This Q&A episode comes from a special education preschool teacher had listened to the Why We Shouldn’t Read The Your X-Year-Old Child books anymore, and wondered: 

 



 

My first thought was: There’s no way I’m touching that question, because I don’t have the relevant qualifications and I’ll get torn apart.

 

I’ve been in some groups for Autistic parents for several months now, and one thing that’s abundantly clear is that qualified professionals use ‘treatments’ for Autistic children that these now-grown up people describe as abuse (and believe me; I don’t use that word lightly.  It’s a direct quote from many different people).

 

So if the qualified professionals are using methods that the people who have experienced them call abusive, I think I have a responsibility to at least offer thoughts for parents to consider as they’re navigating the process of diagnosis and treatment.

 

Too often, parents are pushed to take their child directly from diagnosis to treatment, as if we’re missing some critical window of opportunity.  But what if no treatment was sometimes the best option?

 

I don’t consider this episode to be The Final Word on What Parents Should Do.  It’s more of a conversation starter…a way to raise some ideas that parents might not hear from the doctors who are pushing them toward treatment as fast as possible.

 

Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop is coming soon!

Are there times when your child doesn’t listen?

 

Do they stall, ignore you, refuse to do the things you ask…and then look you right in the eye while doing the thing you asked them NOT to do?

 

Do you feel disrespected when your child does these things - but have no idea what to do about it because the one thing you KNOW is that you don’t want to treat your child the same way your parents treated you?

 

If so, the free Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop will help.

 

It’s newly expanded to eight days, to give you more time and support in using the new tools.

 

In the workshop, you’ll learn:

 

Why you’re setting too many limits right now (and the effect that has on your child)
How to set effective limits that your child will respect
The #1 strategy get on the same team as your child, so you’re working together instead of against each other
How to decide when a limit is needed, then set and hold it with complete confidence
The three best tools to get you out of those “I really don’t want to die on this hill” situations where it seems like you can’t back down