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    H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity
    H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity
    H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity
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    H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity

    By Kim L.D.Z. Gary, L.P.C.

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    If you are looking for a quick reference to intriguing topics in High School Counseling, you have found it. Many people don’t know what school counselors really do or can do to have a great impact on their student’s lives and that of the school environment. This book is meant to educate the reader on many different facets of school counseling as the school counselor is an integral part of any successful school community. With the experiences, ideas and student/staff testimonials found in this book, readers will be able to gain a better understanding of what this very challenging field/career faces on a daily basis.
    If we are to make that difference in people’s lives, it must start with us, the school counselor being relentless in the pursuit of integrity in everything we do. Is demonstrating Relentegrity in advocating for your students challenging? Yes! Impossible maybe, rewarding most definitely! Find out for yourself, in this casual and sometimes humorous read by a very experienced school counselor.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLulu.com
    Release dateJul 26, 2016
    ISBN9781365285318
    H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity

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      H.S. Counseling Wisdom - Kim L.D.Z. Gary, L.P.C.

      H.S. Counseling Wisdom: Relentegrity - The Relentless Pursuit of Integrity

      H.S. Counseling Wisdom

      Relentegrity – the Relentless Pursuit of Integrity

      Kim L. D. Z. Gary, M.S., L.P.C

      Copyright year: 2016

      Copyright notice: by Kim L. Gary, all rights reserved

      Publisher: Kim L. Gary

      Distributor: Lulu

      Acknowledgements

      This book is based on my twenty-five years plus as an educator, whether it be teaching, coaching or counseling. It is meant to be a practical guide. You will not see research based analyses or quotes from famous authors but you will find testimonials written in between each chapter from students and various people I worked with and for to validate what I have written. There are plenty of books based on theory but this book is meant to be a quick read and a practical guide to help both new and not so new educators stepping out on their own or just looking for some practical advice to help guide them through those tough issues that are difficult to find evidence to substantiate. I have great respect for the American School Counselor Association and the state associations that govern and promote what we do as counselors and have always tried to build my program on their suggested guidelines.

      I am creating this handbook to assist current or soon to be counselors in topics that they may not have encountered in their master’s degree programs or educational experience to this point. I know the master’s program that I attended was geared towards a more clinical approach which is not what high school counseling is or meant to be. Therefore I learned most of what I know and have written about on the job. I have told many younger colleagues to give themselves five years in the counseling business to feel confident that they may actually know what they are doing.

      I wish that I would have come across a handbook like this one when I was in my first few years of high school counseling. I researched many books over the years to help me become a better counselor. I found tidbits here and there but most of the books were huge, sometimes textbook style with a lot of research data that I found difficult and mostly boring to read. Therefore, I am proposing that this handbook be a quick and handy tool to use as the need arises, knowing that you won’t need to take an hour or more to read a chapter to find out what you want. This tool should help counselors continue their relentless pursuit of developmental guidance with integrity, thereby creating Relentegrity in School Counseling.

      I believe that this handbook is needed at this time because counselors are stretched pretty thin, like many other educators are these days. The latest statistics I saw on the American School Counselor Association website is putting the current student/counselor average ratios at 491/1 when the recommended ratio is 250/1. Being responsible for that many students is a daunting task. Therefore I propose having a casual handbook for high school counselors available to all who would benefit from reading it. Our days are usually filled to the brim and never have enough time to finish too much of anything. We are expected to be very knowledgeable about so many topics and up to date on them as they continually change, often. With the demands many counselors are so busy, tired, exhausted to try and read a long chapter, much less a textbook during the school year. Hence, my handbook for high school counselors has chapters which can most likely be read in 5-10 minutes, will afford busy counselors a source of quick information with a touch of humor at times. I hope to be the voice of counselors that I believe is desperately lacking.

      If you should have any questions, thoughts to share, would like to get an electronic copy of a form, or just want to contact me, my email is kimdzgary@gmail.com. Thank you for reading my book

      Foreward

      In 1957 Russia launched the first unmanned space craft and American schools went into a frenzy of self-examination and doubt.  During this tumultuous time, national attention was paid to a new role for the school guidance counselor. Someone was needed, so the thinking went, to pay closer attention to when and how students graduated from high school.  America needed more scientists and mathematicians to get into the space race and adults had a responsibility to identify, guide and support students as they chose high school courses, made college and career decisions, and navigated the rough waters of adolescence.

      Since that time the school counselor has become an essential player in school reform and educational innovation.  Individuals who take on the task of caring for and nurturing huge caseloads of students are often the unsung heroes in the schools.  This book, born out of a true passion for the profession, draws upon Kim Gary’s 20+ years of experience as that hero to many, many students.  Her practical approach to doing this difficult work will be welcomed by both the novice counselor and the veteran.

      Pamela Nash Ph.D.

      Former School Counseling Consultant for the Wisconsin Department of Public Instruction and author of the Wisconsin Developmental Guidance Model

      Contents

      Testimonial – Thi Le  1

      Ch. 1 Rapport, respect and relationships              4

      Testimonial – Antonio Abarca            17

      Ch. 2 Structures and philosophies           19

      Testimonial – Sheikh Jammeh           26

      Ch. 3 Where can I get money to fund…           28

      Testimonial – Mariah Vela           33

      Ch. 4 Principals and Principles                             35

      Testimonial – Pam Madrid                         41

      Ch. 5 When a new principal or superintendent come to town          43

      Testimonial – Kelly Mayne           46

      Ch. 6 Who are the movers and shakers?          48

      Testimonial – The Ugalde sisters                      53

      Ch. 7 Parents and Guardians 56

      Testimonial – Hloua Vang63

      Ch. 8 Undocumented, Underrepresented and the Achievement Gap67

      Testimonial – Mayra Ceballos77

      Ch. 9 Goals, whose are they and why are they?80

      Testimonial – Anthony Maduka93

      Ch. 10 Time Management-a most important skill to academic success 94

      Testimonial – Brooke Paynes101

      Ch. 11 Holding Yourself Accountable104

      Testimonial – Tenzin Chonzin110

      Ch. 12 Holding Your Students Accountable113

      Testimonial – Marcus Robinson119

      Ch. 13 Holding Your Colleagues Accountable121

      Testimonials from colleagues129

      Ch. 14 Jr. Year Honeymoon Phase of College Decisions142

      Testimonial – Darwin Hernandez148

      Ch. 15 Sr. Year Stress and Stressors151

      Testimonial – Iaong Lee163

      Ch. 16 Having a senior in your house167

      Testimonial – Sara Hudkins174

      Ch. 17 Senior Day of Reckoning178

      Testimonial – Amanda Meyer184

      Ch. 18 Meetings, meetings and more meetings186

      Testimonial – Tchia Thao195

      Ch. 19 Schedules and Scheduling197

      Testimonial – Souda Yang207

      Ch. 20 What do Counselors Do?210

      Testimonial – Marquis Mason215

      Figure 1.1 Goal Setting for students217

      Figure 1.2 Goal Setting for adults219

      Figure 2.1 TMC221

      Figure 2.2 Time Management Guide222

      Figure 2.3 Helpful TMC Hints & Scoring Rubric224

      Figure 3.1 Senior Day of Reckoning Financial GAP Plan228

      Figure 4.1 Meeting Agenda230

      Dedication

      I want to dedicate this book to my family; my husband Joseph, our children; Jamar, Jarel, Keegan and Keahn. They are my blessings and have helped make me the person I am today.  Thank you for coming into my life and helping me to see what life is really all about. I also want to mention my extended families, both related by blood and the others sometimes related by tears and joy, my AVID family, mentors, former students, student/athletes and colleagues (in particular Diane Alsmo for her continued encouragement to write this book).

      Note: the forms in the back of this book are typically done on regular sized paper, 8 ½ x 11. Due to the size of this book, I had to resize them. If you would like a full-size electronic copy, please email me at kimdzgary@gmail.com. Thanks for reading my book.

      Testimonial from Thi Le

      Mrs. Kim Gary: The Most Inspiring and Supportive Person I Have Ever Known

      There are many people who weave in and out of your life, leaving their mark with varying patterns and patches of inspiration on your continued work-in-progress life quilt. Their influences can provide comfort and warmth through the many layers of thread and fabric, but they can also weigh heavy on you as you try to carry their memories for strength. And then there are some that hold everything together, from all the amazing experiences to the regrettable, thoughtless decisions that have contributed to your chaotic and colorful patchwork of growth and development through life. The people who maintain their connection to you and all of those eclectic moments repair the tears with effortless stitching and embellish empty space with wisdom. Those people are the ones who love you.

      Think about your parents and how they’ve guided you through troubling times, were present for the incredible milestones you accomplished, empowered you to be strong through example, and supported you in your own life decisions. Think about your favorite teacher, the one who put tremendous effort into your learning experience, listened to your concerns, expanded your intellectual and social limits, and helped you conquer obstacles. Now, think about your best friend, the person who has stood by your side throughout all of the confusion, denial, and hardships you’ve faced, the person who knows your biggest dreams and darkest fears, the one whose hugs make you believe that everything will be great because you’re unstoppable. Appropriately, your best friend is also generally the one who keeps his or her door open for your unannounced visits and doesn’t get angry when you eat all the snacks. Mrs. Kim Gary has been and continues to be all of these people to me.

      As a high school counselor she was a relentless motivator to all of her students, and especially to me (since I was one of the more stubborn and challenging ones). Her actions were always out of care and consideration even when we refused to receive her help. She encouraged us to think more deeply, question more assuredly, and act more integrally; and she did so with patience and grace. She never forced us to do anything her way, but instead inspired us to discover what ways were best for our own learning experience. She treated us with respect but also held us to a higher standard we would soon hold ourselves to. Mrs. Gary listened to all of my complaints, attended my ceremonies, personally handed in one of my college applications (because I was being stubborn about it), and extended her care beyond my graduation from high school.

      She did all of this without a demand for gratitude, and I am beyond grateful for her care. I still think of Mrs. Gary whenever I face a difficult life decision; I can hear her soft, yet authoritative, voice simultaneously consoling my worries while igniting confidence and power within me. The most rewarding thing I’ve learned from Mrs. Gary is to share yourself selflessly and give for the sake of others. She is a lifelong mother, teacher, and best friend to me.

      Chapter 1 - Rapport, respect and relationships

      In all my years as an educator I have found this characteristic to be the most important one to your success. Rapport is difficult to define as well as explain or tell someone how to get it. Learning other’s names is crucial to your viability as someone who cares. This takes much effort, practice and willingness to make some mistakes along the way. Students will correct you and understand, as long as you eventually get it right. I believe you must be willing to truly listen, have a sense of humor and follow through on what you say you will. Listening is a skill and to become a good listener you must actively practice. There are many books, courses and lectures available to teach you how to communicate so I will not take up your time here. Students know when you are listening because you are actively engaged in the conversation, you are asking clarifying questions and you are giving non-verbal feedback as well.  Then the next time you see them you remember your previous conversation and let that student know by asking them a specific question in relation to their previous issue. This takes work and actively associating your memory to be able to recall important points. You will need to spend time getting to know your students and their families. If you have to write notes to remember key points, do it. Do whatever it takes to remember something important about your students and they will be impressed with your caring attitude. Get to know their families as well. You may ask,

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