loving ones family

Are there times when you wish you lived alone? When do you wish so?

Yes, there a situation came in my life when I preferred living alone rather than my
family. Family is a huge deal to our generation, especially the joint ones. This
situation came in my life when there some disputes occurred in my family
because of some property issue. That was my teenage and I was fighting with my
self. I couldn't handle the fight inside and outside as well. Then, I choose to live
alone for sometime to relax my mind and stay away from unnecessary disputes.

Do you remember a time when your family supported you and helped you?
My family is very supportive. They always support me with their encouraging
attitude. Once, I suffered from short period paralysis. I was deeply broken inside
and those were my final days exam. They told me that no matter how ur condition
is , u must be brave. I remember during those days , they helped me in best
possible days they can. They never made me realize that I'm paralysed. And, this
was the result of their care, love & affection , my paralysis was cured very soon.
What do you like best about your family?
I like my family. My family is not perfect but still it is my family. However it is, it is
mines and love it. I think the best thing is family is we do care for each other even
in the worst situations, but we do not show off.
What don't you like about your family?
I live in a joint family, it has 22 members and such a big number. That creates a
mess and sometimes opinion hurts but still it is truth each of them matters me a
lot.
Do you respect your parents and grandparents? How do you show it?
Yes, I do respect my family and I should. They brought me up very well and gave
me best they can. From my point of view, if we have respect internally we needn't
to show it. I follow their all orders / commands. To show care as respect I
sometime help in their work , give surprises on their birthdays.

Family Value:
1. Families can help us get through anything with their support and love.
2. Being there each other , believing in and respecting each other are some of
the things that makes a family a place of love, warm and security.
3. Senior members of our family need a little more love and patient.
4. It is important to stand by him/her when someone in family goes through
difficult times.
5. It is important to love and respect every member of the family.

Being a good leader

What is your definition of a leader?
leader is a coach, a mentor and someone who listens, communicates, and guides
a team of people while inspiring them towards a common goal.

What are the quality of a leader? List at least 4 of them and say why these
qualities are important.
Honesty and integrity: Honesty and integrity are two important ingredients which
make a good leader. How can you expect your followers to be honest when you
lack these qualities yourself? Leaders succeed when they stick to their values and
core beliefs and without ethics, this will not be possible.
Confidence: To be an effective leader, you should be confident enough to ensure
that other follow your commands. If you are unsure about your own decisions and
qualities, then your subordinates will never follow you.
Good Communicator: Until you clearly communicate your vision to your team and
tell them the strategy to achieve the goal, it will be very difficult for you to get the
results you want.
Accountability: Make sure that every one of your subordinates is accountable for
what they are doing. If they do well, give them a pat on the back but if they
struggle, make them realize their mistakes and work together to improve. Holding
them accountable for their actions will create a sense of responsibility among
your subordinates and they will work more seriously.

Who do you think will make a better leader ? most intelligent student of your
class or someone who likes to work in team? why?
someone who likes to work in team will be a better leader than most intelligent
student of your class.
You cannot do everything. It is important for a leader to focus on key
responsibilities while leaving the rest to others. By that, I mean empowering your
followers and delegating tasks to them. If you continue to micromanage your
subordinates, it will develop a lack of trust and more importantly, you will not be
able to focus on important matters, as you should be. Delegate tasks to your
subordinates and see how they perform. Provide them with all the resources and
support they need to achieve the objective and give them a chance to bear the
responsibility.
Do you want to be a leader? why?
I think I would make a great leader because I have patience and understanding. I
listen to other people and acknowledge their ideas. I am a good student, I take
responsibility for my actions and respect everyone and everything. I am a great
role model and I set a good example for younger students.
What is the differences between a leader and a bully?
A leader leads by example. A bully dominates and intimidates others and says, “do
as I say or else.”
A leader shows interpersonal skills and empathy for others and motivates. A bully
lacks empathy for others, ridicules and demotivates others.
A leader can communicate with all levels and backgrounds and understand their
motivations. A bully surrounds himself only with people who acquiesce to him.
A leader believes in the abilities of his people and knows they will do well. A bully
has low expectations of everybody.
A leader shares information and is transparent. A bully withholds information and
uses it as a weapon.
A leader is assertive when necessary. A bully is aggressive and uses power plays.
A leader is emotionally mature (high emotional intelligence). A bully is
emotionally immature (low emotional intelligence.)

Optimism
"Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your
words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become
your values, Your values become your destiny."
Mahatma Gandhi

How to Believe in Yourself and Build Self-Confidence

When it comes to success, nothing is more important and influential than self-
confidence and belief in oneself. In fact, if we want to be successful, self-belief is
more important than intelligence, talent, background, or just about anything else.
In addition to this, people who have self-confidence and believe in themselves are
healthier, happier, have better relationships, and are more motivated and
resilient.
There are many factors that affect our self-confidence, including our parents, our
upbringing, our environment, our beliefs, past failures and successes, society,
how other people treat us. a lack of self-confidence is not directly related to a lack
of talent, skill or ability. It is more related to our perception.
So what does it mean to believe in oneself and possess self-confidence? Loosely
defined, it is the feeling of confidence in our judgment, abilities, and qualities. It is
sometimes referred to as self-efficacy. This, in turn, affects almost every area of
our lives, including how we think, feel and act. This is why it is so important.
All of us have made mistakes, experienced failure and felt disappointment in our
lives. I know I certainly have had more than my fair share. Some of us have also
been subjected to hardships and injustices. All these experiences affect a person’s
self-confidence and faith in his or her own abilities. Fortunately, there are ways to
develop a strong self-belief even though it does require some time and effort. It is
important to remember that our past does not have to dictate our future. The
only thing that matters is how we act today. So let’s look at some empowering
ways to build our confidence.

Self-esteem is affected by early life experiences and is a blend of internal confidence and
external achievements. Self-esteem is something anyone can increase and maintain at a higher
level. Two key components of self-esteem are self-image and self-talk.
A positive attitude is at the heart of optimistic and successful people. Successful and confident
people have positive attitudes. Self-confidence is based on a belief that one’s efforts and abilities
will allow one to reach a goal. Successful and confident people have positive self-images. This
image of self—or self-image—is largely developed in early life. Self-image is how you see
yourself in relation to the world. Self-image includes:

 what you think you look like physically—and acceptance of your physical characteristics
 what kind of person you think you are—your values and beliefs
 what you think others think of you—how your personality comes across
 what you believe your strengths and weaknesses are—your ability to have an accurate
and objective view of yourself
 how much you like yourself—and how well you take care of yourself

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF IMAGE

Stop comparing yourself to others. When you do this, you are likely to compare yourself in a
negative way. Besides, each of us is a unique individual with our own strengths and weaknesses.
Celebrate your individuality!

Acknowledge your positive qualities. Make a list of your positive attributes. Include

appearance, personality and skills. If you have difficulty with this, ask others to help you. They’ll
come up with things you might not see in yourself.

Involve yourself in work and life activities that you love. So many people with low self-
esteem fail to fill their lives with meaningful activities. Follow the career path that is most
rewarding to you. If you are not fully satisfied with your job but are not in a position to make
immediate changes in your career, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities that
are enjoyable and fulfilling.

Develop a positive personal support network. The people with whom you associate
influence your own self-image. Negative people can bring you down. On the other hand, when
positive and supportive people surround you, you feel better about yourself.

Speak up for yourself.Learn to be assertive and practice clear communication. Not voicing and
acknowledging your needs or setting limits with others means that you are putting up with more
stuff than you need to for your own well-being. By learning how to say "no," you are sending the
message that you value yourself and that you deserve to be treated with respect.

Lighten up! Take yourself less seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and see the humorous side
of life. Smile as much as you can; it’s contagious!

Accept all compliments graciously. Don’t dismiss or ignore compliments or praise from

others. When you do, it not only sends the message that you are not worthy of praise, but also
that you don’t value the opinion of the person giving you the compliment.

Take advantage of personal growth programs. Actively pursue an elevated self-image by

reading self-help books; listening to inspirational tapes; attending motivational workshops,
lectures and classes; starting an exercise program or using life coaches or personal counselors
for self-improvement.

Develop tolerance for yourself and others.Remember, nobody’s perfect! Stop criticizing
yourself and others for every imperfection or shortcoming. Recognize that a mistake is just a
mistake so don’t dwell on it.
Stop putting yourself down. You can’t develop high self-esteem if you constantly berate and
belittle yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes. Instead, find ways to learn
something valuable from them and then move on. Use positive affirmations to reprogram your
negative inner conversations.

Help others. Do something useful for others. Help others feel good about themselves by giving
them compliments or acknowledgements for accomplishments. Make a positive contribution to
the lives of others through volunteer work or community service.

Citizenship

The word citizen has three shades of meaning. It may mean a town-dweller as
distinguished from a villager; or, secondly, the member of a city, who has recognised
municipal privileges and duties as a citizen of Manchester, or of Bombay; or, lastly, it
may mean the subject of a sovereign state, in which sense we speak of an English
citizen, or a French citizen.

The first meaning may be left aside here; for the subject is concerned with the
second and third meanings only. What, then, are the duties of a citizen, to his city
and his country?

A citizen is the member of a community, whether that community is a town, or a

great country : and as the member of a community he has both privileges and
duties. For we may think of the community as existing for the sake of its individuals
members, or, the individual members as existing for the sake of the community.

The first view, held by individualists, emphasises the privileges of a citizenship; the
second view, held by socialists, emphasises the duties of citizenship.

One says, the State exists for the good of the citizen and that is true; the other says,
the citizens exist for the good of the State and that also is true. Both views must be
combined and a citizen must recognise that the State he belongs too has a duty to
him (his privileges), and that he has an obligation to it (his duties).
However, as we are in no danger of forgetting our privileges as citizens, it is wise to
emphasise our duties.

The first obvious duty of a citizen is loyalty to the country of his birth or adoption.
Patriotism does not mean “My country, right or wrong”; but it does mean that in a
national crisis or danger, a citizen must be prepared to support and defend his
country even, if necessary, with his life.

Secondly, it is the duty of a citizen to obey his country’s laws. He must have no
sympathy with crime, which is a breach of law.

He may consider some laws imperfect, unwise and even unjust; and he may, and
should, use all constitutional means in his power; such as public speaking, writing to
the press, organisation, and the use of his vote, to get such laws reformed or
abolished. But so long as a law is a law, he must obey it.

Thirdly, he must do more than keep the law himself; he must, as occasion arises,
actively assist the guardians of the law in the performance of their duty in putting
down crimes and arresting criminals. Criminals must be made to feel that they have,
not only the police, but also all respectable citizens against them.