Personal Development

Quarter 2 – Module 3:
Becoming Responsible in
Personal Relationships

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Module 3
Personal Development
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 Personal Development
Quarter 2 – Module 3:
Becoming Responsible
in Personal Relationships

Introductory Message
This Self-Learning Module (SLM) is prepared so that you, our dear learners,
can continue your studies and learn while at home. Activities, questions,
directions, exercises, and discussions are carefully stated for you to understand
each lesson.
 Each SLM is composed of different parts. Each part shall guide you step-bystep
as you discover and understand the lesson prepared for you.

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need to ask your facilitator or your teacher’s assistance for better understanding of
the lesson. At the end of each module, you need to answer the post-test to self-
check your learning. Answer keys are provided for each activity and test. We trust
that you will be honest in using these.

In addition to the material in the main text, Notes to the Teacher are also
provided to our facilitators and parents for strategies and reminders on how they
can best help you on your home-based learning.

Please use this module with care. Do not put unnecessary marks on any
part of this SLM. Use a separate sheet of paper in answering the exercises and
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If you have any questions in using this SLM or any difficulty in answering the
tasks in this module, do not hesitate to consult your teacher or facilitator.

Thank you.
 What I Need to Know

This module was designed and written with you in mind. It is here to help
you master the nature of Personal Development. The scope of this module permits
it to be used in many different learning situations. The language used recognizes
the diverse vocabulary level of students. The lessons are arranged to follow the
standard sequence of the course. But the order in which you read them can be
changed to correspond with the textbook you are now using.

The lesson in this module is about Becoming Adolescent in a Relationship.

After going through this module, you are expected to:

1. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship;

2. state the importance of becoming responsible in a relationship.

What I Know

Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate
sheet of paper.

1. Below are the three kinds of personal relationships EXCEPT one.

a. gang
b. family
c. friends
d. partnerships

2. What item shows the importance of relationships?

a. It provides food and shelter.
b. It assists one in his/her job.
c. It gives one sense of belongingness.
d. It increases one's enthusiasm towards work.

3. What is meant by having quality time with your loved ones?

a. having cheerful moments with your friends
b. having serious arguments with your parents
c. eating dinner with the complete family members
d. spending a day with the family members in the mall

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4. What is meant by being responsible in a relationship?
a. taking turns to do household chores
b. taking your duty religiously and seriously
c. taking advantage of the kindness of the other party
d. taking your responsibility to keep the relationship healthy

5. What is meant by a sense of security in a relationship?

a. being able to own a property
b. being able to secure all important things
c. being able to know you have someone to rely on
d. being able to feel that you have to someone to protect you

6. What is meant by a sense of reliability in a relationship?

a. knowing that there is someone to blame you
b. knowing that there is someone to do things for you
c. knowing that there is someone whom you can rely on
d. knowing that there is someone who can protect you against trouble

7. What item does NOT show well-communicated love?

a. thumbs up to a boy who hit a homerun
b. a cheer to the performance of a young girl
c. a woman scolding her daughter in front of the cashier
d. a man putting a coat to the old woman seated on a bench

8. What statement does NOT show that a person is a good listener?

a. He/She puts earphones on.
b. He/She gives the person a hug.
c. He/She willingly shared his/her point of view.
d. He/She discusses his/her previous experience.

9. Below are the things that comprise trust EXCEPT one.

a. love
b. honesty
c. interrogation
d. encouragement

10. What is likely to happen when one person consistently receives someone’s
trust?
a. He/she will hate him/herself more.
b. He/she will love him/herself more.
c. He/she will demonstrate unpleasant behaviour.
d. He/she will be confident in whatever thing he/she does.

11. What is meant by non-judgmental listening?

a. reacting violently over the issue
b. keeping what was shared a secret
c. keeping your mouth shot the whole time

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 d. getting the point of view of the person sharing

12. What is meant by commitment in a relationship?

a. forgetting your own identify
b. offering yourself to the relationship
c. insisting someone to offer him/herself in a relationship
d. making the other party comfortable in the relationship

13. How can you show you value your relationship?

a. I will consider the feelings of my loved ones.
b. I will consider the benefit I get from everyone.
c. I will forget the kindness of the people around me.
d. I will take good care of my loved ones when they are sick.

14. What statements do NOT give the importance of relationships?

a. Help one be decisive.
b. Help one sees his/her potentials.
c. Help one boost his/her confidence.
d. Help one to have a sense of direction.

15. How significant is one's understanding about the importance of a relationship

in his/her life?
a. It will help him/her value his/her identity and capabilities.
b. It will help him/her see his/her future problems and avoid them.
c. It will help him/her evaluate his/her relationships with his/her loved ones.
d. It will help him/her create means of communication with his/her loved ones.

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 Lesson Personal Development: Personal
Relationships – Identify ways to
3 become responsible in a relationship
Everyone has the chance to be responsible being involve in any form of
relationship. It is one of the inevitable things in the world. People seek love,
concern, compassion, sympathy of other people essential for them to overcome
challenges in life and to have sense of belongingness.
People also find it awesome when they show the same feelings they receive
from others. Having someone to share your life success and/or agonies in life may
add joy or give relief to one’s life like friends do. However, it may also bring people
to a difficult situation. Thus, learning the art of committing oneself to other people
is as essential as learning to know oneself.
This lesson aims to make you create a more joyful and fruitful relationship
with others. You are expected to understand the essential ways of becoming
responsible in a relationship. Thus, you are also expected to have a successful
relationship with others through a better way of communication and interaction
with someone dear to you.

What’s In

Let us find how well you learned from the previous lesson. Arrange the
jumbled letters to form a meaningful word in each item below. You may write your
answer on the space provided for.
1. A person obliged him/herself to dedicate his/her time to someone
or in doing something.
_____________________________ MNCOITMETM
2. It is the feeling or state of liking or falling for someone or something that
provided pleasure on your part.
_____________________________ RTATCATNOI–
3. It is the act of being very familiar or a special kind of attachment with
the company of someone.
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 _____________________________ YCMATINI–
4. It is a sort of arrangement between two people sharing the same feelings
and responsibility.
_____________________________ PAESRTRNIHP
5. It is an abstract thing that is meant to be shown through different means and is
one of the key elements in any kind of relationship.
_____________________________ OLVE

Notes to the Teacher

As facilitator kindly ask the learner to pick at least two words
from the given items above that he/she wants to expound.

What’s New

Let us try to test your wisdom on how well you manage to become
responsible in handling your relationship with the people around you. Kindly read
each of the situations and give your thoughts.

Situation 1: Conflict with the Parents

You had an agreement with your parents that you would finish senior high
school without engaging in a relationship. However, you fell in love with this
guy/girl that made you more inspired to study hard and make a lot of
achievements. How will you handle this kind of situation?
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Situation 2: Conflict with your best friend (Choose the situation applicable to
you/your gender)
You were courted by a varsity player who is so popular in your school. You
are also aware that he is your best friend’s long-time crush. How would you keep
the friendship without sacrificing your own happiness?
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You are courting a student who is not so popular in your school. You know
well that your friends will mock her for she is not their type. Though you found her
so important and very special to you. How would you make your friends accept her
as your special someone?
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Situation 3: Conflict with your Significant Other

You work with your friends on your research paper. Most of the time you are
with your girl/boyfriend. Your actions and words are so familiar with each other
that is why you get along with each other so easily and work well too without any
difficult feelings except when your girlfriend/boyfriend expresses jealousy over your
friend. How would you help build confidence and trust in your relationship so that
you both surpass this problem?
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What is It

Importance of Relationship
In module 17, you have clearly understood the three different kinds of
relationships Family, Friends and Partnerships. This time you will focus on making
yourself a better person in any and every relationship you have.

Try to go over with your answers with the situations given in What’s New. You
might have noticed how you tried to consider other people in dealing with the
scenarios before coming up with a decision. If that’s how you did the activity, you
should be proud of yourself for you clearly manifest the trait of a person valuing
the importance of relationships.

Valuing the feelings of our family, friends, and partner or significant other can only
be evident if we open our eyes to realize the importance of that relationship. Now,
the question lies with ‘How do we see the importance of relationships?’

The significance of any relationship can never be realized if we cannot see

the beauty that it brings in our lives. The moment we realize how relationships

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actually shape us as a person is the moment that we realize the importance of
relationships in our interactions and behavior.

Some of the importance of relationships are:

1. Lead us to make healthy relationships. All kinds of relationships can give

you the opportunities to establish a stronger relationship with your shared
experiences and feelings with your loved ones.

2. Help us see our potential. People who love you will always see the
wonderful things in you. Through this loving and supportive atmosphere,
you little by little grow as a person, seeing your worth with your capabilities
and unique gift and talent.
3. Boost our confidence. It makes you feel you’re the luckiest person in the
world whenever someone trusts you sufficiently enough. It makes your spirit
enthusiastic and gives you the delightful feeling of self-assurance.

4. Give you a sense of direction. The idea and feeling of sense of

belongingness is such a great source of direction. If you care to give yourself
the reward of having a good life and reputation, you will absolutely do more
for the people you dearly love.

5. Clear our life goals and aspirations. Relationships will help you focus on
one goal and concentrate in achieving it because as the sun sets you know
you have someone whom you can pleasingly offer and share the blissful
feeling of a victorious life with.

6. Build a beautiful person within you. Having all the positive attitudes
towards life and oneself can really create a good aura. Portraying good
personalities can even make you appear and feel young and lovely.

Now that you are aware of the good things you get out from being in a
relationship, this time get yourself hooked with our discussion on how you can
push yourself to be responsible in your own relationships with your loved ones.

Becoming Responsible in a Relationship

When you are in a relationship, you share your experiences and feelings
to help your relationship to grow. However, there are cases that these experiences
may tend to break the relationship if you fail to triumphantly surpass the tests in
your relationships. A sense of responsibility in taking care of your own relationship
can only be established when you realize the boundaries and limitations of your
role and influence in various relationships.

In this complicated world where you may tend to be disarrayed from a

healthy relationship, you can only buckle yourself up with the essential keys on
becoming responsible in any form of our relationships before muddling into serious
problems like unwholesome arguments and/or ugly separation. Read and study
carefully the six major elements of becoming a responsible person in a relationship.

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6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
These six elements of becoming responsible in any form of relationship
will make you gain and maintain a stronger relationship with your family, friends,
and special someone.

1. Mutual Respect
Lack of respect absolutely brings people to an unpleasant
environment and pushes people from respecting one another and
themselves, too.
Establishing mutual respect is easier when one is guided by the virtue
of the Golden Rule once uttered by Jesus of Nazareth explicitly stated in
Matthew 7:12 which has direct English Translation “Do unto others what you
would want others to do unto you.” This may be simply interpreted by the
famous line “Respect begets respect”.
This line means a person shall not trespass in his rights or put
someone down when he/she is wrong. We certainly know how well we should
respect people but whenever we are in a relationship. We tend to forget that
constant nagging, scolding and blaming are equal to humiliating someone
and equates to disrespecting him/her.
It is essential to consider this So in order for us to gain respect from
our loved ones or vice versa, we should instead use encouraging words and
learn the art of acceptance to someone’s unique personality or traits and
lastly practice the principle of forgive and forget.

2. Value Quality Time

Having time for fun will absolutely help you create more memories
worth treasuring. Quality time with your loved ones may mean learning to
love them more. Contradictory to what we usually think it is not the quantity
of time you spend with your loved ones that matters but the quality you
spend with them. For example, having a minute of a heart-warming talk or
making fond memories with your kids that is more valuable than having a
whole day of arguing with them.
For instance, in a family, each member should learn to take serious
matters in a separate occasion and spend precious moments with one
another creating good memories together. These memories will serve as their
investment for the future. The time that they spend together will surely have
a positive impact on their relationship as a family.
For a group of people to have some quality time, each of them must
have a very optimistic aura and jolly personality. Jolly personality is always
and obviously appreciated by most of the people. Optimistic point of view is
really captivating and can drive someone to be a better person, too. Being
a better individual means having a good perspective and that is able to make
sound decisions.
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 Though others may consider different means of spending quality time
with others as sitting quietly together while watching the sunset or reading
their favorite novel together over a cup of coffee, as well.
Optimism and jolliness can surely nurture anyone’s relationship and
turn it to be the best gift one could ever receive in his/her lifetime.

3. Trust and Honesty

Every person deserves to be trusted by someone dear to them
particularly by family, friends, and significant other. It is through genuine
trust that person feels a sense of belongingness and a feeling of being loved.
The person who consistently receives someone’s trust will definitely
grow trusting him/herself based on how others trust him/her. Indeed,
positive encouragement may create a positive outlook in life.
Trust is the heart of all relationships, and because of its presence,
other things follow like confidence, loyalty, and most of all honesty.
However, for one to completely trust and be trusted, you must realize
that the first step towards it is honesty. Trust is earned as they say, but we
should also remember that it is not easy to be honest when you know that
no one trusts you. So, in order to keep someone’s honesty, we should be
ready to trust him/her first, as no one would love to be in a relationship
without trust and honesty. Keep in mind that trust will not be visible without
honesty, as honesty shall not come without trust.

4. Well-Communicated Love
Love we felt may certainly start any form of relationship. However, it is
not the thing that can keep it. Love is just a feeling. What really keeps any
relationship is the love that is well-communicated.
Open communication is one of the most essential elements for any
kind of relationship to keep it going. How can we say that our love is
wellcommunicated? A tap on a shoulder, a kiss on a cheek, a very
encouraging smile, a simple hug, may just be some of the most genuine and
sincerest ways of expressing your love towards one another.
Means of showing well-communicated love may seem to be very simple
for everyone, but in reality, it requires lot of effort. It is not easy to
consistently cheer someone up when you yourself are having a hard time.
Though, that thing per se can make your actions look so genuine and worthy
of being cherished.

5. Reliability and Security

Each one of us dearly loves to have somebody whom we can depend
on and who will guarantee to protect us from any harm or trouble
at any circumstance.

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 This virtue teaches everyone the value of recognizing someone’s
imperfections that he/she is ready to extend him/herself to the person. This
act of kindness will definitely foster a sense of connection, security, and
relief.
A hand that is ready to help would definitely make someone feel
he/she is well-taken care of by someone. This feeling would also develop a
sense of responsibility since he/she would be aware of his/her attitude and
behavior for he/she is being looked upon.
As this affection consistently and mutually exists in both parties, a
stronger relationship might start to develop.

6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence

Who among us would like to be in a company of people who do not
have the heart to listen and give us a chance to explain our sides first? Most
people would find this situation totally unfair.
You may have noticed that there are people who certainly give up in a
relationship for having a difficult kind of feeling, because of being judged for
whatever their past mistakes.
In order to avoid this, listening is the key factor that makes
communication prosper. Sincere listening is also a kind of expressing how
genuine you communicate your love and affection to someone special to you.
Listening with a high value of integrity indicates your presence which
is non-judgmental and not discriminatory.
If we desire to have a stronger relationship with anyone, we should
have the characteristic of a good listener. Being a good listener helps one to
become a good adviser for he/she could easily discern pieces of advice that
could alleviate someone’s feelings. After sharing your thoughts and
experience to someone close to you, you will definitely feel unburdened as if
a heavy stone was lifted from your chest. The weight of your anxiety, worries,
and doubts could diminish just simply by having someone to listen to you
without judgment and prejudice.
This kind of experience will precisely increase your tendency to
reciprocate the love, trust, honesty, and sense of encouragement, reliability,
and security toward another.
No matter what words we use to express the key factors that will make
a healthy relationship, do not forget that it always takes two to tango. For a
relationship to grow and become successful, parties involved should take
their own sets of responsibility.
Remember that being and choosing to be part of any relationship by
any circumstance requires commitment. Committing oneself means offering
the best version of yourself while still learning to accept and wait till the
other party will be able to do the same.

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 What’s More

Activity 1.1 Understanding Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationships

Sentence Completion

Complete the sentence to define the words from your own understanding.

1. Mutual respect pertains to _______________________________________________

2. Well-communicated love is ______________________________________________
3. Being responsible in a relationship means________________________________
4. Quality time for me is having ____________________________________________
5. Sense of Reliability for me is having ______________________________________

Activity 1.3 The List of Five

If you are to name five essential keys to become responsible in a relationship,
what values or personalities would you include to draw your own concept of
being responsible? Write them inside each box, then explain your conceptual
paradigm using the guide questions below.

Guide Questions
1. Why did you choose the values you have given above? How can these values help
one person become responsible in a relationship?

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What I Have Learned

Now that you have completed reading the module and answering all the
activities you are now to sum up all the things you’ve learned through the
following activities.

Activity 1: Fill the blanks.

Try to complete each statement by giving the exact feelings you have that will

suit to complete the idea in each line.

a. Being responsible in a relationship makes me __________________________.

b. A person will become responsible if he/she is __________________________.

c. Valuing our relationship with our loved ones will make us ______________.

Activity 2: Promise Me One thing

With what I have gained from this module I promise to

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What I Can Do

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 You are absolutely looking forward to having a good and harmonious
relationship with your family, friends, and significant other. Remember that you
must have open communication with each other.
Since you have understood the essentials of building strong relationships with
others, you are encouraged to express your apology and appreciation towards
someone who is dearest to you. He/she may be your parent, best friend or
boy/girlfriend.
You are to specifically make a flowchart on how you can build a stronger
relationship by having open communication with your loved ones.
In your flow chart you are to list the most essential means for you to do it.
Kindly use the template below.

REFERENCES
Leo, Amy. 4 Key Elements of Friendships That Inspire. Intention Inspired. Retrieved
June 8, 2020. https://intentioninspired.com/friendships-that-inspire/

Top 4 Elements of Strong Family Relationships. Shady Oak Primary School.

Retrieved June 8, 2020. https://shadyoakprimary.com/top-4-elements-of-
strongfamily-relationships/

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