Same Day Lay Guide
Same Day Lay Guide
Table of Content
Chapter 1 : What is a same day lay ( SDL) ?
Chapter 2: Daygame
Chapter 3: Daygame myths
Chapter 4: How to approach (mindset)
Chapter 5: Body language and fashion
Chapter 6: Creating sexual attraction
Chapter 7: Building rapport and comfort
Chapter 8: Instant date
Chapter 9: Kino and sexual escalation
Chapter 10: Boyfriend objections
Chapter 11: Logistics and sex
Chapter 12: Last minute resistance (LMR)
Chapter 2: Daygame
You're about to get inside the head of a day game pua, day
game pick up artist, or whatever fancy name you want to label
it.
Alright, let's cut right through the B.S.
If you're just going to bars and clubs to meet and pick up
women, then you're missing out on the majority of women
that are single, available, and yours for the taking.
Surveys show that only 8% of the female population actually
dated men that they met in bars and clubs.
92% of them, the whopping majority I believe, actually
wanted to meet men in normal, day to day, locations such as
coffee shops, book stores, gyms, classrooms, beaches, malls,
and anywhere under the sun.
Need I say much?
I can tell you from first hand experience that it is a lot easier
to meet and pick up women during the day (AKA Daygame).
It's like shooting fish in a barrel with a rocket launcher.
Okay maybe that's a little bit extreme but it's the closest
analogy I can think of.
Don't get me wrong though.
It can be very difficult for most men who don't know what in
the world they're doing. These men often go home frustrated
because they don't know how daygame works. For them, it's a
hard, gruesome, rejection filled, day-to-day reality.
It doesn't have to be that way.
It's really easy if you know exactly what to do, how to do it
and when to do it...
Here's an important lesson I learned in my daygame pua
journey:
Not Mastering Your Environment Can Really Hurt You
other men who are curious about her as well... which is not
often the case during the daytime. If you can walk up to a girl
and hold a conversation, you're already running day game. To
get consistent success all you need now is the knowledge and
skills.
Myth Number 3: What Works In The Club Will Work On The
Street
I have a friend who kills in the club. This guy has incredible
skills and amazing energy, and when we are out he hardly ever
goes home without a hot chick. His recipe is being absolutely
direct. He turns up the heat without delay and the girls... who
are there to hook up with someone in any case... go for it on
every occasion. Just a few days ago a close friend and I were
having lunch in the neighbourhood when he noticed an
adorable girl sitting alone on a park bench nearby. So he
approached her. Told her precisely the same tales and featured
the exact same routines which happen to have gotten him
success with girls tons of times. And got the old heave-ho. But
why? He believed that the techniques which work on women
who are looking to hook up will work on a girl who is not.
The worst part, he may have been successful if he'd played it
another way. Females are always on the lookout for an
adventure. You need to simply frame it in a different way and
lead with a different energy in day game.
Myth Number 4: Because The Girl Is Always Going Some
place -- Logistics Are Always Bad
Most guys think of "daytime pua" and visualize a rather busy
street with a large number of people rushing from one place to
another. When everyone is in a hurry, the chances of pulling a
girl away for a date (or more) seem pretty minimal. Once
more... part of the problem here has to do with expectations.
With successful day game, all you're doing very often is
getting contact information and possibly setting up a future
date. More than this anything is achievable... nevertheless you
have got to be looking out for situations where a woman is not
"heading" somewhere. To illustrate, it's possible she's on a
lunch break. That's 30 minutes right there. Or perhaps she's at
work (be very careful with this one, though. You want to be
respectful of her situation... please don't attempt to lock her
into dialogue if she's obviously occupied, or she will believe
that you are a creep. And she will most likely be right.) You'll
discover how to spot the girls who have some time on their
hands with a little observation and practice...
Myth Number 5: Girls Are Always Busy And Don't Want To
Be Annoyed
Of course, even if a girl is sitting by herself on the bus with a
book... she's reading. If she's got an iPod, the woman is
listening to some music. If she has her laptop with her, she'll
probably be on Twitter or doing something for work. She'll
always be doing something to keep busy. So what? Imagine
for a second you're texting a buddy when a beautiful woman
suddenly comes up to you and starts a conversation. She's
interesting to talk to, friendly, and everything in her body
language informs you that she likes you. After a few minutes,
she offers you her number and proposes you get together in
the near future. The last thing you're going to do is tell her,
"Sorry, I'm busy." How would you feel if that situation really
took place? Fairly incredible, right? Well it is the exact same
way for girls. Even if you're not in a bar, girls still love to be
approached! You may run into the occasional girl with a bad
attitude who will blow you off. However, much of the time, if
you remember to keep a confident, playful energy and don't
undermine the interaction with too many presumptions, the
women you meet will be pretty happy you made the effort to
meet them.
to ask her any more for the fear of rejection and too much
competition. When the truth is, most beautiful women, stay
single because men are intimidated by them and there are not
enough guys who have the courage to ask them out or make
the first move. It rarely happens that women do the first move
especially if she's a beautiful gorgeous woman. Men should
know how to approach beautiful women first.
Be natural and friendly. Don't look too amazed and stutter
when you talk, this is very important in learning how to
approach beautiful women. Gorgeous beautiful women are not
different from other women or from other people so treat her
like a normal person. Being friendly with her will have the
same effect as with most people, if you treat her with kindness
and friendliness, they will respond on the same manner.
Initiate a conversation that will interest her. Most beautiful
women think that men are interested because they are just
amazingly beautiful so avoid mentioning about her
appearance. Initiate a conversation that will interest her. It
could be about a movie or music she likes or a hobby that you
both have. Don't be arrogant, act naturally and politely
making her feel safe and respected. Smile and maintain eye
contact during conversations and it will never show that you
were having a hard time figuring out how to approach
beautiful women like her.
Take things slowly. Do not rush things, remember that you
were a stranger to her and you are on the "getting to know
each other" stage. Do not stalk her or call her everyday that
she feels annoyed and disturbed after establishing a good
conversation with her. Yes she is an astonishingly attractive
gorgeous woman, but still you have to keep your cool and act
slowly but surely. Let her take her time to know you more and
take your time to show your good intentions.
does exist, and you think it may make it more difficult to hold
a straight posture, an exercise and stretching regimen can
help. You should focus on strengthening the weaker muscle,
and loosening the stronger muscles natural pull on your joint.
Working on your Walk
A mans walk says a lot. With the right walk, you can have
every woman looking at you. Its in a womans nature to turn
her head if she senses an alpha male from her peripheral
vision. In some cases, a strong walk can work like an opener,
you just need to say hi when she makes eye contact with
you. So lets examine how an alpha male walks.
One of the most important indicators of an alpha male is his
head position. Beta males are used to slouching, and this
causes their head to migrate forward so that the back of their
neck has a significant angle. Your heads center of mass
should be directly over your shoulders, not slightly in front of
them. You should also be looking straight ahead so that the
your nose is pointing parallel to the ground. With this
knowledge, lets go over an exercise to adjust your natural
head position while walking.
The Balloon Technique Exercise
Now find a hallway or a place you can practice walking.
Stand on one side of the walkway, and begin walking towards
the other side. As you do, imagine a string attached to the
centre of your sternum at the approximate height of where
your heart is. Attached to that string is a balloon full of helium
pulling straight up. Allow it to pull your chest up and out as
you walk. This will help straighten your spine. Once you
reach the opposite end, turn around and begin walking back.
This time as you walk, imagine an additional balloon attached
to the top of your head. This balloon will help straighten your
neck. Practice this exercise as often as possible, it will help
you create a habit of good walking posture, and will ensure a
proper head position.
Overall Body Language
Your overall body language should portray one message,
Confidence. Confidence means opening up your stance, and
relaxing any muscles which arent necessary for standing. By
doing this, you are accomplishing two things in her mind.
First, you are showing comfort in your life, going back to the
better life concept. Second, you are showing that you have
your physical guard down. You are in essence showing her
that you do not fear an attack from another male. This comes
from our primate instincts. If we feel at all threatened by
another male competing for status, we will leave our muscles
tense so that we can react to an attack more quickly. Being
loose portrays a confidence in ones ability to fend off attack,
and is very attractive to females. Keep this idea in mind when
around women and use it to adapt a natural standing posture
which exudes these qualities.
MENS FASHION
It's not about knowing everything about fashion or following
the latest trends. That's what most people think of when they
think of fashion. Sure, knowing the latest trends shows that
you keep up with current events and following the latest
trends shows that you have access to some financial resources
(it's expensive following the latest trends). But that's a lot of
effort for relatively little return. This short dating manual
excerpt will help you dress well to date women you want.
It's about what looks good on you, and more importantly what
makes you look good. Most importantly, it's about what it
communicates about you. The way you dress should
communicate something about your lifestyle. The following
are some general guidelines that work for a large majority of
men. For some men there may be certain social stereotypes
they may be targeting (e.g.: for wannabe Japanese girls,
dressing like a Japanese pop star would score you major
points) but making a list of all these niches would be
unproductive.
1. Wear clothes that fit
Clothes that fit are essential when it comes to being able to
attract women. A person wearing loose clothes shows that
they may not be comfortable with their figure (either they
think they're too slim or too fat). A person wearing tight
clothing shows that they are comfortable with themselves and
can imply comfort with sexuality. This is important for
building attraction in women. As mentioned in the beginning,
it's what your clothes communicate about you that really
matters. As such, wearing a form fitting $10 plain shirt can
look much better than an oversized $200 shirt.
If you can afford it, I recommend that you also tailor your
clothes that don't fit EXACTLY. If they fit exactly already,
that's ok. But otherwise, tailoring can help clothes fit you
better, which then helps you attract women and date women.
2. Each accessory should communicate a story
This is a good way to get conversations started and continued.
By wearing interesting items of clothing, you give women
who want to talk with you an excuse to start a conversation.
By having a story behind the item of clothing instead of it just
you are in rapport, when you start touching her, she will touch
you back.
Revealing your vulnerability is another powerful way to
quickly build rapport. However, many PUAs practice it the
wrong way. They make themselves vulnerable while
displaying low value by sharing how they behave in a lowvalue way. "I remember what it feels like when my exgirlfriend dumped me, back then I thought I would never meet
another girl." This is a really huge mistake. You may argue
that you show your vulnerability here, but you are also saying
that you are the kind of men who get dumped and have a hard
time dealing with it. You are displaying low value behaviour.
You can also easily build rapport with a woman via futureprojections. What you need to do is just sharing a fantasy
about anything exciting: how great is your trip, where you go
on an adventure, and so on. You need to be extravagant and
have fun with it. Women have strong emotions that we do. To
make her feel as if a wonderful future with you really
happened, you only need to get her to imagine. How easy is
it? Note that you don't have to worry about future-projecting
marriage. You only need to be light and fun, and then it will
be a blast. She will not hold you to it.
Practice these techniques regularly and keep watching couples
who are in rapport when you go out. Then, do it over and over
again. You will finally see good results.
you this funny story that happiness the other day, lets grab a
quick coffee"
Instant-dating women is actually a good skill to have however
remember that you must look relaxed when leading the
interaction and push it as far as you can. If she says she cant
join you push a little more as most girls give out "token"
resistance like "I've got somewhere to go" even when they
don't, they say this as it's the only objection they know to put
up at this point (even if they like you). So just say "just join
me and have a quick chat for 5 minutes and then you can go to
XYZ).
Bear in mind though that it's always better to date and flirt
with single girls. If you're luckier, you can score a very
beautiful attractive single girl all to yourself.
desperate or nervous. Showing a lot of interest can be a turnoff to a woman! Now this may sound strange to you at first
after all when a woman wants a man she has to practically hit
him over the head before he realizes it! So men think they
must do the same (metaphorically speaking). Even though
men are mostly unconscious of a woman's intentions women
know the intentions of men when they meet them. You need to
do very little except talk genuinely to her for her to know that
you're interested.
Build up some self confidence. you can start on this by having
a relaxed "I'll see what happens approach when talking to
women. Having confidence in yourself will not only allow
you to approach beautiful without fear and trepidation but it
will also mean you can handle possible rejection and learn
from it instead of beating yourself up. Take the view that
you're going to have a chat with her, see what happens and
have no expectations.
Now that you know women act on their emotions it is very
important that you get in touch with how she is feeling
quickly. The good news is, though, that you can deliberately
get her into certain emotional places with specific proven
techniques. There is a scientific way that outlines how to pull
girls using emotional/psychological techniques.
Spend the necessary time to learn how to pull girls and then
practise what you've learned. Rome was not built in a day!
The key to getting more dates is to give women what they
want. You do this by developing an understanding of how they
think and what motivates them into action i.e. their feelings.
The science behind the knowledge of how to pull girls lies in
understanding how the think and especially how they feel.
However, you get out of life what you put into it and this is no
exception. Put in the work and you will see amazing results.
You will know what women want and you will be able to give
it to them.
Final words from SIMON SPENCER
Thank you for taking the time to read this ebook. I hope you
enjoyed it and learnt something. Now its time to take action
and put this information into action. Remember, the game is
played in the field . Lets get out of the house and start
approaching.
I wish you all the success in the world and more hot girls in
your life everyday.
If you wish to contact me for coaching, to attend my live
events and or other enquiries then please visit my website
www.authenticmensclub.com
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