Quotes

I put a very high premium on honesty. What I learned from [my father's] death is that if you don't accept your sexuality, it will kill you. Trust is love. Period.

I'm always honest, whether I'm in the limelight or not.

I've always kind of gone with my heart.

We have such a wonderful thing as children, that we can just make the best of everything, and say, Well, this must be what everybody else is experiencing, and I've got to make the best of it. You don't know that it's not good until you witness something that it seems better.

Are we changing the idea of what beauty is? Let's hope so. I'm not the typical Hollywood beauty. Let's hope we're looking at the insides of people a little more.

It's my job, to create a fantasy.

We do not fall in love with the package of the person, we fall in love with the inside of a person.

It's important to talk about loving yourself and looking at your tragedies and the stuff that makes you grow.

I think my father was a sexual addict. I think he saw everybody as a sexual being. But I think [at the time he contracted AIDS] he was living a very flamboyant homosexual lifestyle. You know, at that time there were bath houses where the whole trick was how many can you do a night. You know, there is no question of what he was doing at that time.

[on her father having AIDS] He was in complete denial until the day he died. We know he got it from his gay relationships. Absolutely. I don't think it was just one. He was a very promiscuous man, and we knew his lifestyle then.

I don't think [my father] was just a gay man. I think he was sexually deviant. My believe is that my father was gay and he had to cover that up. The more he couldn't be who he was, the more that came out of him in ways that it did.

I didn't have any memory until I was 18 years old.

I had another personality. I had a fantasy world. I called my other personality Celestia. I called the other world that I created for myself the Fourth Dimension. I believed I was from that world. I believed I was from another planet. I think I was insane.

I told my mother at about the seventh year of therapy that I had been abused sexually by my father and she hung up the phone on me. To have gone through so much work to heal myself, and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart. And in that moment I think I split off from myself. So Anne, this girl who had just confronted her mother, shrunk, and out came Celestia, where I was literally thrown to the ground, and I'm not kidding, in New York City, thrown to the ground and heard the voice of God, and thought I was absolutely insane. I had no idea what to do. I was existing as two people.

What could I do when I was Celestia? I spoke a different language. I spoke a different language that God and I spoke together. I could, you name it, I could do it, I could see into the future, I could heal people.

I was raised to hide. I was raised to pretend. I was raised to always tell everybody that everything was fine, and even though I was in therapy for years I never told anybody that I had another personality. I never told anybody that I heard voices and spoke to God. I never told anybody any of it. I thought it would have to be something I would have to keep secret forever.

[on escaping the pain of her childhood] I drank. I smoked. I did drugs. I had sex with people. I did anything I could to get the shame out of my life.

[explaining her meltdown in Fresno] I was told to go to a place where I would meet a spaceship. I was told in order to get on the spaceship that I would have to take a hit of ecstasy. A voice. All of this justification for the end of this journey. I did go to a house. I did ask people to join me. I did go to the hospital.

I think everything I've done in all my insanity was to try to get my parents to love me. My father loved movie stars. I decided I needed to become famous to get his love. My mother loved Jesus. That was her thing. So I wanted to become Jesus Christ.

I've always wanted to heal my life. I always wanted to see the good side of life. I've always wanted to see the good in everything that happened to me.

[on her memoir, "Call Me Crazy"] I wrote this book to say goodbye, once and for all to my story of shame and embrace my life choice of love. The fact that there are people hearing my story is the icing on the most beautiful cake in the world, that I imagine says, 'Happy freedom Anne. You have made it to the other side.'

I have in the past understood that in being honest about certain things in my life, I've helped other people be honest, because they think that it's OK when somebody else admits what they've been doing. You know, it helps other people. It certainly helps me when other people are honest about the journey in their life. It inspires me.

I would never limit myself to saying I would be with a man or a woman. I have been very clear to everybody that just because I'm getting married does not mean I call myself a straight.

My life is a life movies are made of.

[on doing sex scenes with Ashton Kutcher] We wanted to create something that nobody's ever done before. We wanted to be outrageous and dangerous. Nobody was joking around about it.

Vibrators. I think they are great. They keep you out of stupid sex. I'd pitch them to anybody.

[on ex-husband Coleman 'Coley' Laffoon] I can't even get a divorce. Like, I'm divorced, but now he wants me to come and watch him run around in his little white shorts playing soccer, cause he wants to coach the seven-year-old team. I'm like, I divorced you, I don't want to see you on Saturday. Honestly, I don't want to come to rehearsal and watch you run around in your tight shorts like trying to pretend you know how to play soccer. I don't, I divorced you! No, I don't want to hang around with you Thursdays and Saturdays and maybe on Sunday.

[on choosing a name for her son] I said to James (James Tupper), 'What about Atlas?' He's like, 'Okay, cool name, but people will totally make fun of you.' I was like, 'Okay, I'm used to that. Let's name him Atlas!'

Where else do you meet people except in your workplace?

[Late Show with David Letterman (1993), asked what her ex-husband does for a living] He goes out to the mailbox, and he opens up the little mailbox door and goes "Oh I got a check from Anne! Oh my gosh, I got a check from Anne! Yay!"

My mother's had a very tragic life. Three of her five children are dead, and her husband is dead. That she is attempting to change gay people into straight people is, in my opinion, a way to keep the pain of the truth out. People wonder why I am so forthcoming with the truths that have happened in my life, and it's because the lies that I have been surrounded with and the denial that I was raised in, for better or worse, bore a child of truth and love. My mother preaches to this day the opposite of that core of my life. It is no mistake that she still stands up against love. And one wonders why I'm not rushing to have her meet my children.

Forgiveness is a funny word for me. I'm okay with my mom living her life the way she wants to live it, and I'm OK with her not participating in my life the way I want to live it.

I used to live in hell and I don't want to be there anymore. Today my life rocks.

I don't think I've ever gotten into a fistfight with a girl. My friendships ... I guess I'd have to say they don't run that deep.

I think people are still surprised when girls talk as raw as they do on film as they do in life. I think they think the language is raunchy. When girls speak the truth and talk honestly about sex or romance or their needs or their obsessions, it seems to be translated as raunchy.

People are somewhat confused by me and I understand that, but I also am proud that I'm a woman who represents making difficult choices that bring you to where you want to be.