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    UHV-I

    Session 5

    Peer Pressure
    The Concern and its Resolution

    Document prepared by UHV Team (uhv.or.in) and adopted by AICTE NCC-IP Sub-
    committee for Mentor Manual and related Materials for UHV-I

    Suggestions for improvement are welcome


    All Rights Reserved
    Review of Home Assignment
    Continuous happiness from feelings from others?
    (like attention from others – family, friends, etc.)

    We seem to have a deep desire to belong. We want to be accepted and


    respected by our peers

    In this session, we want to explore how we go about this.

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    Concern How we go about it
    We want to be accepted by others 1. Copying (नक़ल) – we give in to
    peer pressure
    – We copy their do’s and don’ts
    We think that we will be accepted (appearance, language, lifestyle,
    when we are like them or better etc.)
    than them – in how we look, how – We let the other decide for us
    we dress, how we talk, what we (though we may or may not be
    eat, what we drink, etc. comfortable with their choice)
    – We keep accepting wrong notions
    (based on preconditioning), because
    So, there is a pressure to be like we don’t have the practice, self-
    them or better – in appearance, confidence of verifying things
    (notions) on our own right !
    clothes, language and expression
    (e.g. English), etc.
    2. Arbitrariness (मनमानी) – we
    This is part of the peer pressure rebel ( व ोह)
    – We do our own things, do whatever
    Even the other is in the same state we like
    Asking for being accepted by you! – We reject the other
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    Resolution – Explore if This is What you Really Want
    There is a third option: Verify on your own right:
    3. Right Understanding (सह Language is only a means of
    समझ) communication (what is
    Verifying things on your own right: communicated is more important
    than language, expression)
    •On the basis of your natural
    acceptance and Speaking in a particular language
    ensures your respect?
    •On the basis of validating by Continuously, with all?
    living accordingly
    (experiential validation) Clothes are for the protection of
    the Body
    If our sense of belongingness is Can you get respect by wearing a
    on the basis of understanding certain type of clothes?
    (human being…), then it is Continuous, from all?
    permanent and with all Rather. wearing exclusive clothes
    (we feel comfortable with all) may lead to jealousy

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    Human Being = Co-existence of Self(I) and Body
    Human being is a co-existence of If we assume that happiness may
    Self (I) and Body be ensured by favourable
    feeling from others, we try to
    get these feelings from them
    Need of the Self (I) is happiness by way of:
    • which is fulfilled by Right 1. Being ahead of others - (in
    Understanding & Right Feelings terms of appearance, clothes,
    (like feeling of respect) language & expression-
    Need of the Body is physical English, money etc)
    facility 2. Seeking alikeness -
    • which is fulfilled by Physio- belongingness with a specific
    chemical things (like food) group (because others are
    Both needs have to be fulfilled doing it/ having it, so should I)
    separately
    Today, we seem to be neglecting These two become the major
    the need of the Self sources of peer pressure
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    What is Naturally Acceptable to You? What is the Solution?
    Copying – adopting Arbitrariness Right Understanding
     Living Living Living
    on the basis of others on the basis of on the basis of
    (some do’s & don’ts) one’s own natural acceptance
    likes-dislikes

     Indefinite Indefinite Definite


    conduct conduct conduct

     Sometimes “happy” Sometimes “happy” Always happy


    Sometimes “sad” Sometimes “sad” ( नरं तर सु ख)

    Decided by other Rebel Self-organised


    “Peer Pressure” “Reaction”
    (परतं ता) (परतं ता) ( वतं ता)
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    Concerns Resolution of Concerns
    Coming out of stress Generally, we try to address these
    Managing pressure of academics piecemeal. We make effort for
    Time management personality development, stress
    management, memory
    Entertainment enhancement, anger management
    Sensual desires and so on.
    Domination of females by males
    Pressure of placement
    Overcoming –ve thinking
    Attending classes Should education help us to
    Peer pressure resolve our concerns?
    Temptations
    Anger • One concern at a time?
    Depression or
    Suicidal thoughts • Holistically by ensuring right
    understanding + right skills?
    We want to resolve our concerns
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    Similarly, we can explore all our aspirations and concerns
    To be happy Overcoming –ve thinking
    To be healthy Attending classes
    Knowledge – quest for knowledge Peer pressure
    Ability to decide properly on my Temptations
    own, independently Anger
    Purification of the mind Depression
    Controlling the mind Suicidal thoughts
    Self confidence

    Coming out of stress We will explore if right


    Managing pressure of academics understanding can help us to
    Time management fulfil our aspirations and
    Entertainment resolve our concerns at the
    level of family, society and
    Sensual desires nature in subsequent sessions
    Pressure of placement
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    Home Assignment
    Home Assignments
    5.1. Explore if ensuring right understanding and right feeling within could
    be a holistic, long-term solution to concerns like peer pressure, self-
    confidence etc.

    5.2. How, in your opinion, does understanding help in clearly identifying


    the meaning of full human potential (Hint: right understanding and
    right feeling in the Self + a healthy body)

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    Questions
    Assuming Human Being = Body  Focus on Physical Facility

    ? RIGHT UNDERSTANDING
    (le>)
    in the self

    ? RELATIONSHIP 1 For animals:


    PHYSICAL FACILITY necessary & largely
    (laca/k) adequate
    (lqfo/kk)
    with human For human beings:
    being with rest of nature necessary but not
    adequate

    UNHAPPINESS DEPRIVATION
    Making others Unhappy Exploiting and
    Depriving others
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    Explore if This is What you Really Want

    1 RIGHT UNDERSTANDING
    (le>)
    in the self

    2 3
    RELATIONSHIP
    PHYSICAL FACILITY
    Feeling
    (laca/k)
    (lqfo/kk)
    - Trust
    - Respect
    -… with human
    being with rest of nature

    MUTUAL HAPPINESS MUTUAL PROSPERITY


    (mHk; lq[k) (mHk; le`f)) 13
    Peer Pressure in the New Environment
    When students join college, they are mostly on their own, without
    parental oversight and have to fit in with the new environment
     They may be comfortable with their mother-tongue, but students
    who talk in English are given more attention
     They may be used to speaking without expletives, but senior
    students freely use abusive language
     Similarly with clothes, hairstyles and so many things…

    There is a perceived pressure to conform (peer pressure)…

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