A Look at British Language, Culture, Customs and Etiquette
A Look at British Language, Culture, Customs and Etiquette
A Look at British Language, Culture, Customs and Etiquette
expression of emotion. The phrase is most commonly heard as part of the idiom "keep a stiff upper lip", and has
traditionally been used to describe an attribute of British people in remaining resolute and unemotional in the
face of adversity. A sign of weakness is trembling of the upper lip, hence the saying keep a stiff upper lip. When
a person's upper lip begins to tremble, it is one of the first signs that the person is scared or shaken by
experiencing deep emotion.
The Blitz was the German bombing campaign against Britan in 1940 and 1941. It lasted seven months and
targeted cities across England. The purpose was to demoralize the British people as well as disrupt
manufacturing and business. The campaign resulted in the "Blitz Spirit", the attitude of the British people that
they were never going to be beaten by the German campaign. In response to the bombing, people worked to
overcome the hardships, pull together and do whatever it took to keep the country working and effective. The
idea of submitting to the German forces was never entertained.
Location: Western Europe, islands including the northern one-sixth of the island of Ireland between the North Atlantic
Ocean and the North Sea, northwest of France
Capital: London
Climate: temperate; moderated by prevailing southwest winds over the North Atlantic Current; more than one-half of
the days are overcast
Population: 63,742,970 (2014 est.)
Ethnic Make-up: white (of which English 83.6%, Scottish 8.6%, Welsh 4.9%, Northern Irish 2.9%) 92.1%, black 2%,
Indian 1.8%, Pakistani 1.3%, mixed 1.2%, other 1.6% (2001 census)
Religions: Christian (Anglican, Roman Catholic, Presbyterian, Methodist) 71.6%, Muslim 2.7%, Hindu 1%, other
1.6%, unspecified or none 23.1% (2001 census)
Government: constitutional monarchy
Language in the UK
The United Kingdom does not have a constitutionally defined official language. English is the main language (being
spoken monolingually by more than 70% of the UK population) and is thus the de facto official language.
Other native languages to the Isles include Welsh, Irish, Ulster Scots, Cornish, Gaelic and British Sign Language.
Immigrants have naturally brought many foreign languages from across the globe.
The terms 'English' and 'British' do not mean the same thing. 'British' denotes someone who is from England,
Scotland, Wales or Northern Ireland. 'English' refers to people from England. People from Scotland are 'Scots', from
Wales Welsh and from Northern Ireland Irish. Be sure not to call someone Welsh, Scots, or Northern Irish English.
Although in the past few decades, people from varied backgrounds have had greater access to higher education,
wealth distribution is changing and more upward/downward mobility is occurring, the British class system is still very
much intact although in a more subconscious way. The playing field is levelling but the British still seem to pigeon-hole
people according to class.
Class is no longer simply about wealth or where one lives; the British are able to suss out someones class through a
number of complex variables including demeanour, accent, manners and comportment.
A Multicultural Society
Formerly a very homogenous society, since World War II, Britain has become increasingly diverse as it has
accommodated large immigrant populations, particularly from its former colonies such as India, Pakistan and the West
Indies. The mixture of ethnic groups and cultures make it difficult to define Britishness nowadays and a debate rages
within the nation as to what now really constitutes being a Briton.
The British have been historically known for their stiff upper lip and blitz spirit as demonstrated during the German
bombings of World War II. This grin and bear attitude in the face of adversity or embarrassment lives on today.
As a nation, the Brits tend not to use superlatives and may not appear terribly animated when they speak. This does
not mean that they do not have strong emotions; merely that they do not choose to put them on public display. They
are generally not very openly demonstrative, and, unless you know someone well, may not appreciate it if you put
your arm around their shoulder. Kissing is most often reserved for family members in the privacy of home, rather than
in public. You'll see that the British prefer to maintain a few feet of distance between themselves and the person to
whom they are speaking. If you have insulted someone, their facial expression may not change.
The British are very reserved and private people. Privacy is extremely important. The British will not necessarily give
you a tour of their home and, in fact, may keep most doors closed. They expect others to respect their privacy. This
extends to not asking personal questions. The question, Where are you from? may be viewed as an attempt to
place the person on the social or class scale. Even close friends do not ask pointedly personal questions, particularly
pertaining to ones financial situation or relationships.
There is a proper way to act in most situations and the British are sticklers for adherence to protocol. The British are a
bit more contained in their body language and hand gestures while speaking. They are generally more distant and
reserved than North and South Americans and Southern Europeans, and may not initially appear to be as open or
friendly. Friendships take longer to build; however, once established they tend to be deep and may last over time and
distance.
There is still some protocol to follow when introducing people in a business or more formal social situation. This is
often a class distinction, with the 'upper class' holding on to the long-standing traditions:
When two people are of similar age and rank, introduce the one you know better to the other person.
Gift Giving Etiquette
The British exchange gifts between family members and close friends for birthdays and Christmas.
The gift need not be expensive, but it should usually demonstrate an attempt to find something that related to the
recipients interests.
If invited to someone's home, it is normal to take along a box of good chocolates, a good bottle of wine or flowers.
Although the British value punctuality, you may arrive 10-15 minutes later than invited to dinner. However, if going to a
restaurant be on time.
Table manners are Continental, i.e. the fork is held in the left hand and the knife in the right while eating.
The fork is held tines down so food is scooped on to the back of the fork. This is a skill that takes time to master.
Remain standing until invited to sit down. You may be shown to a particular seat.
If you have not finished eating, cross your knife and fork on your plate with the fork over the knife.
Indicate you have finished eating by laying your knife and fork parallel across the right side of your plate.
When in a pub, it is common practice to pay for a round of drinks for everyone in your group.
If invited to a meal at a restaurant, the person extending the invitation usually pays. Do not argue about the check;
A firm handshake is the norm; there are no issues over gender in the UK.
Maintain eye contact during the greeting but avoid anything prolonged.
Most people use the courtesy titles or Mr, Mrs or Miss and their surname.
Wait until invited before moving to a first-name basis. People under the age of 35 may make this move more rapidly
Business cards are exchanged at the initial introduction without formal ritual.
The business card may be put away with only a cursory glance so dont be offended if not much attention is paid to it.
The British Communication Style
The British have an interesting mix of communication styles encompassing both understatement and direct
communication. Many older businesspeople or those from the 'upper class' rely heavily upon formal use of established
protocol. Most British are masters of understatement and do not use effusive language. If anything, they have a
marked tendency to use qualifiers such as 'perhaps', possibly or 'it could be'.
When communicating with people they see as equal to themselves in rank or class, the British are direct, but modest.
If communicating with someone they know well, their style may be more informal, although they will still be reserved.
Written communication follows strict rules of protocol. How a letter is closed varies depending upon how well the writer
knows the recipient. Written communication is always addressed using the person's title and their surname. First
names are not generally used in written communication, unless you know the person well.
E-mail is now much more widespread, however the communication style remains more formal, at least initially, than in
many other countries. Most British will not use slang or abbreviations and will think negatively if your communication
appears overly familiar.
Building Relationships
The British can be quite formal and sometimes prefer to work with people and companies they know or who are
known to their associates. The younger generation however is very different; they do not need long-standing personal
relationships before they do business with people and do not require an intermediary to make business introductions.
Nonetheless, networking and relationship building are often key to long-term business success.
Most British look for long-term relationships with people they do business with and will be cautious if you appear to be
going after a quick deal.
Business Meetings
If you plan to use an agenda, be sure to forward it to your British colleagues in sufficient time for them to review it and
recommend any changes.
Punctuality is important in business situations. In most cases, the people you are meeting will be on time. Scots are
extremely punctual. Call if you will be even 5 minutes later than agreed. Having said that, punctuality is often a matter
of personal style and emergencies do arise. If you are kept waiting a few minutes, do not make an issue of it.
Likewise, if you know that you will be late it is a good idea to telephone and offer your apologies.
How meetings are conducted is often determined by the composition of people attending:
If everyone is at the same level, there is generally a free flow of ideas and opinions.
If there is a senior ranking person in the room, that person will do most of the speaking.
Meetings always have a clearly defined purpose, which may include an agenda.
There will be a brief amount of small talk before getting down to the business at hand.
Make certain your presentation and any materials provided appear professional and well thought out.
Be prepared to back up your claims with facts and figures. The British rely on facts, rather than emotions, to make
decisions.
After a meeting, send a letter summarizing what was decided and the next steps to be taken.
Boxing Day in the United Kingdom is the day after Christmas Day and falls on December 26. Traditionally, it was a day when
employers distributed money, food, cloth (material) or other valuable goods to their employees. In modern times, it is an
important day for sporting events and the start of the post-Christmas sales.