Self ReiK Manual for

Narcissism
ReiK Method ®

(Early Edition)

By: Mohammed Kilani

Copyright © 2021 by Mohammed Kilani
All rights reserved.

www.reikmethod.com

ISBN: 978-1-63732-796-8
 Before we Begin, Remember:

If a feeling is too strong, do not try to work on a

trauma before neutralizing the feeling first with
the Reverse ReiK procedure.
The Purpose of a Standard Narcissism Session

If you read Narcissism is a Trauma, you’re probably aware

that this trauma thrives on ironies, which requires
additional procedures that target a good understanding of
the origin of this problem, which takes place by
solidifying some arguments before the therapist begins to
tackle the roots of the trauma, which in turn is due to the
loss in the sense of warmth and safety at an early age in
childhood.

The target of a standard session is to give the patient a

full understanding of the problem, as well as the best
chance to be able to take responsibility without needing
additional help, although it’s normal for some to ask for
assistance in the future, it’s the ethical obligation of
the therapist to do this, even on the very first session,
if the patient was willing to cooperate.
For this to happen, the therapist needs to make sure
his/her patients go through these steps:
1. The understanding that introversion, shyness, low
self-esteem, and any feelings of inferiority are
always a product of narcissism, contrary to what’s
commonly believed. Remember that it all begins with
this realization: The realization that introversion is
a narcissism, simply because it’s the negative view of
people that causes this person to withdraw from
society.

2. The understanding that, statistically speaking, people

are good in nature, and that it’s unfair to judge
people as if they are set to hurt the patient. This is
exactly what the 100 People Argument is set to
accomplish.

3. Acknowledging that people are all the same and that

all feelings of inferiority are unjustified, as well
as the fact that there’s no excuse for not putting the
work to get to the level that a person aspires, which
 is what the Skillset Argument is set to accomplish.

4. Navigating quickly through the patient’s traumas and

attempting to resolve at least one major incident that
made a pivotal change on the patient’s life. This also
sets the road for the patient to be able to work on
anything else autonomously with the Self ReiK
procedure later on.

5. The fourth step comprises of a Master Test that checks

out whether or not the patient is able to forgive
his/her parents completely by imagining hugging them
individually without any form of resistance, and later
by summoning the feeling of warmth that has been long
lost for him/her as a child.

6. And before ending the session, the therapist

emphasizes the importance of beginning to acquire
skills and meeting up with new people by utilizing
good habits, as well as teaches the patient how to
help him/herself with the Self ReiK procedure in the
future.

With proper implementation, the preceding steps give the

patient the highest chance to take off even after the very
first session, and while some patients find it enough to
proceed on their own afterwards, others find it hard to
handle the relapses that occur once they attempt to
interact with people and come back requiring further
assistance.

Most of these relapses usually happen due to:

- The incapacity to forgive those who hurt him/her.
- The patient’s lack of experience in dealing with
different social situations.
- As well as due to some minor traumas that can still be
present underneath the lid of Narcissism
(introversion).
Let me give you an example:

Let’s assume that an introverted patient attended a

standard ReiK session for narcissism and seemed to
understand very well the nature of the problem as well as
the proposed solution. And let’s assume that the patient
left the session enthusiastic and willing to start over and
attempt to build a healthy life and applied the practices
that were suggested to him/her during the session, only to
return at a later time with the following concern:

(Script Example)

Patient: “I am experiencing major changes in the way I deal

with people, and I indeed began to socialize more and see
people differently. However, sometimes I can’t help but
feel intimidated by people and I avoid eye contact, I still
have those feelings of shame haunting me, I wish I can be
completely spontaneous and natural.”

This is an example of a “Fragment Trauma”, as well as an

indication of the lack of some skills on the part of the
patient, and I think you’d agree with me that it makes no
sense to come for a session every time an inconveniencing
situation takes place with the patient, which is exactly
why it was necessary to formulate a practical way for
patients to self-assist themselves whenever such
inconveniencing emotions are experienced, and this
procedure was termed: The Self ReiK.

Similar to the steps that are performed during a full ReiK

session, Self ReiK simply targets the dissolution of these
Fragment Traumas using a quick and practical procedure that
anyone can perform whenever a negative emotion arises and
seems to bother this person.

Those relapses appear under different conditions and due to

different fragment traumas. They seem to be random in
nature in the way they present themselves, but they do all
generally stem out from the patient’s feelings of
inferiority and incapacity to trust in the love of other
people, which has its roots in the loss of the patient’s
feelings of safety in early childhood, usually by having
parents who have the same problem to begin with. As a
consequence, this initiates a turmoil of ironies, that
present themselves in different adaptations of ideologies
entwined with feelings of inferiority.
Recurring Problems & Challenges that Face
Introverted Narcissists

1- Anger keeps returning because narcissists do not

forgive easily, and have a problem expressing emotions
with those around them, for which you must utilize the
Reverse ReiK every time, don’t try to work on a trauma
if you’re flaring with anger.

2- Due to the lack in their sense of safety, they do not

trust in the love of those around them, and in (almost)
anyone else, this makes them feel constantly
emotionally deprived.

3- This also causes them to get to attached to those they

choose to get the love and sense of safety from, and
leads them to extreme disappointments and anger if they
fail to receive it from that person.

4- They also often experience deep feelings of sadness

because they don’t feel that they belong, and also
because they feel inferior to people.

5- They find it hard to be spontaneous and are often too

serious, and they feel bad about it when they see other
people interacting spontaneously.

6- They can’t allow themselves to smile and be genuinely

happy.

7- They have deep feelings of loneliness, which triggers

states of depression, sometimes bipolar in nature.

8- They can’t handle anyone being better than them around,

and withdraw due to these feelings.

9- Can feel confused because they keep procrastinating

what they do.
Three Points That I Must Emphasize

It’s completely necessary for the therapist to come out of

the session with these points cemented into the mind of the
patient:

1- The patient must constantly work on forgiving his/her

parents and the people that hurt him/her in the past,
and then restore the sense of safety and warmth with
them and with people in general. The Master Test is an
essential tool to accomplish this.

2- The patient must agree to dedicate 30 minutes a day of

work in the direction of any skill/accomplishment that
he/she wishes to get good at in the near future, and
must use this as an evidence that people are alike, no
one is inferior or superior to others. This will also
show them that they tend to procrastinate a lot and
justify their actions with a victim mentality.

3- The patient must also agree to commit to any routine

activity that enables him/her to meet up with new
people, with the request that he/she only needs to
greet people naturally before engaging in that
activity. This is used to prove that people are
generally good in nature, and that he/she does not have
the right to see people negatively in a collective
manner.
Review of The Master Test

The Master Test is an essential tool that enables the

patient to review his/her progress, forgive the people by
whom he/she was hurt in the past, as well as gradually
restore the sense of warmth that was lost, eliminating the
negative view of people in the process.

It flows like this:

The steps are performed as follows:

- First:

The patient will imagine hugging each of the parents

individually, noticing if there’s any kind of
resistance.

- Second:

If resistance is experienced, it mostly means that the

patient hasn’t yet fully forgiven the parents for
whatever has happened in the past (remember that
introverted narcissists have a problem forgiving the
people who have hurt them and tend to hold on to
anger).

The Reverse ReiK procedure can be performed to aid the

dissolution of any lingering anger.

- Third:

The person attempts then to imagine hugging the parents

again, and if he/she can do it comfortably, the patient
then goes back to the original pre-state, of him/her
sleeping on the chest of their parents as a baby.

Subject then begins to imagine noticing the breath of

the parent as he/she sleeps with his/her head on the
parent’s chest, few seconds into that, a sense of
warmth should be experienced in the chest of the
patient.

- Fourth:

The patient then asks him/herself:

 “This sense of warmth I’m feeling right now, what
prevents me from feeling it when I’m with people, no
matter who they are and where I am?”

The patient should challenge him/herself with this

question, and attempt to dissolve and traumas that
stand in the way of having this feeling present in
his/her imagination, and consequently in real life.

Truth is, extroverts are extroverts because they are

comfortable around people, and it’s mostly due to the
fact that they have a well-developed sense of safety
since their early childhood, which is exactly what
dissolving the narcissism trauma is set to accomplish.

Introverts on the other hand did not have this sense of

warmth mature for them unfortunately, which is what caused
them to lose trust in people and become convinced about
their incapacity to be loved.

This master exercise is hence extremely essential to help

them attain this gradually, and the patient should be
attempting to do this exercise often until feeling safe
between people becomes natural to him or her. When that’s
done, all that’s left is to work on any remaining fragment
traumas, and develop any necessary skills to aid them in
doing whatever they aspire to do.
Brief About the Steps of the Self-ReiK Procedure

The Self-ReiK procedure is composed of five steps:

- Step 1: Entry

The beginning of the Self ReiK Procedure is similar to

relaxing into self-hypnosis session.

The subject initiates an inner dialogue that is similar

to the following:

“Sit in a comfortable position and relax your body,

just ask it to relax. Take a deep breath, hold it, and
let go. Take another deep breath, hold it, and let go.
Begin to relax your body part by part, start with your
feet, your ankles, your shins, thighs, waist, stomach,
chest, shoulders, and arms. Relax your face, let every
muscle relax completely. Relax your head, and let this
wave of relaxation go through your back, and your
entire body.”

- Step 2: Test the Opposite

Once the subject relaxes, he/she begins by testing the

ideal state that he/she wishes to live in.

For example, the subject can imagine a scenario with

the following inner dialogue:

“Go back and imagine yourself interacting with that

people you were just with, and imagine yourself
speaking confidently and joyfully.”

The subject takes a little time to notice the

resistance that arises, then he/she isolates the
dominant feeling and moves to the next step to perform
the Blind Procedure.
- Step 3: Perform the Blind Procedure:

The Blind Procedure is utilized to find the first onset

of that feeling.

(Explained in full in previous volumes.)

- Step 4: Accessing The Pre-State:

Once the first incident is identified, the subject then

moves backwards a little further to live in the pre-
state for a short while, until full relaxation is
attained.

- Step 5: Exit

Once the subject is satisfied with the level of

relaxation, the exit procedure is done to get out of
the hypnotic state comfortably.
The Structure of the Self ReiK
Meditation

Entry

TOP

If a Trauma is Present

BP

PRE-STATE

Exit
Top Recurring Fragment Traumas
For Daily Exploration
Fragment Trauma #1

I Feel Inferior When I’m with

People

Example (TOP)

Imagine going to a family event with a lot of

people around, and imagine standing between those
relatives. Look at their faces and imagine feeling
comfortable, what prevents you from doing that?

Practice Chart

Notes
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Fragment Trauma #2

I Don’t Feel That They Love Me

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #3

I Feel People Are Scary

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #4

I Feel Inferior to People

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #5

I Feel Lonely

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #6

I Don’t Look Good

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #7

I Feel Depressed

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #8

I Can't Handle Seeing Someone

Better Than Me

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #9

I Don’t Feel That I Belong

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #10

Recurring Feelings of Shame

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #11

I Don’t Know How to Act, or What to

Say, When I’m with People

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #12

Can’t Have Normal Eye Contact, Feel

Intimidated and/or Guilty

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #13

I Feel Awkward When I’m Around

People

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #14

I’m Intimidated by Older /

Authoritative Figures

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #15

I Feel Pressured When People Talk

to Me or Ask Me to Do Things

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #16

I’m Afraid of Making Mistakes

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #17

I Don’t Know How to Talk

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #18

I Appalled by People’s Ignorance

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #19

I Don’t Like People in General

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #20

I Can’t Be Spontaneous Like Other

People Are

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #21

My Parents Don’t Love Me

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #22

I Experience a Lot of Anger

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #23

I Keep Procrastinating

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #24

I Stay Silent When I’m with People

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #25

I Was Hurt a Lot

(To be completed.)
Fragment Trauma #25

I Fear People’s Judgement

(To be completed.)