Twilight Time: Aging in Amazement
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Kaufman, a retired hospice chaplain, suggests that not knowing is the final frontier. She watches reverentially as her older sister ages and her mother's dying unfolds. She entertains the possibility of other life narratives, but recognizes finally that she has been imprinted by her own past in all its singularity, all its wounds. In Twilight Time, Kaufman shares a glimpse of the crowded canvas of who she has been as she prepares to enter the unknown, letting go of it all. Susie Kaufman practices mindfulness in the Plum Village tradition of Thich Nhat Hahn.
Susie Kaufman
Susie Kaufman is a retired hospice chaplain and spiritual director. Her writing has appeared in the journal Presence as well as in Lilith and America magazines and the anthology Writing Fire (2017). Kaufman’s blog seventysomething (susiekaufman.blogspot.com) appeared biweekly from 2015–2017. She can be contacted at seventysomething9@gmail.com. "For those of us just past 20, I mean 30, err 40, well 50, okay 60, and ahem, beyond, they say this is a time of reflection of all the years that have made up our lives. Susie Kaufman, whom I have had the pleasure of knowing since way back when, has taken on the task with an eye and a heart that seems to open wider each time she sits down to write about whatever subject comes up, be it memory or moment, in expansion or distillation, her childhood, childhood itself, in humility and in awe. The name of her book is Twilight Time: Aging in Amazement, and the exquisitely titled essays in it are really two-page gems, narratives crystallized into bite-sized recognitions of, as she puts it, "days that are nothing more than the lifespan of a firefly writ large. . . but while I'm here I am awed by what I have seen and what I continue to see." As retired hospice chaplain, as daughter, sister, mother, wife, grandma, as bearing witness to her own childhood days on Manhattan's Upper West Side to visiting her grandchildren way out in Minnesota, she brings her awe right along with her." - Matt Tannenbaum - The Bookstore in Lenox
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Twilight Time - Susie Kaufman
Twilight Time
Aging in Amazement
Susie Kaufman
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Aging in Amazement
Copyright © 2019 Susie Kaufman. All rights reserved. Except for brief quotations in critical publications or reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any manner without prior written permission from the publisher. Write: Permissions, Wipf and Stock Publishers, 199 W. 8th Ave., Suite 3, Eugene, OR 97401.
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Table of Contents
Title Page
Permissions
Preface
Acknowledgments
No Time like the Present
Rebbe Nachman in Costa Rica
Invoking the Ancestors
Black and White
Living Arrangements
Paleolithic Father’s Day
Going Home
Acceleration
Tragedy in the Tropics
In Tobago
Coming and Going
Roll Over Beethoven
Witness
Americana
Not Yet
A Pebble of Regret
The Sunny Side of the Street
Shattered Glass
On Children
Minnesota August
The Empathy Strikes Back
On Drowning
Talk to Me
They Can’t Take That Away from Me
Trade-In
Sintra Socks
Coco Loco
What Slips through Your Fingers
The Persistence of Nature
Less Time, More Space
Beyond Nostalgia
Improv in the Subjunctive
On Another Note
Just in Case
End of Day
For my sister, Roberta Maisel
She opened my eyes and paved the way.
Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn,
a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter.
If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things,
this is the best season of your life.
—Wu-men, thirteenth century
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Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn
(Wu-Men) from THE ENLIGHTENED HEART: AN ANTHOLOGY OF SACRED POETRY, EDITED by STEPHEN MITCHELL. Copyright © 1989 by Stephen Mitchell. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers.
Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered
(from Pal Joey) Words by LORENZ HART Music by RICHARD RODGERS © 1941 (renewed) WB MUSIC CORP. and WILLIAMSON MUSIC CO. All rights reserved. Used by permission of ALFRED MUSIC.
Bewitched
by Richard Rodgers and Lorenz Hart © 1941 Chappell & Co. Inc. Copyright renewed and assigned to Williamson Music (for the extended renewal period) and Wb Music Corp. for the USA. International copyright secured. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
The abyss yawns but it does not sleep,
text attached to drawing by Linda Baker-Cimini, © 2011 Used by permission.
Henry A. Giroux, Normalizing Trump’s Authoritarianism Is Not an Option,
Tikkun (January 19, 2017) Used by permission.
Preface
From an early age, I have wondered about mortality, about birth and death, and all the pigeons and sweet rolls in between. It remains amazing to me that life begins and ends with such majesty, rocketing in and out of consciousness, but leaves behind it a field littered with small details, the oneness of things fragmented into kaleidoscopic diversity. In my fifties and sixties, I worked for some years as a hospice chaplain. I had no particular credentials, only a fascination with people’s stories. I was not Catholic like most of the patients, so I could not approach the bedside with particular prayers and rituals. Instead, I listened for meaning. I listened for the melody of people’s lives as they met up with impermanence.
This book is entitled Twilight Time because it is in the waning light of my life that I have come to embrace evanescence. My days are nothing more than the life span of a firefly writ large. But while I’m here, I am aging in amazement. I am awed by what I have seen and what I continue to see. Much of the past is blurry. Still, some memories leap out and take me by surprise, like a child jumping out from behind a tree in a game of hide-and-seek. The clownish blue eye shadow my mother applied with such enthusiasm. The stunning grilled eggplant I ate in the Piazza di Santa Croce in Florence. The famished, unintelligible drone of my uncle rushing headlong through the Haggadah at Passover. At seventy-three, I am swimming in the stuff of my life, doing what I do. I am making meaning.
In this collection of short essays, I see myself wandering in the wilderness of my own late-in-life thinking and feeling. I meander. The reflections are not arranged chronologically or thematically. They bounce off one another by some associative magic, as if I am stretched out on the chaise on my back porch, allowing the memories and images to come and go before I descend into an afternoon nap. They are partial, sometimes dreamlike. For the most part, these essays appeared originally on my blog seventysomething (susiekaufman.blogspot.com) or were read at IWOW (In Words Out Words), a monthly open mic in the Berkshires, where I have been blessed to live for the past forty-six years.
We all share the basic outlines of this story of arrival and departure, but each of us is wondrously particular. I offer here a glimpse of the consciousness of an older woman, specifically a woman raised in a secular Jewish household in mid-century New York, now looking back at the texture of her inhabited past and the empty expanse of her unknowable future. As I have written in one of the last essays in this collection, Not-knowing is the final frontier.
I live every day in the awareness that I have no idea how much longer I’ll be here on this planet. I don’t know the shape and duration of my dying. I don’t know if I will predecease my husband or if he will leave me to figure it all out on my own. All I know is I once spoke at length in pidgin Spanish on the subject of Jewish mysticism with an Argentine woman on a bus in Costa Rica. This must be enough. There is a cast-iron pot on the back burner of my brain where all my experiences are simmering. The stew is bubbling and flavorful. In gratitude, I offer you a taste.
Acknowledgments
I am grateful to Matthew Wimer and the staff at Wipf and Stock for shepherding this book into print. Their expertise and graciousness have been a support at every step along the way.
My dear friend Jinks Hoffman believed in me and encouraged me to embark on this project when my own faith wavered.
I am fortunate to have a friend of more than fifty years who is a professional copy editor. Judi Kales read the manuscript of this book word by word, comma by comma. Her gentle guidance has been invaluable.
Aïda Garcia Pons helped me with matters technological. Her kindness lifted my spirits.
Along with many other writers, poets, and musicians, I am grateful to Deb Koffman for providing the space for us to share our work at her monthly open mic, IWOW (In Words Out Words). IWOW has been a house of worship for me over the years.
It has been an inspiration to share the stage on a number of occasions with Joan Embree, a courageous and gifted writer.
Some twenty years ago, Virginia Finn opened my heart to spirit. Life became much larger after Virginia.
I have been blessed by many years of reading and talking about books with my son, Isaac Kaufman. To love someone who loves books is a great thing.
My remarkable husband, Frank Gioia, has taught me more about life and art than I thought there was to know. From Frank I have discovered that the learning never ends.
No Time like the Present
Let me tell you about seventy. It’s a time approaching the outer reaches of the imagination, nesting between your hardworking middle years and the coming unraveling of old age. You are visited by a gathering party of imperfections, eyesight dimming, conversation punctuated by the what? what? of hearing loss. You wake up with a stiffness in the thoracic spine, a dicey corner where the backbone meets the