Body Language

Nonverbal Communication and Body Language
Your facial expressions, gestures, posture, and tone of voice are powerful
communication tools. Here’s how to read and use body language to build better
relationships at home and work.
What is body language?
While the key to success in both personal and professional relationships lies in your
ability to communicate well, it’s not the words that you use but your nonverbal cues
or “body language” that speak the loudest. Body language is the use of physical
behavior, expressions, and mannerisms to communicate nonverbally, often done
instinctively rather than consciously.
Whether you’re aware of it or not, when you interact with others, you’re continuously
giving and receiving wordless signals. All of your nonverbal behaviors—the gestures
you make, your posture, your tone of voice, how much eye contact you make—send
strong messages. They can put people at ease, build trust, and draw others towards
you, or they can offend, confuse, and undermine what you’re trying to convey. These
messages don’t stop when you stop speaking either. Even when you’re silent, you’re
still communicating nonverbally.
In some instances, what comes out of your mouth and what you communicate
through your body language may be two totally different things. If you say one thing,
but your body language says something else, your listener will likely feel that you’re
being dishonest. If you say “yes” while shaking your head no, for example. When
faced with such mixed signals, the listener has to choose whether to believe your
verbal or nonverbal message. Since body language is a natural, unconscious
language that broadcasts your true feelings and intentions, they’ll likely choose the
nonverbal message.
[Read: Effective Communication]
However, by improving how you understand and use nonverbal communication, you
can express what you really mean, connect better with others, and build stronger,
more rewarding relationships.
The importance of nonverbal communication
Your nonverbal communication cues—the way you listen, look, move, and react—tell
the person you’re communicating with whether or not you care, if you’re being
truthful, and how well you’re listening. When your nonverbal signals match up with
the words you’re saying, they increase trust, clarity, and rapport. When they don’t,
they can generate tension, mistrust, and confusion.
If you want to become a better communicator, it’s important to become more

sensitive not only to the body language and nonverbal cues of others, but also to
your own.
Nonverbal communication can play five roles:
 Repetition: It repeats and often strengthens the message you’re making
verbally.
 Contradiction: It can contradict the message you’re trying to convey, thus

indicating to your listener that you may not be telling the truth.
 Substitution: It can substitute for a verbal message. For example, your

facial expression often conveys a far more vivid message than words ever
can.
 Complementing: It may add to or complement your verbal message. As a

boss, if you pat an employee on the back in addition to giving praise, it can
increase the impact of your message.
 Accenting: It may accent or underline a verbal message. Pounding the

table, for example, can underline the importance of your message.
Source: The Importance of Effective Communication, Edward G. Wertheim, Ph.D.
Types of nonverbal communication
The many different types of nonverbal communication or body language include:
Facial expressions. The human face is extremely expressive, able to convey

countless emotions without saying a word. And unlike some forms of nonverbal
communication, facial expressions are universal. The facial expressions for
happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear, and disgust are the same across cultures.
Body movement and posture. Consider how your perceptions of people are

affected by the way they sit, walk, stand, or hold their head. The way you move and
carry yourself communicates a wealth of information to the world. This type of
nonverbal communication includes your posture, bearing, stance, and the subtle
movements you make.
Gestures. Gestures are woven into the fabric of our daily lives. You may wave,
point, beckon, or use your hands when arguing or speaking animatedly, often
expressing yourself with gestures without thinking. However, the meaning of some
gestures can be very different across cultures. While the “OK” sign made with the
hand, for example, usually conveys a positive message in English-speaking
countries, it’s considered offensive in countries such as Germany, Russia, and
Brazil. So, it’s important to be careful of how you use gestures to avoid
misinterpretation.
Eye contact. Since the visual sense is dominant for most people, eye contact is an
especially important type of nonverbal communication. The way you look at
someone can communicate many things, including interest, affection, hostility, or
attraction. Eye contact is also important in maintaining the flow of conversation and
for gauging the other person’s interest and response.
Touch. We communicate a great deal through touch. Think about the very different
messages given by a weak handshake, a warm bear hug, a patronizing pat on the
head, or a controlling grip on the arm, for example.
Space. Have you ever felt uncomfortable during a conversation because the other
person was standing too close and invading your space? We all have a need for
physical space, although that need differs depending on the culture, the situation,
and the closeness of the relationship. You can use physical space to communicate
many different nonverbal messages, including signals of intimacy and affection,
aggression or dominance.
Voice. It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it. When you speak, other people
“read” your voice in addition to listening to your words. Things they pay attention to
include your timing and pace, how loud you speak, your tone and inflection, and
sounds that convey understanding, such as “ahh” and “uh-huh.” Think about how
your tone of voice can indicate sarcasm, anger, affection, or confidence.

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Nonverbal Communication and Body Language

What is body language?

[Read: Effective Communication]

The importance of nonverbal communication

If you want to become a better communicator, it’s important to become more

 Contradiction: It can contradict the message you’re trying to convey, thus

 Substitution: It can substitute for a verbal message. For example, your

 Complementing: It may add to or complement your verbal message. As a

 Accenting: It may accent or underline a verbal message. Pounding the

Source: The Importance of Effective Communication, Edward G. Wertheim, Ph.D.

Types of nonverbal communication

The many different types of nonverbal communication or body language include:

Facial expressions. The human face is extremely expressive, able to convey

Body movement and posture. Consider how your perceptions of people are

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