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CONTENTS
v ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
vii PREFACE
1 1. About personality disorders
2 2. About borderline personality disorder

What is bpd?
What feelings are associated with bpd?
How common is bpd?
How is bpd diagnosed?
What other disorders co-occur with bpd?
When does bpd begin?
What causes bpd?
Stigma and bpd
Stigma and bpd with a concurrent disorder
3 3. Treatment for people with BPD

What types of mental health services are available?
What happens when bpd occurs with other mental health or
addiction problems?
Specialized psychosocial treatments for bpd
Medication for bpd
Recovery from bpd
20 4. Supporting the family member who has BPD

How can I support a person with bpd in seeking treatment?
How can I support my family member during treatment?
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32 5. Self-care
Caring for yourself when a family member has bpd
Helping children understand and cope with bpd
39 6. Recovery and hope
41 7. Conclusion
42 REFERENCES
43 RESOURCES
Information about treatment resources in Ontario
Publications
Internet resources
52 GLOSSARY
57 APPENDIX
Family crisis information sheet
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
This information guide came together because of the interest and

hard work of a team of dedicated, knowledgeable people. It was
the leadership and commitment of Sharon LaBonte-Jaques that
moved this project forward. We would like to thank Virginia Carver
for agreeing to work with the team, to research and to write the
first draft of this guide. The following project team members helped
shape the content and the earlier drafts: Karyn Baker, Christine Bois,
Allison Potts, Barbara Steep, Sonia Veg, Janice Weston, Gwenne
Woodward and Monique Bouvier.
The following people provided expert contributions within their

fields: Jennifer Foster, Barrister and Solicitor, Health Law and Policy;
Wende Woode, ba, bsp, bcpp, Drug Information and Drug Use
Evaluation Pharmacist.
A special thanks goes out to the following professionals and family

members who reviewed early versions or sections of this booklet
and provided invaluable insight and feedback. The reviewers include:
Anonymous (submitted without a name), A Family Member,
Dr. Deborah Azounsy, Dr. Bob Cardish, Dr. Eilenna Denisoff, Kathryn
Haworth, Tammy McKinnon, Jothi Ramesh, Diane and Guy Richards,
Barbara Steep, Dr. Charlene Taylor, and Dr. Johnny Yap.
The following people were involved in making changes to the guide

using the feedback and recommendations provided throughout the
process: Sharon LaBonte-Jaques, Monique Bouvier and Sylvie Guenther.
We also thank Caroline Hebblethwaite for her guidance and advice

as our publishing developer. Further, the camh Creative Services team
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of Krystyna Ross, publisher, Jacquelyn Waller-Vintar, editor, Nancy Leung,

graphic designer, and Christine Harris, print production co-ordinator,
helped make this project a reality.
The content of this information guide was developed using many

sources for reference and we acknowledge the work of the follow-
ing experts in the field of borderline personality disorder: Cynthia
Berkowitz, Martin Bohus, Robert J. Cardish, C.J. DeLuca, Frances
R. Frankenburg, Robert O. Friedel, John G. Gunderson, J. Hennen,
G.S Khera, Klaus Lieb, Marsha M. Linehan, A.J. Mahari, Caroline
P. O’Grady, Joel Paris, Valerie Porr, Christian Schmahl, W.J. Wayne
Skinner and Mary C. Zanarini.
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PREFACE
This booklet is for those who have someone in their lives with a
borderline personality disorder (bpd). We hope it will encourage
you and your affected family member or friend to seek the infor-
mation and support you need to understand borderline personality
disorder and to begin the journey of recovery.
Because the booklet is written for individuals and families in many

different circumstances and communities, it may not address
everyone’s needs or questions. You will see family referred to many
times. When we say family, we mean both family and friends. You
can use your own definition and include whomever you want as
family and friends.
The first two sections provide information about bpd, including how
it feels to have bpd, the stigma associated with bpd, the prevalence
of bpd, its symptoms, diagnosis, causes and other disorders that
co-occur with bpd. The third section provides information about
treatment of bpd, the fourth section describes how to support
someone with bpd and the fifth section discusses self-care strategies
for partners and family members of those with bpd. The sixth section
talks about the importance of hope in the recovery process.
At the end of this booklet on p. 43, you will find a list of helpful
resources including contact information for finding treatment,
and print and web-based resources. You will also find a glossary
and a family crisis information sheet for you to use.
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1. About personality
disorders
Borderline personality disorder is the most common personality

disorder among the several different types of personality disorders
listed in the text revision of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of
Mental Disorders (dsm-iv-tr). This manual is used by physicians and
registered psychologists when they make a mental health diagnosis.
The dsm-iv-tr defines a personality disorder as “an enduring pattern

of inner experience and behaviour that deviates markedly from the
expectations of the individual’s culture, is pervasive and inflexible,
has an onset in adolescence or early adulthood, is stable over time
and leads to clinically significant distress or impairment.” Someone
with a personality disorder generally has difficulty in dealing with
relationships and social situations, handling emotions and thoughts,
understanding how or why his or her behaviour is causing problems,
and finds it hard to change to suit different situations.
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2. About borderline
personality disorder
What is BPD?
The best way I have heard borderline personality disorder
described is having been born without an emotional skin,
no barrier to ward off real or perceived emotional assaults.
What might have been a trivial slight to others was for me
an emotional catastrophe, and what would be a headache
in emotional terms for someone else was a brain tumor
for me. This reaction was spontaneous and not something
I chose. In the same way, the rage that is often one of the
hallmarks of borderline personality disorder, and that seems
way out of proportion to what is going on, is not just a
“temper tantrum” or a “demand for attention.” For me, it
was a reaction to being overwhelmed by present pain that
reminded me of the past. (Williams, 1998)
Borderline personality disorder (bpd) is a serious, long-lasting

and complex mental health problem. Though it has received less
attention than other serious mental health problems, such as
bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, the number of people diagnosed
with bpd is similar or higher than these disorders. People living
with bpd have difficulty regulating or handling their emotions
or controlling their impulses. They are highly sensitive to what
is going on around them and can react with intense emotions to
small changes in their environment. People with bpd have been
About borderline personality disorder 3
described as living with constant emotional pain and the symptoms

of bpd are a result of their efforts to cope with this pain. This dif-
ficulty with handling emotion is the core of bpd.
Some common symptoms displayed by a person with bpd include:

• intense but short-lived bouts of anger, depression or anxiety
• emptiness associated with loneliness and neediness
• paranoid thoughts and dissociative states in which the mind or
psyche “shuts off” painful thoughts or feelings
• self-image that can change depending on whom the person is
with; this can make it difficult for the affected person to pursue
his or her own long-term goals
• impulsive and harmful behaviours such as substance abuse,
overeating, gambling or high-risk sexual behaviours
• non-suicidal self-injury such as cutting, burning with a cigarette
or overdose that can bring relief from intense emotional pain
(onset usually in early adolescence); up to 75 per cent of people
with bpd self-injure one or more times
• suicide (about 10 per cent of people with bpd take their own lives)
• intense fear of being alone or of being abandoned, agitation
with even brief separation from family, friends or therapist
(because of difficulty to feel emotionally connected to someone
who is not there)
• impulsive and emotionally volatile behaviours that may lead
to the very abandonment and alienation that the person fears
• volatile and stormy interpersonal relationships with attitudes
to others that can shift from idealization to anger and dislike
(a result of black and white thinking that perceives people as
all good or all bad).
The types and severity of bpd symptoms experienced may differ from
person to person because people have different predispositions and
life histories, and symptoms can fluctuate over time.
4 Borderline personality disorder
The term borderline personality disorder was coined in 1938 by

Adolph Stern, a psychoanalyst who viewed the symptoms of bpd as
being on the borderline between psychosis and neurosis. However,
some experts now feel the term does not accurately describe bpd
symptoms and should be changed. Some also feel that the existing
name can reinforce the stigma already attached to bpd.
The road to specialized treatment and recovery is often hard because

the symptoms of bpd can make the affected person emotionally
demanding and difficult to engage and retain in treatment. As a
result, the disorder is often stigmatized and helping services may
be reluctant to accept clients with a bpd diagnosis.
However, with appropriate treatment, people with bpd can make

significant life changes, though not all symptoms of bpd will dis-
appear. Remission is more common as people reach the middle
years of life. Hope and recovery are important to both the person
and family members. These issues are discussed in more detail on
p. 39. “The overarching message of ‘recovery’ is that hope and
meaningful life are possible. Hope is recognized as one of the most
important determinants of recovery” (O’Grady & Skinner, 2007).
What feelings are associated with BPD?

I feel empty and lonely, sometimes like I don’t exist at all, and
saying my name feels like a lie because I know there’s nothing
inside. I play roles, try to be who I’m “supposed” to be, and
I’m good at being anyone but me. I fill in the space with
what’s appropriate—my goals, careers, values, it’s all based on
the situation. I want to feel something, anything other than
nothing. I go from okay to suicidal in an instant and don’t
even know why. But one constant is a sense of worthlessness
that spills over into a desperate need for self-destruction.
— a client
Borderline personality disorder can have degrees of severity and

intensity, but at its most severe and intense the emotional vulnera-
bility of a person with bpd has been described as akin to a burn
victim without skin. The tiniest change in a person’s environment,
such as a car horn, a perceived look, a light touch from another
person, can set a person with bpd on fire emotionally. Some of
the extreme feelings associated with bpd have been identified and
include intense grief, terror, panic, abandonment, betrayal, agony,
fury or humiliation.
Family members have feelings around bpd as well. They have

described living with a person affected by bpd as constantly “walking
on egg shells,” never knowing what will trigger an outpouring of
emotion or anger (dbtsf, 2006).
Family members may often feel manipulated by their loved one, but
any perceived manipulation is not deliberate. The person living
with bpd is trying to manage and deal with intense emotions that
greatly affect his or her behaviour.
How common is BPD?

Studies in personality disorders are at an early stage of development.
Community surveys of adults have indicated that the prevalence
of bpd is close to one adult in 100, similar to that of schizophrenia
(Paris, 2005). The most recent (and largest) community survey in
the United States found a prevalence of bpd of six per cent. At this
time, we don’t have accurate rates for Canada (Grant et al., 2008).
It is unclear whether bpd is more common among women than men

and some reports state that about 70 to 80 per cent diagnosed are
women. Other research suggests that although there are more women
in a treatment setting, there is no significant difference between the
incidence of bpd in women and men (Grant et al., 2008).
How is BPD diagnosed?

In Ontario, a physician, a psychiatrist or a registered psychologist
can make a formal diagnosis of bpd or any other mental health
disorder. The first step toward diagnosis is often with a family
physican or the emergency department of a hospital. If there is
enough reason to be concerned about someone’s mental health,
the family physician can make a referral for further assessment.
Whoever makes the diagnosis will use the dsm-iv-tr to ensure

that the person fits the criteria for a diagnosis for bpd.
What other disorders co-occur

with BPD?
It is very common for someone with borderline personality disorder
to have other mental health problems that can complicate the
diagnosis of bpd. Some disorders that commonly co-occur with
bpd include major or moderate to mild depression, substance
use disorders, eating disorders, problem gambling, posttraumatic
stress disorder (ptsd), social phobia and bipolar (manic-depressive)
disorder. Sometimes it can be difficult to diagnose bpd because the
symptoms of the co-occurring disorder mimic or hide the symptoms
of bpd. As well, relapse in one disorder may trigger a relapse in
the other disorder.
When does BPD begin?

Like the onset of other serious mental health problems such as
schizophrenia, the symptoms of bpd appear in late adolescence or
early adulthood. In some cases, parents may have no warning that
something is wrong; their child who had appeared to be function-
ing well suddenly falls apart with the onset of behaviours such as
emotional outbursts and suicidal gestures.
What causes BPD?

As with other mental health disorders, our current understanding
of bpd is that a person’s genetic inheritance, biology and environ-
mental experiences all contribute to the development of bpd. That
is, a person is born with certain personality or temperamental
characteristics because of the way their brain is “wired,” and these
characteristics are further shaped by their environmental experi-
ences as they grow up and possibly by their cultural experiences.
Researchers have found differences in certain areas of the brain

that might explain impulsive behaviour, emotional instability and
the way people perceive events. As well, twin and family history
studies have shown a genetic influence, with higher rates of bpd
and/or other related mental health disorders among close family
members. Environmental factors that may contribute to the develop-
ment of bpd in vulnerable individuals include separation, neglect,
abuse or other traumatic childhood events. However, families that
provide a nurturing and caring environment may still have children
who develop bpd, while children who experience appalling child-
hoods do not develop bpd.
Though histories of physical and sexual abuse are reported to

be high among those with bpd, many other experiences can play
a role for a child who is already emotionally vulnerable.
Stigma and BPD

In the world outside I met ignorance, stigma and judgment.
I felt isolated, stressed, full of guilt, shame and fear.
— a client
Many societies look down on people with mental health and/or

substance use disorders. They and their families face negative
attitudes, behaviours and comments. This is known as stigma.
Stigma can:
• shame, isolate and punish the person who needs help
• reduce the chances that a person will get appropriate help
• reduce social support
• lead to lower self-confidence
• make the person feel that he or she will never be accepted
in society.
Family members also experience the effects of stigma. Their social

support network may shrink and they may face negative attitudes
if they reveal their situation. We know that the risk factors of
separation, neglect or abuse in childhood have been associated
with the development of bpd in some people. Because of this,
family members may be blamed and may feel or be seen by
others as “part of the problem.”
Newcomers to Canada may experience greater stigma because of

their culture and what is considered acceptable within that culture.
Sometimes even asking for help can be difficult for someone whose
culture does not encourage counselling or outside help. They may
have difficulty finding the service they need because the coun-
selling is not available or when it is, it is not in their language.
Some therapists are reluctant to treat people with bpd because

they are seen as being resistant to treatment and because of their
emotionally demanding behaviour. Their tumultuous relationships,
mood swings and suicidal gestures can provoke anger and frustra-
tion in the therapist. Some programs have formal or informal policies
that refuse treatment to people with bpd. Advocacy groups have
also identified lack of funding for research on bpd, and exclusion
of bpd from research studies.
Sadly, people living with bpd often experience more stigma than
people living with other mental health disorders. More informa-
tion about understanding stigma, experiencing stigma, surviving
stigma and combating stigma can be found in A Family Guide to
Concurrent Disorders listed under Publications on p. 44 at the end
of this booklet.
Stigma and BPD with a concurrent

disorder
It is common for someone with borderline personality disorder
to also have a substance use or other addiction problem, and the
stigma experienced by someone with one disorder is magnified
for those living with two or even more disorders. Negative and
blaming attitudes toward those with substance use and mental
health problems (concurrent disorders) are often internalized, and a
person with concurrent disorders may experience social isolation,
poverty, depression, reluctance to seek treatment and loss of hope
for recovery, as well as prejudice and discrimination when seeking
health care, housing, employment or other services. Again, A Family
Guide to Concurrent Disorders, listed on p. 44, is an excellent source
for information on stigma.
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3. Treatment for
people with BPD
Treatment didn’t make my bpd behaviours go away completely

like I thought they would, but I noticed that I could measure
the time between episodes of self-harm in terms of years and
I continued to use the coping skills I learned.
— a client
What types of mental health services

are available?
In the past, specialized treatment for bpd was hard to find, but the
disorder is now being better recognized and diagnosed and more
communities have established specialized treatment programs that
significantly improve outcomes for people with bpd. However, the
complexity and variety of bpd symptoms and their overlap with
other psychiatric disorders continues to make accurate diagnosis
difficult and time-consuming. For those affected and their families,
there may be frustration before the right mix of help and resources
can be found.
Services for people with mental health problems include hospital

emergency departments, acute-stay hospital beds, extended residential
care, as well as outpatient care provided by hospital outpatient
services, community mental health clinics, assertive community
treatment (act) programs or private practice psychiatrists, psy-
chologists and other health professionals. There are also services
Treatment for people with BPD 11
that provide a variety of programs including housing and employ-

ment support, drop-in services and peer support. Some people may
prefer to receive services from a health or social service agency,
doctor or health practitioner providing language or culture-specific
services. More information about specialized mental health services
in your community can be found by contacting Mental Health Service
Information Ontario or your local branch of the Canadian Mental
Health Association. Further information on these and other
resources is listed on p. 43. Health professionals such as your family
physician, a nurse practitioner or social worker may be your first
point of contact. They can determine whether they can assist you
and your affected family member or whether you may need a
referral to more specialized services. In smaller urban or rural
communities, family physicians may provide the majority of mental
health services and are often the primary support for people
diagnosed with bpd.
Treatment for serious mental health problems such as bpd will

usually involve:
• education about bpd (psycho-education) with discussions on
what is known about bpd and its causes, what kinds of treatments
are available, how to self-manage bpd and how to prevent relapse
• psychotherapy or counselling on an individual or group basis
• prescribed medication for specific symptoms of bpd such as
mood swings or anxiety.
In most cases, treatment will be on a community or outpatient

basis, but some people may require a period of stabilization in
hospital if they are experiencing severe symptoms such as suicide
attempts, self-harming or psychotic behaviours. Being in the
hospital can also give doctors the opportunity to review a person’s
current medication regime, start new medications and monitor
their impact.
Specialized and effective treatment for bpd requires a long-term

commitment, often over a number of years. Families can benefit

significantly by obtaining support to better understand bpd and
developing their own self-care strategies.
What happens when BPD occurs

with other mental health or addiction
problems?
It is very common for someone with borderline personality disorder
to have other mental health or substance use or gambling problems
that can complicate the diagnosis and treatment of their bpd.
WHAT TYPES OF ADDICTION SERVICES ARE

AVAILABLE?
Many people with bpd also have a substance use problem that
may require specialized substance abuse treatment either on a
community outpatient or residential basis. Community-based
outpatient or day programs are effective for most people with a
substance use problem, though a person with few resources and
supports may require the more intensive treatment and support
provided in a residential program. In Ontario, specific admission
criteria and standardized assessment tools have been developed
to guide individualized treatment planning and referral to the
most appropriate treatment program.
As well as assessment and referral, the continuum of specialized

treatment resources includes withdrawal management services,
community treatment (outpatient), day treatment, residential
treatment, supportive residential treatment and continuing care.
Some specialized programming based on gender, age, language
or culture is also available across the province. You can get infor-
mation on substance abuse services available in your community
from your local addiction assessment and referral service or the
Drug and Alcohol Registry of Treatment (dart). Specialized

treatment definitions can be found on the dart website. Contact
information for dart is given in Resources on p. 43.
In Ontario, treatment services for people with gambling problems

are affiliated with substance abuse treatment services and available
in many communities across Ontario. Information on gambling
treatment is available through the Ontario Problem Gambling
Helpline (see p. 43).
WHAT TYPES OF CONCURRENT DISORDER SERVICES

ARE AVAILABLE?
Until recently, people with concurrent mental health and substance
use disorders fell between the cracks because substance abuse
and mental health services operated in isolation from each other.
Staff members were often unwilling or felt unprepared to help
someone with a concurrent disorder.
However, many services now recognize the importance of providing

integrated treatment for both problems, particularly for people
with severe mental health and substance use problems. Integrated
treatment is a way of making sure that treatment is smooth,
co-ordinated and complete. It also helps to ensure that the client
understands the treatment plan. The client receives help not only
with the concurrent disorders but also in other life areas, such as
housing and employment. In integrated treatment, one person, such
as a case manager or therapist, is responsible for overseeing the
client’s treatment, which is provided by a team of professionals. The
team may include psychiatrists, social workers, psychiatric nurses,
psychologists, vocational and occupational therapists, peer support
workers and addiction therapists. This treatment may take place
in a single setting, such as a residential facility, or through a mixture
of different resources such as family doctors, hospital outpatient
clinics and community outreach teams.
Integrated treatment is not always offered, but it is important that

the primary therapist or treatment team co-ordinate their treatment
with other services being used by your affected family member. More
information about treatment for concurrent disorders can be found
in A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders listed in Publications on
p. 44 at the end of this booklet.
Specialized psychosocial treatments

for BPD
It’s still “work” to use most of the skills I learned. I’ve seen
some small changes in my interpersonal relationships and
in my ability to manage my emotions more effectively.
— a client
There are a number of approaches for treatment of bpd. Two major

approaches are cognitive behavioural therapy (cbt), which focuses
on the present and on changing negative thoughts and behaviours,
and psychodynamic therapy, which focuses on early relationships
and inner conflicts. Treatment may be offered either individually
or in a group. Family treatment is another mode of treatment that
engages the whole family and works on relationships and interac-
tions between family members.
There tends to be a high drop-out rate from treatment for borderline

personality disorder, and a key to successful treatment is a good
match between the therapist and client. Therapy might focus on
learning to understand and manage emotions, harmful behaviours
and thoughts of suicide. Medication may be used to make concen-
trating on learning self-management skills easier. Specialized
treatments, now being developed and evaluated for bpd, use either
a cognitive behavioural or psychodynamic framework. They have
been developed and evaluated to be delivered by trained therapists

in a specific way outlined in a manual. Some of these treatments
have been more extensively evaluated than others. Clincians may
use a variety of treatment approaches depending on the goals of the
client and the skills base of the clinician. These may include:
• dialectical behaviour therapy
• cognitive behavioural therapy
• schema therapy
• system training for emotional predictability and problem solving
• transference-focused psychotherapy
• mentalization-based therapy.
Definitions of each of these therapies are included in the Glossary,

p. 52.
Medication for BPD

Medication has a role in the treatment of many serious mental
health problems. Though there is no specific medication for
bpd, medication may be prescribed to reduce the impact of
specific symptoms of the disorder. For example, medication may
be prescribed to reduce depression or psychotic-like symptoms
such as paranoia.
Medication can also be helpful to the person with bpd by providing

a period of time when their symptoms are reduced. This allows
them to focus on learning new skills to manage their behaviours
with the goal of discontinuing medication when they are able to
self-manage.
Though medication can reduce the severity of symptoms, medication

does not cure bpd and medication is not appropriate for everyone
with this diagnosis. The medications can have side-effects, and
people may experience many, some or almost none of them. Side-

effects can usually be addressed by changing the medication dosage
or switching to another medication. Because of the number of
different symptoms of bpd, there is also a risk that a person may
be prescribed too many medications at the same time. Taking a
number of different medications together can increase the risk
of medication-related problems when:
• two or more medications, including prescribed, over-the-counter
and herbal or other alternative medications, interact with each
other to produce unwanted or unexpected effects, such as a
greater or lesser effect than intended
• an individual has difficulty managing his or her medications
(forgetting to take a medication or inadvertently taking extra
doses of the medication)
• alcohol is taken at the same time as medication, which can
make some medications less effective, or when it is combined
with medications such as a benzodiazepine, which produces
a greater than intended effect.
Most mental health medications are used to help restore chemical

balance in the brain. They can help reduce the frequency and
severity of symptoms. Medications are divided into four main
groups based on the problems that they were developed to treat:
• antidepressants
• mood stabilizers
• anti-anxiety drugs
• antipsychotics.
Medications have a generic (or chemical) name and a brand

(or trade) name that is specific to the company that makes the
medication. For example, the generic drug lorazepam is sold
under the brand name Ativan. The brand name may change
depending on the country in which the medication is marketed.
ANTIDEPRESSANTS
Antidepressants are used to treat depression, as well as a number
of other problems such as anxiety, chronic pain and bulimia. They
work by increasing communication between nerve cells in the
brain. A class of antidepressants called ssris (selective serotonin
reuptake inhibitors) is most often prescribed for bpd. Some of the
more common examples of ssri medications are paroxetine (Paxil),
fluoxetine (Prozac), sertraline (Zoloft), citalopram (Celexa) and
escitalopram (Cipralex).
MOOD STABILIZERS
Mood stabilizers are used to treat mood disorders, the most common
of which is bipolar disorder (manic-depression). Mood stabilizers
do not stabilize mood in bpd, but can help with outbursts of anger.
Common examples are divalproex (Epival), carbamazepine (Tegretol),
lamotrigine (Lamictal) and topiramate (Topamax).
ANTI-ANXIETY MEDICATIONS/SEDATIVES
The main group of medications in this class are benzodiazepines,
commonly used to treat sleep or anxiety problems or as a muscle
relaxant. Examples are lorazepam (Ativan), clonazepam (Rivotril)
and diazepam (Valium). They are effective for short-term treatment
of sleep or anxiety problems, but can be addictive when used over
the longer term.
ANTIPSYCHOTICS
These medications are used to treat schizophrenia and other
psychotic disorders. The first generation of antipsychotic medications
is called typical antipsychotics. Some examples include haloperidol
(Haldol), perphenazine (Trilafon), loxapine (Loxapac or Loxitane)
and chlorpromazine (Largactil). Atypical antipsychotics are a second
generation of antipsychotic drugs that are categorized together

because they work differently from typical antipsychotic drugs, by
working primarily on the receptors of the neurotransmitters sero-
tonin and dopamine. Common examples of atypical antipsychotics
are olanzapine (Zyprexa), risperidone (Risperdal) and quetiapine
(Seroquel). These second generation antipsychotics also have
some mood stabilizing properties and are being used this way
as well.
Family members can play an important role in supporting their

affected family member to:
• manage their medication by following prescribing instructions,
and consult their physician or pharmacist if they have any
concerns
• determine whether their medication is helpful in reducing
unpleasant symptoms
• discuss their medication with their prescribing physician, its effects
and side-effects and any difficulties they may be experiencing.
More information about different types of psychiatric medications

can be found in A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders, listed on
p. 44 at the end of this booklet.
Recovery from BPD

Despite its often devastating effects on the affected person and
his or her family, treatment outcome research has found that for
many people, treatment does work. Many people with bpd do
learn to cope with their symptoms and do things differently,
particularly as they reach middle age. Because of the serious
and complex nature of their symptoms, people affected by bpd
often require long-term treatment, often over several years.
Treatment accelerates the natural process of recovery. Studies

have followed people affected by bpd for extended periods of time
and found that most improve with time. About 75 per cent will
regain close to normal functioning by age 35 to 40 and 90 per cent
will recover by age 50 (Paris, 2005).
It may take a longer time for a person with bpd to have a remis-
sion of their symptoms compared to people with other mental
health problems, but when symptoms do decline, remission
seems stable with few relapses compared to other serious mental
health problems.
However, studies have also found that some bpd symptoms endure
longer than others in some people. Some of the more harmful
behaviours such as self-harm and suicidal behaviour decline while
other symptoms such as feelings of abandonment and difficulty
being alone may last longer.
Hope and recovery are important to both the person with bpd and
his or her family members. These issues are discussed in more
detail on p. 39.
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4. Supporting the
family member who has BPD
How can I support a person with

BPD in seeking treatment?
Taking the steps to get help for a mental health problem can often
seem overwhelming and frightening, even more so if the person
has had distressing experiences in earlier contacts with the mental
health treatment system. This is particularly true for people with
bpd because of the complexity of their problems and the perception
that they are “treatment resistant.” As well, the person with bpd
may not be able to see the value of treatment, particularly if prior
treatment has not worked for them, and they may respond angrily
or defensively to suggestions that they go for help.
Sometimes even asking for help can be difficult for someone whose
culture does not encourage counselling or outside help. They may
have difficulty finding the service they need because the counsel-
ling is not available or when it is, it is not in their language. You
could contact your local cultural group to find out about culturally
specific services or request an interpreter to work with the available
treatment services.
If a person also has a substance use problem or some other problem

that is the responsibility of “another system,” he or she may have
been turned away and told to go elsewhere. Unfortunately in some
communities, the mental health and substance abuse treatment
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systems are not well co-ordinated, but progress is being made in

many communities to better integrate them.
In the past, it was felt that “confronting” a family member about

his or her problems would induce the person to accept treatment.
In fact it often had the opposite effect. We cannot make someone
go for treatment if they do not want to, however, there are some
steps you can take to support your affected family member if and
when they are ready to consider treatment:
• Learn about borderline personality disorder. It is important to
understand that your affected family member has a health prob-
lem as much as anyone with a physical health problem, and that
the behaviours you are observing are the symptoms of this health
problem. It is also helpful to understand that bpd is a result
of the interaction between genetic, biological and environmental
vulnerabilities, rather than behaviours that the person has devel-
oped as a result of their own actions or intentions. Useful print
materials and websites are listed at the end of this booklet.
• Find out about treatment resources in your community. Talking
to your family doctor can be a good place to start to find out
what kind of assistance your family member needs and what
is available. You can also contact the Mental Health Service
Information Ontario line (see p. 43) or your local branch of
the Canadian Mental Health Association (see p. 47) if you
have one. Other places to contact for help include psychiatric
services at your local hospital, community mental health
clinics, health and social service agencies serving specific
cultural or language groups, your spiritual leader or faith-based
counselling services, or a counsellor with your workplace
Employee Assistance Program.
• Ask questions like these to determine the best match to the
needs of your affected family member:
1. Where is the facility located?
2. Is it community- or hospital-based?
3. Is the program outpatient, day or residential?

4. What are the admission criteria and how does your family
member get referred to the facility?
5. What type and length of program(s) is offered? Is it a
specialized treatment program for bpd?
6. What languages are services offered in? Are translation
services available?
7. What levels of professional staff are employed by the facility?
8. Is there an aftercare or continuing care program?
9. What level of involvement is available to family members?
Is there a program for family members?
10. If your affected family member is female, is a female
therapist available for individual counselling?
11. If your affected family member is female and if treatment is
offered in groups, are they (co-)facilitated by a female therapist?
12. If the program is residential, are female-only areas such as
sleeping areas provided?
13. If your affected family member has dependent children, is there
any child care and/or programming available for children?
14. Is there a fee?
• Assist your family member to make an appointment.
• Offer to accompany her or him to the appointment if she or he
would like your support.
• Obtain support for yourself either by attending a professionally
run treatment/support program for family members or by
attending a mutual-aid group. Education and support from
others can help you in your relationship with your affected
family member and may encourage him or her to seek help.
• Take care of yourself and encourage other family members to
do the same.
INVOLUNTARY HOSPITAL ADMISSION

Family members often find it difficult to understand why their
affected family member cannot always be involuntarily admitted
to hospital for treatment so he or she can get the help needed.
However, in Ontario and most other Canadian jurisdictions, a person
can only be certified as an involuntary patient if a physician believes
that he or she is likely to harm himself or herself (self-harming
or suicidal) or someone else (violent) or suffer serious physical
impairment (not eating, drinking, or taking required medications)
due to a mental disorder. Under the Ontario Mental Health Act
(mha), a person can be brought into hospital under the following
three conditions:
• When a person is acting in a disorderly manner, the police are
allowed to bring the person to be examined by a physician if they
believe the person is a danger to himself or herself or others or
the person cannot care for himself or herself.
• In situations where there is no immediate danger, anyone can
bring evidence to a Justice of the Peace (JP) that the person is a
danger to himself or herself or others or cannot care for himself
or herself and the Justice of the Peace can order that the person
be examined by a physician. The JP is required to fill out a Form
2 that authorizes the police to take the person to a physician.
• If a physician has assessed a person within the last seven days and
feels that a person may be a danger to himself or herself or to
others or cannot care for himself or herself, the physician can
order that the person be examined by a psychiatrist. The physician
is required to fill out a Form 1 that authorizes the police to take
the person for an examination.
Once the person is brought to a psychiatric facility, a physician may

detain the person for up to 72 hours for psychiatric assessment,
but no treatment is permitted without patient consent. After that
time, a person must either be released or admitted as a voluntary
or involuntary patient, as indicated in the Mental Health Act.
Recent changes to the mha and the Health Care Consent Act, 1996
(hcca) allow family members of those with a serious mental illness
and health care professionals to act at an earlier stage of a person’s
mental illness with revised committal criteria. These revised com-
mital criteria allow them to implement procedures for treatment,
care and supervision in the community through community treat-
ment order (cto) provisions. ctos are designed to provide treat-
ment in the community for individuals who may otherwise meet
criteria for ongoing hospitalization. Specifically, a cto candidate
is someone who is likely to harm himself or herself or others or
who is likely to suffer substantial mental or physical deterioration
or physical impairment as a consequence of mental disorder, unless
she or he receives continuing treatment/care or supervision in the
community. Certain other criteria must also be met before the cto
is signed by the physician. Further information on ctos can be found
at www.health.gov.on.ca/english/public/pub/mental/faq.html.
WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS
A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders distinguishes between a
crisis and an emergency. A crisis develops when “people feel they
cannot control their feelings or behaviour and have trouble coping
with the demands of day to day life.” Potentially this can develop
into outbursts of anger or violence or self-injuring behaviours. A
crisis may develop slowly over a number of days or erupt suddenly.
A particularly high-risk time for a crisis is when a person with bpd
fears abandonment or loss of support. Such times may occur when
a family member or a therapist is away for a period of time or when
the person becomes fearful that the good progress they are making
may lead to pressure to become more independent with consequent
loss of support (Gunderson & Berkowitz).
Strategies for managing a crisis in the short term include:

• Stay calm and supportive of your family member. Do not get
into a shouting match however difficult their behaviour, and
even if you are hurt by what they are saying.

• Acknowledge what your affected family member may be feeling
or saying, let him or her know you have heard them and are
trying to understand what they may be feeling.
• Don’t be afraid to ask about suicidal intentions. Suicidal
behaviours can be an attempt to relieve emotional pain or
communicate distress.
• Act on the agreed upon crisis plan if one is already in place.
• Support your affected family member in making telephone contact
with their doctor, therapist or treatment program or offer to drive
them to where they need to go (e.g., therapist, hospital).
• If your family member has broken any agreements you have
with them regarding their behaviour, wait until the crisis is over
to discuss it.
You should also make a long-term plan for managing a crisis:

• Discuss with your affected family member and his or her doctor
or therapist the steps to take if a crisis should occur.
• Make sure that your affected family member is involved in all
decisions regarding the crisis plan and that his or her wishes
are respected.
• Using the Family Crisis Information Sheet on p. 57, create a
crisis plan with your family member and others in the family
as appropriate.
• The crisis plan can include a section on who does what, for
example, who should accompany your family member to
the hospital, and who should communicate with the treatment
team.
• Include important information as part of your crisis plan, for
example, telephone numbers for your family member’s family
doctor, therapist and local hospital, and a list of the medications
he or she is taking.
• Keep the crisis plan in a prominent place.
• You may wish to include information from the crisis plan on a
“crisis card” small enough for your affected family member to

carry with her or him. The crisis card could also contain personal
contact information, e.g., family member phone numbers, as
well as a list of medications that he or she is taking and strategies
to help them self-calm.
• Find out about crisis services in your community. If your family
member is already known to the mental health system, you
should ask whom you or your affected family member should
contact if his or her behaviour deteriorates so this can be built
into the crisis plan. Some communities have mobile crisis teams
based at a local hospital psychiatric department who will come
and assess the situation.
For more information on how to handle a crisis, see A Family

Guide to Concurrent Disorders, listed on p. 44.
WHAT TO DO IN AN EMERGENCY
Sometimes a crisis can escalate into an emergency. Emergencies
could be situations in which there are threats of suicide, threats
of physical violence, reduced judgment and decision-making or
substance use that concerns you.
In some circumstances, your family member will voluntarily agree

to talk to his or her doctor or therapist or to go to the hospital
emergency department. In other situations, you may need to call 911.
This can be a difficult step to take. Inevitably the arrival of the
police or other emergency services will arouse the curiosity of
neighbours. Both you and your affected family member may wish
to keep his or her mental health problem as a private matter, but
safety is a priority, particularly when it involves potential harm or
suicidal intentions. If you perceive any danger to yourself or any-
one else, do not hesitate to leave and call 911 from somewhere else.
When you call 911, tell the operator that your family member needs
emergency medical assistance, give the operator your family
member’s diagnosis and tell the operator that you need help
transporting him or her to the hospital.
Depending on the kind of training your local police have had in

handling mental health crisis situations, you may need to advocate
on behalf of your family member. This may be particularly important
if your family member is likely to react negatively to the presence of
uniformed police. It is useful to write down the names, badge numbers
and response times of the officers who respond to the call in case
you have any concerns about the way the problem was handled.
When the emergency involves suicidality

Threatening suicide is one type of emergency situation. Threatening
suicide or expressing a wish to die should always be taken seriously.
Some warning signs of suicide include:

• feelings of despair, pessimism, hopelessness, desperation
• recent self-injury behaviours
• withdrawal from social circles
• sleep problems
• increased use of alcohol or other drugs or overeating
• winding up affairs or giving away prized possessions
• threatening suicide or expressing a desire to die
• talking about “when I am gone”
• talking about voices that tell him or her to do something dangerous
• having a plan and the means to carry it out.
SHARING TREATMENT INFORMATION WITH

FAMILY MEMBERS
Generally speaking, sharing medical or treatment information
about a person with others, either family members or outside
health care providers or agencies, requires expressed consent.
Consent in these situations would usually be written consent.
Family members can play a key role in supporting change and

developing newly acquired skills. However, some health care
professionals are reluctant to involve or talk to family members,
particularly if they perceive the family as “causing the problem.”
If your family member is still living at home and/or you are sup-
porting them financially, you may feel you should have some moral
right to be involved in their treatment. However, if your family
member is capable of making treatment decisions, a health care
professional will not be at liberty to share information without your
affected family member’s consent. This is achieved by having your
family member sign a form in the doctor’s office.
Some treatment programs offer family programming. This may

involve family therapy sessions with the person affected by bpd
and his or her family members. More commonly, family-specific
education/support groups provide information about the disorder,
ways for family members to support the person with bpd and
strategies for family members’ self care.
CONSENT TO TREATMENT
In Ontario, individuals have the right to consent to or refuse treat-
ment, provided they are capable of doing so. Being capable means
that the person is able to understand the information needed to
make this decision and is also able to appreciate the reasonably
foreseeable consequences of their consent to or refusal of treatment.
There is no age requirement on consenting to treatment; if a person
is capable, she or he gets to make her or his own treatment decisions,
regardless of age.
Consent to treatment must be “informed” (which means that the

person has been given all the requisite information and all questions
related to the treatment have been answered), must be given
voluntarily and must not be obtained through misrepresentation
or fraud. In situations where a person is not capable to give informed

consent, then a substitute decision-maker would be consulted for
treatment consent. The hcca (Health Care Consent Act) sets up a
hierarchy of individuals who may provide substitute consent.
HOW TO DEAL EFFECTIVELY WITH THE LEGAL SYSTEM

IF A FAMILY MEMBER HAS A LEGAL PROBLEM
Ontario has court support and diversion programs in many com-
munities. The role of these programs is to provide advocacy and
support for people with mental health problems and their family
members when they are involved with courts, police or other legal
situations. Diversion programs are intended to divert people with
a mental health problem who have committed minor offences from
the criminal justice system into treatment and community support.
The Mental Health Service Information Ontario line has a listing
of advocacy and support programs, many of them sponsored by
the Canadian Mental Health Association. This information line is
listed under Resources on p. 43 at the end of this booklet.
The legal system can be a potentially frightening experience for

a newcomer to Canada, particularly if they are not comfortable
communicating in either English or French. Possible resources
for advice and support might include an ethno-specific agency,
a legal aid clinic experienced in serving newcomers to Canada,
faith community leaders and cultural interpreter programs.
Your family member may also be referred for an assessment

and possible treatment at a forensic facility if she or he has been
found either unfit to stand trial or not criminally responsible
for an offence by reason of mental disorder. Information about
the forensic mental health system in Ontario can be found in
The Forensic Mental Health System in Ontario: An Information Guide
listed under Publications on p. 44 at the end of this booklet.
How can I support my family member

during treatment?
Treatment for bpd is a long-term endeavour, often requiring a
commitment of a number of years. Progress is not always straight
forward and there will be diversions along the way with relapse
back to old behaviours in times of stress or crisis. Some guidelines
suggested for helping your affected family member include:
• Support your affected family member in the treatment program
by encouraging him or her to attend treatment, take the med-
ication as prescribed and lead a healthy lifestyle by eating well,
exercising, getting enough rest and remaining abstinent from
substances if this is a problem area.
• Recognize that change can be stressful and difficult to achieve.
Making progress in treatment, acquiring new skills, and becoming
more independent can bring up fears that family members will
start to withdraw protection and support and the person will be
abandoned to manage on his or her own. These fears can lead to
a relapse back to previous negative coping methods such as self-
injury or a suicide attempt. It is important that family members
support progress with words and encouragement that let their
affected family member know they understand how difficult
change is.
• Support your family member to set realistic goals, and to work
on them one at a time, one step at a time. Though you don’t want
to discourage your family member, it is very important to keep
in mind the fine balance between a desire for independence and
fears of abandonment. For example, a realistic goal might be
enrolling in one university course for a semester rather than
signing up for full-time classes; finding employment that he
or she can manage or moving into a group home rather than
moving out of the family home directly into independent living.
• Maintain a cool and calm environment when dealing with conflict

or a crisis. It is important to recognize that some of the symptoms
of bpd, including intense and painful emotions, inability to deal
with even small separations from significant people, and black
and white (all good, all bad) thinking about people or situations
can easily lead to family conflict or a crisis. Take time to listen,
or make a time later if you are unable to deal with it at that
moment. The important thing is for your family member with
bpd to be heard and validated.
• Remain optimistic, though change may be slow. The periods
of time when symptoms are absent or much reduced will
increase as your family member and you learn new skills for
dealing with relapses.
• Most important, don’t feel the responsibility is all yours to solve
problems and be responsible. It is important to allow your
affected family member to be in charge, try new behaviours
and be responsible for negative behaviours.
• If you are concerned, contact your family doctor or your family
member’s treatment provider, or in emergency situations
call 911.
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5. Self-care
Caring for yourself when a family

member has BPD
I am learning to refocus on my own needs and taking better
care of myself.
— a client’s parent
Borderline personality disorder can be as devastating for partners,

parents, children and others close to a person with bpd, as it is
for the person himself or herself. As a family member, you may
have had many years of trying to cope with the intense anger, sui-
cide attempts, self-injury or other impulsive behaviours that are
part of bpd. As a result, you may feel weighed down by the bur-
den of your family member’s illness. Depression, anxiety, grief
and isolation are some feelings you may have experienced.
Even though care and support of your affected family member

may seem to be all you can manage, making time to care for your
own needs is a priority. Self-care can reduce stress and give you
more energy and patience to support a family member with bpd.
Self-care can involve seeking support from a community agency
that provides family counselling services, joining a mutual-aid
group, signing up for an exercise class, or reconnecting with
family and friends.
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Some services for people with bpd offer facilitated family programs
on either an individual family basis or as part of a support group
for family members. These programs provide information about
the issues related to bpd, new communication and coping skills
and most important, support from others in the same situation.
Groups may be facilitated by a health care professional or by a trained
family member. Your community may also have self-help groups
for family members. Additionally, some family members may also
benefit from individual counselling sessions as well as the family
group support.
ACKNOWLEDGING AND ADDRESSING GRIEF

Grief is a normal response to loss, whether the loss is the death of
a child or loss of a child because of a serious and chronic illness.
Grieving may be accompanied by feelings of anxiety about how one
will cope, guilt about whether the family has in some way contributed
to the onset of bpd, anger about what has happened and a feeling
of helplessness to change things.
Both the individual with bpd and his or her family may grieve the
perceived losses that result from a serious mental illness such as
lost expectations and potential. Some feelings of loss may include
loss of their child’s role in the family and society, academic and
professional expectations and healthy relationships for their child.
Parents also experience internal losses such as loss of self-esteem

and feelings of competence as a parent, loss of dreams for a child,
loss of hope and security, loss of faith, loss of a normal family life.
Grief may not be recognized and validated by others such as other
family members, friends, or health professionals, but it is important
that family members find ways of working through their grief so
they can move forward to accept their child’s illness and its impli-
cations for the future (MacGregor, 1994).
LIMIT-SETTING
Families will often go to great lengths to protect their affected family
member from the consequences of her or his behaviour. However,
if a person does not experience the consequences of his or her
problem behaviour, it is likely to persist. At the same time, family
members can become angry that they are continually picking up
the pieces. Experiencing the consequences of one’s behaviour can
sometimes be the first step toward change.
Setting limits on problem behaviour can reduce family conflict and

provide a more secure and predictable environment for everyone in
the family. There are three important steps identified by Gunderson
and Berkowitz when solving a family member’s problems:
• involve the family member in identifying what needs to be done
• ask whether the person can “do” what’s needed in the solution
• ask whether they want you to help them “do” what’s needed.
Limit-setting involves an understanding of how a problem behaviour

develops and is maintained, and how desired behaviours can be
increased and undesirable behaviours decreased. For example, you
may want to increase the frequency of your affected family member
talking to you without getting angry. Verbal praise, listening to what
they are saying or some other positive reinforcing response can
increase the frequency of this behaviour.
Negative reinforcement such as not listening or leaving the room

when your family member is angry or shouting can decrease the
frequency of this behaviour.
Some undesirable behaviours are maintained because they are

inadvertently positively reinforced. Some people label this
“enabling” because the person is enabled to continue their problem
behaviour while someone else deals with the consequences or
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picks up the pieces. An example might be providing excuses to your

family member’s therapist when they miss an appointment, rather
than having the person phone himself or herself and explain.
STRESS MANAGEMENT
Having a family member with bpd can seem overwhelming,
especially if that family member is living at home and requires
help in managing their activities of daily living and some aspects
of their treatment regimen. People experience stress in different
ways. We may experience physical symptoms such as headaches,
difficulty sleeping, stomach upsets, weight gain or loss. We may
experience emotional symptoms such as moodiness, restlessness,
feeling overwhelmed or depressed. We may experience cognitive
symptoms such as memory problems, racing thoughts, chronic
worrying or fearfulness. We may experience behavioural symptoms
such as eating less or eating more, using substances to relax, over-
reacting to situations or isolating ourselves socially.
People pay a high price in terms of their emotional and physical

health when they live with chronic stress, so it is important to
look at ways to reduce stress. There are many resources, both print
materials and on the web, that provide advice on strategies for
stress reduction. These include improving one’s diet, building
in regular exercise, learning relaxation exercises, building in
enjoyable activities (e.g., having a massage, engaging in a hobby),
changing the stressful situation (for example, setting limits for
your family member’s behaviour), obtaining support from others
(for example, involving other family members or friends), joining
a support group, and drawing on sources of spiritual support.
In developing a self-care plan to reduce your level of stress, it is

important to keep your plan realistic and doable. Small changes
will make you feel better and have more chance of success than
big changes that run the risk of being unsuccessful and thereby
further contributing to your stress. Your plan should also be
concrete and identify what needs to happen for the plan to be
successful. For example, you decide to go to an exercise class
once a week; in order for this to be successful you may need
to have another family member cook a meal or enlist a friend
to go with you for mutual support.
Helping children understand and

cope with BPD
Children can be affected when a family member has bpd. To protect
their children, parents may say nothing. They may try to continue
with family routines as if nothing were wrong. This strategy may
work in the short term but not in the long term. Children can feel
confused and worried about their family member’s behaviour when
they are not given the opportunity to talk about it. Children are
sensitive and intuitive. They quickly notice when someone in the
family has changed, particularly a parent. If the family doesn’t
talk about the problem, children will draw their own, often wrong,
conclusions.
Young children, especially those in preschool or early grades, often

see the world as revolving around themselves. If something happens,
they think they caused it. For example, a child may accidentally
break something valuable. The next morning, the parent may seem
very depressed. The child may then think that breaking the object
caused the parent’s depression.
Older children, particularly if they have a sibling with bpd, may

worry about developing mental health problems, substance use
problems or both. They may worry about the stress and strain that
their parents are enduring, and may take on the burden of trying
to make up for what their parents have lost in their other child.
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At the same time, brothers or sisters sometimes resent the time

that parents spend with their sibling. They may become angry
to the point of acting out or distancing themselves from family or
friends. Siblings may also experience anger, hostility or verbal or
physical aggression from their brother or sister. These behaviours
can evoke shock, dismay, fear and a sense of abandonment and
rejection. Sometimes, children may feel like they have lost their
best friend. They may feel guilty that they have a better life than
their brother or sister.
HOW MUCH SHOULD I TELL THE CHILDREN?

Children need to have things explained. Give them as much
information as they can understand, and that is appropriate to
their age.
It is helpful to tell children three main points:
The family member has a problem called borderline personality

disorder. The family member behaves this way because he or she
is sick. The illness may have symptoms that can cause the person’s
mood or behaviour to change in unpredictable ways.
The child did not cause the problems. Children need reassurance
that they did not make the parent or family member sad, angry or
unhappy. They need to be told that their behaviour did not cause
the person’s emotions or behaviour. Children think in concrete
terms. If a parent or family member is sad or angry, children can
easily feel they did something to cause this, and then feel guilty.
It is not the child’s responsibility to make the affected person well.

Children need to know that the adults in the family, and other
people, such as doctors, are working to help the person. It is the
adults’ job to look after the person with the problem.
Children need the well parent(s) and other trusted adults to

shield them from the effects of the person’s symptoms. It is
hard for children to see their parents distressed or emotional.
Talking with someone who understands the situation can
help sort out the child’s feelings (Skinner et. al., 2004;
O’Grady & Skinner, 2007).
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6. Recovery and hope
I am learning to deal with loss and grief and accept my daughter

for who she is. I am not expecting a perfect ending but I do
have more hope for the future and I know I am not alone.
— a family client
Research has shown that people can recover from bpd and that
their recovery is often long-lasting.
Everyone’s path to recovery is different, whether you are the indi-

vidual with bpd or a family member or friend. Recovery involves
the development of new meaning and purpose in life as people
grow beyond the impact of bpd. We think O’Grady and Skinner
(2007) say it best: “Recovery has also been described as a process
by which people recover their self-esteem, dreams, self-worth,
empowerment, pride, dignity and meaning.”
Both the individual with bpd and their family members will go
through this process of recovery. As a family member, you can
instill hope that changes can be achieved by providing support to
your loved one as you all go through the long journey of recovery.
It is important to understand though that recovery is not a straight path.

There will be deviations along the way that can involve relapse into old
behaviours, and the person may or may not return to their previous
level of functioning. On the path to recovery, your family member
may need medication or further contact with the treatment system.
For people to achieve and maintain recovery from BPD, they need to:
• be treated as unique and important
• be treated as a human being with goals and dreams
• have the freedom to make choices and decisions about their lives
• be treated with dignity and respect
• accept that their unique journey through life has taken a
different path
• recognize that recovery is the potential to become free of
symptoms by following an individualized treatment plan
• acknowledge that relapse is a common and expected part of
recovery, but does not mean they have “failed” or that previous
gains are lost, rather, it is a chance to learn and move forward again
• have hope about their future
• engage in meaningful relationships with others who care and
do not stigmatize
• have a routine and structure to their day marked by meaningful
activities that may or may not include work (paid or volunteer)
• receive a reliable and steady source of income
• live in stable, clean and comfortable housing, whether it is an
independent living situation or supportive housing
• accept that recovery may require a structured community day
treatment program or other links to professional mental health
and addiction systems of care
• recognize that pets may be important
• recognize that spirituality or religious beliefs and practices may
be important.
More information on recovery is available in A Family Guide to

Concurrent Disorders, listed on p. 44.
41
7. Conclusion
Borderline personality disorder is one of the most common and

most misunderstood of the serious mental health disorders.
People living with bpd are often stigmatized and avoided by treat-
ment providers. New treatments are emerging and with the right
treatment, people with bpd can and do recover. Unlike other
serious mental health problems, recovery from bpd is usually stable.
Families play a crucial role in supporting their affected family
member’s recovery, but families also need support and nurturing
to recover from the impact of their family member’s illness. We
hope that the information in this guide is helpful to you, and to
others who may have someone with bpd in their lives.
42
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RESOURCES
Information about treatment resources

in Ontario
ConnexOntario is a bilingual information and referral service for the
public and professionals in Ontario who want to access addiction
and mental health treatment for themselves, family, friends or
clients. Information and referral specialists offer education and
guidance based on each caller’s situation. ConnexOntario operates
its own website and the following toll-free telephone numbers:
www.connexontario.ca
Drug and Alcohol Registry of Treatment (dart)

1 800 565-8603
www.dart.on.ca
Mental Health Service Information Ontario (mhsio)

1 866 531-2600
www.mhsio.on.ca
Ontario Problem Gambling Helpline (opgh)

1 888 230-3505
www.opgh.on.ca
44
PUBLICATIONS
CAMH Publications
The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health offers several print
and web-based resources that may be of interest:
A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders by Caroline P. O’Grady and

W.J. Wayne Skinner was created based on materials developed for
a support and education group for family members of those with
concurrent mental health and substance use problems. It contains
information and educational material, quotations from family
members, resources and contact information, tip lists and activities.
It addresses in greater detail many of the issues addressed here
in Borderline Personality Disorder: An information guide for families
www.camh.net/Care_Treatment/Resources_clients_families_friends/
Family_Guide_CD/.
Concurrent Substance Use and Mental Health Disorders:

An Information Guide, 2004
www.camh.net/About_Addiction_Mental_Health/Concurrent_
Disorders/Concurrent_Disorders_Information_Guide/
The Forensic Mental Health System in Ontario: An Information Guide

www.camh.net/Care_Treatment/Resources_clients_families_friends/
Forensic_Mental_Health_Ontario/index.html
Publications 45
Looking for Mental Health Services: What You Need to Know

www.camh.net/About_Addiction_Mental_Health/Mental_Health_
Information/looking_menthealth_services.html
Challenges and Choices: Finding Mental Health Services in Ontario

www.camh.net/Care_Treatment/Resources_clients_families_friends
/Challenges_and_Choices/index.html
Other online publications

Medications, published by the U.S. National Institute of
Mental Health
www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/medications/summary.shtml
Canada’s Food Guide, published by Health Canada

Maintaining health through healthy eating is important for both
people with bpd and their families. Eating Well with Canada’s Food
Guide provides information on how much and what types of food
are needed and the benefits of healthy eating.
www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/food-guide-aliment/order-commander/
index-eng.php
Physical Activity Guide, published by the Public Health Agency

of Canada
Maintaining health through physical activity is important for both
people with bpd and their families. The Physical Activity Guide
provides information on the benefits of being active, how much
activity you should aim for and examples of different types of
physical activity.
www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/pau-uap/paguide/index.html
Stress, a pamphlet published by the Canadian Mental

Health Association
www.marketingisland.com/CMHA/pages/product.asp?id=2672
(under the image of the pamphlet, select View English pdf or
View French pdf)
A bpd Brief: An Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder

by John G. Gunderson, M.D.
www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com (select the “Reading” tab,
then select “A bpd Brief”)
Books about BPD

New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder (2002) by
Neil R. Bockian and Nora Elizabeth Villagran. New York: Three
Rivers Press.
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone

You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder (1998) by
Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger
Publications, Inc.
The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for

Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder
(2002) by Randi Kreger and James Paul Shirley. Oakland,
CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide

for Professionals and Families (2005) edited by John G. Gunderson
and Perry D. Hoffman. American Psychiatric Publishing, Inc.
Publications 47
When Someone You Love has Borderline Personality Disorder: How to

Repair the Relationship (2007) by Valerie Porr. Oakland, CA: New
Harbinger Publications, Inc.
Internet Resources
CANADIAN WEBSITES
Centre for Addiction and Mental Health
www.camh.net
Canadian Mental Health Association, Ontario

www.ontario.cmha.ca
OTHER WEBSITES
Disclaimer: The websites listed below are for information only
and are working sites as of November 2008. We have included
information or a quote taken from each site to give you an
idea of what their mission is. No endorsement by the Centre
for Addiction and Mental Health (camh) should be inferred.
BPD Central
“Borderline Personality Disorder Information and Support.”
www.bpdcentral.com/resources/basics/main.shtml
BPD411.org
“The information provided here has been tailored to the unique
needs and experiences of people whose lives have been affected by
someone who suffers from bpd or bpd traits. This site is not for
those suffering from the disorder.”
www.bpd411.org/
Behavioral Tech Research Inc.

“Behavioral Tech, llc, founded by Dr. Marsha Linehan, trains
mental health care providers and treatment teams who work with
complex and severely disordered populations to use compassion-
ate, scientifically valid treatments and to implement and evaluate
these treatments in their practice setting.”
www.behavioraltech.com
Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center

“The Borderline Personality Disorder Resource Center (bpdrc) at
New York-Presbyterian Hospital-Weill Cornell Medical College
has been set up specifically to help those impacted by the disorder
find the most current and accurate information on the nature of
bpd, and on sources of available treatment.”
www.bpdresourcecenter.org/
DBTSF [Dialectical Behavior Therapy San Francisco]: Helping

Someone with bpd.
“This site is designed to provide information for people (or the
loved ones of people) who need help with controlling emotions
and self destructive behavior, as well as to let you know how I
[Michael Baugh] work with individuals, couples and families in
San Francisco and Daly City. These web pages contain informa-
tion and links to other sites about Dialectical Behavior Therapy
(dbt), Borderline Personality Disorder (bpd), and the therapeutic
approaches I use with couples and families.”
www.dbtsf.com/helping-someone.htm
Laura Paxton
This website is set up to sell Laura Paxton’s book and workbook
Bordeline and Beyond.
www.laurapaxton.com/
Publications 49
Marsha M. Linehan
This site has the works, books, papers, biographies and links of
Marsha M Linehan.
http://faculty.washington.edu/linehan/
National Alliance on Mental Illness [nami]

“NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, the nation’s [u.s.a.]
largest grassroots organization for people with mental illness and
their families. Founded in 1979, nami has affiliates in every state
and in more than 1,100 local communities across the country.”
www.nami.org/
National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder

“Advancing the bpd Agenda: The mission of the National Education
Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (neabpd) is to raise
public awareness, provide education, promote research on border-
line personality disorders, and enhance the quality of life of those
affected by this serious mental illness.”
www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/
National Institute of Mental Health [nimh]

“NIMH envisions a world in which mental illnesses are prevented
and cured. The mission of nimh is to transform the understand-
ing and treatment of mental illnesses through basic and clinical
research, paving the way for prevention, recovery and cure.”
www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-
disorder.shtml
Parents Needing Understanding, Tenderness and Support (nuts)

“nuts means parents Needing Understanding, Tenderness and
Support to help their child with Borderline Personality Disorder.
For parents who are suffering over broken dreams and lives of
turmoil; welcome to a place of refuge where beacons of light
will guide you to a safe harbor filled with understanding, comfort,

and hope.”
www.parent2parentbpd.org/?page_id=5
Personality Disorders Institute

“The Personality Disorders Institute offers the following informa-
tion to the general public to enhance awareness of the particulary
challenging psychiatric conditions known as borderline disorders
or borderline personalities. Many patients struggle not only with
symptoms such as depression, anxieties, obsessions or phobias for
which help is typically sought, but also with control of emotion and
agression, understanding of self, and tolerance of the treatment
process. The discussion leads you through diagnosis, focusing on
history and symptoms, and possible causes, treatments and out-
comes. Contact and emergency information follows.”
www.borderlinedisorders.com/public.htm
Treatment and Research Advancements, National Association

for Personality Disorder (tara apd)
“Founded in November of 1994 by Valerie Porr, MA, in response
to the realization that patients with personality disorders are
stigmatized by the mental health community, as a group are
underdiagnosed, have little or no information available on etiology,
nosology and treatment, and have little or no effective treatment
available to them. Families, trying to cope with difficult behavior
without necessary skills, understanding, insight, support or guid-
ance are devastated and hopeless. Improving treatment would be
cost effective. tara apd refers people nationwide to clinicians and
treatment programs that use empirically based treatment modalities.
We operate the only bpd hotline in the nation, we also send each
caller an educational packet on bpd.”
www.tara4bpd.org/dyn/index.php
Publications 51
Welcome to Oz Online Community for Family Members

“Having a family member with Borderline Personality Disorder
can make you feel all alone, with no one to talk to who really
understands. And real life support groups are nearly impossible
to find. That’s why Randi Kreger, author, advocate, and owner
of BPDCentral.com, started the Welcome to Oz online family
community in 1996. wto is a sacred place where you’ll meet new
friends who know just what you’re facing because they’ve been
there too. There, you’ll experience understanding and comfort
and learn tips and techniques that have worked for others. wto
members are wonderfully supportive and can carry you through
both good and bad times.”
www.bpdcentral.com/support/email.shtml
52
GLOSSARY
Unless otherwise noted, all definitions originate in camh publications.
affect. The current, observable state of feeling or emotion, such as sadness, anger
or elation. (Manitoba Schizophrenia Society; www.mss.mb.ca/defin.htm)
alienation. Refers to the “separation” of people from control over many material
and social aspects of their lives.
(www.oup.com/uk/orc/bin/9780199253975/01student/glossary/glossary.htm)
cognition. The mental process of knowing, including aspects such as awareness,

perception, reasoning and judgment. (www.geocities.com/seaskj/glossary.html)
cognitive behavioural therapy (cbt). Probably the most widely used treatment for
all types of mental health problems. The focus of this approach is on helping
individuals change unhelpful thoughts, feelings and behaviours. The focus is
on the present and helping people see how negative thoughts can lead to bad
feelings and problem behaviours and supporting them to make changes by
replacing unhelpful thoughts with positive thoughts and healthy behaviours.
concurrent disorders. Refers to conditions in which people have both a mental

health and substance use problem.
co-occurring disorders (cod). Another way of describing a situation where someone

has one or more mental health disorders and one or more substance use
disorders. It can also refer to any combination of disorders that a person is
experiencing at the same time.
dialectical behaviour therapy (dbt). Based on the biosocial theory of borderline

personality disorder that views bpd as the consequence of an emotionally
vulnerable individual growing up in an environment that is invalidating or
dysfunctional with the affected individual experiencing difficulties in the
Glossary 53
areas of emotions, relationships, cognition and sense of self. dbt was initially
developed by Marsha Linehan, and uses approaches that focus on the here and
now and are designed to overcome the lack of self-validation experienced by
the person living with bpd and to help her or him acquire the skills to deal
more adaptively with these difficulties.
dissociation. A change in one’s perception or experience of oneself and/or the

external world. A feeling of “spacing out” or daydreaming.
DSM-IV-TR. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (dsm) is

used in North America to diagnose mental disorders. A text revision of the fourth
and most recent edition, the dsm-iv-tr, organizes mental disorders into 16 major
diagnostic classes (e.g., mood disorders and substance-related disorders). Within
these diagnostic classes, disorders are further broken down (e.g., depressive
disorders and bipolar disorders are included in the mood disorders class). For
each disorder, the dsm-iv lists specific criteria for making a diagnosis.
epidemiology. The study of the occurrence of disease and other health-related

conditions in specified populations. (Concise Dictionary of Modern Medicine)
ethnocultural. An adjective that refers to a group of people who share and identify
with certain common traits, such as language, ancestry, homeland, history and
cultural traditions. In this guide, ethnocultural communities are defined as those
communities whose members have ethnic origins that are not French, British or
Aboriginal. While these communities often include newcomers, it is important
to remember they also include people whose roots in Canada go back more than
one generation.
integrated treatment. Treatment for substance use and mental health problems
are combined and ideally provided in the same treatment setting by the same
clinicians and support workers, or the same team of clinicians and support
workers. This ensures that a client receives a consistent explanation of substance
use and mental health problems and a coherent treatment plan. The client gets
co-ordinated and comprehensive treatment, as well as help in other life areas,
such as housing and employment. Ongoing support in these life areas helps
clients to maintain treatment successes, prevent relapses and meet their basic
life needs.
Justice of the Peace. A judicial officer who has authority to do a variety of things
in criminal matters, including issuing warrants and orders of examination
under the Mental Health Act, and hearing bail applications and provincial
offence trials.
mentalization-based therapy (mbt). A psychodynamic therapy that emphasizes

individual recognition of the person’s own mental states as well as those of
others as a way of explaining behaviours.
neurosis. A mental illness in which insight is retained but there is a maladaptive

way of behaving or thinking that causes suffering, for example, depression,
anxiety, phobias or obsessions. (www.rohcg.on.ca/resources/glossary-e.cfm?
strSearch=neurosis)
obsessive-compulsive disorder (ocd). Patients with this disorder have intrusive

thoughts (obsessions) or the urge to perform irresistible repetitive acts (rituals).
The performance of these acts/behaviours may reduce anxiety.
panic disorder. An anxiety disorder characterized by attacks of severe anxiety,

terror or fear.
posttraumatic stress disorder (ptsd). A condition of re-experiencing the effects of

a traumatic event long after the event is over.
predisposition. The state of being predisposed; a tendency, inclination, or

susceptibility.
prevalence. Frequency of a disorder, used particularly in epidemiology to denote

the total number of cases existing within a unit of population at a given time
or over a specified period. (www.mentalhealth.com)
primary care. The first level of care, and usually the first point of contact, that people
have with the health care system. It includes advice on health promotion and
disease prevention, assessments of one’s health, diagnosis and treatment
of episodic and chronic conditions, and supportive and rehabilitative care.
(Ministry of Health: Primary Health Care Strategy, 1999)
Glossary 55
psychiatrist. A person with a medical degree and five years of psychiatric training.
Because psychiatrists are medical doctors, they are licensed to prescribe medication
and provide psychotherapy. Their services are covered by ohip. As medical doctors,
they are more likely to identify connections between psychiatric and physical
health problems. Some clients report that psychiatrists tend to be more focused
on medication than on talking therapy, perhaps because of their medical training.
However, some psychiatrists put emphasis on psychotherapy in their practice.
psychoeducational. A process or aspect of a process that allows people to recognize

and learn how to manage their psychiatric illness.
psychosis/psychotic. Refers to disturbances/describes a condition where disturbances

cause someone’s personality to break down. The person loses touch with reality;
he or she may imagine hearing voices or seeing things or believe things that
seem untrue.
recovery. A process, an outlook, a vision and a guiding principle. Recovery has also
been described as a process by which people recover their self-esteem, dreams,
self-worth, empowerment, pride, dignity and meaning. For professionals and
families, recovery is about treating the whole person: identifying their strengths,
instilling hope, helping them to function by helping them take responsibility
for their lives.
registered psychologist. The College of Psychologists of Ontario regulates the

profession of psychology in Ontario. Members of the College of Psychologists
are regulated professionals and are the only persons authorized to practise
psychology in the province. Psychologists and Psychological Associates are
members of the College of Psychologists. (www.cpo.on.ca)
residential treatment. Intensive treatment, for which a person stays at a treatment

facility 24 hours a day. These programs vary in length from a few weeks to
several months.
schema therapy. Therapeutic approach based on cognitive behavioural or skills-

based therapy, but also targets deeper aspects of emotions, personality and
schemas that are ways in which an individual categorizes the world.
social phobia. A significant amount of anxiety and self-consciousness in everyday

social situations. Affected people worry about being judged by others and
embarrassed by their own actions. This anxiety can lead them to avoid potentially
humiliating situations. Other symptoms such as blushing, sweating, trembling,
problems talking or nausea can also occur. Women are twice as likely as men to
develop social phobia, which typically begins in childhood or early adolescence.
stigma. Refers to the negative attitudes people have toward people with mental
health problems, leading to prejudice and unfair and discriminatory behaviour.
substance use. Many people use alcohol, tobacco and even marijuana in moderate
amounts and don’t experience any problems. However, some people may start
using larger amounts regularly, or using other substances to get intoxicated.
These behaviours can lead to problems with a person’s job, family and health.
After repeated abuse, some people may become dependent on the substance.
System Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem Solving (stepps). A

cognitive behavioural approach that teaches clients skills of emotional and
behavioural regulation. This is reinforced by also teaching methods to family
and friends that reinforce and support these new skills.
Transference-focused psychotherapy (tfp). Though this treatment is based on

psychodynamic concepts, it also incorporates some behavioural elements, in
particular setting up a treatment contract and framework with the client and
addressing some of the behavioural symptoms of bpd.
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APPENDIX
Family crisis
information sheet
Emergency personal contacts

PRIMARY CONTACT
Name
Home phone Work phone
Cell phone E-mail
BACK-UP CONTACT
Name
Home phone Work phone
Cell phone E-mail

TREATMENT PROVIDERS
Family doctor
Name
Phone
Case manager/therapist/substance use or

mental health counsellor
Name 1
Phone
Name 2
Phone
Hospital/treatment centre or crisis team
Name
Phone
Family crisis information sheet 59
MEDICATIONS
Current medications
Medication name 1
Dose Time of day
Medication name 2
Dose Time of day
Medication allergies
The following medications were ineffective and/or caused serious

side-effects
Medication name 1
Side-effects
Medication name 2
Side-effects
Suggestions for helping in a crisis or emergency:
Adapted from: A Family Guide to Concurrent Disorders, p. 176–177, Toronto, Centre for Addiction and Mental Health
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1 1. About personality disorders

2 2. About borderline personality disorder

3 3. Treatment for people with BPD

20 4. Supporting the family member who has BPD

39 6. Recovery and hope

This information guide came together because of the interest and

The following people provided expert contributions within their

A special thanks goes out to the following professionals and family

The following people were involved in making changes to the guide

We also thank Caroline Hebblethwaite for her guidance and advice

of Krystyna Ross, publisher, Jacquelyn Waller-Vintar, editor, Nancy Leung,

The content of this information guide was developed using many

Because the booklet is written for individuals and families in many

Borderline personality disorder is the most common personality

The dsm-iv-tr defines a personality disorder as “an enduring pattern

Borderline personality disorder (bpd) is a serious, long-lasting

described as living with constant emotional pain and the symptoms

Some common symptoms displayed by a person with bpd include:

The term borderline personality disorder was coined in 1938 by

The road to specialized treatment and recovery is often hard because

However, with appropriate treatment, people with bpd can make

What feelings are associated with BPD?

Borderline personality disorder can have degrees of severity and

Family members have feelings around bpd as well. They have

How common is BPD?

It is unclear whether bpd is more common among women than men

How is BPD diagnosed?

Whoever makes the diagnosis will use the dsm-iv-tr to ensure

What other disorders co-occur

When does BPD begin?

What causes BPD?

Researchers have found differences in certain areas of the brain

Though histories of physical and sexual abuse are reported to

Stigma and BPD

Many societies look down on people with mental health and/or

Family members also experience the effects of stigma. Their social

Newcomers to Canada may experience greater stigma because of

Some therapists are reluctant to treat people with bpd because

Stigma and BPD with a concurrent

Treatment didn’t make my bpd behaviours go away completely

What types of mental health services

Services for people with mental health problems include hospital

that provide a variety of programs including housing and employ-

Treatment for serious mental health problems such as bpd will

In most cases, treatment will be on a community or outpatient

Specialized and effective treatment for bpd requires a long-term

commitment, often over a number of years. Families can benefit

What happens when BPD occurs