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The Approach Free First 12 PDF
The Approach
By
Jamie D. Grant
by
Jamie
D.
Grant
The Approach
Copyright 2013
Jamie D. Grant
by
Jamie
D.
Grant
The Approach
Intro|Advice
Magic.
How do we actually
get there? Ill be honest; were going to take different paths. None
of us is going to take the same route to awesome-ville, but I can
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share with you my route. I can tell you the exact steps
Ive
taken to get to where I am today and, let me tell you, its brought
me happiness, joy, and wonder. Im excited! Its going to be a fun
journey, sharing all Ive learned with you!
Before we get started, lets go over some
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We may jump around a bit, so feel free to start (and finish)
anywhere you like. And, on that note, let me also mention this:
corners, write your name on it, doodle your logo in it - the one that
will one day be splashed across the TV- put notes in the margins,
own it. Help me make it
job.
Finally, dont let my formatting scare you. As a writer, I hate massive
chunks of text so youll see me use a lot of italics, bold, and
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Chapter 1|Article
How Many Tricks You Should Know.
You cant be a magician without knowing tricks. I think we can
all agree on that, right? Or effects. Or illusions. Or whatever you
would like to call them. A lot of people are very passionate about
calling them one thing and not another; but all I know is that if
someone is hiring you to come to their party and perform magic,
you had better know how to do something. So how many
somethings do you actually need to know? Its easy to get caught
up in the latest and the greatest that the magic world has to offer
but, at the end of the day, how many tricks can you do at
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conceivable to mankind, and it is simply what works for me.
Now a lot of people will say it all depends and that each person is
different, etc. Me? I'll just straight up tell ya...
9.
There's an old saying that an amateur can perform a ton of tricks
with average skill, but a pro can perform three brilliantly. That's true,
to be sure, but it needs a bit of refinement...
Basically, I find that you need three sets of three effects. Here's
why: you're at the event; it's a cocktail party type of setting where
everyone is standing and drinking. You approach a group of four or
five people and absolutely kill it with three amazing effects (tricks
1, 2, and 3). They're laughing and screaming and can't believe you
pulled the card out of their nose.
So what's next? Well, you take two steps (if you're lucky- sometimes
you'll just turn around) and begin for the group of eight people who
were standing behind you and sort of already watching. And you
don't want to pull a card out of their nose as well. Remember~
Once is magic, twice is a lesson. This is where you'll bust out
your second set of three effects (tricks 4, 5, and 6). You'll show this
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group something completely new and this will help if any of the
people from that first group are still watching.
Next? Same thing. Take a couple of steps and perform your final set
(tricks 7, 8, and 9). By this time, you should physically be far
enough away from your original group that, when you approach
your fourth group, you can start over with your original three tricks
(1, 2, and 3 again).
This will also give you the added benefit of, if less people come to
the event than were intended (which will happen way more often
than you think), you will be able to start over from the beginning by
showing that very first group your second set and carrying on,
essentially allowing you three tours of the room.
~jamie
After re-reading that, I think everything still holds true. The only
thing I might add is that, instead of thinking of it as 9 separate
effects, start splitting them up into 3 sets of 3 right away. That way
youll get an idea of how one trick can flow into another and how
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they work together. Thats how I try to learn new magic;
whenever I pick up something new I ask myself:
If I start using this effect at working gigs, where will it go? Will it be an
opener, a closer, or something in the middle?
Keep those questions at hand when purchasing new magic. And
dont worry; well be talking more about what makes great openers,
middles, and closers a bit later.
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Chapter 2|Study
Who Are You?
I know that sounds like a weird question, but its an
important one. And when I ask, Who
to who you are in your heart. Who do you want to be. This is the
question you need to start thinking about right away. So while
youre working on your nine effects, describe your ideal you. Even
better, write
who you are. Ill give you my description, if itll help. This is how I
would privately describe myself on paper. Youll do the same in a
second:
My name is Jamie D. Grant and Im a comedy magician. Now,
before you think I walk around making jokes, let me give you a
better idea. Picture Brad
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Arrogant? Brash? Absolutely not! You need to get a mental image
of the type of person you want to become. You need to visualize how
you want others to perceive you. Yours might look like this
sponge bunnies. Are you the funniest guy in the room? Well,
putting a spike through your neck most likely isnt a great fit. So
before you get too far ahead of yourself, picture who you want to be
and then fill this in.
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Seriously. Fill this in.
Who Am I (inside)?
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Chapter 3|Lesson
Developing Your Sets ~ Part I
Okay, now that youve got an idea of who you are (and well
be coming back to that) and who youd like to become, its time to
start working out what effects are going to make up your
sets. And
Ill be honest, this list will change many times over the course of your
career. Youre going to be experimenting quite a bit and there is
going to be a lot of trial and error. But we can do a good deal of preplanning in the meantime. So lets start with writing down 12 tricks
that you know.
If youre already a worker (someone who performs
regularly), this is an awesome exercise. Itll give you some insight
into what effects youre actually performing regularly. 8 of my 12
regular effects are ones I started performing over
for example.
I know I said you only need to know 9, but youve got to have a
couple extra that you learned along the way. If you dont have a
dozen, then use this list as a list of effects you need to learn. And
dont worry about whether these are the latest and greatest magic
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has to offer. Just get learning. The classics are the greatest
place to start but its okay to explore the entire magic world. Some
things to consider, though:
~Can they be performed standing?
~Do they have a quick reset?
~Are they smaller than a toaster?
My 12 Tricks:
(E.g.): CHOP CUP
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8)__________________________by______________________
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While youre working on your initial dozen, were going to move
onto some other things that you should be working on. Before we
do, though, let
up there. Now, ask yourself, when is the last time you performed
each and every one of them? Be honest with yourself. If were
going to pull the best 9 out of there and start charging people money
to see them we should probably make sure you really, truly, know
them. Thats not always the easiest thing to do, though. So the
question now becomes, how do we actually do that? In real
life?
How do we practice?
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Chapter 4|Essay
How To Practice?
Its is a 3 step process.
Step 1:
The first step is reading the instructions. Or watching the DVD. Or,
my favourite, reading the book. Knowing the moves and
performing them on yourself, this is always the beginning.
Step 2:
This is what I personally feel is one, if not THE, biggest stumbling
block that prevents people from
becoming working
magicians. And its not that they dont practice, its that they
dont practice in front of other people. But wait, if youre doing
tricks in front of other people, its not practicing, its performing,
isnt it? No. And heres why
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You must find a group of people who you can regularly
show magic to without fearing failure.
You must find yourself a safe environment. What exactly does that
mean? It means if you drop the coin, you can
actually say,
Hold on, I dropped it, let me start over. For a lot of people, its going
to be their wives or husbands, or family, or girlfriend or boyfriend.
But it cant be just one person- and thats hard for some. So if you
only have one of those people in your life, go find some others. If
you dont trust your friends, start going to magic clubs or meetings,
socialize; find someone else.
Who are your three people that you can show new magic to without
stressing yourself out?
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Step 3:
My final step is taking it out into the real world for people who
arent paying you money. And this is where I can give you a
solution that Ive been doing for the last
8 years.
Magic Friday.
If you have a day job, youre golden. From this day forward, youre
going to perform magic at work. No job? Time to start visiting
friends, family, and baristas at coffee shops, whatever it takes.
Because the plan to is to perform one trick, and one trick only, as
many times as you can, every
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Homework:
Do a month of Magic Fridays.
Done? Really? Dont lie to me (or yourself)! Come back after a
month
Congratulations, youre now a magician. Now before my magic
community starts cry ing from the rooftops, What?!? You cant
be a magician after a single month!!! Let me tell you this: in
your co-workers eyes you absolutely are. People are like that. Let me
put it to you this way: if you show your coworkers a painting youve
drawn, I guarantee you that if one of them introduces you to
someone else and it comes up, theyll say, Jamies a painter! In
their eyes, I am. And I only showed them one
painting. Same
with juggling. Jamie can juggle! After only one time! So, the point
is, after showing someone one effect, theyre probably going to label
you as a magician. The only question is; are you a good one? And
how do you become a good magician? By practicing. Practice by
yourself, and then in front of other people.
Learn the moves. Practice. Show your three regulars. Reflect.
Practice. Show your Magic Friday Crowd. Review. Hey, that seems
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Chapter 5|Anecdote
Your Magic Fridays.
Okay, lets actually do this right and document it. Youll be doing
magic every
Ill provide space to record your first month and then Ill leave it to
you to carry on your own. Be
down the script you used, any changes you made, what the reactions
were like, and how it made you and your audience feel.
I can still remember the rush of my very first Magic Friday. What would
they say? Would anyone actually want to watch? I had no idea! This will
change your game.
Ready?
Set?
Start (performing) and writing!
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Week 1
EFFECT NAME:
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CREATOR:
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HOW MUCH DID IT COST?
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HOW LONG DID YOU PRACTICE IT?
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HOW MANY TIMES DID YOU PERFORM IT ON FRIDAY?
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YOUR PATTER:
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HOW DID IT MAKE YOU FEEL?
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DID YOU ENJOY IT?
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IS IT A KEEPER?
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Week 2
EFFECT NAME:
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CREATOR:
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HOW MUCH DID IT COST?
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HOW LONG DID YOU PRACTICE IT?
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HOW MANY TIMES DID YOU PERFORM IT ON FRIDAY?
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WHAT WAS THE BEST REACTION?
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WHAT WOULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY?
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YOUR PATTER:
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HOW DID IT MAKE YOU FEEL?
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Week 3
EFFECT NAME:
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CREATOR:
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HOW MUCH DID IT COST?
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HOW LONG DID YOU PRACTICE IT?
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HOW MANY TIMES DID YOU PERFORM IT ON FRIDAY?
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YOUR PATTER:
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Week 4
EFFECT NAME:
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CREATOR:
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HOW MUCH DID IT COST?
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YOUR PATTER:
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Chapter 6|Advice
Business Cards.
Sweet Marie! Why on earth are we talking about business cards
already?! Well, because people are going to start asking you for
them. Heres the thing that, for the most part, drives the magic
community crazy. A young person learns a trick (that he probably
stole) runs out to a print shop (knocking a little old lady over on the way),
gets business cards with a rabbit and the word MAGICIAN on
them, and then goes and creates a terrible name for
of us. Well, that may be true, but thats not you. Why? Lets
recap
1)
2)
Youve gone out into the real world and performed for
actual
3)
people.
really know if people think were any good and not just saying it to
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our face? Well, one of the ways is that someone will ask you for a
business card! So for those moments, we must prepare.
This isnt going to be your final branding. Well, it might, but
this is just to assist you in getting work in the beginning. And a lot of
working magicians might want to take note. The single most
JAMIE D. GRANT
MAGICIAN
604-555-1234
SendWonder@gmail.com
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Thats it. Flashy? Nope. Easy to read? Yep. Youll have to trust
me when I tell you whats more important. And, make no mistake, if
someone cant easily find your contact info, theyll move on to one
thats easier. Guaranteed. Does this mean that we cant design
super hip, ultra-cool business cards that do effects and levitate on
demand? No. But, be warned. What impresses you and your pals isnt
necessarily what will get you gigs. Take a look at every business card
you see and ask yourself: if I wanted to get a hold of this person in
the next 3 seconds, could I do it? Always apply that to yourself.
I know what youre thinking: but if it doesnt have a trick, they wont
keep it! No, if
wont keep it. Focus less on design and more on making yourself
memorable.
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Chapter 7|Tip
Websites.
Ah, websites. Nothing has caused magicians to lose as much work as
websites. Read that again. LOSE as much work. Websites are
almost exactly the same as business cards. However, instead of
looking for your contact info, they want to see what you look like.
I remember one time I was doing Magic Friday at work, back when I was
a bike messenger and I would perform for people I delivered to, many of
whom I had never met before. This particular delivery was to the office of
Canadas wealthiest businessman. I gave my usual pitch to the receptionist
of, Sign here, please. And Happy Magic Friday!
Whats Magic Friday? Well, Im a magician and I do a
super quick magic trick for people for free today if
theyd like to see something. Well, the receptionist called out
the entire office! Luckily it was a great trick and had everyone screaming.
They were so loud that the head office manager came running out and,
after some explanation, she mentioned that they were having a holiday
party and was wondered if I was available to work it. Before I said yes,
however, she had one question. What do I WEAR when I perform...
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She had decided that I was good based on the reactions
of her
staff, but she still had to decide if I was a good fit for their event.
She obviously couldnt have someone working the party who wore a
helmet and a messenger bag. So when I replied, Suit and tie.
she looked at my website to double-check and said, See you
Tuesday.
So that is exactly what your website is for. It should start as a
vehicle to get across the best possible image of yourself to the public.
Of course itll also be a way for people to find you; but that shouldnt
be the focus in the beginning. Becoming easily searchable will come
later.
important things
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think, that surely its flashing lights and things to click that get people
to like your site, but after networking with receptionists and event
planners for years, I can tell you what they say behind the scenes. And
for the most part its not pretty. People will talk about your polka-dot
suit (in a bad way) far more than how much they liked the spades
floating down the screen of your homepage. So, before
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Chapter 8|Study
How Do You Look?
Put this book down and go look at yourself in a mirror. Go
on! Ill be here when you get back.
Okay, describe the person you just saw. Tall, dark, and handsome?
Short, scrawny, and in need of a haircut? Describe yourself
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Now is time for some brutal
like?
Ill go first. I need more hair. Im not sure how to get it but Im
working on it.
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Your turn.
I dont like:
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Okay, so now the question is, how do we
accentuate the
positives and eliminate the negatives? Are you overweight and youre
not happy with it? Are you missing a tooth and its been driving you
crazy? Whatever the case may be, if it can be fixed, now is the time
to do it. Because a good headshot photo might last for a few years,
were going to make ourselves the best we can be before we capture
it on paper. But we need to be
future isnt exact enough. So write down the date three months from
today:
3 months from now:
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That is the day youre going to get your headshots. And its plenty of
time to create a whole new you - if thats what you need. You need
to be honest, if you saw a picture of yourself, would
you hire
you?
3 months from now. Youve written it down. The time to start,
though, is
today.
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Chapter 9|Advice
What Are You Wearing?
Not right now! For
of your most
you look (obviously), but also how you feel! Because now were
starting to talk about character. What is character? Well, in essence,
it means the role youre going to play. Is your character an
easygoing, funny personality? Or is he or she the more mysterious
James Bond type? That person you described a few chapters ago,
what do they look like? All of this will be reflected in
how you
dress.
So go get dressed. Put on the actual outfit youd wear if you were
going to work a gig today. Ill
wait.
Okay, are you wearing anything with pictures of playing cards on it?
If so, take it off. Why? Because clichs are the bronze standard (if
that). And you are the gold
corporate, wedding, and private party world want elegant. Cool. Fun.
Not cheesy, outdated, or dangerous. I know you love your card tie. It
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says magician. But, trust me, were going to let them know that in
another way.
So where does that leave us? Surely we dont want to all look
the same? How does one stand out if everyones wearing the same
suit?
The first thing is to start looking at actors headshots. Type
headshots into Google and see what comes up. See what
doesnt come up? No
them. Businesses hire models for ads because models sell things
without saying a word. You are the model for your business. So start
selling. And start saving while youre at it! If your headshot costs
less than $200, youre probably not using the best there is. No shots
from friends. Hire
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Chapter 10|Anecdote
Funny Or Serious?
Before we click that camera shutter, we must look a little closer at
what were becoming first. Brooding and cool, or smiley and
loveable? Like I mentioned at the very beginning of this book, Ill
tell you what has worked
Funny is money.
I know what youre thinking, What about the guys we see on TV?! The
ones making gazillions
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weddings, holiday parties, birthday parties, etc. The key to all of
these is that theyre
the most part) looking for serious method acting type evenings of
enchantment.
So what does this mean? Well, it means that for your headshots
that will go on your website which will be visited after someone
looks at your business card which will be handed out when they
ask for it which will be asked for when you show them how much
fun you are should be a
Write it down here. Youll be shocked at how often youll use it.
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Chapter 11|LESSON
Are You Any Good Yet?
Remember those 12 tricks you wrote down? Lets go back and revisit
them for a second. How
Ask yourself- what does good mean? Im not talking about method.
Im talking about hire-ability (I think I just made that word
up). Are you hire-able? And the answer to this question has (almost)
nothing to do with magic tricks. It has more to do with people. Are
you a likeable person? Do people enjoy your company? Do you
have stories, anecdotes, lines, personality? Make no mistake, this is
what will get you hired and invited back.
I still remember meeting Barrie Richardson, who wrote a couple of my favourite
magic books, and he told me his only goal at the end of the event was for the
people who hired him to ask each other,
back?
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So let me ask you, when you leave a room, are you missed? If not,
why not? Are people, instead, happy to see you go? Maybe youre a
mean person? Or perhaps you embarrass people? Do you make
cutting side remarks to try and be funny? Because, if you do, a few
great card tricks arent
remember what you did, they remember how you made them feel.
Just like you practice your pass, you need to start practicing,
immediately, making people feel good. And its not just about
complimenting them or tossing out flattery, even though thats a
great place to start. The ability to compliment someone, without it
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Ill give you a couple of examples. If its a male friend I know, but
whom I havent seen in awhile: Dude, youre looking sharp!
What gym have you been going to? Notice the question isnt
Have you been going to the gym? Theres a difference there. If its a
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woman, Ill say something like, Have I ever mentioned that
you have the greatest smile?
Dont forget, we need to compliment without
1)
2)
3)
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Grant
The Approach
Chapter 12|Advice
Starting Conversations.
People love to talk about themselves, thats human nature. So ask
them questions. The key, though, is to ask them questions that they
can answer in a positive
youll be asking them these questions in front of their friends or coworkers. So asking them how their divorce is going is probably not
the best idea.
And before we go any further, let me tell you right up front that this
chapter is the one that will save
Because when you walk into a gig where there are supposed to be
three hundred people and only eight have shown up, its the
best
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2) The ace of hearts, right?! Amazing!! I know!!! So, does everyone
work here?
3) The ace of hearts, right?! Amazing!! I know!!! Hey, who here is
from the grooms side and who is from the brides side?
4) The ace of hearts, right?! Amazing!! I know!!! Hey, so what
exactly do you guys do here, anyways? Ill be honest, I have no
idea what a flux capacitor is.
5) The ace of hearts, right?! Amazing!! I know!!! Hey, whos the
biggest troublemaker here?
Now, anyone can ask those questions. The first question isnt
what makes a conversationalist. Its how
response.
So, what would you say if they responded with the following?
1)
Quesnel.
2)
3)
4)
5)
John.
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3)
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like theyre in the presence of a stranger. And the only way to not
be a stranger is to spend time with them. So buy time. The longer
you spend, the
This is what will separate you from everyone else. Because if you can
do this and show them amazing magic at the same time, youll be
golden. Dont forget, your goal isnt reactions. Your goal is
connections.
Ask questions.
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