Abuse, Trauma, and Torture - Their Consequences and Effects
Abuse, Trauma, and Torture - Their Consequences and Effects
Abuse, Trauma, and Torture - Their Consequences and Effects
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Pathological Narcissism – An Overview
A Primer on Narcissism and the Narcissistic
Personality Disorder (NPD)
The Narcissist's Entitlement of Routine
Pathological Narcissism – A Dysfunction or a
Blessing?
The Narcissist's Confabulated Life
The Cult of the Narcissist
Bibliography
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A Profile of the
Narcissistic Abuser
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The Narcissist's Entitlement of Routine
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Pathological Narcissism
A Dysfunction or a Blessing?
Read this:
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The Narcissist's Confabulated Life
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The Cult of the Narcissist
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I. Online
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Narcissists as Drama Queens
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Grandiosity, Fantasies, and Narcissism
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II. Print
In the Workplace
The Narcissist in the Workplace
Question:
Answer:
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Narcissism in the Boardroom
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The Professions of the Narcissist
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Trauma
Abuse
Torture
An Overview
What is Abuse?
I. Overt Abuse
TIP
Disproportional Reactions
TIP
TIP
Abuse of Information
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Toxic Relationships
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Traumas as Social Interactions
PHASE I
Summary Phase I
PHASE II
Summary Phase II
PHASE III
PHASE IV
Summary Phase IV
PHASE V
Summary Phase V
Also read:
Psychology of Torture
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The Psychology of Torture
"As the gap between the 'I' and the 'me' deepens,
dissociation and alienation increase. The subject that,
under torture, was forced into the position of pure object
has lost his or her sense of interiority, intimacy, and
privacy. Time is experienced now, in the present only,
and perspective – that which allows for a sense of
relativity – is foreclosed. Thoughts and dreams attack
the mind and invade the body as if the protective skin
that normally contains our thoughts, gives us space to
breathe in between the thought and the thing being
thought about, and separates between inside and
outside, past and present, me and you, was lost."
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Trauma
Torture
Abuse
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Victim reaction to Abuse
By Narcissists and Psychopaths
1. Malignant Optimism
2. Rescue Fantasies
3. Self-flagellation
4. Emulation
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The Three Forms of Closure
Conceptual Closure
Dissociative Closure
Also Read
Narcissism By Proxy
RESOURCES
Question:
Answer:
Rescue Fantasies
Loving a Narcissist
Narcissistic Tactics
Moving On
Learning
Grieving
Remember, though:
Also Read
The Dependent
Narcissism By Proxy
The Inverted Narcissist
Exploitation by a Narcissist
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Mourning the Narcissist
Question:
Answer:
Also Read
Ideas of Reference
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The Inverted Narcissist
Terminology
Codependents
Inverted Narcissist
Counterdependents
Introduction
Sources:
Rejection
Criterion ONE
Criterion TWO
Criterion THREE
Criterion FOUR
Criterion FIVE
Criterion SIX
Criterion EIGHT
Criterion NINE
Getting Compliments
"I love getting compliments and rewards, and do not
react negatively to them. In some moods, when my self-
hate has gotten triggered, I can sometimes get to places
where I'm inconsolable, because I get stuck in bitterness
and self-pity, and so I doubt the sincerity or the
reliability of the good thing that someone is saying to
me (to try to cheer me up or whatever). But, if I'm in a
reasonable mood and someone offers me something
good, I'm all too happy to accept it! I don't have a stake
in staying miserable."
"I don't usually get rageful about the past. I feel sort of
emotionally cut-off from the past, actually. I remember
events very clearly, but usually can't remember the
feelings. When I do remember the feelings, my reaction
is usually one of sadness, and sometimes of relief that I
can get back in touch with my past. But not rage. All my
rage seems to get displaced on the current people in my
life."
Rage
Making Amends
Why Narcissists?
Partial NPD
"I am exactly this way and I feel exactly as you do, that
the world is a sepia motion picture but when I am
intimately involved with a narcissist, it breaks out into
three-dimensional Technicolor and I can see and feel in
ways that are not available to me otherwise. In my case
I developed this (inverted narcissism) as a result of
being the favourite of my father who so completely
absorbed me into his personality that I was not able to
develop a sense of separation. So I am stuck in this
personality matrix of needing to be engulfed, adored by
and completely taken over by a narcissist in my life. In
turn, I worship, defend, regulate and procure
Narcissistic Supply for my narcissist. It is like the
mould and the moulded."
Also Read
Narcissistic Parents
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Torture
Abuse
Trauma
But then she would say enough and ask who touched the
refrigerator and we would say not we but she knew. She
always pointed at us and said that we had touched the
refrigerator and we know we mustn't and how her life is
being ruined by the need to clean after us and then the
beatings, the beatings. All our body.
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Night Terror
1. The Doctor
I scream.
I hesitate.
"Max!"
Her voice.
I sleep.
2. Sarah
She shudders.
It is not.
4. The Police
"I can explain that." - She literally threw the photo back
at her interlocutor.
He grimaced: "Go ahead, then."
"Medical experiments?"
5. Help
"I am glad."
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A Dream Come True
When all the formalities were over, the judge rose from
his chair and we all stood up. As he reached the entrance
door to his chambers, he turned around, puzzled:
"By the way, where is his wife? I haven't seen her even
once during these proceedings. Anyone has
communicated with her? Technically, she is his
guardian, you know."
"I murdered her, Your Honor. I have been telling you for
months now!" - I shouted.
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Cutting to Existence
he wouldn't listen.
wells in my eyes
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In the concentration camp called Home
a stalactite of terror
beating(s) a path.
At noon, Our Mother
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Sally Ann
Course set.
Experts interpret,
pricking with laser markers,
inflated dialects
of doom.
A peace accord
between you and your self.
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The Miracle of the Kisses
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Guide to Coping with
Narcissists and Psychopaths
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Strategies for Coping with Abusers (General)
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How to Cope with Stalkers and Paranoids
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Narcissistic abuse in the workplace and
Narcissism of authority figures
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THE AUTHOR
Curriculum Vitae
Education
Business Experience
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The Book
"Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed
aggression, envy and hatred. They firmly believe that
everyone is like them. As a result, they are paranoid,
aggressive, haughty and erratic. Narcissists are
forever in pursuit of Narcissistic Supply.
They know no past or future, are not constrained by any
behavioural consistency, 'rules' of conduct or moral
considerations. You signal to a narcissist that you are a willing
source – and he is bound to extract his supply from you.
This is a reflex.
He would have reacted absolutely the same to any other
source. If what is needed to obtain supply from you is
intimations of intimacy – he will supply them liberally."
This book is comprised of two parts.
The first part contains 102 Frequently Asked Questions
related to the various aspects of pathological narcissism,
relationships with abusive narcissists, and the
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
The second part is an exposition of the various psychodynamic
theories regarding pathological narcissism and
a proposed new vocabulary.
The Author
Sam Vaknin was born in Israel in 1961. A financial consultant
and columnist, he lived (and published) in 12 countries.
He is a published and awarded author of short fiction and
reference and an editor of mental health categories in various
Web directories. This is his twelfth book.