Beyond Success Final-Final

R O U N D TA B L E S
Content
A Message from John C. Maxwell 2
Beyond Success
1. Attitude 3
2. Personal Growth 7
3. Priorities 11
4. Relationships 15
5. My Most Important Relationship 19
6. From Good Intentions to Good Actions 23
7. From Success to Significance 27
Extra Session 30
About John C. Maxwell 34
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A Message from
John C. Maxwell
Dear Friend,
What do you want out of life?
In my five decades of working with people and striving to add value to them, I’ve come to
believe that deep down, everyone wants to be successful, live a life of purpose, and make a
difference.
Does that describe you? If so, these roundtable lessons will help you. They have been
designed to add value to you, help you become more successful, and start you on a road that
goes even beyond success.
For the next seven weeks, you will have an opportunity to discuss subjects that are keys to
success, such as priorities, attitude, and relationships. You’ll also have a chance to learn about
and discuss intentional living, which I have discovered to be the bridge to a life of significance.
Mahatma Gandhi advised us to be the change we want to see in the world. If I want my home,
my workplace, my community, or my country to be better, then I need to become better. We do
that by becoming intentional about improving ourselves. And one of the best benefits is that it
puts us in a place to add value to others.
So, I want to welcome you into an exciting process. If you are willing to talk honestly in these
meetings and are open to positive change, you will be amazed at what can happen in only
seven weeks. And you also will be encouraged by the positive impact you can make on others.
Thank you for making an investment in yourself and others.

Your friend,
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R O U N D TA B L E 1 “Attitude is the difference maker!
Attitude isn’t everything, but it is one thing
Attitude that can make a difference in your life.”
- John C. Maxwell
The world you see is colored by your attitude.
Note: The estimated time for each roundtable step is based on an eight-person NOTES
roundtable.
Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)

Since this is the first session, introduce yourself to the group and tell them
something brief about you.
Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)

Watch the video of today's session and take note of what you find important.
INSIGHT
Directions: Take turns reading the paragraphs below. As you read, underline
the ideas that capture your attention.
When you think of attitude, what comes to mind? You may not be able to easily
define attitude, but you know a good or a bad one when you see it.
Your attitude colors every aspect of your life. It is like the mind’s paintbrush. It can
paint everything in bright, vibrant colors—creating a masterpiece. Or it can make
everything dark and dreary. If you look at the lives of people in any profession
who achieve lasting success, you will find that they almost always possess a
positive outlook on life.
Having a positive attitude is essential. It not only determines your level of

contentment as a person, but it also has an impact on how others interact with
you.
To learn more about what it means to be positive, think about these things:
Your attitude is a choice you make. Average people want to wait for someone
else to motivate them. They are tempted to believe that their circumstances are
responsible for the way they think and feel. In reality, attitude is always a choice.
In fact, while we can’t control many of our circumstances, we can always control
our attitudes. And choosing a positive attitude makes any circumstances look
better. When you choose your attitude, you are taking control of an important
aspect of your life, rather than just letting life control you.
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Your attitude affects your outlook. When you choose to focus on the positive in NOTES
your surroundings, you tend to see more positive things. Choosing a positive
attitude about your current situation enables you to see future circumstances in
a positive light. Your attitude at this moment colors your perspective both now
and in the future.
Your attitude precedes your actions. Actions are always an outward expression
of your inner feelings. The way you feel about a given circumstance or situation
will impact the way you react to it. When you change how you feel, you change
how you act. By choosing a positive attitude, you make it easier for you to choose
positive actions. And this often leads to a positive outcome.
Your attitude enhances your relationships. Your attitude regarding people will
impact your relationships with them. If you start with a negative attitude about a
person, you will tend to focus on all of their negative qualities. A positive attitude
about a person causes you to focus on their positive qualities. By choosing to see
someone in a positive light, you will act toward them in a positive manner. They
will usually respond in kind.
Your attitude alters your outcomes. In his book, The Winning Attitude, John C.
Maxwell states, “Our attitude at the beginning of a task will affect its outcome
more than anything else.” Whether you are choosing to be cheerful about a task,
or choosing to believe in your ability to accomplish it, a positive attitude
empowers you to do your best work. It makes team interaction go more smoothly.
And very frequently, it delivers the results that you desire. Expecting the best
usually results in the best. Thinking positively on the front end is critical to
success.
BENEFITS
When you develop a positive attitude, you experience the

following benefits:
1. You are content and enjoy life more.

2. You inspire others to achieve more together.
3. You attract people who exhibit the same qualities.
4. You see the opportunities in every situation.
5. You usually exhibit gratitude toward others.
6. You keep pushing until you succeed.
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STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES
1. Talk to yourself. The most important person to listen to is yourself. What you tell
yourself about your situation is either an anchor that holds you back or a sail that
propels you forward. Choose to think positive thoughts. When negative
thoughts arise, respond to them with positivity. Tell yourself something positive
in response. Don’t let the negative voices inside your mind influence you to see
things negatively. Immediately find the positive in the situation before moving
forward. Remember, you can choose what you think.
2. Choose positive relationships over negative ones. Think about the people
that you spend a lot of time with. Are their attitudes primarily positive or
negative? Attitude is contagious. So you should spend as much time as possible
with people who choose to think positively. Their willingness to see the good in
a situation will encourage you to make the same choice. If your circumstances
don’t allow you to completely avoid negative people, then seek out positive
people and spend time with them to counteract negative influences in your life.
3. Feed your faith, starve your fears. Choosing a positive attitude is challenging
at first. It’s especially difficult if you haven’t been filling your mind with positive
input. If you’ve been starved of anything positive, then you need to start feeding
yourself a regular diet of motivational material. Read books that encourage a
positive attitude. Listen to affirming messages. The more negative you are, the
longer it will take to turn your attitude around. But if you consume a steady diet
of the right mental “food,” you can become a positive thinker.
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Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)
Reflect and respond

Choose something you underlined that is important to you. Take one minute to tell everyone
what you chose and why it is important to you.
Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)
Evaluation and action

Complete the self-evaluation section below.
Rate how well you demonstrate this quality in your life on a scale of 1-10.
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Why did you give yourself this rating?
What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?
Who do you know that exemplifies this quality? What do you admire most about that person?
What specific action can you take immediately that will improve your rating?
Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)
Take a minute to share your responses to the self-evaluation section, including the step you will
take to improve in this area. Everyone is asked to participate.
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R O U N DTA B L E 2 “If you focus on goals, you may hit goals—but
that doesn’t guarantee growth. If you focus
Personal Growth on growth, you will grow and always hit goals.”
- John C. Maxwell
People who keep learning always have a future.
roundtable.

What action step did you commit to last week? What were the results?

INSIGHT
“Do you have a plan for personal growth?”
That’s the question Curt Kampmeier posed to John C. Maxwell over breakfast
when John was twenty-five. Curt was someone whom John had sought out after
hearing him talk about the principles of success.
That question changed John’s life, because he had never before considered
personal growth as something he should plan; until that moment, John didn’t
even realize that personal growth was something he needed to be intentional
about. And from that time on, he has made intentional personal growth his goal.
If you want to live your life at the highest level and reach your potential, you must,
as John says, “learn how to grow and develop yourself so you have the best
chance of becoming the person you were meant to be.”
Here are three insights to help you begin your journey of personal growth:
Growth isn’t automatic. Unlike wines and cheeses, people don’t necessarily get
better with age. Growth isn’t a guaranteed process. As John says, “You cannot
expect wisdom to automatically come with age. Sometimes age comes alone.”
Growth begins with humility—you have to recognize your need for growth, which
means putting aside pride and being honest with yourself. Growth is sustained
when you commit to a plan that helps you grow.
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You must value yourself to add value to yourself. Often the greatest barrier to NOTES
intentional personal growth is low self-esteem. When people don’t see
themselves as valuable, they are reluctant to work at improving themselves.
Every person has value. Every person has the potential to grow. That includes
you. We should never compare ourselves to anyone else. We should only
compare the person we are with the person we could become if we grew. Then
we should strive to become that person of potential.
You can only give something you have. In his book, The 15 Invaluable Laws of
Growth, John highlights the powerful truth that we should be contributors to the
world around us. As John says, we should become like rivers, not reservoirs; we
should share what we have, not hoard it.
Personal growth fuels our capacity for giving to those around us. When we keep
growing, we always have something to give. This process of giving our best to
help others ultimately results in others giving their best to help us, too. Personal
growth fuels a culture of excellence and abundance.
BENEFITS
If you consistently pursue personal growth, you will experience

the following benefits:
1. You will produce greater and continued success for yourself and
others.
2. You will unlock and achieve your full potential.
3. You will gain the confidence and ability to invest in the people
around you.
4. You will focus on developing your strengths.
5. You will grow in humility and self-awareness.
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1. Cure your destination disease. Many people make it their life goal to achieve
a certain position, acquire some type of recognition or title, or earn a certain
amount of money. What’s the problem? If they achieve their goal, they stop
improving. Instead, make growth itself your goal, so that who you are becoming
holds more importance than where you are going.
2. Learn something new every day. A friend once asked John, “When was the
last time you learned something for the first time?” The growth you experienced
last week, last month, or last year won’t sustain you. You need to keep learning
now. Pick something new to learn and start today.
3. Intentionally plan your growth. How do you want to grow? Who do you want
to become? Do you want to improve your craft? Do you want to become a
better leader? Do you want to improve your people skills? Find books,
messages, podcasts, articles, workshops, and conferences that will help you to
grow. Then plan out which you will take advantage of every week in the next
year.
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Reflect and respond


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R O U N DTA B L E 3 “People who reach their potential and fulfill
their dreams determine and act on their
Priorities priorities daily.”
- John C. Maxwell
Clear priorities show you what to do and where to go.
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INSIGHT
When you approach your day, how do you determine what to do first? Do you
have a strategy? Only a focus on priorities will enable you to decide what is really
important. Everyone who wants to accomplish something of value has a full
calendar. The question is not “will my calendar be full?” but rather, “what will fill
my calendar?”
If you don’t have a plan in place for achieving what’s most important to you, you’ll
spend all of your time reacting to what is important to someone else.
So what is the secret to living according to priorities?
Don’t confuse activity with accomplishment. Being busy isn’t the same as being
productive. If you spend every minute of your work day doing things that don’t
matter, that won’t help you.
By deciding on your priorities ahead of time, you are able to plan your activities
wisely. When you identify the most important areas you should focus on, you can
direct your energy toward them. That may require you to say no to some things.
Good. Sometimes you need to say no to good things, so that you can say yes to
great things.
Put First Things First. Author Robert J. McKain writes, “The reason most major
goals are not achieved is that we spend our time doing second things first.”
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When you know your priorities, it allows you to put first things first. One tool you NOTES
can use is the Pareto Principle. This principle, which is also known as the 80-20
rule, states that you should spend 80 percent of your time and attention on the
top 20 percent of your tasks. In other words, if you have ten items to do, you
should put them in priority order and spend nearly all of your time on the top two
items. This leads to the highest level of productivity.
Identify your priorities based on requirement, return, and reward. In your work,
you should try to focus your time and effort in three main areas: 1) Tasks that are
required of you by your employer that no one else can do. You must do these to
fulfill your job responsibilities. 2) Tasks that yield a high return for your effort
because they use your greatest strengths and talents. This is your sweet spot.
And 3) tasks that are highly rewarding to you on a personal level. Your ultimate
goal should be to work most of the time in only these three areas.
John says, “If the requirements of my job are the same as the strengths that give
me the highest return, and doing those things brings me great pleasure, then I
will be successful.”
BENEFITS
When you have clearly defined priorities, you experience the

following benefits:
1. You experience high satisfaction when you accomplish a task.

2. You get to spend the best of your energy on the most important
tasks.
3. You know which things should come first and can act on them.
4. You don’t waste time on things that are non-essential.
5. You can focus on what matters the most.
6. You develop the power to say no to what doesn’t align with your
priorities.
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1. Journal your time. For one week, keep a journal that documents how you
spend your time. Hour by hour, write down everything you do, no matter how
small or inconsequential it seems. At the end of the week, identify tasks that are
time-wasters, tasks that don’t align with your priorities, and areas where you
were on target. Also identify priorities that did not get the time they should have
gotten from you. If you become aware of how you spend your time, you can
begin focusing more of it on things that are a priority. Adjust how you spend
your time the next week.
2. Shift to strengths. Make a list of three or four things you do well. What
percentage of your time do you spend doing those things? What percentage of
your resources is dedicated to your areas of strength? Devise a plan to make
changes allowing you to dedicate 80 percent of your time to your strengths. If
you can’t, it may be time to reassess your job or career.
3. Make today your masterpiece. As you approach your day, plan it according to
your priorities. Look at your calendar and your to-do list before the day begins,
to determine how you will spend your time. Then do what you can to make the
day the best you possibly can.
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Reflect and respond


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R O U N DTA B L E 4 “All things being equal, people will work with
people they like. All things not being equal,
Relationships they still will.”
- John C. Maxwell
The quality of your relationships determines the quality

of your life.
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INSIGHT
Most of life’s great experiences—the ones that resonate in our hearts and
minds—involve other people. Rarely do we experience them alone. And even
when we do, our first inclination is to share them with others.
Think back to the most important experiences of your life, the highest highs, the
greatest victories, the most daunting obstacles overcome. How many of them
happened to you alone? Probably very few. When you understand that being
connected to others is one of life’s greatest joys, then you realize that life’s best
comes when you initiate and invest in solid relationships.
Few things in life are more important than people and our relationships with
them. The quality of our relationships impacts every area of our lives. For that
reason, we should do everything we can to create solid, positive relationships.
Here are some things to keep in mind as you do:
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Developing trust is like creating

the foundation of a building. It takes time and effort. But if it’s done right, the
building that stands on it is solid. It can weather storms and earthquakes.
Every person either lifts others up or takes them down. People are the sources
of both our greatest joys and our greatest challenges. That’s why John C.
Maxwell teaches the Elevator Principle, which says, “We can lift people up or take
people down in our relationships.” When we help and encourage others, we lift
them up. We add to their lives. We make them better. When we are negative and
selfish, we take people down. Every day, we get to choose which we will be.
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Believing the best in people usually brings out the best in people. Each of us NOTES
has a choice in life. We can see the worst in people and base our treatment of
them on low expectations, or we can choose to see the best in them and treat
them accordingly.
It’s true that everyone gets disappointed by others in life. Everyone gets hurt.
Everyone has trust and confidence misused. But our past disappointments don’t
have to color our future. We can and should try to build solid relationships,
starting with the people closest and most important to us—our family—and
radiating out from there.
BENEFITS
When you develop good relationships with people, you experience

the following benefits:
1. You live at peace with others.

2. You develop a strong network of people who want the best for
you.
3. You experience the satisfaction of meeting the needs of others.
4. You experience the harmony of being treated as well as you treat
others.
5. You are more likely to receive support from others when you need
it.
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1. Put others first. John C. Maxwell reminds us that the entire population of the
world—with one minor exception—is composed of other people. If we maintain
this perspective, it helps us to remember to put other people first. This week,
focus on serving others and putting their needs ahead of your own.
2. Seek to understand others before being understood. Another lesson taught

by John is the Exchange Principle, which says, “Instead of putting others in their
place, we must put ourselves in their place.” How do you do that? By listening and
working harder at understanding the other person’s point of view instead of trying
to get them to understand yours. This week, make it your goal to speak less, listen
more, and understand others.
3. Repair a broken relationship. If you have a broken relationship, you need to

do all that you can to repair it. This usually requires that you take the first step. Do
something to reach out to someone that you might have wronged, even if the
relationship breakdown is not all your fault. When you make good relationships a
priority, you sometimes have to go first in rebuilding them. Apologize for your
contribution to the problem, and be open and forgiving, even if the other person
does not respond in kind.
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This is an optional session created by John
C. Maxwell in which he discusses his faith.
My Most Important If you would like to participate, you can
either proceed with this roundtable like
Relationship the others.
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INSIGHT
You’ve just finished doing a roundtable on relationships, and I want to give you an
opportunity to learn about the most important relationship in my life: my
relationship with God, my greatest friend.
I’ve often asked myself why so many people don’t have a relationship with God.
I believe that if people knew him as I know him and saw him as I see him, they
would become people of faith.
That led me to the conclusion that most people have a wrong picture of who God
is. And that causes them to misunderstand who he is and miss out on having a
relationship with him. So I want to discuss four images people have when they
picture God. Three of those images are wrong, and one is right. The last one
shows God as he really is and as he wants us to see him.
1. A fence
When some people think of God, they picture a fence or a wall. I mean a really
tall, forbidding wall with no doors, no openings, and no way around it. People
who see God this way believe in him, and they sense that he’s on the other side
of that fence, but they feel that there is no way on earth to get to God. He’s
unreachable. So they give up trying. And they believe they will never get to meet
him.
My friend, this is a wrong picture. Do you know why I say that? When Adam and
Eve sinned in the Garden of Eden, they hid from God. But what did God do? He
didn’t ignore them. He came looking for them. He wanted to connect with them.
God wants to find you, and he’s willing to jump the fence for you!
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2. A ladder NOTES
When other people think of God, they picture a ladder. They see God as high up,
and they hope to climb the ladder to get to him. How? By doing good works,
doing the right things, and trying to be a good person. They hope that if they’re
good enough, they can work their way up and someday get to God.
This is another wrong picture. There is nothing you or I can do on our own to get
to God. We can never be good enough, and we will never do enough to earn our
way.
I know this because the Bible, which is God’s message to us, says it isn’t possible
to work our way to God. Ephesians 2:8-9, says, “For it is by God’s grace that you
have been saved through faith. It is not the result of your own efforts, but God’s
gift, so that no one can boast about it.” We cannot earn a relationship with God.
We can only receive it as a gift, as a result of God’s sending Jesus to die for us.
3. A garbage can
Some people think of God, and what comes to mind is all the negative things
about themselves that they’ve done and would like to forget. It’s like they’re
looking at a filthy garbage can. And they’re ashamed. They say to themselves,
“I’m not worthy to see God. I’ve done too much wrong. God doesn’t want to see
me. I’ll avoid him.”
This is another wrong picture of who God is. Do you know why? Because no
matter what you’ve done wrong, God still loves you. He always has, and he
always will.
I say this because of how Jesus spent his life. People criticized Jesus for
spending time with thieves, prostitutes, and other sinners. The religious
authorities said Jesus wasn’t religious enough. But Jesus told them that he was a
doctor—a spiritual doctor. And doctors spend time with sick people to heal them,
not with well people.
God’s heart for us is described by a parable Jesus told about the good shepherd.
The shepherd left the ninety-nine obedient sheep who were with him to go find
the one that was lost. That is the character of God. He reaches out to us. He
wants to save us.
I love what the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17: “Anyone who belongs to Christ is
a new person. The past is forgotten, and everything is new.” That gives me a lot
of comfort. It means that God has the ability to look beyond my past and love me.
He can also do that for you.
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4. A door NOTES
The last picture I want to share with you is of a door. It’s the door to our hearts.
God stands on the other side of that door and gently knocks, asking to come into
our lives. This is the true picture of God.
In the Bible, Jesus says, “I stand at the door and knock. If you hear me call and
open the door I will come in.” And that’s a promise if we open that door. He
doesn’t say maybe. He says he will.
God wants us to know him. He wants a relationship with us. And you need to
understand something. If God is 1,000 steps away from you, he will take the first
999 steps to get to you. All he asks you and me to do is take one step.
If you’re thinking that you want to know this God who loves you unconditionally,
then all you need to do is pray something like this to him:
Thank you, Jesus, for loving me so much that you died on the cross for me.
Today I know that you are knocking on my heart’s door and asking to come
into my life. So I open my heart’s door. I ask you to come in and live with me,
to forgive my sins, and to be my savior and my friend. From this day forward
I’m going to live with you, love you, and follow you. Thank you for forgiving
me of every sin and making me a new person in Christ. Amen.
If you genuinely open your heart to God, then he will change your life as he has
mine, and you will start a beautiful relationship with him. If that is so, then
welcome to the family of God.
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Reflect and respond

Answer these questions (Optional)

Take one or two minutes to share your response to these questions:
1. Is faith something that has been important to you in the past? Explain.
2. Do you relate to any of the four pictures of God? If so, explain. If not, why not?
3. Do you intend to take any action in response to John’s message? If so, what?
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“Everything worthwhile is uphill.”
From Good Intentions

- John C. Maxwell
to Good Actions
Intentional living: The bridge to significance.
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INSIGHT
¿What will it take for you to be successful? Maybe that’s a question you have
asked yourself before. Most people do. If you were asked that question right
now, how would you answer? Opportunities? Education? Money? Relationships
with influential people? Recognition? Talent?
If you asked John C. Maxwell for his answer, you might be surprised. He says,
“Intentional living is the key to everything you want to accomplish in life. It’s more
important than where you were born, how much talent you have, or what kinds of
connections you have. Intentional living empowers people to make the uphill
climb to success—and to significance.”
Most people want to be successful. Most people also want to make a difference.
They want their lives to count. And they have good intentions about these things.
But good intentions aren’t enough to achieve success or experience
significance. That requires intentional living.
John C. Maxwell explains that intentional living is characterized by three words:
Deliberate: Being intentional never occurs by accident. It requires people to

think about their lives, consider where they want to go, and plan what they intend
to do.
Consistent: Being intentional requires a person to follow through every day,

week after week, year after year. Intentional living is a journey, not a destination.
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I N T E N T I O N S T O G O O D AC T I O N S
Willful: Being intentional is a choice we must make and continue making as we NOTES
face obstacles and challenges. Making a difference takes ongoing effort.
These three words are essential for you to travel the uphill journey of
significance.
Most people rely on their good intentions, hoping that they will be enough to
achieve success and experience significance. But there is a world of difference
between good intentions and intentional living. Read the following list of words
and observe the difference between them:
Good intentions Intentional living
Desire Action
Wish Purpose
Someday Today
Fantasy Strategy
“Hopefully” “Definitely”
Passive Active
Occasional Continual
Emotion Discipline
“Somebody should” “I will”
As you look at these lists, can you see why good intentions alone are never
enough to change your lifestyle? If all you ever do is cultivate good intentions, but
you never act with intentionality, you’re actually likely to become more frustrated
and less fulfilled. Your desire for positive change may increase, but the lack of
results will leave you frustrated.
Whether we realize it or not, we live in the land of either good intentions or

intentional living. If you desire to be successful and to make the world a better
place, you need to choose intentional living.
Becoming an intentional person has the power to change your life. Here’s how:
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Intentional living teaches you the value of thinking ahead. People who are not NOTES
intentional wake up every day and are surprised by what happens to them.
Intentional living means not letting the day sneak up on you. Intentional people
think ahead and plan for the day they want to have. As John C. Maxwell notes,
the person who thinks before taking action is ten times more effective than the
person who doesn’t.
Intentional living inspires you to make every day count. Far too many people
hope to make a difference…someday. They wait for more time, more money,
more status, more influence, or more opportunities. In contrast, when you live
intentionally you look at things differently. You realize that now is the only sure
time you have to make a difference. Yesterday has passed. Tomorrow is not
guaranteed. When you live with an intentional mindset, you become aware of the
countless opportunities surrounding you on a daily basis, opportunities to make
a difference. And you make the most of them.
Intentional living allows you to make changes one step at a time. If you want
to become intentional and live a life of significance, there’s good news: you don’t
have to change everything. But there’s also bad news: you have to change
something. Intentional people understand that taking deliberate, consistent and
purposeful steps will improve their lives and the lives of those around them. As
Anne Frank said, “How wonderful that no one needs to wait a single minute
before improving their world!”
John C. Maxwell teaches that the secret of your success is determined by your
daily agenda. Why does he teach this? Because what you plan and actually do,
day after day, becomes your lifestyle. And your lifestyle, more than anything else,
affects the outcome of your life. If you want to be successful and make a
difference, you must develop a lifestyle of intentional living. Do that, and you will
experience the changes you desire.
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Step 3 – Discussion (12 min)
Reflect and respond

Step 4 – Self-assessment (10 min)
Answer this question

Most people have dreams of success but put off doing the things that will help them make
progress. What have you been putting off doing that would help you to improve your life?
Step 5 – Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)
Intentional action step

Everyone has a list of good intentions—things they think they should do to improve their own or
others’ lives. This week, choose one of those things and actually do it. You can choose
something big or small. The only requirement is that you complete it this week. When you come
back next week, plan to tell the rest of the group about it.
Take a minute to share with the group what action you intend to take this week.
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“There are two great days in your life:
The day you were born and the day you
From Success to find out why.”
Significance - John C. Maxwell
Intentional living: The bridge to significance.
roundtable.


INSIGHT
Experts say that most introverted people will influence 10,000 others in their
lifetime; everyone is influencing someone! Ultimately, there are two kinds of
people: those who add value and those who receive value. We gain influence
when we add value to others. The question is, will you use your influence to help
others to improve themselves?
Over the past weeks, you have been learning valuable success principles,
making changes to your life, and learning how to make a difference.
Now it’s your turn to take a tangible step of significance.
Facts about the journey to significance

It takes time.
It is a process that requires commitment.
It takes us out of our comfort zone.
The big question is:
Once you’ve learned something, do you have a heart to share it with others, or
do you hold it for yourself?
Success is indeed a journey, but if you stop at adding value to yourself, you miss
the reward of significance.
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As a step to significance, you can begin immediately adding value to others by

NOTES
inviting them to learn the Beyond Success principles. All of us, at one time, have felt
that we are not ready for the challenge, but those who are waiting for the ideal
moment never take the first step. We want to tell you that if you do, you will not be
alone on this journey. We will prepare you and walk alongside you. Cross the bridge
to significance and set up your own roundtable!
Key ideas
Once you have decided to start your Beyond Success roundtable, keep this in
mind:
1. The key to leading beyond success roundtables

Transparency
If the facilitator is open and honest, everyone else in the group is free to be
himself or herself.
If the facilitator highlights only their strengths or pretends to be without faults and
challenges, then the people in the group will not be honest and will not grow.
John C. Maxwell teaches that leaders go first. As the leader, you will need to open
up first and talk about where you need to grow.
Commitment
When you lead this kind of roundtable, your goal is to encourage participants to
commit to putting what they learn into action.
Growth equals change. If you want to grow, you must change.
As the leader, you must commit to take action and change.
And you must encourage or even challenge others to commit themselves to
living with intentionality.
2. The key to becoming a good roundtable facilitator.

Here are a few ideas to keep in mind as you prepare to start your own group:
a. Set expectations before you start.

Let people know what to expect in the coming seven weeks. “Disappointment is the
gap between expectations and reality.” - John C. Maxwel
b. Put your focus on others every time you meet.

Value them. Care about who they are. Listen to what they have to say. Be their
friend, not their teacher.
c. Remember your goal every time you meet.

The purpose of every roundtable meeting is for people to take action. If people
discover for themselves where they need to change, create a specific action plan
for themselves, and are held accountable the next week, they will grow.
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Step 3 – Discussion (12 min)
Reflect and respond

Reflection
John C. Maxwell quotes a study of people nearing the end of their lives who were asked what
they might have done differently. Most of them said they wished they had taken more risks. When
people experience regret, it usually doesn’t come from trying something new and failing. It
usually comes from never having tried. Don’t allow the opportunity for making a difference to
pass you by. Take a step into significance by leading a roundtable.
Step 4 – Self-assessment (10 min)
Answer this question

What excites you most about the idea of leading a roundtable group? What challenges you the
most?
Step 5 - Intentional action step conversation (10 min)
Intentional action step

Decide whether to commit to leading your own roundtable. If you do, then take the following
steps this week:
1. Make a list of people – friends, colleagues, family members, etc. – who you might want to invite
to your roundtable.
2. Choose time and starting date for your group.
3. Tell your experience in the roundtable to the people you’ve chosen and personally invite them
to your roundtable.
Take a minute to share with the group the action plan you intend to do this week.
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EXTRA SESSION
“A life is not measured by years lived, but by
its usefulness. If you are growing, loving,
Preparing to Facilitate serving, helping, encouraging, and adding
Your Own Roundtable value to others, then you're living a life

that counts!”
- John C. Maxwell
We are so excited to hear of your passion for adding value to others! It is an important role,
and we thank you for your investment of time and effort in such a worthy endeavor. As you
take your roundtable participants through Beyond Success, you will be sharing proven
principles and giving them the opportunity to practice self-leadership as they apply their
action step every week.
I. What is a facilitator?
A facilitator can be defined as someone who encourages people to share and enables them
to learn and grow by their personal example.
What a facilitator is NOT: a coach, a teacher, a counselor, a commentator.

• Not there to fix others or give correction.
• Not there to impress others.
• Not there to teach or lecture.
What a facilitator is: a participant, a model of authenticity, and an honest contributor.

• Challenges self, not others.
• Not afraid to expose their own weaknesses and show vulnerability before others.
• Shares from their own life.
• Loves people and respects their opinions.
• Keeps the group on track.
• Encourages participants to take action leading to personal growth.
Ii. Five steps to facilitating a roundtable
The estimated time for each roundtable step is based on an eight-person roundtable.
1. Sharing results (10 min). Each person takes one minute to share the result of the action
step from last week, starting with the facilitator and going around the circle.
2. Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min). Everyone watches John Maxwell’s
video. Then, they take turns reading aloud the paragraphs and underline the ideas that are
most important to them.
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3. Discussion (12 min). Each person takes one minute to share one thing they underlined
and why it is important to them. This starts with the facilitator and goes around the circle.
4. Self-assessment (10 min). Everyone takes two to three minutes to write answers in the
Evaluation and Action section.
5. Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min). Each person shares what
they wrote, starting with the facilitator and going around the circle.
III. Facilitation tips
• As facilitator, you must go first and model what others are to do.
• Everyone is given an opportunity and is encouraged to participate. Go around the circle
and ask every person to take a turn reading, sharing, or answering.
• If someone wants to pass, show respect, and do not force him or her to participate.
• Be transparent and authentic. Be willing to admit your shortcomings to create a safe
environment where everyone can speak with authenticity. A facilitator can share with
discretion while still being honest.
• Everyone should use the pronouns I and me when sharing. Words like we, you, they, and
people should be avoided when sharing.
• When I apply truth to myself, it brings transformation. If I try to apply truth to others, they
feel judged and resist the process. No one operates well under judgment. Accept and
respect their answers and assessments. Transformation begins with me.
• Thank each participant after he or she shares.
• Be sure action steps are personal and specific. Do not let yourself or others be general.
Help everyone to drill down to a small action step that is measurable. If needed,
encourage people to use who, what, where, and when to help them be specific.
• Make a brief note of each participant’s action step to assist with the follow-up the next
week.
• If someone tries to monopolize the conversation or is a “long talker,” do not embarrass or
single the person out. Watch for pauses in conversation and seize the moment to direct
the conversation to the next person. And remind everyone that suggested response time
is about one minute.
• Avoid topics that might build walls within the group such as politics.
• Respect people’s time by starting and ending on time.
• Roundtable groups often work best when they meet on the same day and at the same time
every week.
• Application is the key to success. Each roundtable leads to the creation of a specific,
measurable, achievable action step.
• Group members can give one another accountability for follow-through and can celebrate
victories together.
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IV. Sample facilitator guide script

Here is a script that you can use to help you get a sense of how to facilitate your roundtable.
“Hello everyone! Today we will be doing a roundtable on Attitude.”
Step 1:
Note: In every roundtable after the first session, you will share what your action step was in
the previous lesson and how you did at living it out. Then you will ask all of the people
around the circle to share. Because this is the first roundtable you can skip this step. Instead,
you can ask participants to introduce themselves to the group by telling their name and what
they do.
Step 2:
“We’re going to begin by reading about the topic. I will start by reading the first paragraph.
Then the person on my right will read the next one. And we will keep going around the circle
with each person. As we read, underline the things that are important to you. When we
are done reading, we will each take a minute to share one thing we underlined that’s most
important to us along with a brief explanation of why we found it impactful.”
The group should read all of the material except the Evaluation and Action section.
Step 3:
“Please share why what you underlined is important to you and try to keep your comments
to one minute. I will go first . . .”
Make sure that you use the pronouns I and me to set the example of how to share.
Remember, transformation begins with me. Be sure to thank each person after he or she
shares.
Step 4:
“Thank you for sharing. Now let’s take about two or three minutes to complete the
Evaluation and Action section. It asks you first to rate your current application of this quality
to your life on a scale of one to ten. One is low, which means you believe you’re terrible at
it. Ten means you think you’re perfect. Please stay away from choosing five or six. And make
sure your evaluation is for today, not you at your best. Write down your answers. I’m going
to do mine right now too.”
Encourage everyone to write out the evaluation by doing yours immediately. Write out your
answers. When you’re finished, watch to see that everyone else has completed the
evaluation.
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Step 5:
“Let’s take a minute to share what we wrote in our Evaluation and Action section. I will go
first. I gave myself a ____________ today on the quality of Attitude.
I gave myself this rating because __________________.
By raising my rating, my benefit will be _____________________.
I feel ___________________________________ demonstrates this quality well.
This is why _____________________________________________.
My specific action this week is _____________________________________________.”
Remember: For an action to be specific, you must answer the following questions:
– What will you do?
– With whom will you do it?
– How will you do it?
– Where will you do it?
– When will you do it?
Make sure your specific action is one small, measurable, achievable action step. Make sure
it is specific. When you have finished, look to your right and ask that person to share.
Remember to say thank you after each person has participated.
“Thank you for participating, and I look forward to seeing you next week.”
V. Time for Q&A

This is a time for future facilitators to ask any questions they may have.
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About John C. Maxwell
John C. Maxwell is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, coach, and
speaker who has written more than 100 books, which have sold more than 26
million copies and have been translated into fifty languages. Each year he
speaks to Fortune 500 companies, presidents of nations, and many
of the world’s top business leaders.
In 2014, John was named the most influential leadership expert in the world by
Business Insider and Inc. magazines, as well as being identified by the
American Management Association as the leader who has most influenced business.
John also received the Mother Teresa Prize for Global Peace and Leadership from the Luminary
Leadership Network that same year.
John’s story has been described as that of a small-town American pastor who became one of the most
influential business, personal growth, and leadership teachers in the world.
After graduating with a bachelor’s degree in theology and marrying his high school sweetheart
Margaret in June of 1969, John embarked on a career as a minister. John led three churches over
twenty-six years, including Skyline, one of the most influential churches in America when he left it in
1995.
John founded The John Maxwell Company, which provides corporate training and resources to
leaders, and The John Maxwell Team, which trains and certifies coaches and speakers. He also
founded two non-profit organizations: The John Maxwell Leadership Foundation, and EQUIP. These
organizations have trained more than 6 million leaders in every one of the world’s nations.
In addition to his Bachelor’s Degree, John earned his Master of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry
degrees. He has also been awarded eight honorary doctorates.
John identifies his mission in life as adding value to leaders who multiply value to others. A gifted
communicator with a fantastic sense of humor, John enjoys connecting with people both in large
audiences and one-on-one. His signature style is to communicate timeless principles with clarity,
simplicity, and fun.
John and Margaret have two married children and five grandchildren. They live in the United States
and spend as much time as they can with their family.
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R O U N D TA B L E S

What do you want out of life?

Thank you for making an investment in yourself and others.

The world you see is colored by your attitude.

Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)

Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)

Having a positive attitude is essential. It not only determines your level of

When you develop a positive attitude, you experience the

1. You are content and enjoy life more.

STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES

Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)

Reflect and respond

Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)

Evaluation and action

Why did you give yourself this rating?

What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?

Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)

People who keep learning always have a future.

Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)

Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)

“Do you have a plan for personal growth?”

If you consistently pursue personal growth, you will experience

STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES

Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)

Reflect and respond

Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)

Evaluation and action

Why did you give yourself this rating?

What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?

Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)

Clear priorities show you what to do and where to go.

Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)

Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)

So what is the secret to living according to priorities?

When you have clearly defined priorities, you experience the

1. You experience high satisfaction when you accomplish a task.

STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES

Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)

Reflect and respond

Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)

Evaluation and action

Why did you give yourself this rating?

What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?

Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)

The quality of your relationships determines the quality

Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)

Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)

Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Developing trust is like creating

When you develop good relationships with people, you experience

1. You live at peace with others.

STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES

2. Seek to understand others before being understood. Another lesson taught

3. Repair a broken relationship. If you have a broken relationship, you need to

Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)

Reflect and respond

Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)

Evaluation and action

Why did you give yourself this rating?

What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?

Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)