the history of Black hair even though it might seem that way from time to time. I just want to express my sincere and honest feelings about the systematic brainwashing job the Media
has performed on us, and the Black community is totally unaware of it. We as a people shouldn’t think about entering into the Promise Land if we’ve lost our self image.
Over the past five decades Black women have been under attack for their self-image—the attack on your Black Hair.
Weaves, extensions, relaxers and wigs have become synonymous with African American women and I want to know why! Why no other race of people on the planet is trying to change their image. It doesn’t make sense. I understand beauty, fashion and the pursuit of looking good but it’s gone far beyond that and we don’t even see it. Well its wake up time, time to come out from under the ether before you perish. So get ready for a wild ride and a no-holds-barred book about YOU and what they have done to our beautiful Black African queens.
There’s a serious mind game being played right now on us concerning our Black image. I was first exposed to it at a very early age about 10-years-old, if I remember correctly. My mother owned two wigs, one for day (work) and one for night (for parties). She would place them on white headrests at night. My brother and I used to play with them when she went to work. They were our first footballs. I remember how she looked so beautiful in them especially after they came back from the beautician. I got the same rush when we would send our mangy dog out to be groomed. When it returned, it was a toy poodle again. My mother was already a real beautiful woman and I couldn’t understand for the life of me why she wore wigs and not her naturally beautiful hair.
Now I realize why she wore them and probably for the same reasons you do—for speed, convenience and efficiency. My mother had six children to raise and time was a premium then, especially when it came to getting to work and us off to school. I still don’t know how she did it. But ladies I told you that story so you will realize that I get it. I understand your situation in Black America but that’s still no excuse for losing your identity. It took me 59 years to write this book and my research is very extensive, so please pay close attention.
From my early years as a child, to my adolescence I’ve seen the world, especially the United States from various view points. I know and understand how the many races and ethnicities are treated, used and otherwise controlled. Through my research I found that many companies back in the 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s would not hire Black women if she wore her natural hair or braids. What a mind trip and it’s even more insidious today! The Media ads, commercials, TV shows, videos, music, movies and internet are all being used to capture your mind, to make you feel like you’re not wanted unless you look a certain way. It’s time for you to take a stand for your right to be you. Starting with my mother, I applaud all Black women who want to look better and be the best they can be, but the time has come to expose the truth about Erasing the natural Black woman
phenomenon. Your sons and daughters are watching you and what do they see each day coming though the door? Do they see a beautiful Black woman who’s proud of her Black image, a woman who wears her hair braided or in dreads or maybe an Afro, proud and defiant? Or do they see someone else, Ms Fabulous with blond straight hair or extensions so long they almost touch the floor.
I applaud your versatility, but is it an everyday occurrence? Is it long, straight and blonde extensions and weaves with all kinds of colored streaks with hard gel, pressed to the side and dyed? Is it so hard that it cracks at the touch? I call it, The No Touch Zone.
This is not the real you ladies. I remember touching my mother’s hair and I loved the way it felt. I can only imagine what your children are going through when it comes to touching mommy’s hair. If the no touch zone applies to your lover it must also apply with equal force to your children and anyone else for that matter.
Ask yourself a question. What are some of the things I have denied myself, and children, because of my hair style? I’m pretty certain you don’t go swimming with your kids or splash around in the water with them. Do you and your girlfriends just sit in a chair and watch them have all the fun. All other races don’t do that. They’re experiencing what life has to offer, especially with their children. Do you exercise or do you use the excuse, my hair will go back
as the ladies say in New York or Chicago. Go back to what? Well let me tell you what—your natural state. And what’s wrong with that? That’s the way it’s supposed to be, natural. But the Media has you thinking that’s a bad thing. Don’t you see now how crazy that is? You’re using every trick in the book not to be you. Understand this also ladies, everyday that you avoid some sort of exercise, the unhealthier you become. Is this really the message you want to send to your family? Wait, that’s book #1.
Now this is the ultimate question. Is your love life suffering because your lover can never get too close? Must he always stay on guard in the event he might stray into the forbidden zone? Ask yourself this question, why isn’t there enough money at the end of the month for the little extras you want to buy for your kids? Where does all the money go? I could go on and on but I think you know where I’m coming from. We are about to embark on the most important journey you could ever imagine and together we will seek out the answers to these most provocative questions.
Chapter 1:
Identification Please
Will the real Black African American Women please step forward?
Maybe you’ve heard this question a thousand times and rarely gave it any attention. This time I want you to pay close attention to this phrase because it’s speaking directly to you this time, the Black African American woman. Let’s find out, just who you are.
(Is this the real you?)
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