Beyond “the game” - the ultimate source of

attraction and dating success | with Peter Sage

CAUTION! VALUE BOMBS BELOW

So I chatted with my mentor Peter Sage one night and we came across the topic of dating,
attraction and other things, when he all the sudden drops one phrase that haunted me for
months going forward:

“...consciousness beats PUA - case closed.”

It took a while to process it fully and I eventually came to the realisation what he meant
overall.

Ready for it? Then read on.

In essence it means that your “game”, pickup or success with women whatever you may
want to call it, depends on which level of awareness (or consciousness) you are at.

If you transcend in levels or STAGES of consciousness, at some point you will leave the
level of “gaming” behind and eventually become an authentically attractive human being
without any masks on, at which point attraction becomes effortless and almost automatic.

Being not “doing”

Now, don`t get me wrong, I love “the game”. I love going out and meeting new people,
interact with attractive women, playing with sexual tension, flirting and having a fun night,
inviting a girl into your world.
However, you have to asked yourself - why I am doing it? What is driving the underlying
behaviour?

When I started out in the game, I was striving for plentiful sexual endeavours, to encounter
variety, develop abundance and therefore feel good about myself. There is nothing wrong
with that per se, just like you may go to different restaurants to try a variety of food or travel
to experience other cultures.

But there is a small issue with that, if applied and done from the wrong place. Then you will
condition yourself to tie your self worth to the number of women you slept with, or the quality
of girl you choose.

Now you may think: Steven, that is so bad about having a great girl in your life?

In and of itself nothing, but how you RELATE IT to your self esteem and self worth it is the
issue.
That's also the ultimate reason why you may be stuck at the level where you are at without
being able to look beyond that. I am talking deep subconscious self-sabotaging patterns
(which can be solved with the right approach, not to worry).

Overall I realised mine and was able to fix them. Now it has become much more about
adding value to the girls life by being the best self I can be.

So - ask yourself what are you in it for?

Is it completely based on your ego? Is it to self-validate yourself? What do you have to prove,
and more importantly…. to whom?

Remember - there is NOTHING TO PROVE - NOTHING TO CONQUER.

Making the shift from ego-centric to ethnocentric mindset

Once you make this shift in consciousness you are free to get any girl, because it is precisely
at that stage where you are no longer trying to prove something, but you are free of
judgement, free from validation and therefore completely non-needy, which - paradoxically -
attracts amazing women into your life.

When the interaction is not about you, but about how much value you can add to the other
person, then you will make a lasting change.

Automatic and effortless attraction

Most guys focus on “tactics” of the game: what do I say, how do I need to stand, what is my
next line, how do I handle logistics best, how do I read the girls blueprint, how do I handle
rejection...they are looking for the recipe that will get them the outcome they want the highest
percentage of the time.

And yes, don't get me wrong - there are many behaviours and actions you can take to
influence someone else or guide the interaction into a certain direction. Let`s face it though,
this can be very tiring. Also let me tell you that you are playing with fire.
Why?

Because even when you master all the techniques, all the tactics and what not. By the time
you get your outcome (taking the girl home and sleep with her), you may discover that you
are still not fulfilled by it because you were doing it for the wrong reasons.

You may have thought that getting 100s of women will actually get you the significance you
were craving, well - yes 100 times you felt significant - for one night, or perhaps a few more.
But how long did that last….? Hmmm….

Is it sustainable? Does this last? What if the women no longer want to see you? You need to
get out to find new ones to replace them with and you start at square one.

And even deeper, because of unconscious psychological patterns you run, you will end up in
the same misery over and over again. Driving women away from you eventually or only
attracting a certain quality of women who may have their own imbalances, insecurities that
you are energetically matching and attracting or who are prone to fall for your techniques.

So be aware of that.

Can you believe that some people even want to “game their girlfriend”? Give me a break.

If you shift your values and your “why” you are free to play the game or not, but you are not
necessarily relying on it for internal validation of your character.

I talked to Peter about these things, you find the full video below.

Now, are you ready to go even one step deeper into the rabbit hole?

The origin of Charisma

Charisma or charm is strange thing, isn't it? I mean really think about it. From your own
experience, what were charismatic people like? There is something about them, right?

Yet at the same time it is nothing “physical” - you somehow feel it.

It seems to be a certain spark in their being, they have their eyes wide open, they are
enthusiastic, they are driven, they care about others, they help, they have an open ear, they
listen, they are present, they are leaders.

You feel great when you are around them, you want to be with them, you cannot help it, even
if they are not that great looking, the nature of their being and everything delineating from
that seems to draw you in and you feel good when in their presence.

Like a moth that is attracted to light, you just cannot help it but go towards them. Now this is
human to human attraction, not necessarily just man to woman.

It's not what they do, but how they make you FEEL.

Why in the world is that, what is their secret sauce for attraction? Well, because they are
INSPIRED or ENTHUSIASTIC. Have you ever looked up the word?
Let`s do that real quick.

Ok,so they are “filled up with air”, they have a full cup, they are overflowing with energy and
“possessed by god”. Meaning they are infused with the divine presence of god - something
greater than the physical world.
 WOW, let that sink in for a moment...

But what does that mean? You may think, oh Steven you are getting carried away by words.

Now, there is plenty of room to get lost in religious labels, that is not my intention.

What I refer to here is the divine universal intelligence that surrounds us, you may call it god,
the Tao, the Quantum Field or whatever you like. But there is a general agreement that there
is something beyond the physical world - we call it the metaphysical world.

Scientists can measure it with models of Quantum Physics, this has been very well proven.

So, charisma then is not something you can create with your senses, that is only the effect
you feel here in this physical world as a consequence of connection to this source field of
energy.

It means people who possess more charisma simply have a higher connection to source of
life, their aura (the electromagnetic energy field around their body) is of higher amplitude or
frequency.

In the pickup world we call people who have this connection to this source “naturals”. Where
did they get it from? Did they just get it as a magical gift of life to be good with women?

Well, not quite. They just did not have their original enthusiasm as children diminished by
their external environment or their parents. On the contrary: environment even reinforced it.

So can you slowly start see, that game tactics are based in the physical level while
competing with something beyond it in the metaphysical world? Guess who wins there.

By raising your level of consciousness through meditation you strengthen your connection to
source and thereby become somewhat more “supernatural”.

This may very well be the ultimate dating hack.

And that my friends is why...YOUR LEVEL OF CONSCIOUSNESS BEATS PUA.

Take care
Steven

P.S. If these topics interest you, I invite you to check out my Youtube channel for more
content in this direction.