Attachment Fisher
Attachment Fisher
Attachment Fisher
Janina Fisher
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n the first few minutes after birth, newborn and mother generally meet
heart against heart as the baby is laid across the mother’s chest. These and
other early experiences of attachment are body-to-body experiences: hold-
ing, rocking, feeding, stroking, gaze-to-gaze contact. Rather than using words,
we communicate to infants with coos, mmmms and terms of endearment that
evoke a lilt in the voice of the speaker. Preverbal children take in the warm
gaze, the smile, the softness or playfulness and respond with smiles, vocaliza-
tions, and chuckles of delight, relaxing or soothing or brightening in a dyadic
dance with their care-givers (Schore, 2001). But infants and young children
equally take in the body tension of the care-giver, the still face (Tronick, 2007),
the irritable tone of voice or rough movements. Their immature nervous
systems are easily alarmed by intense emotional reactions, loud voices, sudden
movements or manifest anxiety in the mother (Lyons-Ruth, Dutra, Schuder, &
Bianchi, 2006). Whether care-giving promotes secure attachment or is ‘fright-
ened or frightening’ (ibid.), these ‘right brain to right brain’, body-to-body
experiences are later remembered not as visual or verbal narratives but in the
form of ‘body memories’, procedurally learnt emotional, autonomic, motoric,
visceral, and meaning-making states (Ogden, Minton, & Pain, 2006; Tronick,
2007).
If attachment styles reflect an adaptation to a particular care-giving environ-
ment and a given care-taker, then we might do well to think of them as proce-
durally learnt, held in the non-verbal memory system for procedures: that is,
actions and responses. Grigsby and Stevens (2002) describe procedural learn-
ing as mediating ‘what we do with one another’ while declarative memory
captures ‘what we know about one another’ and emotional memory how our
emotional state is altered in relationship to one another. The infant’s muscle
memories of tensing in response to care-givers who were unpredictable and
alarming may remain encoded in the body as a lifelong tendency in attachment
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whenever I tried to hold you. I didn’t understand why you didn’t want to be
held.’ Mother and daughter shared a moment of sadness and gratitude that this
mother had patiently persisted in helping her daughter to bond through those
difficult early years rather than becoming dysregulated herself.
As Grigsby and Stevens (2002) point out, procedural and emotional memory
systems are both largely unconscious and generally experienced as action
tendencies and emotional reactions independent of the events that shaped
them:
The neural substrate for procedural learning . . . appears to develop prior to the
capacity for declarative learning. This means templates for habitual behaviors
may be acquired, and the behaviours may become relatively automatic and
routine, before the child has an episodic memory system capable of remembering
the events that produced these behaviors. In situations involving both fear condi-
tioning and procedural learning, very young children are likely to experience a
kind of learning (habits, conditioned responses) that is dissociated from the
context. In other words, because of the relative independence of these systems, it
may be impossible to recall the events that led to the acquisition of certain types
of behavior. (pp. 17–18)
Mariela had no declarative memory of her first nine months in the orphan-
age, but procedural and emotional memories of that experience affected not
only her ability to attach to her adoptive parents but also her adult intimate
relationships. Without declarative memories, psychodynamic treatment had
not successfully helped her to gain insight into these patterns because, as she
kept saying, ‘How could I have been affected by an experience that I don’t
remember?’ If we expand our understanding of ‘memory’ to include emotional
and procedural memory systems, then Mariela had many memories: her body
remembered that closeness is dangerous, leading her to reject boy friends if
they were kind or if the relationship grew closer. As romantic relationships
endured despite her reactions to the closeness, she typically became increas-
ingly hypervigilant, suspicious, and reactive to any failure of attunement or
attention. Next, she would find herself erupting in anger and threatening to
leave. Over and over, fight/flight responses alternated with proximity-seeking.
These body-centred, autonomically driven patterns of reaction were inaccessi-
ble to verbal dialogue, requiring a therapeutic approach that could reach below
the level of conscious experience and declarative memory to subcortical
emotional memory and body memory for automatic tendencies.
Sensorimotor psychotherapy (Ogden, Minton, & Pain, 2006) offers just such
an avenue for addressing attachment patterns at a subcortical procedural level.
Developed in the 1980s by Dr Ogden, as a body-centred talking therapy, senso-
rimotor psychotherapy is designed to specifically address the bodily and auto-
nomic symptoms of trauma and attachment-related disorders, as well as the
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that the mind and body can have an experience of relief (van der Kolk, 2006).
In sensorimotor psychotherapy, the therapist attempts to help the client ‘trans-
form’ procedurally learnt patterns from the ‘bottom up’ (Ogden, Minton, &
Pain, 2006). This process involves a simple but precise series of steps: as the
therapist begins to note the unfolding psychophysiological patterns, he or she
gently draws the client’s attention to those patterns. Rather than interpreting
what is noticed, the therapist mirrors it in simple words (‘I notice when you
talk about your boyfriend being nice, your tears dry, you sit straight up, your
voice deepens – things really shift, don’t they?’), inviting the client to ‘notice’
or ‘study’ the internal and body experience. These simple mirroring statements
are carefully chosen and ‘pitched’ so that they evoke mindful noticing without
dysregulating or shaming the client. Attention to attunement is expressed
through the therapist’s body: perhaps the face softens, and the tone becomes
one of curiosity and fascination, or the therapist leans forward or back in
rhythm with the client. Interpersonal neurobiological regulation in psycho-
therapy requires ‘right brain to right brain’ communication, the therapist pays
equal or greater attention to the client’s nervous system and bodily communi-
cation than to language and meaning-making. The right brain monitors the
impact of words and body language on the client’s nervous system and somatic
experience, then adjusts breathing, tone of voice, energy level, facial expression
accordingly. In secure attachment contexts, care-givers intuitively use right
brain communication, experimenting with language and body language until
the child’s emotional and autonomic state is within the window of tolerance.
‘Making contact’, as this type of communication is termed in sensorimotor
psychotherapy, has two purposes: to foster ‘dyadic dancing’ and a felt sense of
the therapist’s attunement moment to moment, but also to direct mindful atten-
tion to the unfolding body experience. Directed mindfulness capitalizes on
neuroscience findings that mindfulness meditation increases activity in the
medial prefrontal cortex (thought to be an integrative centre as well as respon-
sible for internal awareness) and decreases activity in the amygdala, thus facil-
itating regulation of autonomic arousal (Lazar et al., 2000; Creswell, Way,
Eisenberger, & Lieberman, 2007).
As Mariela was helped to ‘notice rather than draw conclusions’ about these
patterns, she became aware of the physical sensations of ‘opening’ in the chest
and heart area when she recalled the first weeks of being in love with a
boyfriend, how warm she felt inside during those early stages. Mariela’s
intense yearning for the physical and emotional sensation of contact with
another (perhaps a body memory of her attachment need in the orphanage) left
her body open and exposed, which she expressed by opening her arms wide to
show her therapist the extent of her vulnerability at these times. Without an
ability to open by degrees as a relationship deepened, she was left vulnerable
to the inevitable misattunements found in any relationship. Describing what
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followed by her awareness of the price she paid for that euphoria. The thera-
pist again demonstrated how the arms might open wider as she got to know
someone well enough to develop trust or at least be able to anticipate what
disappointments would ensue in a particular relationship.
In subsequent weeks of therapy sessions, Mariela worked on a number of
movements related either to regulating her affect and arousal or developing
new procedural tendencies in relationship. As she experimented with reaching
out towards someone with her arm and hand, she could feel her body tense and
an impulse to pull her hand back, but she also observed the same reaction
when the therapist reached out towards her. With the yearning for closeness
that had dominated her consciousness since her teenage years came automatic
defence responses: tensing, bracing, autonomic arousal. Observing these
tendencies allowed Mariela to practise relaxing her body as she reached out or
as the therapist reached out to her. Experimenting with a gesture of reaching
out with one hand and making a stop gesture with the other afforded her the
opportunity to experience without words how healthy boundaries allow close-
ness to others to feel safer.
In the words of Solomon (2011), ‘Attachment is the infant’s need to be safe
from danger. We are not born securely attached. To the infant, the world is not
a safe place’. Attachment relationships are the body’s way of ensuring infant
safety, and when safe attachments are not available, the body must adapt.
Autonomic, muscular, perceptual, and movement tendencies are available even
to infants as a source of support and regulation, as demonstrated in Beebe and
colleagues’ research (2009). Early on, the baby’s body must make an adaptation
to the quality of the attachment field, laughing and smiling while crying or
collapsing and shutting down emotionally and autonomically. Sensorimotor
psychotherapy allows client and therapist to work with these very early prever-
bal interactions at the level of muscle and autonomic memory. The experience
of being able to explore empowering actions in the context of attuned interac-
tive psychobiological regulation is not unlike the experience of securely
attached young children. In sensorimotor work, though, the client is encour-
aged to become a mindful witness as the process unfolds and inner experience
is mentalized and verbalized.
As Mariela was able to notice her bodily and emotional reactions as they
unfolded, rather than retrospectively, she was able to inhibit explosive
responses and relax the body in relationships. Practising her new movements
and somatic resources inside as well as outside of therapy helped her to have
alternatives when dysregulated by attachment hopes and fears. Finally, her
ability to stay present in the context of emotion allowed her to witness being
witnessed by her therapist and by those she loved. ‘Hijacked’ by the body
memories of abandonment and threat, Mariela had not ever been able to take
in the experience of being ‘seen’ and valued by others in her life. Witnessing
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