CCode Part1
CCode Part1
presents…
Part 1
What You’re Going To Learn
❖ Everything…
❖ It all starts with your beliefs and thoughts
❖ Feelings
❖ What to do
❖ What to say
❖ How to be your best self on a consistent basis
What’s The REAL Problem?
❖ It’s NOT that you don’t know what to say or do
❖ It’s not even bad Body Language, Eye Contact, Tonality
❖ It’s that YOU (your character) are not ATTRACTIVE enough
❖ Because you THINK the wrong things and BELIEVE the wrong
things
❖ Which leads you to FEEL the wrong things
❖ Which leads you to say and do the wrong things
❖ And when this happens consistently, it creates a character
Think and Get Laid: My Secret
❖ So it all starts with your THOUGHTS
❖ That’s why mastering women is thoroughly covered in ancient
philosophy
❖ Starts and ends with transforming your thoughts and your
“self”
❖ Moral Self-Cultivation (Confucian, Daoist, Buddhist, Greek,
Stoic, Christian)
❖ Flow (Peak Performance, Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy,
and the good Self-Help)
Sub-Communications
❖ Attraction is an emotion, not about logic or rationality
❖ Attraction is due 90%+ to your body language and tonality
(not your words)…and your BL and T are almost always
due to your emotions
❖ We are constantly sub-communicating our emotions to
other people and unconsciously reading other people’s
sub-communications
❖ Micro-managing sub-communications is almost impossible
and counter-productive
Emotional Contagion
❖ Mirror Neurons
❖ Extracts emotional meaning from nonverbal images
unconsciously
❖ Bypasses brain’s verbal processing areas
❖ Go First
❖ Induce the desired emotional state in others by first
generating it in yourself
GAZE FOR A MOMENT
AT THIS FACE:
Cultivate Your Intuitions
❖ The secret from ancient and medieval Asian philosophy
❖ Natural: Automatic responses, Unconscious cognitions
❖ How?
❖ INTERNAL change: Change your thoughts to change your world
❖ EXTERNAL change
❖ Fundamentals (BLTEC)
❖ Do your Reps
❖ Drill, Rehearse, Practice (10,000 hour rule)
❖ Surround yourself with your goal (mentors, visualisations, environment)
Your Thought Life: The Deep Secret
❖ 80%+ of the secret to successful transformation is controlling your “thought
life”
❖ Christian, Confucian, Buddhist, Daoist, Islamic, Greek, Stoic, Cognitive-
Behavioural Therapy, Peak Performance, plus every effective
transformational method
❖ Monitor your thoughts “like a cat catching mice” (Buddhist/Neo-
Confucian) to root out any inappropriate thoughts or replace limiting beliefs
❖ Carefully select what you let into your mind
❖ People you spend time with
❖ What you see and hear
Review I
❖ What’s the Real Problem
❖ What Really Matters
❖ Think and Get Laid
❖ Sub-Communications
❖ Emotional Contagion
❖ Cultivate Your Intuitions by Controlling What You Allow Into Your Mind and
Monitoring What Your Thoughts
❖ How: Both Internal (~80%) and External (~20%)
❖ NEXT: Approaching and opening, Conversation, How to know whether she
likes you
Let Me Show You
❖ Wedding Crashers
❖ Russell Brand
❖ Aviator
❖ The Departed
Approaching and Opening
❖ Warm Up “approaches”
❖ Get in a social and talkative mood
❖ Stream of Consciousness drills
❖ Talk to EVERYONE
❖ Litmus Test
❖ Outcome Independence
❖ Direct. Implicit Direct. Indirect. Observational. Nonverbal. Playful. Low
Value. High Value.
❖ Best are unscripted, spontaneous Flow State openers
Controlling Conversations
❖ Good vs. Bad Threads
❖ Emotions vs. Logic/Rationality
❖ Other negative threads
❖ Speak from the Self: I, me, my, mine, etc.
❖ Threading: Words, Phrases, Themes
❖ Thread Amplification
❖ Thread Reversal
Conversational Hook Point
❖ Required for key escalation windows
❖ Basic Structure
❖ Your question/statement
❖ Her response
❖ Your response to her response
❖ PAUSE
❖ Her re-initiation
❖ Max 3 cycles
❖ Why Pause?
❖ “You can’t talk a girl into bed. Only she can talk herself into bed.”
How to Know She Likes You
❖ Physical
❖ Preening, Proximity, Directionality, Eye Contact,
Touching, Following, Arousal
❖ Verbal
❖ Agreement, Reactivity, Excitability, Attention,
Questions, Contributing to Conversation,
Vulnerability
❖ Investment: Time or Effort or $$$
Review II
❖ 1. Be Desireless
❖ 2. Be Excellent
❖ 3. Be Gone
Flow Hack
❖ This should occupy 90% of your mental processes during the
social activity:
❖ 1. Have Fun
❖ 2. Make Others Have Fun
❖ 3. Make Connections and See If People Meet Your Standards
❖ Screening Frame
❖ Remaining 10% can be Logistics and Your Sticking Points
❖ Prepare, rehearse, and drill BEFORE going out, not during
Other Flow Hacks I
❖ Quick-fixes for Flow (in the moment, in the venue)
❖ Mr. Bean Method
❖ Immersion in Environment
❖ Immersion in Ancillary Activity
❖ I-Spy
❖ Let the Body Lead
Further Reading on Flow