COPYRIGHT INFORMATION

Copyright 2011 BaitExBack.com. You're allowed to freely give others a copy of this report in
anyway like putting a copy on your website or printing it in an offline publication. Please keep in
mind though that no part of this report may be altered in any form whatsoever without expressed
permission from the author.

DISCLAIMER AND/OR LEGAL NOTICES

This book is for informational purposes only. The author, her agents, heirs, and assignees do
not accept any responsibilities for any liabilities, actual or alleged, resulting from the use of this
information. The report is not professional advice. The author encourages the reader to seek
advice from a professional where any reasonably prudent person would do so.
While every reasonable attempt has been made to verify the information provided here, the
author and her affiliates cannot assume any responsibility for errors, inaccuracies or omissions,
including omissions in transmission or reproduction. Any references to people, events,
organizations, or business entities are for educational and illustrative purposes only, and no
intent to falsely characterize, recommend, disparage, or injure is intended or should be so
construed.
Any results stated or implied are consistent with general results, but this means results can and
will vary. The author, her agents, or assigns make no promises or guarantees, stated or implied.
Individual results will vary and this work is supplied strictly on an at your own risk basis.

Please give this free special

publication to a friend, family
member, coworker, or online
friend. Also put it on your
website. Print it, email it, and
use it!

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Relationships of all kind are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand,
the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on,
the sand trickles through your fingers.
KALEEL JAMISON, AUTHOR OF THE NIBBLE THEORY
Your partner left you and left you feeling hurt. The world seems like one bad
place. Simple pleasures are now torture moments. The shop you visited together now
brings back memories of your ex. The activity you'd enjoy weekly together teases you
with what good things you shared together. These little reminders make you wish it'd be
great to be together again, but you probably think it's over forever.
I'm Jenna James and specialize in helping recently dumped men and women
get their ex back. I'm here to tell you no matter how hopeless you think your situation is,
I believe you can get your ex back. I've helped ex convicts, infidel men and women, and
couples nations apart get back together. You were once together so there's something
your ex loved about you whether he or she admits it to you or not. Couples get back
together all the time, but it's been a mystery how they did it until now.
You too can get your ex back using the 101 tips below. This isn't everything
there is to win him or her back for everything you need to know, I created two full
systems called Bait Her Back and Bait Him Back but these lessons are a good start
based on how people get their ex back. Because they're only tips, you'll need to ponder
on some deeper ones to have the best chance at winning your partner back. It's important
to get to the core of what really matters without playing stupid games so you can have
your partner in your arms again.
Some tips below will heavily apply to you while others will not apply. Some
will seem silly to you while others create light-bulb moments. Just remember to really
think about each tip to see how each one can help your life.
Let's get cracking with the most important tip:

1)

Identify what went wrong in your relationship and what could have

triggered things to spiral downward.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

2)

Dont apologize for yourself or say things like, Im sorry I was so

horrible to you, or Im sorry Im not good enough. You are not the problem it's
likely something you did is the problem.

3)

Keep your cool when you see your ex. A few slow breathes keep you

calm. Take five slow ones as soon as you see him or her.

4)

Forgive your ex; dont let negative feelings fester to the point at which

you become resentful.

5)

Give your ex the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming he or she is

out to hurt you. You'll be surprised at how this error for margin makes it easier for you
to get back together.

6)

Dont put on a facade so that your ex will show interest in you again.

7)

Get honest opinions about both the relationship and your ex from

friends you can trust.

8)

Dont overwhelm your ex with gifts and letters. You cant get back

together by giving your ex partner incentives to want to date you again.

9)

Dont make ridiculous promises that you cant keep in order to entice

your ex back.

10)

Show youre willing to make changes for things to work out. This does

not mean changing yourself and what you stand for, but you must be willing to change
behaviors or habits that are damaging to the relationship.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

11)

Look at this experience from a fresh perspective. See it as a challenge

or a span of adversity you need to get through. Dont look upon the breakup as a blow
to your ego or an attack on your character.

12)

Hit the gym. Get into some sort of fitness routine and stick to it. You'll

feel better from the endorphins and look better from the workout.

13)

Develop a strong support system consisting of good friends and family.

Just like a recovering alcoholic would have a sponsor, recruit a friend to support you
in your moments of weakness. Those tough moments are inevitable.

14)

Seek out a therapist. Throw away any preconceptions of what you

think about having a therapist, and just do it. Bet youll be surprised at how nice it is
to have someone to vent to.

15)

Dont gossip or talk negatively about your ex despite how angry, upset,

or hurt you might feel.

16)

Engage in activities that require a lot of energy and can serve as a great

release of aggression like indoor cycling, boxing, kickboxing, or tennis. Play a game
of paintball or take yourself to a driving range. When you see your ex youll be better
able to keep yourself in check.

17)

Get in your car and let it all out. Scream, shout, cry, sing whatever

you have to do to let out your frustration, anger, or disappointment.

18)

Get into the present. Do deep breathing exercises when you start to feel

out of control. Either meditate on your own, do laps in a swimming pool, or take a
yoga class to focus solely on your breath to remain in the present.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

19)

When you feel your emotions dictate your actions, step back to make

an honest list of what things you have the power to control and what things you cant.
Recite the Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

20)

Withhold information. Youre probably used to telling your ex

everything. Do your own thing and dont broadcast it. Get your partner's imagination
working and wondering what youre up to.

21)

Dont try to figure out your exs schedule or new habits so that you can

mold your day in a way that would put you in contact with your ex.

22)

Make yourself more valuable by cultivating your knowledge. What are

some things you can learn, classes you can take, or books you can read that would
give you great material for stimulating conversation?

23)

Dont attempt to change your style to what you think he or she would

prefer.

24)

Reevaluate your life and set new goals for yourself. Be bold in your

goals. Theres no point in making small goals you know youll reach. Stretch yourself
a little or a lot.

25)

Get on Amazon right now and order three books that interest you. This

will help you learn and do things you wish you could do when single.

26)

Take a class in kickboxing, massage, or public speaking. There's plenty

of awesome businesses and colleges that have interesting things for you to do. How
will this stuff get your partner back? Build your life and your partner will come. Kevin
Costner did not make me say that.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

27)

Practice saying Yes more. In a circumstance when you would

normally decline an invitation or refuse to go outside of your comfort zone, say yes
and do the unusual.

28)

Dont invent manipulative tactics to win back your ex. Your reunion

should evolve naturally and not be the result of some conspiracy you contrived to
bring your partner back to you.

29)

Change your emotional energy. Stop dwelling on negative self talk,

and focus on more positive ideas. The world is the same color as it was when you
were dating; dont paint it gray just because youre not together anymore. Find the
good things in life and embody that energy.

30)

Dont put yourself down because you were dumped. Everyones been

there. Its not your inherent flaws that drive anyone and everyone youve ever dated
away. There was just some aspect of your relationship that was weak. Its either
something you can fix or something you cant; but whatever the reason for the break
up, it certainly isnt because youre a horrible human being.

31)

Let the word single be okay. The word itself sounds ominous and

daunting, but its not a curse. When you dwell on the fact that youre single and its
horrible, youll end up exuding that energy so that your ex will know how weak you
are.

32)

Do things that pump up your self-esteem. If youre an excellent rock

climber, take your friends and go climbing. Being super good at something gives you
a positive rush.

33)

Dont taunt your ex by bringing other members of the opposite sex

around purely to make your ex partner jealous. If that happened to you, you'd think
you were no longer cared for.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

34)

Have a sense of humor. Did she leave you because you became like

super glue attached to her? Laugh at it. If you can laugh at yourself and embrace the
light-hearted side of things, youll be in a less vulnerable position when you two are in
contact with each other. I'm sure there's something funny you can pick out of your
break up!

35)

Act independent and secure rather than aloof and indifferent.

36)

Put yourself in your exs shoes. See things from their vantage point.

What role might you have played in the whole break up? Is there something youre not
seeing?

37)

Dont enter woe is me-ville. Its not attractive for you to take on the

role as the unfortunate victim. How could she/he have done this to me? Ive been
nothing but good to my partner. The situation sucks, but youre more than equipped
to handle it.

38)

Dont pester her friends and family soliciting their help to get back

together. Be nice to them and they may want to help you.

39)

Show your ex partner you can be okay either way. You would love to

be back together, but youre perfectly capable of getting on without him or her. If
you're not wanted, it's their loss. You have no idea how seductive.

40)

Get a new haircut, whiten your teeth, buy a new pair of jeans or

something else that would make you feel better about your image. Don't go overboard
though. No tattoos, plastic surgery, or drastic changes if its inspired by the break up.
Drastic measures make you look desperate for attention.

41)

Get objective advice. Your friends and family might have great advice,

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

but they are likely to be biased in your favor. Seek out advice for someone who is
detached from the situation to assess whether or not the relationship has potential or
not.

42)

List the things you want in a relationship and gauge whether or not

these things are even possible with your ex.

43)

Adhere to your standards. If getting back together is going to take

serious compromises on your part you dont feel comfortable with, your ex is
probably not worth getting back together with.

44)

Be interesting. When you talk to your ex, dont sound like all youve

done is pine for him or her. Show that youve been busy and that youre life has
thrived even though they chose not to be a part of it.

45)

Decide what you want and establish what you will and wont settle for.

Write it down if it helps you stick to it.

46)

When youre in the same space, make eye contact. Convey there's still

a part of them that makes your heart flutter. Keep this subtle. Anything over-the-top
or crude is going to work against you. A little wink or prolonged glance is enough to
stir up old emotions if theyre there.

47)

Smile when youre out even if you dont feel like it. It shows your ex

youre not wallowing in pain. Simply engage those muscles to feel happier. Try it
now!

48)

Handle any and all contact with your ex maturely. Nothing is worse

than taking those (perhaps rare) moments of contact and making them work against
you. You want to leave them hoping to see you again, not letting out a sigh of relief
that you were dumped.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

49)

Be blunt and not overwhelming. When discussing the fact you want to

get back together, state exactly what you want but refrain from going overboard and
sounding desperate and needy.

50)

Dont display your anger. Snapping at your ex partner (or anyone) in

public or using passive aggression to hurt your ex are not the answers.

51)

Touch them in a subtle yet affectionate way. When you see your ex in

public and have established a mature relationship, place a hand on their shoulder as
you walk away.

52)

Keep your distance initially after the break up and gradually allow

yourself contact.

53)

Maintain your appearance and image without overt changes. If youve

been a jeans and t-shirt person for your entire relationship and suddenly you wear a
suit to the supermarket, they'll see right past it.

54)

Dont put your life on pause simply waiting to get back together again

before you resume your life. Youll regret losing this time whether you get together or
not and chances are, youll end up resenting the poor person for it.

55)

Read books and watch movies that depict characters going through the

same thing as you. It helps to have someone to empathize with (even if they are
fictional). After all, some real-life dumpee dreamed those characters up.

56)

When sufficient time has passed, apologize for anything youve done

wrong. Remember, youre not apologizing for yourself but rather for the mistakes you
made to drive your partner away.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

57)

Be cool with other guys or girls your ex may date. As hard as it might

be, it will show youre mature, confident in your attractiveness, and not threatened.
Then maybe shoot that ever-so-slightly seductive look that says youre all of these
things and still have the hots for him or her.

58)

When it seems like your ex is showing interest in you again, pull away.

Be hard to pin down. Dont make it easy for them to schedule time with you.

59)

Avoid adopting your ex's habits and frequenting their spots to catch up.

Suddenly, you become a church-goer because you know she went every Sunday or
you become a member at his gym despite the other twenty gyms in your
neighborhood. These actions scream insecure, desperate, and manipulative.

60)

Skip logical attempts to get back together. You cannot convince

someone to get back with you via logic. Youre both left-handed so you both can sit
next to each other at Thanksgiving dinner or the only reason you nag is because they
get water all over the bathroom floor but you discovered its actually the toilet
leaking. These may seem like rational arguments; but logic didnt start your
relationship the first time, so it will not bring it back this time.

61)

Dont drink and dial. If youre going to indulge in some alcoholic

beverages, have your friends keep an eye on your phone. When your judgment is
impaired, theres no telling what youll say.

62)

Respect your ex's property. I've heard some horror stories of people

defacing an ex's property for some strange reason thinking it'll help get them back. No
damn way. You might be inclined to spray paint their car, but refrain if you ever want
to talk to them again.

63)

Revenge can be exerted other ways beside physical damage. Skip it all.

Do not hurt people in any physical, mental, or emotional way. Not cool.

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

64)

10

Hold your head up high. If you lose touch for a while, and she hears

from her friends youre now fired from your job and drinking all the time, shell be
thanking her lucky stars she left you when she did. If the next time he hears about you,
its because you were promoted or started a business or got a masters, hell be
second-guessing himself.

65)

If you have kids together, refrain from using them to manipulate your

ex into being jealous.

66)

Dont put mutual friends into an uncomfortable position. Keep things

neutral. Your friends will thank you, and your ex partner just might be impressed.

67)

If she mentions getting back together first, dont pounce on the

suggestion. Approach it in a rational fashion. She dumped you remember? Dont fall
back into her arms with no questions asked.

68)

Abstain from sex with him if youre not back in a relationship. You

might think, Heck, its not like it hasnt happened before. It doesn't matter. You
avoid sex because it tells him he has you at a dial of his phone and theres no need for
a real relationship.

69)

Dont maneuver your way into their world by suddenly befriending

their friends when you didn't give them the same attention before. It's completely seethrough and unfair.

70)

Be the person they fell in love with. Has time changed you in some

negative way? Did you become silently resentful or less of the spontaneous person
when you two first dated? Did you morph into someone else without recognizing it?

71)

Leverage the past when you have contact together. If you know he has

a favorite dress of yours, wear it. If she loves when you wear short sleeves to show off
BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

11

your guns, do it. Youre not making her jealous or regretful just calling her attention
back to happier, attractive times.

72)

If youre in a group situation together, know what the two of you

bonded over. If youre both die-hard fans of an obscure band, reference that band in
conversation with someone else. This is particularly effective if this was one of the
things that drew you together in the first place.

73)

Agree with the break up. It's counter-intuitive yet one of the best things

you can do to get back together! The more you resist the idea of you two splitting up,
the more you drive them away. If you convey how you understand why the
relationship suffered, they'll see you get it. Since or she isn't trying to convince you
why you should go away, theyll more willingly iron out the kinks.

74)

Similar to the previous tip, respect your ex and their decision rather

than bashing and trying to convince them they made the biggest mistake of their life.
Doing this proves them right.

75)

Stop over-analyzing everything and blowing little actions out of

proportion in your mind. Instead of wondering why your ex is carrying two pizza
boxes to their car, worry about yourself and what little things you can do to make your
day a good one.

76)

Take a trip either alone or with your friends whatever you feel like

you need. Changing the scenery will help change your perspective and to see all the
opportunities out there.

77)

Hang out with younger cousins or siblings. Being around the carefree,

innocent, and playful attitude of kids helps you feel the same way.

78)

Get a dog or cat. Its amazing what a little unconditional love can do

BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

12

not to mention it will take your mind off of the break up.

79)

Go with the flow. If you get thrown into some situation where youre

interacting with your ex and someone new they're dating, dont let yourself get
aggravated and bitter. Stay confident and roll with it. Dont let them see you flustered.

80)

Skip the pity pleas. Dont act as if you deserve to be hurt and are

searching for pity. Its unattractive and perpetuates that mentality.

81)

Keep love and relationships as beautiful things. Dont write them off as

horrible because you're hurt. You're not to be resentful.

82)

Eat healthy. Dont binge on junk food or use food as a coping

mechanism. Stay fit and eat well. Its a natural way to keep your mood lifted and a
great way to attract your partner back.

83)

Wake up early. Its a simple way to feel productive, energetic, and

positive.

84)

When you make contact with your ex, show genuine interest in what

they've been up to. At the same time you can avoid appearing jealous and
hypercritical of what they've been doing.

85)

If you feel like you need to say something to your ex, be clear. Dont

drop hints hoping they'll figure out what youre feeling. Keep good communication
lines open. This will only work to your advantage.

86)

Decline invitations they may extend explaining that you have other

plans or there are things on your agenda. No need to be snide about it. Just be frank
and honest. They'll get the message youre out living your life not sitting around
waiting for them to come back. However, you'll need to weigh this up against whether
BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

13

it's a chance to reconcile. If you two are getting things solved, it may be good to
accept the invite.

87)

Feel happy for yourself. Acknowledge the break up as a time for

change and growth. Your life can change for the good because of what's happened.

88)

Casually reference instances or scenarios he or she used to find

incredibly sexy or that would turn them on without appearing you're directing it at
them. Dont be crude. Let a seductiveness pervade through you and your actions.

89)

Get some sunlight. Its a great way to get your dose of D3 and will

boost your mood without fail.

90)

Sing nice and loud in the car. Dont choose songs about heartbreak and

pain. Instead sing your heart out to bold and inspiring tunes that typically get you
pumped up. This will have the same great affect on your state as smiling.

91)

Dont become obsessed with getting your ex back. If that becomes

youre only driving force in life, youre going to be disappointed. It's vital you read
this report and even get my complete Bait Him Back or Bait Her Back course if you
feel it's right for you. Just know you can live without him or her.

92)

Stay away from relatives and friends you havent seen in a while who

will want to discuss the topic of your break up to death.

93)

Try not to be alone on holidays or anniversaries that brim with old

memories. Surround yourself with friends in a neutral atmosphere.

94)

Hang around friends of the opposite sex. The girls or guys will give

you a more accurate version of what your ex is going through or doing on a day-today basis. Youre likely to overuse your imagination, which will just make you feel
BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

14

horrible.

95)

Stand up straight and keep your body language strong and confident.

Once you start slumping and acting timid, youll start to feel this way. Your ex will
notice too if you happen to run into them.

96)

In the first few contacts, have conversations with your ex so neutral he

or she cant really tell youre devastated at all.

97)

In later contacts, converse with them in a subtle nostalgic tone. Convey

sexiness with your energy not so much with your actions.

98)

When a reasonable amount of time has passed, send your ex a tasteful

birthday card or simple text to show youre thinking about him or her. Don't be
surprised if you get a response!

99)

Let it go to voice-mail. If she calls you to possibly admit what a big

mistake shes made, it will be a powerful message for her if youre not right there to
take her call the first time.

100)

The first tip is so important it needs another mention: Identify what

went wrong in your relationship and what could have triggered things to spiral
downward.

101)

Be the absolute best person you can be, and dont let yourself worry

about what your partner thinks about you. If you think highly of yourself and show it
in everything you do, he or she will see it. Theres nothing more attractive than a
person who is sure of oneself and what one stands for.

What Should You Do Now?

You've learned a lot from reading those 101 ways to get your ex back so don't stop there.
BaitExBack.com

101 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

15

Each point is the tip of the iceberg there's a whole 90% of the iceberg hidden that makes
up the foundation of getting your ex back and having them want you.
If you're feeling a little overwhelmed, know that transformation is happening. You grow
with new discoveries. If you find yourself not wanting more help or not doing everything
you can to win your ex, ask yourself: What's getting them back and having them want
me worth in my eyes?
You'll be relieved to know I've put what you need into a simple system called Bait Her
Back and Bait Him Back that you can copy-and-paste into your life. There's plenty more
key tips to implement like the 6 innocent traits you have that turn the opposite sex off and
the 10 things any man and woman wants... but forget that for a moment.
To thank you for reading this report, I've created a free online 7-day email course
to further help you get your ex back. Men and women are using just it to get back an
ex! Amazing stuff. Take the next step to get together by getting it for free at
baitexback.com.
After you've signed up for your free training, I recommend you get your copy of Bait
Her Back or Bait Him Back online. They're my specials guides people around the world
use to reclaim and keep their ex. Click their links to read more about them and to get
some free tips not discussed here to get back together.
Yours in love,

Jenna James
BaitExBack.com
Ex back specialist
Author of Bait Her Back and Bait Him Back

BaitExBack.com