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    The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules
    The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules
    The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules
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    The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules

    By Adi Jaffe PHD

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    Breaking free of outdated explanations of addiction and rigid "rules" for recovery, The Addiction Myth offers a hopeful, research-based framework for transformation by an addiction expert and renowned TEDx speaker who overcame his own addiction and has guided hundreds of clients out of shame and into lives of joy and purpose.

    In this simple yet radical new book, Adi Jaffe, PhD, draws on his own life experience, cutting-edge research, and work with hundreds of clients and families to offer a new perspective on addiction and an introduction to a new pathway out - the IGNTD RECOVERY METHOD.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateJun 15, 2018
    ISBN9781732239418
    The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules

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      The Abstinence Myth - Adi Jaffe PHD

      1

      WHAT I KNOW:

      There Is Another Way

      We all come from somewhere, with our own stories and histories. Though our stories don’t determine who we become, they do shape our journey…

      My Story

      As early as elementary school, I began a fifteen-year journey to belong and find peace in my own skin. Of course, I didn’t know it at the time. I thrived on the approval of teachers, peers, and my parents, and I was devastated when that approval wasn’t there. Outwardly outgoing, a jokester, and a quick learner in school, inside I was filled with childish and then adolescent worries.

      When alcohol came along as an option, everything changed. For me, there was a very specific catalyst. My general restlessness and the stress of dealing with the constant chatter in my brain had turned into social anxiety and shyness by the time I graduated from ’tween to teen. When I finally asked a girl out for the first time, the result was worse than anything I had imagined. The entire school found out that she turned me down, and I became a laughingstock. I was filled with shame and embarrassment.

      Maybe someone else would have blown it off. But to me, the experience confirmed all the terrible thoughts I had about myself that I’d kept hidden. Now it was a fact: I would always be on the outside looking in, hanging out with the nobodies and being a nobody.

      Two years later, my family had moved to the US and I found myself attending a teen leadership camp. On the last night, tucked away in one of the cabins, some boys started passing alcohol around. It was late, and there were so many kids in that cabin. I didn’t want to embarrass myself again by sticking out, so I took a few swigs of the burning, clear liquid. Within minutes all my worries, nerves, and anxieties disappeared.

      I still remember it like yesterday. There I was with the cool people, and I felt accepted. It was an epiphany that I could even feel this way. The grown-up activity I’d thought was bad, nasty, and wrong since childhood was instantly reframed in my mind as something good and positive. As awful as the taste was, it eased my mind. I’ll have more of that, became natural—that being the confidence and comfort that came with alcohol.

      For years afterward, I outwardly tried hard to maintain my façade as a cool, successful young person while my using, lying, acting out, and hiding only got worse. I drank, took all kinds of drugs, and got hooked on meth for five years. I went from using drugs to dealing them and living the fast life, essentially removed from reality. But the whole time I kept up a more normal facade—the myth that I was pursuing a career in music in LA, where I had transferred to finish college. I was good at lying and was given the benefit of the doubt way too many times, taking me farther and farther away from self-knowledge, acceptance, and any real connections. I was barely in touch with my family, constantly avoiding their calls after disappointing them endlessly. In spite of—or perhaps because of—all the drugs and using, I walked around with a constant stream of self-doubt and anxiety that would fill my head at any quiet moment . . . so I made sure to have as little quiet as possible. At twenty-five, I was going nowhere fast. Then I got arrested, and things got really bad.

      Fortunately, after all this escalating use and drama, recovery programs and rebellion, rehab, jail (yes, I’ve been there), and tons of study and personal experimentation with recovery methods, I’ve been able to forge my way to a normal, healthy life that continues to unfold. Just saying normal means so much to me!

      If you’re reading this right now, normal probably sounds like the furthest thing from reality for yourself or someone very close to you. I’ve been clean of meth for fifteen years and drink moderately when socializing and celebrating. I work, have a family, have a life, and help others. I feel like I’m making a difference and my life matters. I belong.

      The Current Recovery System Isn’t Working

      My journey to discover a way out of that personal hell began with my own recovery and tons of experimentation with the most traditional methods you can imagine as well as newer and alternative ones. I wanted answers for myself and for so many people I had met who were as hopeless as I’d once been or who didn’t fit any descriptions I was familiar with. I knew there was something wrong with the system and the solutions it offered. Well, that’s putting it kindly. The system demanded a solution—sometimes by force of law.

      Drugs are killing more people than ever, and more users are being sent to jail than any other group. The only response we seem to keep coming up with is more of the same. While everyone argues about the true cause of addiction, the problem keeps getting worse. It’s as though we’re pushing harder on the gas pedal of a car as it’s about to fly off a cliff. I wanted to turn the wheel.

      My journey required a seven-year return to school, where I went on to study the psychology of addiction—how to measure it, the neuroscience behind it, and the data on what treatments worked and why. It was a long road, but one that was worth it. I now hold a PhD from UCLA, which offers one of the top psychology programs in the world. I’ve spoken to all kinds of groups, appeared on TV, written articles for popular publications, and even given TEDx talks. Throughout these experiences, I’ve seen firsthand how desperate people are for a new language and approach to recovery.

      Addiction, the daily grind, the pressure and judgment we face, from both inside and out, wear us down and make us forget that it’s possible to truly love our life.

      I’ve continued researching, teaching, and absorbing everything I could find about how to potentially change the current approach. I’ve worked directly with hundreds of individuals and families and have been fortunate enough to see recovery become real for them too. I began testing and applying my unique approach at the outpatient recovery center I co-founded and led for a number of years, and now in my own online programs, trainings, and individual support, I help make recovery possible for everyone—wherever they live and however they want recovery to fit into their lives.

      I came to call my approach The IGNTD Recovery Method for a very specific reason. More than a recovery methodology, my goal is to ignite the greatness we all have within us.

      Addiction, the daily grind, and the pressure and judgment we face both inside and out wear us down and make us forget that it’s possible to truly love our life. The IGNTD Recovery Method teaches an approach to recovery—and life—that fits your brain, your body, and your world. It teaches you to choose inspiration over self-judgment and labels. It teaches that the goal is normal, rewarding, meaningful living, not a world of denial, abstinence, boredom, and loneliness.

      I’ve worked with teens, young adults, businessmen and women, celebrities who seem to have it all, stay-at-home moms whose daytime drinking has led to drunk driving, and hardened drug addicts who still think deep inside they have a chance for a better life—and they do. I’ve helped family members and best friends rethink their intervention plans, finding that real love, honesty, and the embrace of someone who is struggling often goes a lot farther than ‘tough love’. I’ve seen the change that’s possible when we open up our minds and change our ideas of what addiction is and what recovery means. The way I see it, in the simplest terms:

      addiction or abuse means that we, and our loved ones, experience our use as a problem (though no one is seeing the real problems underneath).

      recovery means that we, and our loved ones, experience our life getting better (and the real problems are getting addressed).

      I’ve seen the huge transformations that take place when we widen our understanding of addiction and recovery and, in fact, have much bigger and more inspiring goals. When our hopes and aspirations are small and rigid, they actually work against us rather than serving as motivation for us. Here’s what I know to be true:

      Too much of what you’ve been told about addiction is wrong, misleading, and holding you back. No matter who you are, no matter what your experience has been, I’ve learned that there’s no need to be branded for life with

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