Make Your Own Lunch: How to Live an Epically Epic Life through Work, Travel, Wonder, and (Maybe) College

Copyright © 2014 by Ryan Porter

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CONTENTS

Front Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Step 1: Setting the Table

1: It’s Lunchtime! An Introduction

Time to set the table (a.k.a: what’s this book all about).

2: Make Your Own Lunch

How to live an epic life and other helpful hints.

3: My Lunch Story

A little background on making your own lunch through trial and error…my trial and error.

4: Bento Box

Sometimes the greatest adventures come from the simplest decisions—like deciding to live juuust outside your comfort zone.

Step 2: Cookin’ It Up

5: The Main Ingredient: Decision

Decision is the ultimate superfood.

6: Point, Smile, & Hope

How to know yourself enough to identify what you want without guessing, crossing fingers, wishing on falling stars, and other terrible ways of deciding your future!

7: Understand Your Menu

Once you know yourself, know what your options are out there.

8: Slice, Dice, & Chop

Cut off all alternative options.

9: What Goes In Must Come Out

You can make decisions, but you can’t decide the consequences.

10: Get Hungry

Begin making your ultimate list.

Side Dish: Your Personal Menu

Twenty-One Questions to Get You Started

Step 3: Your Balanced Diet: Map It Out

11: The Four Food Groups

Four decisions you can make right now.

12: What’s in Your Cupboard?

Discover your skills and talents and how to make them work for you, and how to move forward if something’s missing (without focusing on what’s missing!).

13: Food Group I

Decide what you will have.

Side Dish: All You Can Eat

When What You Love and What You Do Meet

14: Food Group II

Decide where you will go.

15: Food Group III

Decide what you will do.

16: Food Group IV

Decide who you will be.

Step 4: Eat Up! (a.k.a. Chew, Digest, Repeat)

17: Recommended Daily Intake I: Vision

Create a vision for your epic life and administer a daily dose of your dreams.

18: Recommended Daily Intake II: Action

How to come up with an action plan and then actually act on it.

19: It Doesn’t Always Taste Good

Everybody has obstacles—not everybody will move past them, but you can.

Side Dish: Sweet & Sour

Choose to See the Good in Every Situation

20: Spit It Out

How to quit the stuff that’s holding you back and politely reject the naysayers you love who love you too.

Step 5: Chocolate-Covered Everything: Reap the Rewards of Hard Work, Realized Dreams, and All Things Sweet

21: Your Food Is Getting Cold

Procrastination is not a Recommended Daily Intake. Start doing something with your epic ideas now!

22: Itadakimasu

It’s time to say thank you.

23: Dig In

Begin living your epically epic life of work, travel, wonder, and (maybe) college.

Big-Ups & Shout-Outs

Resources & Tools

How to Contact Me

About Ryan

Back Cover

For Seiko

My life with you is the most epic life I could imagine.

Thank you.

Step 1

SETTING THE TABLE

1

IT’S LUNCHTIME! AN INTRODUCTION

Time to set the table (a.k.a. what’s this book all about).

→ When I yell, ‘Paddle!’ look straight ahead and paddle as hard as those pale, skinny arms can paddle!

It was week two of my four-week trip to Hawaii and Japan. I was hanging out on the north shore of Oahu (the surfing capital of the world), taking surf lessons from a fifty-five-year-old surfing veteran.

My surfing instructor was yelling at me as I waited, lying on my surfboard, in ridiculous anticipation of my first wave. The sun was beating down on my neck, waves were crashing all around me, and I was beginning to get nervous.

Remember, be patient. Whatever you do, watch out for the pearl!

Before I had the time to remember that the pearl was surfer slang for a face-plant, my instructor was yelling, Now! Paddle!

And with that, I began paddling as hard as my pale, skinny arms could paddle. My adrenaline was pumping as hard as the water under my board, and as the wave began to break, it picked me up and carried me toward the shore. I waited, even though I felt the urge to stand up. My surfing instructor had specifically told me that when you feel the urge to stand up, paddle three more times and then get up.

One…two…three…

I quickly slid my hands to the sides of the board, planted my feet, and stood up. I threw my arms out to my sides for balance, and miraculously, I was surfing. I’m sure I looked ridiculous, and maybe a little out of place, but I couldn’t have cared less. It felt awesome. I looked down at the wave then up at the beach. I couldn’t believe it—I was actually surfing.

In high school, I couldn’t have imagined that I would be doing what I do now. Traveling across North America talking to teens about how they too can do the things they want. I never thought I would write a book. I never pictured myself traveling around the world, camping on volcanoes in Guatemala, wearing samurai armor in Japan, surfing in Hawaii, or scuba diving in Honduras. My teachers and counselors never talked about other options.

They never guided with phrases like be patient or said anything about taking the time to figure things out. I was told there were three options: go to a four-year college, go to community college, or get a job. I wasn’t confident that any of those options was right for me at the time, so I took another route. I decided to make my own lunch.

I’ll explain what it means to make your own lunch in just a bit. In fact, the whole book is about exactly that. But what I mean in a nutshell is, we spend a ton of our young-adult lives being told what we need to survive and thrive. We’re told what our success should look like (and what we should look like) and how we should go get it. And a lot of us end up eating it up and swallowing it even if it doesn’t taste good going down.

Make Your Own Lunch is for you if any of the following apply:

• You are not sure if college is right for you.

• You know exactly what you want, but it doesn’t include college and your next steps aren’t clear.

• You have questions about school or what to do when you graduate.

• You don’t know where to start your next adventure.

• You want to meet people who took career paths your counselors and teachers didn’t talk about.

• You dream about traveling the world and exploring far-off places.

• You want to have fun and excitement in your life.

• You have trouble making decisions.

• You want to make changes to your school, your community, or the world.

• You want to start your own business.

• You’re sick of staying at home talking to stuffed animals on weekends.

• You want to learn another language.

• You want a better relationship with your friends, family, or boyfriend or girlfriend.

• You hear that you can do anything, but you don’t know what that means.

• You dream about living the life you want.

• You want freedom.

• You keep hearing people tell you that your dreams aren’t realistic.

• You want success.

• You know there’s a way to have what you want but don’t know how to get it.

• You want a job or career you love.

• You want to study things you are passionate about.

• You don’t know how to find your passion.

• You don’t know what you want.

• You don’t know where to go or what to do.

• You don’t want to live like most of the people you know.

• You don’t know who you are or who you could be.

Make Your Own Lunch is for you.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

That question haunted me for the first twenty-three years of my life. It started in kindergarten as a fun game of imagination, and by the end of high school, it had evolved into a giant monster breathing fire down my neck. High school finished and I still had no idea what I was going to be, so I took some time off to search for an answer. The quest to answer that question brought me to Japan, Hawaii, Slovakia, France, Honduras, Guatemala, Austria, Las Vegas, and more.

I’d love to act like my journey was all part of some master plan that I had carefully and meticulously crafted, mapping it out years in advance, but honestly, I had no idea what I was doing half of the time. The other half of the time, I was just doing what I was drawn to and what I thought would be best for me (and the most fun).

Somehow, while looking for the answer to the question, What do you want to be when you grow up? I realized the question was wrong. Wrong because there isn’t only one thing you can do with your life. Wrong because it makes it sound like there’s a direct path from A to B, when really there are a bunch of paths, side adventures, and detours. Wrong because it puts so much pressure on young people to figure it out immediately.

Once I started searching, I started uncovering new questions and a ton of really exciting answers. I began realizing that you really never have to have it all figured out. The next step is what’s most important now, and it’s fine if beyond that is a bit of a question mark.

I wrote this book so you don’t have to waste time trying to answer ridiculous questions like, What do you want to be when you grow up? or How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

I wanted you to know that it’s perfectly OK and perfectly normal to not know the answer to either of those questions. It’s OK to take some time to figure yourself out and explore the many different paths that will lead you to the answers you’re looking for.

This book was written over six years from various planes, trains, cars, hotel rooms, hostels, and the occasional jungle. Sometimes I wrote it on my office computer, other times on my laptop, and a few times with actual pen and paper. My goal was never to give you a specific plan, or 347 Strategies for Success in Career, Education, and Life, because for some people there could be a bunch of steps, and for others there are just a few to reach their desired destination.

You’ll figure out the steps you need to take. You’ll come up with your own plan to make it happen. And you’ll develop your own strategies for career, education, and life success.

Some parts of this book are really short; others are a bit longer. Take your time, read the stories, and while reading, write down any ideas or inspiration you might have. If while you’re reading, you feel inspired to do something, call somebody, go somewhere, or build something, do it. This book isn’t going anywhere…unless you left it on the subway, in which case, it is now a pillow for a tired backpacker.

Last, thank you for reading this. From this point, you begin (or continue) building your own epic life through experience, work, travel, wonder, and (maybe) college. Right now. It’s go time.

—Ryan P.

2

MAKE YOUR OWN LUNCH

How to live an epic life and other helpful hints.

Why are you putting up with stuff you hate?

IF there’s something you don’t like, change it. ’Nuf said.

→ There were three construction workers named Simon, Andrew, and Bob. These three friends worked together as part of a construction crew building a skyscraper in the downtown area of a major city. One day, the crew’s lunch bell rang and the three friends went to the top of the unfinished skyscraper to eat.

As they sat on the edge of the rooftop with their feet hanging hundreds of feet above the ground, Simon opened his lunch box, looked in disgust at his two friends, and shouted in frustration.

A ham sandwich again! I get ham every day of the week, and I’m sick of it! If I get a ham sandwich one more day, I swear I’m going to jump off this building. Andrew and Bob laughed. Andrew put his lunch box on his lap and opened the latches on the front. When he flipped the lid open and saw what was inside, he shouted in disbelief.

A turkey sandwich again! You’ve got to be kidding me. I get turkey every day of the week, and I’ve had enough! If I get a turkey sandwich one more day, I swear I will jump from this building!

Bob was the only one laughing now. He opened his lunch box and pulled out his sandwich. Disappointed with what he had in his hands, he shouted in anger.

"A peanut butter sandwich again! This is getting ridiculous! I get peanut butter every day, and I’m sick of it! If I get peanut butter one more day, I swear I’m going to jump off this building!"

None of them was laughing now.

They were all extremely hungry, so they finished their lunches without talking and went back to work.

The next day, the three workers, as they had done the day before, sat down at the top of the skyscraper for their lunch break. They ate in the same spot as the day before, with their feet dangling high above the street. Simon got his lunch box from his work bag, opened it, and pulled out his sandwich. He erupted in anger.

Can you guys believe this? A ham sandwich again! I am so sick of eating this every day! I told you guys how much I hate ham! Simon slammed his sandwich down with fury and jumped from the building, plunging to his death.

Unfazed by what had just happened, Andrew opened his lunch box. He turned to Bob, and at the top of his lungs, he screamed, Is this a joke? A turkey sandwich again? I get turkey every day and am so sick and tired of it. I have had enough! He threw his sandwich down