Chicken Soup for the Soul: Canadian Acts of Kindness: 101 Stories of Caring and Compassion
By Amy Newmark
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Canada is filled with people who care for and about each other. They make miracles happen for their neighbours, friends, and complete strangers. You’ll find 101 heartwarming tales of Canadian kindness in these pages, from the everyday to the extraordinary. And you’ll probably come away from this book with some new ideas for ways that you, and your family and friends, can make a difference. If you need some help, you’ll find hope in these pages. And if you can give help, you’ll feel energized to find your own opportunities to perform acts of kindness yourself, every day!
So dive into these 101 stories—selected from Chicken Soup for the Soul’s past bestsellers—and be inspired. There are so many ways that you can help—and it turns out the biggest beneficiary may be you! Scientific studies have shown that doing good is not only good for the recipient, but also for the person doing it, making that person happier and healthier.
The power of Canadians working at the local level to create a better country for all is truly astounding. And that’s why royalties from this book are going to United Way Centraide Canada, which enables volunteers and donors to become champions of generosity in their own communities.
Amy Newmark
Amy Newmark is Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of Chicken Soup for the Soul.
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Chicken Soup for the Soul - Amy Newmark
The Power of Community
I Came Home for This?
The cat has nine lives: three for playing, three for straying, three for staying.
~English Proverb
We had done it a million times before — leaving the front door open for just a second. But she usually didn’t care. We would run in to grab one more thing,
and then scoot out the door, firmly locking it behind us. And she really didn’t care. Sure, she might come and investigate, but she had food, water, a comfy blankie — she had it made on the inside.
What was so much better for her outside?
But then, one day, the unthinkable happened.
She got out.
Sam, our indoor-only, seven-year-old, collarless kitty, was gone — like GONE GONE. That kind of gone. She must have seen something really good out there, like another cat, a raccoon or a deer, and when the timing was right, and the door was open — if only for a second — she bolted.
Sam had only ever been outside once before, and at that time she barely got past our front yard, so fearful was she of the great outdoors. But this time, fear meant nothing to her. There was no finding her. We searched high and low — under neighbours’ decks, in bushes, in garages — everywhere. Not a fuzzy kitty in sight.
With heavy hearts, my three men slouched around the house. Every sound outside had them running to the windows, scanning the grounds. Every time we drove through the parking area of our townhomes, we scanned the bushes for a fuzzy little kitty.
I know everyone was thinking the worst, not daring to speak dreadful thoughts. I tried to keep their hopes up, but it was hard.
Sam came to us from a local pet store, Pets West, who in turn got her through the local animal control/rescue. As she was a rescue cat, one of my sons wondered — did she have a chip or tattoo that we didn’t know about?
So as requested, and only on faint-hope whim, I hustled to the pet store. Maybe they did, by chance, have a record of her being chipped or tattooed. It wouldn’t find her, but if someone took her to the animal shelter, it might be easy to identify her. I secretly hoped they had implanted a microscopic GPS somewhere on our feline friend.
The store’s sales clerk, Meghan, looked up our kitty’s file. She said they didn’t have a record of any chips or tattoos, but advised me to call animal control to see what they knew. I later did check, but with no luck.
But… Meghan gave us something more.
A bit of hope.
After handing me Sam’s file number and the phone number for animal control, she gave me a few pointers. Meghan suggested I send her a photo and details of our lost kitty, and not only would she set up a lost kitty
notification on Facebook — lots of shares
of lost pets had helped in the past — but she said she would also post an ad on the store’s website. And she would post a lost kitty
poster in their store.
Wow!
I raced home and shared the news with my heartbroken men. I recapped the Find Lost Kitty
plan, but sprinkled it with no promises.
But it gave them hope. The thought that someone was doing something lifted their spirits. They were most surprised that someone would go out of their way to do all that.
So with details sent to the store, and lost kitty
posters posted around our neighbourhood, all we could do was wait. And hope. And keep our paws crossed.
Two days later, I had two e-mails. One was from Meghan confirming her Facebook/website work, and the other from a concerned animal lover — a total stranger — who saw the advertisements. Not only did she express her concern for our family, but she also gave us a few tips to enhance our Find Lost Kitty
plan. Pets West’s Facebook page was full of shares
and comments from other concerned folks — folks we didn’t know. Two other folks took the time to phone with sympathy and words of encouragement — Don’t worry, she’ll come back soon.
When I shared these e-mails and phone calls with my family they, too, were overwhelmed. It amazed us that so much was being done for us, and by people we didn’t know. It was a lesson in community, in folks looking out for other folks. It gave us all a bit of hope, that maybe someone would see our furry Sam. We weren’t paying anyone to do this; we didn’t know any of these people. Everyone’s kindness and concern overwhelmed us.
Days went by. On the recommendation of many, I left her favourite blankie outside, in the hope that her smell/homing beacon would kick in. Nothing.
And then, a week and seventeen hours later, there she was. When one of my sons and husband came back from an outing, there she was, sitting in our parking stall, as if waiting for them to come home. With barely any coaxing, Sam willingly came to my husband, and silently, and without excitement for fear of scaring her, we carried her into the house. And locked the door — double-checking it five times.
To this day, Sam is happy and healthy and is wearing her first collar ever, complete with engraved tag and a bell — just in case.
By the way she sulked around those first few days home, the unfamiliar noose
around her neck tinkling and jingling with every step, I suspected she was thinking, I came home for THIS?
— Lisa McManus Lange —
Angel at Our Door
Every house where love abides and friendship is a guest, is surely home, and home sweet home, for there the heart can rest.
~Henry Van Dyke
The insistent pounding on the door brought me quickly from my kitchen. With three little ones down for a nap, I hurried to answer before they were all awakened prematurely.
We had just moved into the neighbourhood and I couldn’t imagine who it would be. Opening the door a crack revealed an old man dressed in dirty clothing, wearing mud-encrusted rubber boots. From his hand hung a torn plastic bag.
Can I help you?
I asked, hoping he had the wrong address.
Would ya like to buy some fresh garden vegetables?
His voice was shaky with age but his faded blue eyes were hopeful.
Are they from your garden?
Peering inside his shabby bag, I saw mostly dirt, with a hint of carrots.
Yes.
His voice was soft and scratchy. And I kin get some apples from a tree in my yard. Would ya like some of those too?
My heart softened at his neglected appearance, and I wondered if he desperately needed the bit of money he was asking for his produce. With a sigh, I gestured him in. Please step inside and I’ll get my purse.
The next day, he knocked at our door again. This time, my gregarious little four-year-old got there first. Oh, hello. Would you like to come in for tea?
Heidi’s high-pitched-voice carried an adult inflection.
Without hesitating, the old man stepped inside and held out a broken basket with several bruised apples resting at the bottom. From my tree,
he said, removing a worn cap that had seen better days. Thought ya might like to make a pie.
There was no mistaking the wistful look in his eye.
The three of us sat at the kitchen table and sipped our tea, Heidi’s cup containing a much weaker version. Sheer delight in hosting a visitor was evident in her never-ending stream of questions. What is your name? Where do you live? Why are your clothes so dirty? Will your mother be mad at you?
The homeless-looking man chuckled as he attempted to answer each question. His name was Mr. Locket and he lived around the corner. His wife had passed away several years before, and his children all lived far away. He was lonely. His need for companionship had sent him door to door under the ruse of selling fruit and vegetables. Ours was the only door opened to him that day.
Eventually, the cookies were gone and he struggled to his feet. Shuffling his way to the door, he turned and offered us a cheerful grin and a wave goodbye.
As I watched him limp painfully to an ancient bicycle propped against our house, my heart melted.
Once on his bike, he wobbled back down the road, perhaps a little less lonely than before. He had promised to return tomorrow, and I knew what I wanted to do.
The next day, the children excitedly awaited his visit. The table was set with china and silver, with fancy napkins folded neatly beside each plate. A small bouquet of garden flowers, picked by little hands, adorned the centre of the table. Tantalizing aromas of cinnamon and sugar filled the house as a steaming apple pie beckoned from the table.
As he entered the kitchen, he took in the efforts made on his behalf, and his eyes filled with unshed tears. He focused on the golden-crusted, sugar-topped, apple pie. Pulling up a chair beside my two little girls, he immediately seemed at home, and we watched with amazement as he devoured half the dessert.
Wiping his whiskery lips, he commented, Yur pies sure taste a lot better’n mine!
My curiosity was piqued. How do you make your pies?
Well, I just cut up them apples and put ‘em in a pan. Then I bake ‘em.
I smiled. A few simple tips would help him create at least a better version.
The next day, we found a basket sitting on the step. Inside were several rosy apples.
I slipped another pie into the oven that night.
As the days wore on, Mr. Locket became a daily visitor to our active home. In his quiet and gentle way, he endeared himself to each child. I loved to peek around the kitchen door and watch as he sat in our big comfy chair with one or two little ones curled up on his lap, gazing up at him with rapt attention as he read a children’s book or told a story.
Mr. Locket became an honorary member of our family. When the little ones were tucked into their beds for an afternoon nap, he would rest his weary head on the back of the chair and join the babies in slumber. He usually went home when the sun dipped low in the sky, but stayed for dinner if pie was on the menu.
Our lively family antics at the dinner table always brought a smile to his weathered face. Later, as my husband put the children to bed, I’d stand in the doorway watching this dear old friend pedal his way home in the dark.
One day he revealed a hidden passion. Ya know, I used to go to the library and get books ta read. It helps fill in the long, quiet nights. Don’t rightly feel like riding that far anymore, though. S’pose you could lend me a book?
That’s a wonderful idea!
I couldn’t believe we hadn’t discussed this sooner. I loved to read, too, and I delighted in sharing books. What if I put a stack beside your chair for you to read during your visits, and then you can take home anything you want to finish?
His answering smile said it all.
It was fun to see which books he selected and watch him disappear between the pages. He still read to the children each day, and the name Grandpa Locket
slipped effortlessly into our conversations. Both sets of my children’s grandparents lived far away, so the children missed having them attend their Sunday school concerts and Christmas pageants. Although extremely deaf, Mr. Locket was now the grandpa that came to Ooh
and Ahh
over each little one’s part in the programs.
Did you hear me, Mr. Locket?
Heidi would chirp.
Well, I didn’t rightly hear ya, but I know it was good!
Heidi would beam, her tiny hand grasping his old gnarled one. The two had become best friends.
Three years after first meeting Grandpa Locket, we learned we were being moved across the country to Ontario. That night, I tossed and turned. Pink sky began to peek through the window before I’d found a gentle way to break the news to Grandpa Locket.
When he arrived that morning, I took a deep breath and blurted it out. Mr. Locket,
I began, my voice wobbling. We’re going to be moving very soon. We’re all very sad. You’ve become a treasured part of this family and we — we — we’ll miss you.
The old man’s chin slowly dropped to his chest as reality hit. Moisture glistened in the corners of his eyes.
Swallowing the lump in my throat, I took his worn, calloused hands in mine. I promise to keep in touch with you and write letters regularly. The kids will send you pictures, and I’ll ship as many books as you can read.
My throat tightened and I couldn’t speak any more.
He nodded and softly said, Thank you for all your kindnesses to an old man. When I was lonely, ya took me in. When I needed a family, ya included me. My life’s bin happy cuz of you.
He reached down and rested his free hand on Heidi’s head, gazing at her as if memorizing every delicate feature.
During our last visit together, we all hugged him tightly.
Without looking back, the old man limped out the door, straddled his rusty bike, and pedalled down the road.
With heavy hearts, we watched the familiar figure disappear around the corner for the last time. As we closed the door, we knew that a part of our lives was drawing to a close and a new stage was beginning, but no matter where we were, we’d never forget this incredibly precious man.
I kept my word and wrote regularly. The kids made him pictures, and I mailed books every month. We never received a letter in return, but somehow we knew he anxiously checked his mailbox every day to see if anything had arrived from us.
About a year later, a small envelope was delivered to our home — a letter from Mr. Locket’s daughter. She informed us that our dear old friend had passed away. She’d found the letters, pictures, and gifts that we had sent, carefully tucked away in one of his dresser drawers. I’m so grateful for your loving care for my father,
she wrote. I can see how much you meant to him, too.
With tremendous sadness, my husband and I shared this news with the children. Although we grieved the loss of our friend, we also felt a sense of joy. Remembering his gentle spirit and spontaneous chuckle made us smile. And we would never forget his love for apple pie.
We still feel it wasn’t just an old man who knocked on our door that day, but an angel in disguise. We’re so grateful for the unexpected love that swept into our lives the moment we opened that door.
— Heather Rae Rodin —
The Great Ice Storm
Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.
~Barbara de Angelis
The Great North American Ice Storm of 1998 affected the lives of millions of people in eastern Canada and the northern United States. The culprit was a stalled low-pressure system that took its sweet time moving out of the area. When the storm hit I was living in Ottawa and I was able to see its devastating effects firsthand.
Things were very difficult in the city, with power outages and shortages of basic essentials. Stores and supermarkets were taken by surprise by the extent of the power cuts. On the positive side, it was an opportunity for the community’s spirit to be exhibited. People were checking in on neighbours to make sure they were able to keep warm and fed. Everyone shared their resources. The hospitals and essential services were given priority in having their power restored. Despite the prolonged outages, everyone seemed to wait patiently.
Ontario and Quebec Hydro employees were working full out for days on end to restore power. It would only be a matter of time before they were overcome with exhaustion, given the massive task facing them. After a few days of trying to deal with it locally the call went out to unaffected areas of the two countries for help. In response, electric utilities from all over North America sent workers and equipment to help with the clean-up. The mild temperatures at the root of the weather phenomenon did not last as long as the power outage and, as the weather began to turn colder, other problems began to develop in an icy world without electricity.
At the time of the storm I was working in a paper mill as an electrical technician. The mill was an enormous complex straddling the border between Ottawa and Hull, located on a group of islands in the middle of the Ottawa River. Our whole installation was self-sufficient in electrical power as we had six generators dependent only on the flow of the river. Throughout the storm we remained able to generate enough hydro to supply our papermaking needs. As days passed and the after-effects of the storm worsened, the company made the decision to shut down production and to send our self-generated hydro into the system feeding the city of Hull. This went a long way toward alleviating some of the dire conditions that were developing in the area.
Without much to do at the mill, five friends and I decided to volunteer with the City of Ottawa. Regional administrators had activated a rescue plan and were slowly and steadily coming to the aid of people living in outlying areas, but it was an enormous task. We knew that the people living in the city were having a difficult time, but nothing had prepared us for how bad things were in the countryside. Hydro poles and transmission cables lay in ditches. Abandoned cars and trucks littered side roads and many routes were completely blocked by huge ice-covered tree limbs. Smaller trees were so laden with ice that their topmost branches had bent far enough over to touch the ground and become frozen there. Roads that were clear of debris resembled ice rinks and there was very little salting and sanding. Everything had an ice covering.
Had it not been for the seriousness of the situation I would have described it as visually stunning. Light sparkled like glass decorations from the trees and bushes. Houses and cars were coated with thick ice coverings and huge icicles hung everywhere.
With our toolboxes in the back of the city-loaned trucks, we made up work teams comprising a millwright and an electrician. We headed out into the countryside with a list of the places in direst need.
The main issue we were dealing with was the repair and maintenance of faulty generators. City authorities had managed to get their hands on hundreds of generators — some new and working well and others that needed a lot of TLC to get them into working order. In many cases there had been no time to properly evaluate the units before they were sent out, so it fell to our little teams to catch up with on-site maintenance and repairs.
The sights that met us were often heartbreaking. Many farmers had been doing their best with what they had available, but you can imagine trying to keep a fully automated farm running when the power goes out and the standby generators do not work. Often, as we approached up the farm driveway, the farmers would come down the road to meet us and direct us to the generator site in an effort to minimize time before we got to work. Of course, when the units were back in service the farmer would want to show his gratitude by inviting us in for lunch or tea. Being practical individuals they understood when we pointed out that we needed to continue on to help the next farmer down the road. We had to stay on track and get through the dozens of calls for help. The farmers’ gratitude was nevertheless appreciated, and inevitably their wives sent us on our way with bags full of sandwiches and soft drinks.
I have to say that I have never worked so hard in my life. Certainly I have never been so cold, so dirty, and yet so happy. We were on the road from sunrise to well beyond sunset. As time passed and the crisis continued, the circumstances for some farmers and their animals became even worse. It was not uncommon to arrive at a farm and to find the farmer reduced to tears after he had tried everything he could think of to save his animals. We were the last hope for many.
Being able to bring some relief to people in these extreme conditions was the best reward I could ever have hoped for. Volunteering during the crisis had immediate and long-lasting effects on the lives of my fellow volunteers and myself. It started me out on a life of working to help others who are in difficult circumstances beyond their control. I have an indelible memory of a big, gruff-looking farmer who, lost for words, took me in his arms and hugged me tightly when we managed to put his generator back into service. To him it meant the difference between life and death for his animals. We were just happy we could be of service.
— James A. Gemmell —
It Takes a Village
We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.
~Herman Melville
Thirteen is an awkward age for anyone, but it proved to be an especially stressful time for me. My family life imploded, and we learned that keeping secrets could be a dangerous, even life-threatening, practice.
My father had always been a heavy drinker. That was nothing new. But when he lost his job, a downward spiral began, with threats of violence against my mother and us kids. I never thought I’d feel so helpless or so afraid. Unfortunately, that was only the beginning.
When my mother went back to work full-time, my father was left to care for my baby sister. The day I came home from school to find my father passed out on the couch and my sister crying in her crib, with a diaper that had obviously been full for hours, was the last straw. My father couldn’t be trusted to look after a child, so my mother paid our next-door neighbour to babysit. Of course, she wasn’t about to admit the real reason why. She pretended my dad couldn’t child-mind because he was looking for another job.
Violence escalated in our household until my mother found the courage to kick my father out and seek divorce. Sounds easy enough. It wasn’t. My father refused to leave our family home and my mother had no choice but to take out a restraining order against him. She did what she had to do to protect us.
The police escorted my father from our house, but that didn’t keep him away. He phoned so often that we stopped picking up. He filled tape after tape on the answering machine with death threats. He sent us pictures in the mail of all the guns he had access to. He sent photos of himself holding those guns, aiming them at the camera.
My mother took all this to the police, but they shrugged it off. Tapes of death threats and pictures of guns didn’t qualify as evidence, they said.
Still, we kids were too ashamed to tell anybody what was going on. My mother talked to our lawyer, the police, and a few family members, but my siblings and I? We had only each other. Keeping secrets is prevalent in households with rampant substance abuse. We were secretive to a heartbreaking degree.
After a while, it wasn’t enough for my father to threaten us by phone and through the post. He smashed a window and broke into our home, entering when my mother was at work and we kids were in school. When I came home that day, with my younger siblings in tow, I knew we needed the police. But, in a time before cell phones, how could we make an emergency call? In our suburban neighbourhood, no payphones were close by.
We had to break the silence.
My siblings and I went next door, to the neighbour who babysat our youngest sister. We told her everything — about my father’s drinking, his neglect, his death threats and his guns. She helped us call our mother, and Mom phoned the police. My father was taken away in handcuffs for violating his restraining order.
If only the ordeal had ended there.
But that was just the first of many times my father broke into our house. When we put bars on the windows, he broke down the door. We couldn’t hide what was going on from the neighbours anymore, not with the noticeable police presence at all hours of the morning. There comes a point where you can’t lie any longer. You can’t cover for a family member who has wronged you.
When we told our neighbours the truth, something incredible happened.
The next time my father came to take back his house,
he gave us warning. He even gave us a date. My mother called the police right away, but they said he wasn’t in violation of his restraining order yet. There was nothing they could do in advance. She’d just have to call them when he got there.
We were all afraid, but my mother, in particular, was beside herself. She’d done everything she could to protect us kids. But if she waited for my father to arrive before calling the police, it could be too late.
This time, when she vented her concerns, it wasn’t to my grandmother — who often didn’t believe the things Mom told her — but rather to our next-door neighbour, the woman who cared for my baby sister during the day. My neighbour was a loud and opinionated woman, and when she called the neighbourhood to action, the neighbourhood listened.
If my father was afraid of one thing, it was exposure. He trusted us to keep quiet, to keep his secrets. He shouldn’t have. Because, on the day he said he’d take back the house, our neighbours came to our rescue. They all joined hands and formed a human barricade across our driveway.
My father drove up the street, and his car slowed almost to a halt when he saw us — the whole neighbourhood standing alongside his kids, showing him they were there to support us, that his threats and behaviours were unacceptable, that he needed to leave.
And he did.
When his car pulled away, my mother thanked the neighbours and told them we’d taken up enough of their time. They were adamant. He wouldn’t give up so easily. What if he came back and they were all gone? No, they would stay as long as it took. They’d camp out on our front lawn all night if they needed to. Now that they knew what we’d been through, the neighbours were going to protect us.
They were right, of course. My father circled by the house, again and again, until my mother called in the restraining order violation and the police apprehended him. The neighbourhood, which had never been terribly close or cohesive before that day, worked together to protect us kids and our mom.
Through the whole ordeal, the most terrifying obstacle we faced as a family was an internal one: the fear of admitting the truth, of worrying what others would think. The shame seemed insurmountable.
This horrendous situation was in no way my fault, but it sure didn’t feel that way at the time. I thought we were the only ones. I thought no one else could possibly understand.
It took an incredible strain before my mother, my siblings and I cracked the veneer of normalcy. When we told our secrets, we expected the neighbourhood to view our family with contempt. Instead, they became our shield. When the police failed us, our neighbours stepped up. They stood alongside our family, and we finally realized we were not alone.
— Foxglove Lee —
My Brother’s Keeper
A part of kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve.
~Joseph Joubert
Breathing a sigh of relief, I looked in my rear-view mirror, grateful for the distance I was putting between my car and that of the drunk driver as he weaved all over the road. At the same time, I felt guilty.
You can’t just drive away. You have to get him off the road! My conscience nagged at me. Or it may have been one of my angels.
There’s nothing I can do. I can’t be responsible for his actions,
I countered. I was young and slim. A lightweight female does not take on a drunk male driver. And this was before cell phones, so I had no way of alerting the police to come and get this guy off the road.
You’re going to look in this mirror and see some poor, unsuspecting family killed because you did nothing. Those thoughts hammered at me relentlessly. I had responsibilities as a human being.
I’m not my brother’s keeper,
I said out loud, but without conviction. As the words reverberated, the meaning hit me, and I knew I was. There wasn’t anyone else, so the job was mine. I eased up on the gas, realizing I needed to be back behind the drunk. Even then, as I wrestled with the dilemma of getting him off the road, I never paused to think about repercussions. I never thought he might be dangerous.
I had just wanted