Cold Reading
Cold Reading
Cold Reading
Reading
How to become a
good Mentalist
Dean Amory
Title of book: Cold Reading – How to become a good
mentalist
Author: Dean Amory
Copyright © 2011, Edgard Adriaens,
ISBN CODE: 978-1-4710-3248-6
First Printing: December 2011
Published by Edgard Adriaens
Dean_Amory@hotmail.com
Cover design by Edgard Adriaens
Book design by Edgard Adriaens
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Contents
Introduction
1 The Set Up
2 Principal Themes and Structure
3 Character
4 Facts
5 Questions
6 The Future
7 Countering Rejection
8 Influencing the Client’s State of
Mind
9 Presentational Points
10 Getting Amazing Results
11 Cold Reading Step by Step
12 Model of A Reading
13 Commonly Asked Questions
14 Supplemental Patter
15 Cold Reading and the Internet
16 Ethical Guidelines
17 Sources
Introduction
Dear Reader,
Dean Amory
Chapter 1
The Set Up
2. Encourage co-operation
“What I feel is never 100% clear. The exact meaning
will actually be clearer to you than it is to me. So, I
may need your help from time to time with the
interpretation, to see how things fit in.”
5. Establish credentials
Psychic: Display certificates and testimonials from
previous clients; have some reference books on
hand.
1. Chief themes
Love,
Money and Career,
Health
1. See Chapter 1
2. By asking a person for advice, you compliment
them and
motivate them to want to help you.
3. Draw him to a climate of rapport by starting off
with some
statements that are obvious truisms.
4. Condition him to make a positive response.
Establishing a
pattern of affirmative responses establishes a
positive
orientation.
5. Ask for feedback!
6. Holding a person’s hand is an excellent way to
create
rapport!
7. If a friend of the person being read is present:
Great!
How to do it?
* Equivoque:
“This is (was) NOT …. <description fact> … is it?
(was it?)”
How to do it?
A
* There is an inherent capacity for …
* I would say that on the whole you are…
* There are indications here that you can be …
B
* But I also feel that this capacity does not always
prevail,
and you can – in some circumstances – hmmm …
appear
a little deserted by this instinct?
* But at other times …
* Yet, you also have the potential to be …
* But there are times, if you are honest, when you …
Examples
2. Fine Flattery.
Compare the client to “People In General”,
stating he is a slight, but significant,
improvement over them.
Examples
“.. You may suddenly feel you ought to do your face and
smarten up your make-up for no reason at all, and
then suddenly there is someone at the door and it
turns out to be someone you’re really glad you
looked your best for.”
4. Sugar Lumps
Example 2:
7. Barnum Statements
Chapter 4
Facts
Examples
Geographical:
“I can see a connection with Europe”
Connection: current? Past? Professional? Social?
Domestic? Romantic? Cultural?
Europe: which part?
Medical:
“I am getting an indication of some problem
Around the mouth and throat area (young
people)
Around the chest area (elder
people)
And I sense a bit of back trouble (slim
people)”
Factual:
“There’s an indication of some change, or a transition,
concerning a career. This could be you, or someone’s
career that affects you.”
Romantic:
“I see a dark/fair-haired man/woman, does that ring a
bell?”
“I am getting a sense that there is someone who loves
you very much.”
Examples:
Health:
Names:
Hobbies:
Example of formulation:
Most women:
- Bought at least one item of clothing which they
never wore
- Have more pairs of shoes than they actually need
- Keep photos of their loved ones in their purse on
near them
- Wear their hair long as a child, then adopt a
shorter haircut when older
- Have at least one ear ring, the partner of which
has been lost
- When shopping, spend almost as much time
studying other women as they do the windows
- When asked what animal they would turn into,
answer: CAT
- Feel they are intuitive and would like to develop
that ability
- Had at one time an imaginary playmate
- Have had the thought: “What if I had twins,”
- Wear, or have worn, a gold chain
- Have thought about a nursing or teaching job
- Have an overweight girl friend
- Are better dancers than men
- Feel they are better kissers than their husbands
or boy friends
- Have had their ears pierced as teenagers
- Were romantic, wrote prose or poetry in high
school
- Will stop at a gas station for directions – men
won’t
- Get cold feet in bed
- Feel they have untapped artistic potential
- Like blue-eyed males over brown-eyed
- Pick out their husband’s shirts and ties
- Have one breast larger than the other
- Would not go hunting
- Feel they are not photogenic
- Feel they have a good side and a bad side (on
photos)
- Prefer baths (most men prefer showers)
- Don’t believe they snore
- Say they dream in colors
- See themselves as incurable romantics
- Tall women feel their feet are too big
- Have been told they have bedroom eyes
- At one time or another have kept a diary
- Most women that wear black, are weight
conscious
- Most women that wear hats, consider themselves
fashionable
Most men:
- Prefer women in dresses, rather than skirts,
blouses or pant suits
- Believe they cannot be hypnotized
- Have come close to dying at least once in their
lives
- Tried learning a musical instrument as a child, but
often gave up
- Wore a moustache or beard at some point
- Have at least one old suit which they no longer fit
into
- See themselves as healthier than their neighbors
- See themselves as safer and more skilled than
the average driver
- Have (had) some difficulty dealing with authority
- Fear baldness
- Prefer (large) dogs as pets
- Most men who smoke pipes, think of themselves
as deep thinkers
- Older men especially, dislike grocery shopping
- Had some difficulty relating to their father,
especially during adolescence
Most people
- See them selves as less prejudiced than others in
their community
- See them selves as more intelligent than the
average
- Feel they are better off than most other people in
their occupation or in their situation
- See themselves as more ethical than the average
person
- Have (had) a scar on the (left) knee
- He been involved in some childhood accident
which involved water
- Most people with fair skin: have experienced bad
sunburn at least once
- Have at one time or another had a premonition
about something (often: impending disaster,
accident, death)
- Have experienced an out-of-the-body experience
or astral travel
- Feel they are resourceful and could make it by
them selves if stranded on a tropical island.
- Have thought, perhaps during adolescence,
about suicide
- Fear rejection and are afraid of saying or doing
the wrong thing
- Light complexioned individuals with freckles and
blue eyes have red highlights in their hair
- Most adults have lost someone close to them;
separated by death or divorce
- Most adults have problems or aches associated
with their feet (e.g.: women – high heels)
- Avoid getting into things they don’t understand
- Had a great dream about what they would do
after graduation, and it is not fulfilled
- Dislike Mondays; love Fridays and weekends
- Feel they are underpaid
- Have wondered what their purpose is in life
- Have considered buying a waterbed
- Have suffered an unrequited love
- Have at least one broken watch at home
- Would say that spring is their favorite season
- (most people that smoke) have tried giving up
smoking several times
- Sleep on their sides – not on their backs
- Can wake up one minute before the alarm goes
off
- Have at least one ticklish spot on their body
- Do not send as many Christmas cards as they
used to
- Spring cleaning
- January & July: major sales in shops & high bills
- Winter & summer holidays
- The festive season: Christmas – New Year
Examples:
9 Childhood memory
The animal
- A pet?
- Fear? Fear of it? (dog, spider), or Fear of losing it?
- Sadness? Some sort of accident? Was it taken away
from you?
Acting BIG
Remember? You were trying to be grown up. Act like an
adult, polished and smooth, and do things right --- and
goofed up.
It’s funny how those things happen!
Darkness
It was dark and you were really afraid. Not so much of
the dark, but that there was something dangerous there.
You can laugh at it now, but back then, when you were
small, a child, it was really frightening.
Fight
What was the name of the boy? – The one you got into
the fight with? – What was the fight about?
Well, you learned something important there!
The song
I sense this song. You used to sing it so often. --- Love?
Writing
Correspondence, diary, poetry, a story … Was it in your
junior years? Whatever happened?
Example 1:
A couple of months ago, I see you standing in a room. I
get this sense of RED – maybe a red – or reddish floor? –
I don’t think this is your home. It’s somewhere else. Yet
this is of some importance to you. It looks like you are
waiting for something or somebody … does this make
sense to you?
Push-elements:
- Maybe it’s not the floor that was red?
- Maybe the “red” is more like rusty brown or even
orange?
- Or the “red” can sand for danger – or romance
Example 2:
“I’m getting an impression of a meeting, maybe a
celebration or a party --- there is a car involved --- and I
can see you holding a shoe, or having problems with a
shoe. You are obviously not pleased. I can sense that
you are ventilating your feelings to the people around
you. CAN YOU TELL SOMETHING MORE ABOUT THAT
EVENT?
Push-elements:
- The car can stand for any means of transportation
- The problem with shoe: may indicate some
appointment you did
not like to go to.
Examples
- Is there something in particular that you want me to
focus on?
- Most people have something that is on their mind or
that they want to know more about; perhaps an area
in their life where they are looking for some answers.
What would this be in your case?
- Let’s move to another field now. How about your
career, are there any questions there?
Examples
Instead of asking “Does your work involve traveling?”
The psychic can say:
“I’m picking up a vague impression here of traveling…
but also of work. I don’t know if this is now or sometime
in the past; but feel this is something you can relate to.”
Examples
“Turning to health matters, I feel that you have generally
had very little cause for concern. You have a good
temperament and may also find creative / artistic /
challenging outlets for stress and tension, which you find
very therapeutic. This is making sense to you, isn’t it?
There are however indications of some recurrent anxiety
related to…”
Examples
Chapter 6
The Future
1 Self-Fulfilling Predictions
“It will feel like starting afresh and soon this will
translate in you having a larger social circle than at
present.”
Examples:
Health worries?
Not to worry! An eventual return to good health is
indicated.
Financial problems?
They will be all sorted out in the long run.
3 Pollyanna Pearls
Financially:
“It’s been a bit of a bumpy ride these past couple of
years, but the next 18 months or so will be a lot easier.”
Relationships:
“Relationships have been a source of concern over the
past 14 months, perhaps not in ways that even your
closest friends would fully understand. However, there
are indications here that these concerns are due to fade,
and the next 14 to 18 months offer much happier and
smoother prospects.”
Career:
“You’ve had your worries in recent times, but there’s a
much better spell ahead, and your plans are going to go
well.”
Or:
4 Certain Predictions
5 50/50 Predictions
These are predictions which can only go one of
two ways. The more such predictions the psychic
makes, the more hits he is bound to get.
6 Factual Predictions
7 Unlikely Predictions
8 Vague Predictions
Examples:
- “A journey is indicated”
- “I see a new source of fulfillment in your life.”
- “Your life will enter a new phase of progress.”
- “A surprising aspect to the month of June will
have significant implications which only become
clear much later in the year.”
9 Unverifiable Predictions
Examples:
Examples
HOW?
Example:
(P = psychic / C = client)
Example:
(P = psychic / C = client)
Example:
(P = psychic / C = client)
Example:
Example:
Example:
1 Straight Question
- What do you like most about …
- What are you looking for in …
- How would you describe the ideal / ultimate …
- What would be your favorite ...
- What could you expect from …
2 Direct Manipulative Question
- What is it like when you feel incredibly …
- Can you remember how it felt when …
- Imagine now how it would feel if …
- What does one need in order to be / feel really …
(Instead of “you”, you may use: “everybody”, “we all”,
“people”, …)
B
- How would it feel if …
- You could have / do that now?
- Wouldn’t it be wonderful if ...
How to do it?
9 Telling by implication
Examples
Wholeness, inner voice, universal bond, something
bigger, reaching deeper levels, right path, angel, stars,
save haven, shield, warmth, light, the deepest part of
who you truly are, destiny, growth, wave,
11. Forking
Example
If client agrees:
“In fact, sometimes this tendency to pursue approval
goes a bit too far. I feel this is an area in your life where
there is an opportunity for growth and for development.
As you are already beginning to learn, your own
knowledge of your achievements is more important than
what other people say of think.”
If client disagrees:
“But you have learned that your own knowledge of your
achievements is more important than what other people
say of think. In fact, you often let the credit go
elsewhere without making a fuss.”
Example:
P: “I sense that when you were quite young, you had an
accident, possibly involving water. Can you make sense
of this?”
Other reviews:
P: “I sense this person who you were very close to, and
you had a lot of good times together, isn’t that right?”
Statements like
Even images have their top ten. When 700 people were
asked to think of a picture, 94 choose a house, 93 a
circle and 77 a square. Only 17 choose a star of David
and 16 a face.
Asked for two geometric forms, out of 600 people, 203
chose a circle and triangle as opposed to 66 who chose
a triangle and a square.
11. Cover your errors. Since you are in fact just asking
questions and repeating information back in a different
way, you shouldn't really make mistakes as you would if
you were guessing things. That said, sometimes a
question will simply be off the mark, and this can ruin
the illusion if you don't recover quickly and gracefully.
Suppose, for example, that the person says they are not
on the verge of making a big decision. There are myriad
ways to handle this. One would be to say that poor,
dead Uncle Bill (if you're communicating with the spirit
world) must be talking about someone else that you
both know, a relative perhaps. Another would be to
change the time frame, to ask, "But you made a big
decision in the past year, something of a new start." Still
another way would be to subtly change the way the
question is framed: "I'm sensing something new is
happening in your life or is about to happen." You don't
abandon the original line of questioning. Rather you
twist it just a bit until it makes sense to the subject. After
all, if they then admit that something new is happening
in their life, they must feel a little foolish for not
recognizing the psychic message you were getting about
the decision.
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"You appear to be in doubt of even your own affections.
You are quite fickle at this time, and I perceive that you
feel you have been hurt by another near and dear to
you. I feel that I must concede this fact, but you should
dismiss these negative thoughts from your mind. You
should endeavour to place your affections elsewhere,
and not dwell too much on the past."
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"Not too long ago, in your life, I see a serious love affair.
One that did not turn out exactly as you had hoped. This
made you quite cynical and bitter for a while, but you
have learned to overcome this feeling. Either someone
was madly in love with you, and you were with them.
There was a third person in the picture, whose influence
extended over this affair, and caused it to eventually
terminate."
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"You are wondering about this boy. You are not quite sure
of him. Right? You wonder if you will ever be man and
wife. And if so, live happily. It is apparent that you think
more of him than he does of you. I doubt very much if
this affair will turn into anything serious. Regard him as
a good friend. Very shortly, I see another man coming
into your life, tall, handsome. He will make a violent
impression on you - and in your heart, you will realize,
'Here at last, is my Prince Charming."
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"My friend, early in your childhood, I can see you falling.
You may not even recall this particular fall, but I see that
it has left a mark upon you - A SCAR ON YOUR LEFT
KNEE! Are you aware of it? If not, LOOK AND SEE NOW –
or when you return home." This is a SENSATIONAL
PUNCH and will hit 99 out of 100 times. It is an old gag
to the 'cold reader', as it is based on the fact that
practically EVERY PERSON, at some time or another,
suffers a fall, and will endeavour to protect themselves
with the LEFT KNEE, and thus suffer an abrasion, which
will leave a scar that will remain thru out life. Check -
look carefully at YOUR own left knee!
Chapter 15
Cold Reading and the internet
In Cold Reading, a difference is made between “cold
reading”, - when you know nothing about the person
you are reading -, and “warm reading”.
Dear,
Though you know very well what you want from life, at
times, you can be very indecisive.
At such moments, you waver and falter when forced to
make a choice, because you have the gift to see both
sides of any question.
I don't know if you realize that you saw and see in him
the strength and humour that you appreciate in your
father.
You have your mother's eyes
She was smaller than you are
You are interested in other cultures
Not exclusive, but inclusive, acceptive, seeing "the
other" as an enrichment as "the own"
not as a threat
Your colours :
white .... .... white linen ... purple lavender
Your number:
one
one man, one child, one house, one .....
unison - unity - unique :
you
Your health:
you had an iron deficiency at one time
do you take magnesium caps? try them
nose ... hmm, not sure here :
As a youngster you did not like your nose --- or chin ?
Been troubled by hay fever? sinus congestion maybe?
smile
Goodnight
Sources
Jerome Burke: Paranormal and Mystery – The psychic
frauds?
Straight Dope Science Advisory Board: “The straight
dope”
Herb Dewey: “Red hold cold reading”, “Portrait of a
woman”
Robert Nelson: “the art of cold reading”
Lee Earle: “The classic reading”
Tradecraft: “The art and science of cold reading”
Ian Rowland: “Full facts book of cold reading.”
Ray Hyman: “How to convince strangers that you know
all about them.”
J.K. Hankinson: “Fortune telling with cards”
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