April:May Girls Life Mag

Lucky Ariana Greenblatt
told us everything (she could)

about the Barbiee movie
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spring Hi! It’s a
confident you
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April/May 2023
Vol 29, Issue 5
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PLANNING
A PICNIC
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APRIL • MAY 2023
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COVER STORIES That’s how it
goes, right?
10 Quiz! Which Taylor
Swift Era Are You?
14 Oh Yes, It’s Time for
Jashion (Jean Fashion)
28 It’s Our Beauty Issue:
The Advice You’ve Been
Waiting for (Without
Watching a Million
TikTok Tutorials)
44 The Everything INSI DE
Guide to Crushes
4 Giveaway
60 Ariana Greenblatt
Told Us Everything 6 Entertainment
(She Could) About 14 Fashion
the Barbie Movie 28 Beauty
66 Lucky Girl Spring: Hi! 44 Crushes
It’s a Confident You
50 Life
72 Brb, Planning a 60 Get Inspired
Picnic Party
68 Health
72 Make It Cute
78 Star Signs
80 Ode to Awk
TH I S PAGE FRONT COV E R FRONT COVER: Waist cinch, Heiress Beverly Hills. Top,
Intermix. Jeans, Mother Denim. Tights, Gucci. Earrings, Alexis
PHOTOGRAPHED BY Mike Azria. PHOTOGRAPHED BY Raul Romo.
Bittar. Necklace, Oak & Luna. Bracelet, Zoe Lev Los Angeles.
THIS PAGE: Windbreaker, vintage. Top, Forever 21. Pants,
STYLED BY Lo VonRumpf. STYLED BY Lo VonRumpf. Meet Marie. Shoes, Chinese Laundry. Hat, Claire’s. Earrings,
HAIR BY George Fragkioudakis. HAIR BY Kiley Fitzgerald. Zara. Necklace and bracelet, Selenichast. Bangle,
MAKEUP BY Sophia Hutch. MAKEUP BY Allan Avendaño. Ink + Alloy. Bag, J.Crew. For where to buy, see page 74.
xoxo Karen
Publisher and Founding Editor
The first time I heard Taylor Swift’s name was early 2008. A former Karen Bokram
GL editor had gone to work for a record label and told me about a new talent they Creative Director
Chun Kim
were really excited about. (“She writes about teen girl stuff—you’ll love her!”) OK, I’ll
Digital Director & Associate Editor
do a friend a favor, I thought, so I sent Mandy Forr, our entertainment editor at the Katherine Hammer
time, to go see Taylor at a small weekend show in Pennsylvania. Editorial Assistant
Erin Sargent
Mandy wasn’t the type to gush over celebrities, so I wasn’t exactly expecting the
answer I got that Monday: “I love her. I want her to be my very best friend. I want Copy Editors
Chris Zang (Copy Chief)
us to have sleepovers and make brownies and tell each other our secrets.” Mmk. Daniella Byck
Mandy slipped me Taylor’s debut CD (yep, those were still a thing), and I went to my Kyle Fierstien
Molly Glassman
office to listen. And, like the rest of the planet, I haven’t stopped listening since. Lindsey Silken
I can’t say I was a country superfan at the time, but her songwriting was incredi-
Editorial Production Manager
ble. By that afternoon, I’d booked Taylor for her first GL cover. Kathleen O’Neill
Fast forward to our Dec/Jan 2009 cover shoot. Taylor was a total natural: just Contributing Editors
herself with zero worry about the camera (a rarity). She loved everything (I love my Lauren Bulbin (Production)
Kim Childress (Books Editor)
hair! I love my makeup! I love this dress!)…and everyone. At one point, she came Lisa DeSantis (Beauty Editor)
over to me and leaned on my shoulder as I looked at some Polaroids. Sarah Wassner Flynn (Executive Editor)
Kristen Kemp (Books Editor)
Not a lot of women are taller than me (I’m 5’10”) so her closeness almost startled Whitney Brielle Martin (Fashion Editor)
me, but I could only think one thing: I love you. I want you to be my very best friend. I Jenny Podushko (Post Production)
Erin Reimel (Beauty Editor)
want us to have sleepovers and make brownies and tell each other our secrets. Kayleigh Roberts (Entertainment Editor)
Of course, GL’s love affair with Taylor (much like the world’s) would carry on for Senior Interns
years. She’d go on to do two more covers, including our 20th anniversary cover. Samara Smukler • Riley Yates • Sophia Zhang
While it never hurts to have the most famous person on Earth gracing your issue, Interns
our Taylor obsession meant way more than that: Her songs speak to us in a way Madelon Basil • Allyson Coy • Melanie Dowling
Hannah Kennedy • Jinny Kim • Cathy Li
nothing else does. Eva Mandelbaum • Laila Mayfield • Natalie Misyak
Madeline Morrow • Maddy Phillips • Mina Rahmat
I could make endless observations as to why. Her raw revelations. Her tight coils of Jasmine Robinson • Julia Szymanski
emotion. Her talent for nailing specific and universal feelings. Her instant scene-setting.
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Taylor is all of us. And, of course, none of us. Brooke Winters
It’s been years since the last time she walked out of our photo studio, off to get Content & Marketing Manager
Katherine Hammer
fro-yo at her (then) new discovery Menchie’s. As she wiped off the last of her makeup, Content & Marketing Associate
Taylor turned to me. “Hey,” she said, “why don’t you come with us? It’s really good!” Kathleen O’Neill
Content & Marketing Assistant
I paused. Knowing it would likely be the last time I’d see her, I wanted to thank Lena Genovese
her for, well, everything—her music, her talent, her authenticity. Instead, I just Junior Content & Marketing Assistant
Laine Napoli
mumbled something about having too much work left to do and watched the
biggest superstar on the planet smile, wave and float out the door. GIRLS’ LIFE SOCIAL MEDIA
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She loved this Is there anything more Taylor on our 20th anni-
dress so much we Tay than this locket we versary cover? It was our
gifted it to her. had custom made for her? “Wildest Dream.”
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Start!
Looking
Nothing up at the
is more stars.
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Lately, Deep
than…
you’ve been in your
feeling… thoughts.
Pick a
shoe to wear
tonight… Boots. TAYLOR SWIFT
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in the spirited, sensitive and
Making rain. a li’l bit sassy, just like
On top up after
Up for this OG album.
of every- a fight.
thing. anything. TOUR OUTFIT INSPO:
Heels. Keep things country
Sneakers. casual with faded blue
jeans, cowboy boots
and, ofc, Tay’s signa-
Is happily Um, the ture 2006 curls.
Your same
ever after
current person
even a it’s always
thing IRL? bestie is…
been.
Of
course!
You do FEARLESS
Best Your empowered
your best Ask me attitude and spot-
friend is
work… again after on intuition set you
a tier, not
HS, lol. Your apart as a loyal leader
a person.
BF/GF. who’s not afraid to
jump then fall.
TOUR OUTFIT INSPO: A
silver sequined dress
Lara and black boots make
As part Jean and
In the Fave an on-theme ensem-
of a Peter.
middle of fictional ble. Loose waves
Alone group. complete the look.
the night. ’ship…
with your
thoughts.
Rory Tara
Deeply and and SPEAK NOW
Your overthink Jess. Darcy. The main character
ex texts. how to of your own fairy
Roll your tale, you’re a pro at
You… reply.
eyes and romanticizing life and
leave bringing enchant-
on read. ment to every day.
Again. TOUR OUTFIT INSPO:
Your A chiffon puff-sleeve
Are so go-to blouse and purple
Ask your busy you emoji… mini skirt serve up
squad for don’t even the sweetness of this
advice. see it. whimsical album.
You wake
up and imme-
diately… Scroll RED
IG.
Your
Happy, free, confused
honesty or lonely, you wear
motto is… At a your heart on the
sleeve of your favorite
school dance
sweater—but that’s
you’re… nothing new.
Checking TOUR OUTFIT INSPO:
Answer What’s black, white
out the
Fall into texts. White The and red all over?
snack
a TikTok lies all truth Your fit. High-waisted
situation. Manning
hole. the way. hurts. shorts + a fedora =
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Dancing,
ofc.
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FASHION DEN IM
FOR A
DANCE
Who said you have to wear a
dress? The extra oomph from
the tulle sleeves on this jacket
are as fancy as any LBD could
ever dream of being. And
those pointy-toe boots? Total
outfit makers. Tuck distressed
overalls into them, proceed to
turn every head in the gym.
Know what looks good

with your favorite jeans,
denim skirt or overalls?
PHOTOGRAPHED BY MIKE AZRIA. HAIR BY GEORGE FRAGKIOUDAKIS. MAKEUP BY SOPHIA HUTCH. FOR WHERE TO BUY, SEE PAGE 74.
More denim. No Canadian
tuxedos here: This is state-
ment denim paired with
the basics for fits that work
at a dance, on a date or
any day of the week. These
jooks (that’s jean looks) are
post-on-main worthy.
CATEGORY IS:
Jacket, $120, Akira. Bustier, $6, Rain-
ON
bow Shops. Overalls, $60, M Jeans by
Maurices. Boots, $120, Azalea Wang.
Earrings, $250, and silver bracelet on
left hand, $150, Maison Miru. Beaded
bracelet on left hand, $18, Spilled Glit-
ter. Bracelet on right hand, $40, Earth
Stone Jewelry. Bag, $25, Forever 21.
Made from the
ns
torn hems of jea
everywhere.
Cider, $40
Loewe,
$1,700
DesirableDesigns4U, $28
Even your
e
feet get in on th
jeans party. Jeffrey
Campbell,
$175
Inc International Concepts, $30

Dewewan, $24
Alice +
Olivia,
$375
Femme LA,
$190
See? Denim. Can. River

Be. Fancy. Island, $93
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FASHION DEN IM Aww, your boots
le
got their own litt
pair of jeans.
Steve
Madden,
$160
Dim Mak
Collection,
$195 MissHaqu, $26
A fun and flirty

final touch. Maikun, $45
Perennial Peaces, $50

Cider, $28
Shein, $11
American
Eagle, $210
the
All the colors of
denim rainbow. Your fave top fr
om
Agolde,
ma ke
$210 last year, but
it denim.
FOR A
DATE
Dress up a denim mini with—
you guessed it—an oversized
patchwork jean jacket, which
offers some extra dimension.
Distressed denim booties add
some edginess, while a woven
denim belt cinches the whole
thing together.
Shirt, $18, Forever 21. Bodysuit, $24,

Romwe. Minidress as skirt, $6, and neck-
lace, $6, Rainbow Shops. Boots, $42,
ShoeDazzle. Headbands, $11 each, Ella
& Elly. Belt, $26, Lishow Fashion.
FASHION DEN IM
FOR
EVERY
DAY
A shortcut to mastering this
trend: Take your favorite
relaxed fit jeans, pair with a
denim statement piece (clock
the woven, fringey back on
this cutoff vest). Boom. Make
it even better with some
vaguely denim-y shoes (here,
these sandals), and you can
literally wear this anywhere.
Vest, $6, and bodysuit, $6, Rainbow

Shops. Jeans, $40, Forever 21.
Sandals, $85, Mark Nason | Skechers.
Earrings, $8, Vosach. Necklace, $210,
Maison Miru. Ring on left hand, $45,
Madewell. Ring on right hand, $27,
BaubleBar.
A denim-inspired
jeans
burnout tee with
is blue genius.
world
Turn the whole
jeans-hued.
FabGlam-
BeautyInc.,
$35 Cider, $30
A2Z Clothing, $10
Dewewan,
$28
Vans, $90 Alfani, $8
Who knew sleeves

!
could be so fun?
The Sak,
$199
Cider, $36
Silver Jeans Co., $88
shows
This slouchy hobo
er side.
off denim’s soft
Makinrgsity
Va You could be one
of Gwen’s backup dancers
in these bubble-letter
Adidas graffiti track pants,
varsity letter jacket and
strappy metallic bandeau
crop. But the chunky belly
chain and braided sandals
make it so right now.
her spinning
Before Gwen Stefani was in
Voic e cha ir, she was just a ska girlie
red
Cali forn ia who loved
from Southern
ber jackets.
track pants, beanies and bom
Take a cue
This spring, you can be, too:
al closets
from the best of the ’90s SoC
mak e them wor k for Any where 2023
and
allic s, sequ ins, rhinestones
by adding met
and furr y, fluffy accessories.
She’s A
Sk 8 r G i r l
She’s sporty
(see the chunky
sneakers, striped ankle
socks, sleek bomber
jacket, athletic-inspired
shorts) and she’s sleek
(oversized sunnies, satiny
bra top, silver hoops).
She’s got it all. Maybe
she’s born with it…maybe
it’s skater chic.
Game, ch
Se t , M a t
A preppy
white tennis skirt
looks fun—not fussy—
with some raver-girl
’90s styling: a bucket
hat, black mesh top,
tiny backpack and So.
Many. Scrunchies. It’s
giving the Clueless
gym class scene.
Bra top, $18, Forever 21. Mesh top,

$42, Zara. Skort, $40, Tek Gear.
Shoes, $40, Lâmo. Hat, $25, and
scrunchies, $15 for 5, Claire’s. Ear-
rings, $170, J.Crew. Sunglasses, $20,
Claire’s. Backpack, $45, Herschel.
Socks, $15, Urban Outfitters.
M e e t M e
A t T h e
e S h a c k
Shak While no one has ever
called a vinyl bustier
dress sweet before,
layered with a mint
green tank, knit beanie,
fuzzy clutch, watercolor
slip-ons and sheer socks…
it just might be???
Dress, $80, Selfie Leslie. Bodysuit,

$49, Stronger. Shoes, $40, Lâmo.
Beanie, $25, Herschel. Sunglasses, $17,
necklace, $5, and scrunchie, $5, Claire’s.
Cuff, $50, Banana Republic. Bag, $20,
PrettyLittleThing. Socks, $14, Bienvenu.
Feelingod
H e l l a G o
Green is the color of
spring (duh), but we bet
you’ve never seen it like
this, on high-waisted
trousers paired with an
oversized orange wind-
breaker and striped crop
tee. The unexpected
color combo is just
*that* amazing.
Windbreaker, $32, vintage. Top,

$15, Forever 21. Pants, $135, Meet
Marie. Shoes, $90, Chinese Laundry.
Hat, $25, Claire’s. Necklace, $195,
Selenichast. Bangle, $38, Ink + Alloy.
Bag, $248, J.Crew.
Sk a P a r t y
P r i n c e s s
When you find
a motif that works,
go with it: Here, striped
cuffs on a bomber jacket,
striped knee-highs and
striped stilettos add a
sporty edge to a full tulle
skirt. Silver cuffs and a
braided belt keep the
look grounded in down-
town realness.
Bomber, $30, Rainbow Shops. Blouse,

$48, BCBG Max Azria. Skirt, $45, Lena
Kasparian. Shoes, $45, ShoeDazzle.
Barrettes, $7 for a set of 50, Pinklife.
Earrings, $20, Claire’s. Cuffs, $16 each,
Couya. Socks, $12, Aroomve.
Right k
On Trac
Members of Y2K boy
bands would have given
their frosted tips for these
iridescent track pants,
but they’re all yours.
Balance ’em out with
a sweet lavender lace
cami and butterfly-
adorned beanie.
Sweater, $70, Qualfort. Top, $17,

Evry Jewels. Pants, $23, Zaxicht.
Sneakers, $84, Skechers. Beanie,
$17, Claire’s. Necklace, $160, Maison
Miru. Cuff, $25, Zara.
T h i s S e t
Is M a d e
t r u t t i n g
For S Everyone mistaking
you for a rising star on
her way to the studio
in your matching set,
notice-me furry coat
and lace-up glittering
green heels? Let ’em.
Coat, $96, Selfie Leslie. Matching set, $90,

Prevail Clothing. Shoes, $80, Chinese Laun-
dry. Barrettes, $7 for a set of 50, Pinklife.
Sunglasses, $28, Jeepers Peepers. Earrings,
Hair by George Fragkioudakis. $160, Maison Miru. Necklace, $6, Rainbow
Makeup by Sophia Hutch. Shops. Scrunchie, $5,
For where to buy, see page 74. Claire’s. Bag, $115, Baggallini.
BEAUTY NOTE B OO K
A R E YO U A M A K E U P
MINIMALIST OR
MAXIMALIST?
BY E RIN REIM EL
Less is more…or more is more. It’s a choose-
+
your-own-adventure kind of thing.
MINIMALIST
Spring 2023 is for
the makeup girlies, Make it Minimalist: Apply a soft kohl
with runway-inspired eyeliner under your lower lash line
looks ranging from and along your upper lash line, then
smudge the liner with your finger or a
the barely there to dense shadow brush, says makeup art-
totally avant-garde. ist Danni Katz. This will create a smoky,
Whether you’re all shadow-like line that really enhances
your eyes. You can use any color liner
over Vanilla Girl
like black, navy, aubergine or gray,
neutrals or you’ve says makeup artist Vittorio Masecchia.
just settled on big, Try: Milani Supreme Kohl Kajal Eyeliner
Pencil in Blackest Black, $8, target.com
bold everything this
season, the verdict
is in: You’re about to
rock these trends… MAXIMALIST
your way.
• TREND •
Defined
Lash Line Jason Wu
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Adding extra oomph to
your eyes is an easy way
to make an impact. Keep
Make it Maximalist: To create this
your complexion fresh and clever new twist on the siren look,
simple and let the eyes outline your entire eye with a black
stand out. liner pencil, crossing the lines at your
inner corner. Use the same pencil
in your top and bottom waterlines,
suggests Masecchia. Then, layer a gel
eyeliner over the pencil liner on your
lids with a small-angled brush to make
the pigment really pop.
Try: Melt Cosmetics Ultra Matte Gel Eyeliner,
$22, sephora.com
Dior
• TREND •
Moody
MINIMALIST Lip
Make it Minimalist: If you’re not a huge lipstick There is nothing like a dark
person, this is the trend for you. Grab a cool-
lip to spice up a spring
toned brown or berry lip balm to create a soft,
standout look, says Katz. Just swipe it on—you look. Wednesday Addams
don’t even need a mirror. would approve.
Try: Ilia Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm, $28,
sephora.com
MAXIMALIST
Sandy Liang
Make it Maximalist: The best trick for a super

bold lip is lip liner, says Katz. Fill your entire pout
with liner before applying a matte liquid lipstick.
Rochas
For extra definition (and to keep the color from
smudging), apply a bit of powder foundation
around your lips, suggests Masecchia.
Try: L.A. Colors Lipliner Pencil in Smooth Plum,
$6, walmart.com
• TREND •
Super
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MINIMALIST
Glowy Skin Make it Minimalist: For a subtle glow, start
with skincare, says Katz. Buff away any dead,
Hailey Bieber’s glazed dull skin with an exfoliator, then apply a rich
doughnut manicure had a moisturizer and layer a face oil over top. Lightly
cover any blemishes with some concealer, then
huge moment last year— you’re good to go.
now it’s time to glaze Try: Florence by Mills Dreamy Dew Oil-Free
your skin, too. Moisturizer, $16, ulta.com
MAXIMALIST
Roberto Cavalli
Make it Maximalist: To amp up your glow, apply a

liquid or cream highlighter with your fingers or a
brush on the areas you want to bring attention to,
like your cheeks or the inner corners of your eyes,
says Katz. Then, layer a powder highlighter on top
to make it super bright and reflective.
Try: Kevyn Aucoin Glass Glow Face and Body Gloss in
Pixie Dream, $32, kevynaucoinbeauty.com
Gucci

BEAUTY NOTE B OO K
• TREND •
Orchid
MINIMALIST Eyes
Make it Minimalist: No need to fuss with shadows Pretty pastels are a must
and brushes—just apply a purple liner to the inner
for spring. This perfect
rim of your lower lash line and continue the line
straight out from the outer edge for a little flick, purple gives a beautiful
says Masecchia. Finish the look with a coat of splash of color on any
black mascara on your upper and lower lashes. skin tone.
Try: Anastasia Beverly Hills Norvina Chroma Stix in
Violet, $18, anastasiabeverlyhills.com
MAXIMALIST
16Arlington
Make it Maximalist: “Use a base to make the

shadow color pop,” says Masecchia. Apply a
shadow primer all over your lids before patting
powder pigment on top with a dense shadow
brush. Diffuse the edges a bit by blending with
a clean fluffy brush.
Try: P.Louise Coloured Base in Vivid Violet,
$13, plouise.co.uk
Prabal Gurung
• TREND •
State- MINIMALIST
ment Brows Make it Minimalist: Katz likes to use pearlescent
shades to define the arch and highlight the brow
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bone. Simply apply a creamy pearlescent shadow
Brows can go beyond just under the outer two-thirds of your brows and
gel—get creative with this blend it with your finger.
underrated real estate Try: Nyx Professional Makeup Jumbo Eye Pencil All-
In-One Eyeshadow Eyeliner Pencil in Cottage Cheese,
on your face. $6, ulta.com
MAXIMALIST
Elie Saab
Make it Maximalist: OK, this look is pretty eye-

catching—and perfect for a party. Add some glitter
gel to a clean spoolie (snag ’em at the drugstore)
and comb it through the hairs. Keep layering until
you get the coverage you want, then gently brush
away any rogue glitter with another clean spoolie.
Try: Unicorn Snot Holographic Glitter Gel in Flamingo,
$14, amazon.com
Peter Do

• TREND •
Barbie
MINIMALIST
Blush Make it Minimalist: Pop some pink on the apples
The sun is shining, the of your cheeks for a healthy flush. Apply a cream
blush with your fingers so the warmth of your
flowers are blooming and
hands help melt the product right into your skin.
girly pink is so iconic for And if you ever go overboard, tone it down with a
this season…you really little foundation on top, Katz suggests.
can’t go wrong. Try: Makeup Revolution Superdewy Liquid Blush in You
Had Me at First Blush, $7, ulta.com
MAXIMALIST
Fendi
Make it Maximalist: Take your blush to the next

level by extending the color toward your eyes.
Apply it on top of your cheekbones then up to
your temples like you normally would with a
highlighter. Finish by adding some blush to the
inner corners of your eyes or on your lids.
Try: Patrick Ta Major Beauty Headlines Double-Take
Crème & Powder Blush in She’s a Doll, $34, sephora.com
Etro
• TREND •
MINIMALIST Glossy
Make it Minimalist: Lip oils are all the rage,
says Katz. Swipe on a juicy berry or tangerine Kiss
shade, concentrating on the inner part of
your lips to create an ombré effect. Add a Nothing brings on the
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little bit of the same lip oil to your cheeks to warm-weather vibes like a
finish the look.
popsicle-stained lip.
Try: Tower 28 Beauty ShineOn Lip Jelly Non-Sticky
Gloss in Fire, $16, sephora.com
MAXIMALIST
Ulla Johnson
Make it Maximalist: For a bold, glossy lip, reach

for a lip lacquer. It acts like a long-wear lipstick
while staying shiny all day. Apply it carefully to
keep the line of your lip really crisp (touch up
any mistakes with some micellar water).
Try: Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Atomic Shake
Long Lasting Liquid Lipstick in Cherry Chine, $26,
sephora.com
Moschino

BEAUTY S KI N
U SECR
YO ET
E LY
messing up
R
A
your skin? BY ERI N REIM E L
Y
ou might want to sit down
for this: It’s very possible
that you’re making some
serious mistakes with your
skin. Nope, we’re not talking about
all those times you’ve popped pim-
ples (though, pls, pls, pls resist the
urge to pick). We’re talking about
everyday habits that subtly hurt
your skin’s outermost layer—aka
the skin barrier.
Because you
SO, WHAT’S THE SKIN BARRIER? might be dam-
Let’s say your fave water bottle gets aging your derm
a huge crack down the side. You’d without even
end up losing most of your water, knowing it.
and gross bacteria could make its
way into the bottle, too. Ew.
Your skin, which is made up of
hundreds of millions of tiny cells,
kind of works the same way. Lipids,
or fatty compounds, hold all those
cells together, keeping in moisture
and nutrients while keeping out
dirt/pollution/bacteria (like, say,
what’s on your phone and just about
every other surface you touch).
Those lipids—combined with
your skin cells—make up the skin
barrier, explains dermatologist Dr.
Audrey Kunin. In short? The barrier is
responsible for how great your skin
looks (or, if you’ve been messing with
it, not so much).
WHAT YOU MIGHT BE

DOING WRONG
We’ve all spent hours scrolling
skincare routines on TikTok and

wondering how people with gor- Ditch harsh exfoliators and opt
geous skin possibly have the time to for an acid-based serum or toner
layer dozens of products on top of instead. “Scrubs that contain rough,
each other on the daily. jagged particles can actually cause
Spoiler alert: There are much scratches and micro injuries on the
better things you could be doing skin, leading to inflammation. Plus
with your morning/money—and that they can make any existing redness
influencer is probably using a filter. or irritation worse,” states Dr. Rubin.
“Some of the videos I’ve seen are She recommends something
truly cringe-worthy in terms of the with lactic acid, like DermaDoctor
harm people can do to their skin,” Ain’t Misbehavin’ Healthy Toner with
says dermatologist Dr. Iris Rubin. Glycolic & Lactic Acid ($39, amazon.
Time to fix these facial faux pas… com). Just limit your use of acids
to once or twice a week to avoid
SK IN BA RR IER BU MMER : over-exfoliation. “Look for a product
WASHING TOO MUCH that acidifies your skin’s pH, replen-
“Over-washing can strip the skin of ishes hydration and lightly exfoliates
important oils, compromising the clogged pores,” advises Dr. Kunin.
integrity of the skin barrier,” explains
dermatologist Dr. Joshua Zeichner. SKIN BA RRIE R BU MME R:
We get why it’s tempting to BEING TOO EXTRA
wash your face over and over in an When it comes to skincare, often
attempt to clear acne or cut down less is more. If you’re piling on peels
on oil, but chances are you’re only or products with added fragrance,
causing more issues. How? When alcohol-based toners and other
you constantly cleanse, lipids can potentially irritating ingredients that
become weak and break down. can break your skin barrier, it’s time
“When the barrier is disrupted, to ditch that 10-step routine.
your skin can become red, dry and “The key word is gentle,” stresses
start peeling, plus it’ll feel tight and Dr. Rubin.“Beyond a mild cleanser,
itchy,” Dr. Zeichner adds. the only other essentials are mois-
Your best bet? Limit cleansing turizer and sunscreen.”
to twice a day, once in the morning And while we’re calling out
and once at night—plus maybe one culprits, know that even hair prod-
more time if you sweat a lot at soft- ucts (which come in contact with
ball practice. your face/body while you’re in the
shower) can compromise your skin
SK IN BA RR IER BU MMER : barrier. To keep things clear and
USING THE WRONG CLEANSER calm head to toe, look for non-
Picking the right wash is v. impor- irritating, sulfate-free washes like
tant, too. “Products that contain Seen Fragrance Free Shampoo ($29,
harsh ingredients like sulfates helloseen.com).
[which cause your cleanser to get
sudsy] can throw off the skin SKIN BA RRIE R BU MME R:
barrier,” says Dr. Rubin. NOT STAYING CONSISTENT
So don’t go for the strongest, The best bet on the ideal skincare
foamiest face wash that promises routine? Make it gentle, simple and
to rinse away acne. Instead, look for something you can stick to.
labels with words like “gentle,” “sul- Then, do your face a favor and
fate-free” and “for sensitive skin.” skip the too-hot, too-long showers,
After cleansing, apply a moistur- limit time in the sun (SPF always!)
izer with skin-repairing ingredients and don’t skimp on sleep (eight
like ceramides to lock in hydration hours!) or water (10 cups!).
and reinforce those lipids, suggests If you’re doing all of this and still
Dr. Zeichner. (We heart CeraVe Mois- struggling with breakouts? See a
turizing Cream, $14, target.com.) dermatologist. A pro can help you
establish a system that’ll be best for
SK IN BA RR IER BU MMER : protecting your skin barrier—and get
OVER-EXFOLIATING you that glowy look you love.

BEAUTY S PEC IA L
Yep, you’re a nail BY L ISA D ESAN TI S
M A X I M A L I S TA
Stickers are the perfect way to dress up

your digits in a matter of minutes. Manicur-
ist Tina Wang recommends the totally fun
designs from Deco Miami. We couldn’t resist
these colorful cuties (peep the avocado!)
from the Deco Miami Sunny Side Up col-
lection ($10, deco.miami). Press on and top
with clear polish to make ’em last.
FEELIN’ FLORAL
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TA S T E T H E R A I N B O W
It may not be an over-the-top

or complex design, but painting
each nail a different color is way
more interesting than your typi-
cal tips. You can go the rainbow
route with ROYGBIV or choose Fresh daisies on a base of lilac?
more muted tones for an ombré Spring, you can start now. Let two
effect that goes from dark to coats of light purple polish (we’re
light. L.A. Colors Color Craze into Essie Lilacism, $10, essie.
Extreme Shine Gel Polish (from com) dry, then go in with a nail art
$3 each, lacolors.com) comes in pen (try Olive & June, $48 for six,
89 shades to make your mix-and- oliveandjune.com). For each daisy,
match mani a breeze. do five dots of white in a circle and
finish with one dot of yellow in the
center, mixing it up with the num-
ber and placement on each nail.

to
Thanks
p re tty
some
s ha c k s—plus
geniu ers,
est stick
art pro now

the new ns and
press-o a
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C H E C K , M AT E P E A R LY G I R LY GRAPHICS GRL
The retro look of these checker- A super easy way to spiff up your set? For salon-worthy designs without
board, rust brown-colored tips is a Add some pearls. They’re already the price tag to match, we give
serious vibe rn. We’re loving the look sticky, so you don’t have to add glue. you press-on nails. “Black and
of the two side-by-side party nails PSA: A tweezer comes in clutch white designs are having a big
from these Chillhouse Want S’more for applying just right. (Try: Lights moment this year,” says manicur-
press-ons ($16, chillhouse.com). This Lacquer 3D Pearl Nail Stickers, $7, ist Brittney Boyce. (We love this
set even comes with its own gentle lightslacquer.com.) edgy look from Get Quickies, $30,
glue, phew. getquickies.com.) Just affix onto
clean, bare nails and rejoice.
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Sure, you could spend hours trying Skip the chunky line—this is all about The chrome nail trend walked so
to paint the perfect diagonal lines, the micro tip, says Wang. A metallic that velour could run. There’s a
but nail wraps score you the look in shade like Un/Dn Laqr Lightning velvety texture to these tips, plus
less than 10 minutes. These stickers, Strikes Metallic ($18, undnlaqr.com) a mesmerizing sheen that shifts as
which last for about a week, cover makes it even cooler. Pro move: Use a you move your hands (Kiss Velour
your full nail and come in different nail stamper (check out the Maniology Fantasy Sculpted Nails, $13, kiss
sizes. (Try Nails of LA The Modest Clear Stamper Collection, $9, usa.com). File the sides to create
Wrap, $8, nailsofla.com.) maniology.com). this chic almond shape.

BEAUTY HA IR
GYM CLASS CALLED…

AND SHE WANTS HER
BORING PONYTAIL
BACK. YOUR ASSIGN-
MENT: TAKE THE LACK-
Power Up
LUSTER LOOK TO A Dove Cameron
NEW LEVEL. WHETHER
YOU GO FOR SOME-
THING A LITTLE MORE
INTERESTING OR A LOT BRING ON THE BABY BRAIDS
Face-framing pieces are the perfect way to change
MORE GLAM, BUH-BYE
things up…but turning those pieces into braids
BASIC PONY.
*really* elevates the look.
POW ER U P: Celeb hairstylist Clayton Hawkins
(who created this look on Dove) says the secret to a
snatched pony is working in steps. Section off two
front pieces and secure with a clip (you want to get
the pony right first, then come back for these). Spritz
strands with hairspray (we like Drybar The Sheriff
Medium Hold Hairspray, $27, drybar.com), then split
hair in half horizontally at the temples with your
fingers. Follow with a brush (Hawkins recommends
Tessa Thompson the Tangle Teezer Ultimate Styler, $15, tangleteezer.
com) to bust bumps, then secure the top half-pony
with an elastic. Repeat this on the bottom section
(spray then brush) before adding the hair to the top
ponytail with a second elastic. Once your pony is
nice and perky, finish by braiding the front pieces
and secure with tiny, clear elastics.
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BUBBLES AND BOWS, BABE
Arguably the easiest way to take your pony from
stale to stunning is to turn it into a bubble style. This
spring’s upgrade? Ribbons.
P OW E R U P: Brush hair into a ponytail as usual,
keeping hair smooth (hairstylist Jenny Balding uses
a pomade to help achieve that slicked-back look—
try Fatboy Hair Perfect Putty, $21, amazon.com).
Then, grab a few extra elastics (we like Scunci Mixed Shay Mitchell
Size Rubber Bands, $4, ulta.com) and fasten them
about every two inches. Using your fingers, gently THE BONY
pull and soften the bubbles, fluffing them a little This ponytail-meets-bun style was the hottest accessory
bit (start at the top and work down). Finish by tying at the spring ’23 runway shows.
ribbons around each elastic.
POWE R U P: The secret to this chic style? The greasier
your hair, the better. After you’ve gathered hair into a
pony, twist a hair tie (we like the stretchy-yet-secure
Gimme Beauty Any Fit Hair Bands, $12, gimmebeauty.
com) around as many times as you can. Then, wrap it once
more and pull about one-third of the length of your hair
through the loop, leaving the ends free to hang.

Your Pony BY L I SA D E SA N T I S
Quinta Brunson
GLAMOUR-GIRL PONY
An elevated pony to go with your most
fabulous frock? Yes, please.
P OWE R UP : Sleek and straight strands are
key here, so start with a flat iron (the T3
Single Pass X, $235, t3micro.com has wider
plates and 50% more power, so it’s perfect
for thicker hair). Do a deep side part and
trace it back from the hairline so you have
about a four-inch section of hair, then clip
out of the way. Brush the remaining hair
back into a high pony and fasten with an
elastic. Use a wax stick like ORS Olive Oil
Wax Stick Styler ($9, target.com) and an
edge brush to tame any flyaways. Now take
the hair that you clipped to the side and pull
it taut so that it lays flat against your head
and secure with bobby pins at the nape of FAUX REAL PONY
your neck below your pony. Wishing for a long, flowing ponytail, stat? Get a
lengthy look in an instant with (super easy, we
promise) clip-in extensions.
P OW ER UP : Master stylist Stephanie Angelone
says all you have to do is tie your hair up in a
ponytail as you normally would, then add the
clip-in extension. RPZL offers a range of 16- and
24-inch pony pieces in different colors and
textures (from $50, rpzl.com). They have velcro,
which allows you to fasten the ponytail extension
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Hailey Bieber around the base of your own so it blends in seam-

lessly. Finish by adding a hair accessory like Free
People Petite Bow ($12, freepeople.com).
CLASSIC CLAW CLIP

Lazy girls, rejoice. This look takes basically nothing
to recreate, not even a brush…unless you really,
really want to use one.
POW ER UP: Angelone recommends using “day-old
dirty hair” for this undone look (grit provides extra
hold, natch). Gather hair at the nape of the neck,
then twist it upward until you reach the crown.
Wrap the twisted hair around and fasten with a claw
clip (we heart the cute styles from Emi Jay, emijay.
com), allowing the ends of your hair to flow out of
the sides. Pull some pieces free for the ultimate “I
woke up like this” vibe and finish it off with a texture
spray like Eva NYC City Grit Matte Texture Spray
($13, ulta.com).

BEAUTY PR E T T Y T H O UG H TS
From twists
to braids and
everything in
between.
Dear
Natural
Hair:
BY JA S MI NE RO B IN SO N, 20

It didn’t take long for me
to start missing my natu-
ral look. But it wasn’t just
about the aesthetics of
natural hair: I realized
that my hair is part of
vividly remember the first time I real-
ized my natural hair was different who I am as a young Black
from the other girls’. woman—and it’s a bless-
I was 8 years old and hanging out ing, not a burden.
at recess with my friends. Bored, we
decided to do each other’s hair. But
when one of my friends went to braid
mine, she couldn’t work through the
thick, tight curls to even start a plait. salon feeling unstoppable. My friends could finally
As the only one with Afro tex- braid my hair! I could experiment with ponytails
ture, I suddenly felt like everyone around me was in and buns! I could even flip my hair dramatically just
a club I could never be a part of. like Serena van der Woodsen in Gossip Girl.
When my friends began experimenting with Right away, I got a lot of positive attention.
their hair, I was always stuck with a limited set “Wow, I thought that wasn’t your real hair,” people
of options. The products that worked for my would say. “I had no idea your hair was so long.”
hair were reduced to their own small section at I took these comments as subtle ways of saying
drugstores. I had no idea what dry shampoo was, that I looked prettier with “normal” hair.
I could never try a messy bun and cute baseball So I kept it straight, even though the process
caps were totally out of the question. of doing so was just as difficult as maintaining my
When I went to middle school, I was finally in natural twists. I found myself skipping gym (sweat
a place where having natural hair was completely = frizz). I’d throw a plastic bag on my head when-
normal. My classmates had everything from Afros ever it rained (a guaranteed hair ruiner). I even
to braids. I could borrow products when staying turned down a spring break beach trip rather than
over at a friend’s house! I had someone to ask for deal with the high humidity (crazy, I know).
salon recommendations! I finally had people who It didn’t take long for me to start missing my
shared my experience with navigating natural hair. natural look. But it wasn’t just about the aesthet-
After graduating eighth grade with confidence ics of natural hair: I realized that my hair is part
in my twists, I was shocked when I entered my first of who I am as a young Black woman—and it’s a
day of high school and saw no natural hairstyles. blessing, not a burden.
My new school was diverse in its own way, but My natural hair gave me those special Sundays
the Black community was exponentially smaller with my mom in the living room. It gave me a con-
than at my middle school. Once again, I was sur- nection to my community. And, yes, my hair made
rounded by long straight hair, feeling left out as me “different” than some of my friends but, as I
my friends made weekly trips to Drybar. eventually learned, the truth is that being differ-
Right or wrong, simply existing as a Black girl ent is empowering.
with natural hair made me feel like I was “differ- I remember the first day I walked into my high
ent.” Without my girls who knew my struggles all school with my hair back to being completely nat-
too well, I felt shame every time I had to explain ural and how it felt to see the way my friends lit
the lengths I went to care for my hair. up when they saw me. I was finally my true self
On Sundays, my mom would shampoo and again—and more confident than ever.
comb through my hair. We’d watch Hannah Mon- I once thought that changing my natural hair
tana or listen to jazz music while she’d neatly was something I had to do to feel “pretty” like
twist my tresses. It took hours for her to do my everyone else. Now, I’ve realized that no one
hair, giving us the time to talk about anything thought my natural hair was less beautiful, it was
and everything. We made so many memories, just just different in a good way.
laughing and sharing. By putting so much love and My hairstyle will always be an extension of my
care into my look, my mom taught me to see my personality. These days, I go back and forth…I’ll do
LEOPATRIZI/GETTY IMAGES.
natural hair as the most beautiful part of myself. twists, I’ll flat-iron, I’ll do braids and everything in
All that said, I was still curious what it would between. I’ve chosen to express myself through my
be like to have the straight locks I always dreamt hair and, no matter my latest look, one thing’s for
of. So during my sophomore year of high school, I sure: I wouldn’t be me without my hair. And learn-
had it professionally flat-ironed. I walked out of the ing to love it was the best decision I ever made.

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BY K AT H E R I N E H A M M E R
CRUSHES
S
o you’re at a crush crossroads: Your on-and-off love K EEP A R EL ATI ON S HIP SEC R ET FROM YOU R
interest won’t commit to a label…but gets mad when PARENTS?
you say you’re going to the dance with someone else. “You have to be realistic about how far a relationship can go if
You see a text from a girl in your youth group flash it’s not allowed,” advises therapist Courtney Conley. Try having
on their screen…but should you peek? Or, ugh, you secretly an honest conversation with your family before you go down
have serious feels for…your BFF’s ex. Whatever your dating the road of lying (and risk getting caught and damaging their
dilemma, we’re here to help you conquer that crisis. trust). They may have legitimate questions about your thought
process when it comes to dating, so be open-minded and willing
to answer.
I S I T O K TO… T E X T YO U R E X ? And if they set a clear limit (like no solo hangouts behind
If it was a bad or recent breakup, avoid it. Even if you can’t cre- closed doors), respect that. You can always ask for a rule
ate some distance because you’re in classes together, keep your change down the line, but your arguments won’t be as effec-
interactions strictly public, like asking about the group project tive if you’ve broken their rules in the past.
in the class Google Doc (or better, reaching out to someone
new instead of relying on the comfort of your former flame). T UR N SO MEO NE D OWN?
That said, if you’re hoping to rekindle a friendship or a Of course. And, though it’s good to be cordial, you want to
once-happy romance, text away. “As long as you have clear be clear. “Lead with gratitude and kindness,” says Grimste,
boundaries and it’s not harming your self-worth,” it’s OK to “though you don’t need to hurt them by going through all the
reach out, advises therapist Mallory Grimste. reasons you’re not interested in them.”
A simple “Thanks so much. I know how hard it is to ask
M A K E T H E F I RST MOVE? someone out. I have a great time hanging out with you, but
Absolutely. If the flirty banter is obviously there, why not take I’m only interested in being friends” should get the message
the big leap? “I was so worried I’d come off as cringe when I across and keep everyone’s feelings intact. Then, gently create
asked out my crush,” admits Cayla B., 17, “but she was so appre- some space between you two to avoid giving mixed signals.
ciative I took the risk—and she said yes!” Worst-case scenario,
STE P OUT OF YOU R COM FOR T ZONE ?
they turn you down and you can move on to brighter baes.
When someone is pushing you to grow in happy ways? Go for
G HOST SOM EO NE ? it. “My BF encourages me to be more adventurous, like when I
tried skiing for the first time this year,” says Taylor L., 16.
Not the best move, tbh. Think about how you feel when some-
But if your crush is pushing you toward something that
one doesn’t respond to you: at best, confused; at worst, super
makes you feel uncomfy like staying out past curfew, drink-
hurt. When feelings are involved, it’s important to give conver-
ing, getting physical or hanging with a crowd you don’t feel
sations (even over text) a clear beginning and end.
authentic around, listen to your gut and hit the brakes. A bae
But if someone is harassing you or reaching out constantly
who’s worth your time will respect you for being true to your
when you’ve made it clear you don’t want to chat further, it’s
values and setting boundaries.
definitely OK not to contact them—and to tell a trusted adult
or counselor what’s going on. G O THROUGH TH EI R PH ONE ?
Don’t do it. If you have worries about who or what they’re
C AN CE L A DATE AT T HE L AST MI N UT E ?
texting, best to address it head-on. Snoop and you could end
Depends why. You have to babysit your little cousins so your up with confusing information or, worse, discover a secret you
aunt can help your sick grandma? Bae will understand. But now can’t discuss without confessing. (P.S. A consistent nag-
bailing because you’re nervous or just feel awkward? Be ging feeling you can’t trust them is probably a sign to leave
honest and swap your one-on-one dinner for a more casual this relationship behind.)
hangout instead, like meeting up at the movies with both your
friend groups. G OSSI P ABOUT T HE R EL ATI ONS HI P?
It’s normal to gush to your bestie about your S.O.’s sweet
DAT E YOU R B ESTIE ’S BAE? “good morning” texts, but when it comes to sharing your bae’s
No one should claim ~everyone~ they’ve ever liked, so if it’s deeper thoughts, cringey moments or personal stories, keep
her two-week fifth-grade “boyfriend,” fair game. If it’s the S.O. your squad out of it. After all, you wouldn’t want them dishing
she dated for nearly a year? Steer clear. the deets of your first kiss with their entire crew.
Also, consider how close you two are when making your
choice. Your debate team acquaintance might be OK support- DRESS UP SO THEY MIGHT NOTICE YOU?
ing you from afar, but things could get dicey dating the ex of You should never undergo an entire aesthetic transformation
your forever BFF (even if she says it’s completely fine). If the just to get someone’s attention (plus, it’d be super awkward
bond isn’t worth losing, put your friend first. You’ll find another going back to the “real you” if you started dating). But if you
cutie to crush on, promise. Continued on page 76

IS
YO U R
CRUSH
TOO
MUCH
D R A M A?
WE’LL
REVEAL
IF THE
SHIP IS
WORTH
THE
STRESS.
BY K AT H E R I N E H A M M E R
CRUSHES
Some crushes are simple ‘n’ sweet B. Calm them down over FT A. Nada. Your friends heart you, A. They quit the team and post
while others add, well, just a little before they hit the books. but they’re kinda sick of hear- on social media explaining
too much spice. Take this quiz to C. Invite them to study with your ing about your situationship. how the tryouts were rigged.
uncover exactly the energy bae is squad. Balancing equations is B. Not much. You’re not sure if B. They rant to you and anyone
bringing into your life… best over Pink Drinks. your crush is into you, and you who will listen about how
D. Send a cute “You got this!” don’t want to get into it before frustrated they are.
1. After waking up, you peek at Snap right before you head anything even happens. C. They seem fine about it at
your phone and see a text from into the classroom. C. The general deets of your school but text you later that
your crush. Your reaction? sweet text convo last week, they’re kinda bummed about
A. Instant panic. You’re hoping 3. You were supposed to grab though you keep their actual the outcome.
you didn’t leave them hanging pizza after the game, but they messages to yourself. D. They’re totally chill and show
for too long so they don’t have bailed. What’s the explanation? D. Everything…even if there’s up to JV practice ready to
an excuse to ghost you…again. A. None, really. They said nothing really to tell. You’d pump up everyone else.
B. Tons of butterflies. How are something came up at the last love some tips on how to get
you going to find the time to minute—and now you haven’t closer to them, though. 7. Lucky you! You and bae got
craft the perfect reply before heard from them in two days. paired up for a history class
first period?! B. They ran into their old buddy 5. It’s Saturday morning. group project. How did it go?
C. Laughter. They always find from camp and wound up Where’s your crush headed? A. They spaced on your study
the most niche yet hilarious hanging out, but they promise A. You’re not sure, but you do sesh, and you kinda did all the
memes to crack you up. they’ll make it up to you at know that you two will be work…but hey, at least you got
D. Disappointment. All they some point. texting all day. to see your names together on
wanted to know was when the C. They apologetically admit they B. Debate team prep. They the final slides.
French class project is due. have too much going on rn and *love* a good argument (and, B. They freaked out about how
ask to reschedule. let’s be honest, so do you). hard the project is and per-
2. The two of you have been D. They spaced and grabbed C. Rehearsal for the end-of-year suaded you to stay late after
cramming for the honors chemis- subs with the crew. Next time, musical. You’re hoping they’ll school to make it perfect.
try midterm for weeks and, tbh, they’ll be sure you and your ask you out for matcha after. C. You worked together, equally
they’re *super* stressed. How can squad come, too. D. No idea, but you’ll be check- divided the tasks—and got
you show your support? ing their Story for updates. an A.
A. Prep the perfect study guide 4. You’re at a sleepover with D. They asked for the link to the
to share, offer up your BFF as your besties, and they’re all 6. Coach just posted the varsity Google Doc the night before
a tutor and lend them your opening up about their crushes. tennis roster…and your crush is the due date, then popped
color-coded flashcards. What do you spill? stuck on JV. How do they react? their notes in.
MOSTLY A’s MOSTLY B’s
WA RNI NG : E XTR EM E D R AM A AH E A D C HAOTI C C U TI E

Sorry to say it, but this is one would-be romance you’re OK, so your crush sometimes lets their emotions get the
going to want to skip. When things are good with your best of them or puts their needs before yours…but that
crush, it feels amazing…but, let’s be real, how often is doesn’t mean there’s no hope for this spark. Start speak-
it smooth sailing? Whether they have a short fuse with ing up for yourself when you’re frustrated (“Hey, I’d really
the people around them or they simply think it’s OK to appreciate it if we could stick to our plans next time”) and
ghost you at a moment’s notice, this crush isn’t treating see how they react. If they take the hint and change for
you the way you deserve. Thank you, next. the better? They might just be dating material.
M OST LY C ’s MOSTLY D’s
L AI D- BAC K V I B E E AS Y, BR E E Z Y, UNCOM PL IC ATE D

You and your crush have a solid foundation of friend- Wait…does your crush even have emotions?! While
ship, and even when things get tough, they’ve got a a drama-free bae seems amazing on the surface, the
good sense of humor and calm about it all. As the two truth is that no one is completely low-key *all* the
of you get closer, encourage them to open up and stand time—and a lack of ups and downs might mean that
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their ground when they believe in something. The best you haven’t gotten to know them super well yet. Ask
relationships push you both to grow—even when that some deeper questions next time you’re chatting up
*sometimes* means adding a tiny dash of drama. your cutie and see where the conversation goes.

Y O U R D AY - B Y - D A Y
BY A M AN DA KO H R
L
et’s state the obvious: Going through a breakup is
the worst. No matter the circumstances or whose
decision it was, your world has just been rocked, and
it’s hard to know how to move forward.
But that heartache you feel right now? It eventu-
ally fades away. We know it’s hard to believe…especially if
your ’ship just split or you got dumped out of nowhere (send-
ing hugs, btw). Yes, the old “time heals” saying is true—but it
doesn’t exactly make you feel better in the moment.
“You have to move through your feelings to get to the
other side,” says psychologist Dr. Rayne Palombit. “Being sad
is part of the process, but it does get easier as days go on.”
Though we can’t be there to make brownies and binge Net-
flix with you IRL, behold our step-by-step guide to healing
heartache with patience and compassion so you can survive
(and thrive!) in your post-relationship universe.
D AY
Y 1
TO O L : YO UR C R E W + COM FOR T FOOD

Your breakup just happened—and whether you’re reeling with
confusion, piecing together what happened or just feeling all
of the emotions, now’s the time to surround yourself with love
and good vibes. Gather your besties (or your mom, sis or any-
one who will 100% support you) plus a pan of your grandma’s
famous lasagna for a night of marathoning your fave movies,
crying and venting.
D AY 2
TO OL : A L I ST OF TH I N GS YOU LOVE
Tbh, rising and shining when your heart has just been torn into
itty bitty pieces is a struggle. You wake up then, bam, you’re
hit with memories of your ex. To help protect your emotions
on the first post-breakup day, we’ve got an assignment for you:
Make a list of things you love to do—and do one of them today.
“The most important thing to do after a split is to shift the
awareness back to yourself,” says Dr. Palombit. “What is it that
you like to do? How can you implement more of those things
into your schedule? Acknowledge what makes you feel good or
productive, then use your free time to do more of it.”
Maybe it’s crafting a homemade chai latte. Horseback rid-
ing. A long bath. Visiting a friend’s puppy. Going to the farmers
market. A face mask and a good playlist. As you heal from your
breakup, you can check back in with your list as a reminder to
fill your day with things that bring you genuine joy.
D AY 3
TO O L : A WEEK OF O U TF IT S
Sure, the official breakup uniform is sweatpants. And while
we’re not against comfy clothes, save them for when you’re
home, curled up on the couch.

CRUSHES
Since the last thing you want to do is think about what to

wear, plan an outfit for each day of the upcoming week. Why
not update your aesthetic or revive some pieces from the back
of your closet to mix and match?
“It’s not just about the clothes,” explains therapist Lindsey
Cooper. “It’s about trying something new and starting fresh.”
DAY
Y 4
TO O L: A C LE A N SW EEP
Nostalgia, begone. Time to stop staring at your adorable cou-
ple Polaroids or cuddling up with their hockey team hoodie.
“Don’t put yourself in a situation where every part of you
that is already hurting keeps getting hurt,” advises Cooper.
“The relationship dynamics are changing, and it’s important for
your life to reflect that.”
So toss all those reminders of your ex (like their birthday
cards, ticket stubs, dried flowers) into a box and hand it off to
your bestie. Also off-limits? Scrolling those sweet texts or self-
ies from the past (or, better yet, delete those, too).
DAY
Y 5
Here’s
how to TOO L: A BREA K UP V I SI O N BOAR D
Breakups signify an end, but they’re also a whole new beginning.
*actually*
Use your newfound free time and extra energy to learn more
mend your about yourself. All those magazines collecting dust under your
broken heart. bed? Now’s the moment to repurpose them for vision boarding
an amazing life—without your ex.
Spend a couple hours looking for images that make you happy,
cut ’em out and collage away. Now display your work of art
where you can see it every morning as motivation to get out
and live your best solo life.
DAY
Y 6
TOO L: F RE S H A IR
The urge to stay inside and wallow is real. While we fully sup-
port being in your feels, just a little walk around the block can
do wonders for your state of mind. “It’s a fact that being out-
side helps your mental health,” says Cooper. “You’re connect-
ing with something bigger than you, you’re getting sunlight
and you’re moving.”
DAY
Y 7
TO O L: A B E ST IE DAT E N I G H T
It’s officially been one week since your breakup. For some, this
can be a harsh reminder of the heartache…but for you, let’s
make it a day to celebrate how far you’ve come.
“Your friends are so important during this time,” says Cooper.
“And getting out helps give you a sense of accomplishment.”
Reach out to your go-to crew to grab boba or plan a sleepover.
Laughing and catching up with your BFFs is a perfect distraction
and a chance to dig into the fabulous relationships you *do* have.
Continued on page 74

Dear
Carol
BY CAROL WESTON
WE BOTH LIKE HIM

I have had a crush on a guy for over three
years—and I just learned today that my best
friend has a crush on him, too. I think he
might like me more than her, and I don’t
know how to tell her. Also, how do I tell him
I like him?
Dear We Both Like Him,

Three years! Did you and your BFF never
talk about this? Look, crushes are fun, but
friendships matter, too. I’m still really close Dear Boobs And Privacy, WHERE DO I START?
friends with the girl who lived next to me I hear you. We humans are mammals, OK, so I have a crush on this really nice
in high school, whereas the boy I went out and females have boobs (in part) because guy called Josh (that’s not his real name,
with? Haven’t seen him in ages. So protect that’s how mothers feed their young. But that’s the code name my girls and I use). We
that friendship. In fact, no, I wouldn’t tell society and fashion and culture play their aren’t in the same classes, but he tends to
her you think he likes you more, especially roles, too—not just biology. You’re right, it smile whenever I pass him in the halls. And I
since you are all still figuring everything out. wouldn’t exactly go unnoticed if someone guess he (like me) tries not to look at me so
You could talk to her about how you both bared their boobs at the beach (unless of it doesn’t seem like he likes me. We used to
think he’s nice and if he ever likes one of you course it’s a nudist or topless beach, hello talk a lot after school (we always came out
back, you can vow not to let it mess up your Europe!). And if a girl wore a thin white shirt late because I had debate and he had band
friendship. Don’t forget that there are other with no bra to a job interview, it would be practice). But my debating season ended so
guys out there, too. And, to be honest, lots naïve of her not to be aware of how it would I don’t hang out with him anymore. My BFF
of other things to think about. be viewed. (A man who showed up shirt- sees him each morning, and she wants to
less for an interview would not get taken ask him if he likes me. I’m letting her, and
BOOBS AND PRIVACY seriously either.) How we dress is how we she’s going to ask him on Monday. I really
Why does it feel like a huge deal that boobs present ourselves to the world. We become want him to make the first move (after my
stay super private? Like, I have a brother, aware (as you are) that for better or worse, friend asks), but I’m really worried about it
so I don’t wear a T-shirt without a bra people notice our bodies. I could say that spreading through the entire school.
even in my own house (I’d feel weird if my it’s not fair that there’s a double standard.
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brother saw). And at the beach, it would be But things are less binary than they used to Dear Where Do I Start?,
super embarrassing if my bikini top shifted. be—and women show their bodies in public You like a guy. He likes you. You’re both play-
But guys can go shirtless all the time… more than in the olden days. The bottom ing games a little because you’re looking
and it’s normal for them. It’s just so unfair (or shall I say top?) line: It all comes down to away from each other instead of at each
there’s that difference. what feels right to you. And stay sensible. other when you see each other. Your friend

LIFE
Dear Sad And Puzzled, Dear Scared,

Moving is stressful—and also very common. I’m so sorry to hear that one of your friends
But there are upsides to starting with a clean tried to harm herself. That really is upset-
slate as a person and a student. You can ting, and I’m not at all surprised that you’re
make friends in your new school and still hold feeling shaken to the core right now. I am
on to your OG besties. At some point, you do happy to hear she is getting help. Suicide
need to tell your current friends, one by one is mysterious and tragic. With professional
or in a small group. But if you’d prefer to wait counseling and support from family and
a little longer, that’s up to you. When you’re friends, she’ll find her way back into the
ready, just say that you’re sad and you hope light. You can and should be compassion-
they’ll visit. I bet they will. ate and continue to be there for her, but
make sure to take care of yourself, too. I’m
SCARED wishing you both the best.
Last night one of my closest friends tried to
kill herself. She’s getting help now, but I’m THEATER FAMILY
just so shocked. When she told me, I let her My theater class has always been super
know that I’m there for her. It just seems supportive of me and like my second family.
like things are going to be so weird now. We recently had our last show. Since half
And I’m scared. of us will be moving on to high school, our
is going to gauge his interest, and he might

mumble something noncommittal like
“Yeah, she’s cool,” even if he’s stoked that
your friend is asking for you. Of course, we
all know the go-between thing can backfire.
He may say, “Nah, not really,” because why
should he go out on a limb to someone he
barely knows? Or she and he might have a ARE MY FRIENDS HIDING THINGS?
heart-to-heart of their own. With luck, you’ll I think my friends are all hiding something from me. I keep asking
get a good ball rolling and you’ll take it from them to tell me, but they just say it’s no big deal. What should I do?
there. Don’t worry about the entire school.
Most people have things to talk about and Dear Are My Friends Hiding Things?,
think about other than the growing feelings Wouldn’t it be nice if they were hiding something fun, like plans for a
between two people. Or they should, right? surprise party for your birthday? But OK, let’s say that they’re hiding
the fact that they got invited to a sleepover you didn’t get invited
SAD AND PUZZLED to. Maybe they don’t want to rub it in or make you feel bad that you
A couple days ago, my parents told my weren’t invited. If, however, you think your friends are more thoughtless
sister and me that we have to move at the than thoughtful, then keep reaching out to other girls. When you do
end of the summer. It’s too far of a drive for something and it doesn’t make you feel better, don’t continue doing it.
my dad to go to his new job from where we Don’t ask them to be better friends. Instead, find your best self and get
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live now. So I’ll have to say goodbye to all involved with new friends so you don’t feel left out of a group you may
my friends here. They don’t know that I’m be smart to leave behind.
moving in a few months—and I don’t know
how to tell them.

Dear Carol
GUY TROUBLES
So one of my friends told me that he has a crush on me…and I told
him that I liked him back. And we’ve been talking ever since. The
other day he texted me and said, “Um, can I ask you a question?”
and I said sure. Then he said, “What would you say if I asked you
to be my girlfriend?” I was not expecting him to ask me that. I
honestly don’t know what I would say if he did ask me, but I said
that I think I’d say yes. I want to be in a relationship, but I don’t feel
I’m ready yet. Help?
Dear Guy Troubles,

First of all, you called your letter “Guy Troubles,” but there are far
worse problems than having a guy you like like you back. Since you
two are friends, do your best to be honest with him. Say that you like
him but aren’t sure if you feel ready for a serious boyfriend-girlfriend
relationship, though you do like the idea of hanging out with him. It’s
OK to take baby steps. You don’t have to rush anything. You two may
even be on the same page (sounds to me like he’s new at this, too—
that’s probably why he phrased his question in such a coy way). Enjoy
these feelings and if at some point you realize you’d rather just be
friends, deliver that news gently. Or who knows, things between the
two of you may sparkle, in which case, hooray! Spring will feel a little
bit sunnier this year.
teacher is giving us an opportunity to make My parents got divorced right before I was you’re leaving her behind. You could even
a speech to say goodbye. These people have born, and I always lived with my mom. Last look into going away to school—or signing
helped me through so much. They have year, I turned 14 and went to live with my up for a camp or summer program. Many
given me a safe space to be myself and dad while my mom moved. Everything was offer scholarships. If you handle all this with
each holds a special place in my heart. The great! I got along with my half-brothers sensitivity (rather than shouting, “Mom, I like
problem is I don’t want to leave—and I don’t and my stepmom. But when my mother got Dad’s place more!!!”) you should be able to
know what to say for my speech. There are settled into her new place, I had to move have some say in where you live.
so many things that I want to say, but I just back after five months of living with my
don’t know how to say them. dad. I’m getting picked on in this new town, CRUSHING
and I miss where I was. I don’t want my I started talking to a guy who is in a few of
Dear Theater Family, mom to think I’m choosing my dad over her, my classes this year and I realized I kinda
How wonderful that you’ve learned so much but I don’t want to live in the area she’s in. liked him. I told my friends, and they told
and gotten so much encouragement from him at our school dance. We haven’t talked
this group. I hope you’ll continue enjoying Dear I Moved In With My Mom, in a while, but we catch each other’s eye
theater—and being part of the world that But I Miss My Dad, sometimes and I think his friends talk about
creates it. As for your speech, just speak Navigating the complications of having me. I don’t know what to do.
from the heart and tell them what you told divorced parents can require a lot of diplo-
me. Think of it as a sweet, grateful farewell macy to avoid hurt feelings (including your Dear Crushing,
rather than a speech with a capital S. You own). I’m glad you get along with both your You can do nothing and just keep enjoying
can even start it with a question. Say: “How parents. If your dad’s home has a better the intrigue. Or you can take a small risk
can I possibly tell you all how much it has school system (does it?), that might be your and try to talk to him directly. Pick a subject
meant to me to work with you and to have “selling point.” You could say: “Mom, I love like schoolwork or weekend plans and meet
this safe space? You’re like my second fam- you, but I was getting a better education his eyes with a smile. If you both want to
ily, and I hate to leave. But you’ll all always there, and that really matters to me.” get to know each other better, the path is
be in my heart. So, I guess I just want to say It’s hard for a parent to argue with that. in front of you. But there’s no pressure, and
thank you thank you thank you.” See? Your Another thing? Be sure your dad and step- sometimes it’s sensible and just fine to take
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words. And if you end up sobbing a smidge, mom would be fine with having you on an things one step at a time.
so be it. That’s what tissues are for. ongoing basis. You can also tell your mom
that you’re getting picked on and prefer Carol Weston is the author of 16 books
I MOVED IN WITH MY MOM, BUT I the other school. And tell her you will call including Speed of Life and Ava and Pip.
MISS MY DAD and FaceTime and visit so she doesn’t feel More at carolweston.com.

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IS IT TIME TO
If she’s gone
from trust-
worthy to toxic,
END
it might be time
to call it quits
on your bestie
bond. Here’s
when (and, eek,
how) to do it.
THAT
BY K AT HE RI N E H AM ME R
AN D L EN A G EN OV E S E
FRIENDSHIP?
LIFE
S
he’s your soul sister: You crack each how stressed and angry she made me,” Baylee Should you
other up during classes, can exchange admits. “I felt better when I realized I could
an entire conversation with a single find friends who genuinely liked me for me.”
break it off
look and spill your deepest secrets with…
over FaceTime chats that last all night. H AV E * T H E * TA L K ( O R N OT )
These bestie dynamics are
But lately, something hasn’t felt right. She’s Though it’s normal to want closure, if you’re common—but are they
giving you the silent treatment over a tiny tiff, 100% sure the friendship is done for good, there friendship enders?
seemingly skipping your sleepovers or barrag- isn’t much to be gained from discussing it as a
ing you with her crush drama in convos that duo. Instead, just slow things down by texting TH E E NE RGY ZA PP ER
feel increasingly one-sided. less and making fewer plans. You ask how her day went…
You don’t know that you want to lose her But if you feel “the talk” is necessary, and immediately get looped
forever—but you don’t want to lose yourself in be firm, be honest…and be ready for a into her constant chaos, from
her situationship who won’t
this friendship, either. If you’re struggling to less-than-positive reaction. After all, the
text her back to her fam fights
keep the bestie ship afloat, it might be time to purpose of the conversation is to “establish a and school struggles.
change course. Here’s where to begin... clear boundary that the friendship has come T RY: When this is a pattern, you
to an end,” says Suarez-Angelino. need to open up to her about
S P OT T H E R E D F L AG S Holding out hope to repair the relationship? how it’s making you feel. She
Let’s be clear, it’s perfectly OK for someone Let your friend know you need to address some may need your support, but
to have an off day (like when she was beyond concerns, then agree on a time you both feel she also needs a reminder that
friendship is a two-way street.
stressed about school and had to miss cheering comfortable opening up in private.
A true-blue BFF will understand
you on at regionals). But consistent patterns When you talk, Dr. Donald advises describing and try to fix the problem.
(like talking behind your back, making you feel your experience clearly (“I’ve noticed when you
guilty for prioritizing yourself or always pulling hang out with Jade and Sarah after school, you TH E S EC R E T S PI LL ER
you into never-ending drama) can signify larger don’t include me”), defining what you’re seeing You told her during homeroom
problems in your relationship. (“It makes me feel lonely and kind of excluded”) that you were kinda-sorta into
“If a friendship is negatively influencing and being open to hearing your friend’s per- Ryan from student council. By
lunch, it seems like *everyone*
your life, it might be a reason to end it,” notes spective (“Is there a way you can get time with knows about your crush.
therapist Lena Suarez-Angelino. Do you get them but also prioritize our friendship?”). T RY: If it happens once? Let
pangs of anxiety wondering if she’ll invite you One note: Just because you’re bringing up her know you’re disappointed,
to her birthday party? Does it seem like she this issue doesn’t mean she’s going to change, then proceed with caution
doesn’t celebrate your successes? Do you feel but you’ll at least know you gave her a chance. before you open up again. If
like you can’t be your authentic self around it happens twice? Time to get
her? Start backing away from the friendship W H AT ’S N E X T ? some distance.
by saying no to a study sesh or grabbing lunch If you’ve made the choice to end the friend- TH E D RAM A STA RT ER
with your choir crew instead. ship, allow yourself space and time to be Your softball squad can never
The bottom line? Don’t ignore your gut upset about it. After all, our besties are an get a break because it seems
instinct: Feeling lighter or happier when she’s important part of our lives…and even if you’re like she’s always in a fight with
not around is a sign to start moving on. the one who ended things, it can be just as somebody. Worse? She asks
devastating as a dating breakup to realize your you to take sides.
T RY: Tell her clearly that you
( F R I E N D ) S H I P O R D I P? former go-to girl won’t be texting you as you
won’t be getting involved
Ask yourself one seemingly easy question: Do marathon Never Have I Ever’s next season or in her arguments, then
you truly, genuinely want to be friends with cracking her signature corny jokes. put your energy into other
this person? Maybe you’re just drifting apart But also cheer on the fact that you figured relationships. Because if she’s
(like if you were sports season buddies, but out something wasn’t right for you and allowed bickering with half the team
now field hockey is over), which is perfectly yourself to let it go. “You can get closure on on any given day? You could be
normal and natural…and doesn’t need to your own by celebrating ending a relationship her next target.
involve any major confrontation. that wasn’t fulfilling,” says Dr. Donald.
TH E CO N FI D EN CE K ILL ER
Says therapist Dr. Emily Donald, “If a good Use the experience to inform what you’re You love your new tulle top…
friend often puts you down, ignores you or looking for in your next friendship (it may be until she says it’s “too much”
refuses to accept who you genuinely are, it helpful to write this down in a phone note or when you send it in the group
might be time to say goodbye.” And yes, gulp, journal), whether it’s more of an equal back- chat. Or you gush that you got
even if you used to be tight. and-forth or someone who makes you feel an A, and she replies with a
It’s something Baylee M., 16, went through included with her squad. “so what?” shrug.
T RY: This person’s struggling
with one of her longtime besties who had Now you have the mental and emotional
with insecurity that has
moved onto a new friend group and started space to put yourself out there, focus on the nothing to do with you. Ditch
excluding and criticizing her. “I was so focused friends who have been there all along and the bad vibes and seek out
on remembering the good times we had—and even form new bonds—with besties who heart friends who actually support
the person she used to be—I wasn’t noticing the authentic you. you when you succeed.

THE
OVERTHINKING
G I R L’ S G U I D E
TO TOUGH DECISIONS
UNSURE? NOT ANYMORE.
FACE THAT NEXT BIG
CHOICE WITH CONFIDENCE
AND CALM.
B Y A M A N D A KO H R
LIFE
“Consider going to a person you trust or someone

who has had to make a similar choice to get their per-
spective,” advises Dr. Suchov.
Think about the people in your life. If a friend is ask-
ing to copy your homework and you’re torn, can you
find a sibling, cousin or teammate who may have been
there before and can help provide some wisdom?
“This guy I didn’t really like asked me out. I didn’t
want to hurt his feelings, so I said maybe,” shares Tori
B., 15. “I ended up telling my older sister. She helped
me find the words to let him down while still being
respectful and not creating any drama.”
TAKE A BREAK.
If you’re not under a super strict timetable, consider
stepping back from the decision—especially if you’re
feeling any pressure from others around you. Go for a
bike ride, catch up with your BFF, take a long shower or
just get a good night’s sleep.
“I realized that if I try to make a big choice when
I’m stressed out, it makes it way harder to figure out
what to do,” says Alexia A., 16.
It’s true: Staying trapped in the decision-making
process can make it tougher for you to find a broader
perspective, come up with creative solutions or tune
into your gut feelings about the sitch.
The key is to get outside of those thoughts so you
can reapproach your debate feeling like a refreshed
and empowered you. A little alone time (and self-care)
might bring all the clarity you need.
REMEMBER THAT YOU CAN

ALWAYS CHANGE YOUR MIND.
Ready for some good news? If you made a choice and
it just doesn’t feel right anymore, it’s perfectly OK to
switch it up.
“You can try something and realize it’s not for you,”
says Dr. Suchov. “Oftentimes, trying something and dis-
liking it is more valuable than not having tried at all.”
The idea is to make decisions that feel authen-
tic and fill you with pride. Tried out for tennis only to
realize you’re more of a theater gal? Pat yourself on
the back for giving something new a shot and add your
name to the list for next year’s drama club auditions.
If it’s something bigger, like failing to set boundar-
ies with a friend, it’s not too late to speak up. You’re
allowed to grow—and the right crew will happily accept
the new, empowered you.
Finally, don’t get caught up in striving for perfec-
tion. Tbh, there’s no such thing as a perfect decision.
But the more we get comfortable with making tough
choices, the more we learn about ourselves—and the
easier it becomes to know who we are and what we
want in the future. And making the call to be truer to
yourself? That’s always a decision to celebrate.

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ombing exams, feeling left out, not making one-on-one, turn your attention to the person in the group
first string—these things can loom large in you’re vibing with and ask them about plans for spring break
your mind and cause your confidence to or that upcoming chem test. And above all, just be yourself.
crumble. But with the right approach, you It’s the best way to let the convo flow.
can take the biggest, baddest bummers and
reduce them to a tiny hiccup. So what if... YOU HAVE DIFFERENT INTERESTS
Maybe life seemed simpler when everyone you knew was
happily finger painting and playing tag—but the older you
THERE’S THAT ONE THING THAT *REALLY* get, the more passions you gain. And since you and your
BUGS YOU ABOUT YOUR LOOKS friends are not clones of one another, there’s no way you’ll
Fact: Your body has over 2,000 unique parts. That’s a lot to always be into the exact same things.
embrace, so it’s perfectly OK not to feel confident about every “You know that saying ‘opposites attract?’ There’s a lot
single inch. But as much as you’d like to trade in a couple parts of truth in that when it comes to friendships. Differences
for new ones, the truth is that you only get one body—so show can balance each other out and create even better relation-
your head, shoulders, knees and toes some love. ships,” says psychologist Dr. Dana Rofey.
Think of a few positive traits about your least favorite So if you want to delve into dance while all your friends
thing. Maybe your feet are bigger than your bestie’s...but are on the lacrosse team, do it. Let your independence guide
they’re likely what make you such a speedy swimmer. And you to go for whatever makes you happy. Real besties will
those freckles on your face? Probably passed down from support whatever path you choose.
your gorgeous grandma.
This approach worked for Grace G., 14: “I used to hate YOU’RE THE ONLY ONE NOT COUPLED UP
my small eyes. But they just so happen to be framed by At the movies, during the spring dance, in line at Starbucks—
extra-long lashes. So now, I play them up—and my eyes are wherever you go, it seems you’re surrounded by couple
the first thing I’m complimented on.” goals. And it can be really easy to be hard on yourself when
Bottom line: If you think you look good, others are going you’re the odd one out.
to pick up on that confidence. So get those parts out of hid- Pause the pity party by reminding yourself that relation-
ing and flaunt, flaunt away. ships are complicated (super complicated, tbh). By living the
fabulous single life, you automatically cancel that inevitable
YOU DON’T HAVE A MILLION FRIENDS crush-fueled drama out of your world. Plus, with no one to
Social media makes it seem like everyone has a bazillion distract you, you can focus on the things *you* like to do,
besties, but the average teen actually has about five close when *you* want to do them.
friends. And yeah, it can be fun to see your follower count “Not having a girlfriend gives me more time to try new
go up, but when it comes to honest-to-goodness IRL friends, things. I’ve met new friends—and cute girls!—I have tons in
quality is more important than quantity. common with,” says Chloe D., 16. And did we mention being
“I was hung up on fitting in with the big, ‘popular’ group single equals unlimited flirting?
at school,” says Hannah R., 13. “But their world is filled with
drama, and that gets old.” And no matter if you have a squad YOU’RE NOT ALWAYS PERFECT
of 10 or two, it’s all about finding the people who make you It’s the final play of the big softball game, and it feels like the
feel loved and give you energy instead of draining it. weight of the entire team is riding on your shoulders. The ball
flies to you. You dive...and you miss, losing by one run. Think
YOU BLANK AROUND A POTENTIAL BAE your world’s over? It’s not. Everyone has the occasional bad
You’re at a party when a group of cuties comes up to you day. Still, when you’re living in the pressure cooker that is your
and your crew. While your friends get their chat on, you’re so life, messing up can feel super isolating.
hung up on saying something clever or funny that you barely To get through tough times, start by switching your per-
make a peep. Sound familiar? spective. “When something bad happens, remind yourself of
You could be among the 48% of people—including Selena at least one good thing that came out of it,” says Dr. Rofey.
Gomez, Kendall Jenner, Beyoncé(!!)—who consider them- OK, so maybe you lost the game—but you did score three
selves to be shy. runs. Forgot a line in the play? At least you’ve got a speaking
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So the next time you’re around a potential new bae, flash part. Recognizing what you accomplished, even in the nega-
your best smile and strike up some friendly chatter. “Try play- tive moments, will help you get over life’s hurdles—and trust
ing Would You Rather,” shares Mya S., 15. “That always leads to us, there’ll be a ton in your future. So cut yourself some slack.
a fun conversation in a group.” If you’re more comfy chatting It’s your imperfections that make you, well, fabulously you.

B Y K E E LY W E I S S
riana Greenblatt is probably going to be the biggest movie star of her

generation. At just 15, she’s already had a hit series on Disney Channel,
taken on intense roles in tons of major films (ever heard of Avengers:
Infinity War?) and worked alongside (and even befriended) major tal-
ents like Margot Robbie and Adam Driver.
Her star power becomes even more obvious once you learn that some of the
biggest names in show business look to her as a muse, with both Greta Gerwig
(who directs her in Barbie, which pretty much everyone is already calling the
movie of the summer) and the iconic Meryl Streep inspired by her raw talent.
P H OTO G R A P H E D BY Not bad for a girl who’s just trying to get through sophomore year of high school.
RAUL ROMO A totally typical teenager with a fabulous double life, Ariana is a study in con-
trasts. She’s a sophisticated art lover with a keen eye for couture (at our photo
shoot, she picked out everything she is wearing from racks of new and vintage
designer finds). But when she’s not on set, she spends her weekends hitting the
mall in her pajamas or racing dirt bikes with her dad.

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She loves going to school and tossing around ideas at the time scored her two last-minute meetings with
with her classmates (especially in her fave electives, Nickelodeon and Disney Channel…and Ariana ended
sociology and psychology) but freely admits she chose up with three jobs.
those classes partly because she knew they would One of those gigs was a series regular role as Daphne
make her a better actor. “I have always loved learning on Stuck in the Middle, the Disney Channel show that
why people are the way they are,” says Ariana. “For put her on the map. Since then, Ariana’s star has
future characters, I can use my knowledge of, like, OK, only continued to rise—and she’s poised to have an
she’s acting this way because of point A and B.” especially big year ahead.
And dedicated as she is to her acting career, Ari- This month brings the release of 65, a sci-fi thriller
ana’s already thinking about her future as a writer or she shot more than two years ago alongside Driver.
director—and she’s looking close to home for inspira- “That was one of the first characters that I truly had
tion. “I could be talking to my friend at school and, at a separate brain for,” Ariana recalls of her time on
the same time, I’m thinking, I’m going to write you into set. “When it was time to play this girl, I was fully
a movie,” Ariana confesses. “They don’t know that I do her—body language and everything.”
this, but I’ve literally written character descriptions of But it’s when Gerwig’s Barbie comes out in July that
my friends.” (You’ve been warned, besties.) her life will likely go into whirlwind mode. “I have to be
Truth be told, they probably wouldn’t be surprised, very careful what I say,” she hedges when pressed for
especially given her dedication to capturing her per- details on the highly anticipated film. “I’m definitely
sonal life on camera. “I have a really old camcorder the Tom Holland of the Barbie world. Like, I would be
that I bring everywhere with me, and I make my the one to spoil it. All I’m going to say is what you’ve
friends take a lot of pictures of themselves when we’re seen so far is the least of everything—there’s so much
walking around,” she says. more to come.”
It’s all valuable research for Ariana, who aspires to Ariana is eager (and able) to spill about set life for
tell “a very simple coming-of-age story.” She explains: Barbie, though. “Everyone was like a kid,” she says of
“I feel like teenage girls are the most complex and lay- her castmates, singling out Robbie: “Margot was hon-
ered species—we have so much going on in our heads. estly my big sister. We bonded over listening to Lana
There are so many different types of girls, and I feel Del Rey and Frank Ocean.”
like so far only a few have been portrayed.” It stands to reason that someone as effortlessly
One of Ariana’s go-to flicks for inspo? Gerwig’s cool as Ariana—a girl who is obsessed with the 1990s
2017 critically acclaimed coming-of-age film Lady Bird. film Girl, Interrupted, insists on doing as many of her
“Lady Bird is my comfort movie,” she shares. “I haven’t own stunts as she can get away with and makes a
seen a lot of films like that, that have felt so real and point of going thrifting in every foreign city she visits—
authentic.” The fact that it stars her number one celeb could so easily become BFFs with global movie stars.
crush doesn’t hurt: “Timothée Chalamet is my soul- In an ultimate sign of friendship compatibility,
mate,” Ariana reveals. (Sadly, she has yet to meet him.) Robbie and Ariana discovered they even had some of
Given her Lady Bird fandom, Ariana was understand- the same dislikes: “Matcha was extremely popular on
ably thrilled to pair up with Gerwig on Barbie, which the Barbie set. Margot and I always tried to convince
follows Barbie (played by Robbie) as a less-than-perfect ourselves we liked it because it’s a really pretty green
doll who enters the human world to find happiness. color and it’s super aesthetic, but we both hated it,”
“Greta is someone I’ve dreamt of working with for Ariana reveals.
many years, and she’s exactly who you want her to be,” Movie star besties, film sets, press tours and photo
Ariana raves. “Every day she came with a smile and shoots aside, Ariana tries to keep it real as much as
excitement and some jokes and some stories. I would possible. When Ariana’s crew from home hangs out,
ask her, ‘How are you not freaking out being so over- they keep it low-key—watching movies, making Tik-
whelmed?’ And she was like, ‘I love it. I just love it so Toks and never posting them, grabbing boba. (Ariana’s
much.’ She’s just a boss.” fave flavors = Thai tea and taro.) “Boba is my favorite
As glamorous as her life may be now, Ariana’s thing in the world,” shares Ariana, adding that she’s
career had a simple start. Growing up in Pomona, been attempting to make her own at home. “It’s a
N.Y., she spent her time taking dance classes, dream- problem. I’m obsessed.”
ing of being on Broadway and hanging with her Whether she’s mastering boba or the big screen,
parents, her older brother Gavin and her rescue pug it’s all just another scene in the movie of Ariana’s
Ozzy. (The Greenblatt fam now has two mutts, also fascinating, complex, ever-evolving life. “There are so
rescues, named Foxy and Luna.) many ideas going through my brain at all times. I just
Then her whole life changed on a family vacation love telling stories. I love a challenge.”
to Los Angeles over spring break in 2015. Her manager We know we’ll be watching.

PICK
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HONE INTO THE HUSTLE THAT BELONGS
ON *YOUR* VISION BOARD (PLUS FIND OUT
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o you’re counting down the days 3. What’s your ideal summertime hangout? down to you. You’d love to gift one just like
’til school’s out…but your personal A. Your BFF’s pool. Soaking up the sun and it for her b-day. But how?
goals are bigger than ever (not giggling with your girls is heaven. A. Deep dive Depop with your mom ’til you
to mention you’re saving up for B. Your bedroom. You just redesigned it to find the exact one. Talk about teamwork.
some Taylor Swift miracle tickets, go with your current aesthetic. B. Whip up a replica on your trusty sewing
manifesting it rn). Problem solved: Get to C. The ocean. Bliss = feeling sand between machine. It’s amazing what you can cre-
work on your dreamiest summer job. We’re your toes and hearing waves crash. ate from a couple pairs of old jeans.
revealing what’s going to rake in the bucks D. A coffee shop. You love to scroll through C. Hit the racks at the Salvation Army. It
while matching your motivations... finance TikToks over iced green tea. has to be in there…somewhere.
D. Do an online search for a modern version,
1. Snore, it’s supposed to pour All. Satur- 4. Your dream summer vacay? then seek out the best bargain.
day. Long. What’s your plan? A. A cruise. You’d love to visit cool places
A. Round up the crew for a rom-com mara- and live out your Suite Life dreams. 7. Your teacher assigns a last-minute
thon at your house. B. New York City. It’s full of creative people extra-credit project for English class incor-
B. Put the finishing touches on the ter- and gorgeous galleries to check out. porating any book you read this year. How
rarium you’re making for Mother’s Day. C. New Zealand. First stop: bungee jumping do you boost your grade?
Everyone says your cacti creations are off a bridge. A. Pen a modern-day scene based on Romeo
the cutest. D. Europe. You’d hop from city to city (Paris! + Juliet.
C. Go for a run. A little rain can’t stop your London! Rome! Barcelona!) and see all of B. Write a song based on The Outsiders. All
workout streak. the most iconic spots. the characters are in your “band.”
D. Clean out your closet. You can catch up on C. Create a Jeopardy-style game involving
your fave politics podcast while you’re at it. 5. You and your sister made a total mess out trivia from The Great Gatsby.
of your room. Mom says it needs to be less of D. Design a color-coded chart that shows
2. You’re helping out at your bestie’s bash. a disaster, pronto. You… character relations in Jane Eyre. This way
What does she put you in charge of? A. Text your sis to come back from her BF’s you can use it to study for the final, too.
A. Greeting guests as they walk through house so you can get going together.
the door. You have a knack for making B. Work to get your side of the room spot- 8. On the last day of school, you’ll be the
anyone feel welcome. less, then leave the rest for her to deal one who is…
B. Setting the scene with a tray of adorable with later. It’s only fair for each of you to A. Following everyone on Insta. Hello, sum-
Oreo cupcakes, a Pinterest-worthy photo clean up your own clutter. mer squad options.
backdrop *and* a perfectly curated C. Head straight into the minefield, blast B. Taking down all of your handcrafted
pump-up playlist. your fave album and get to work. Nbd, locker décor.
C. Games! Time to teach everyone how to your sister will handle it next time. C. Signing everyone’s yearbook. What can
play Scattergories. Who doesn’t love some D. Work out a detailed to-do list to split the you say, you’re just a softie for sentimen-
friendly competition? tasks right down the middle. tal moments.
D. Cleaning up after the guests are gone. D. Thanking your teachers and getting the
Streamers left hanging? Forgotten 6. Your bestie is coveting the vintage summer reading list. Brownie points
favors? Not on your watch. denim patchwork skirt your mom handed carry over to next year.
M OST LY A’s MOSTLY B’s MOSTLY C’s M OSTLY D’s
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YOU R SK IL L S : With your YO U R S KI LL S: Crafty and cre- YO UR SKILLS: You’ve got YO UR SKILLS: You’re organ-
caring, motivated personality, ative, you’re perfectly suited loads of energy, and you’re ized, precise and on top of
you’d be a super babysitter for making and selling your not afraid of hard work. You things—qualities that make you
and also great at walking dogs own goods—whether they’re could be a lifeguard, assistant a dream hire for any office.
or helping your neighbors adorbs beaded bracelets, coach for a kiddie league, MAK E IT HA PP EN : Corporate
with yardwork or errands. sweetly sewn totes or killer camp counselor or stable gigs aren’t always easy to score.
M A K E I T H A P PE N: Create a Key lime pies. hand at a horse barn. Up your odds by finessing your
website (wix.com has one for MA KE I T HAP PE N: Make a MAK E IT HA PP EN : Drop by five résumé with a fave teacher,
just about anything) that lists bunch of your products, then of your fave prospects and ask then use LinkedIn and word of
the jobs you’ll do plus a little seek out craft shows, open an if they’re hiring. No gigs avail- mouth to seek out internship or
info about yourself. Then add Etsy shop and create a social able? Inquire about volunteer job opps in your area or online.
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it to your Insta bio and post in media presence for your busi- opps or openings in August Got an interview but not the
a local Facebook and Next- ness. Friends and family make when the college kids head job? Tell them you’ll check back
door group. Say you want to great first customers—but rep back. Even if you only work for in when summer starts. You
work as a gardener: Add pics your products out in the wild, a few weeks, you’ll get a foot never know when something
of your weed-free flower beds. too (you’re your own best ad). in the door (literally). might just open up.

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our inner critic feeling ple change: “Now, at the end of a
a little too chatty these stressful day, I read a book instead
days? It’s a sign you of reaching for my phone.”
could be struggling with negative Not sure where your self-talk
self-talk. “Negative self-talk can spirals are starting? Try keeping a
look like name-calling yourself brief log on your Notes app or in
[‘I’m such an idiot’], blaming your- your journal to spot any patterns.
self, making statements about
what you ‘should’ have done SELF-TALK SECRET:
differently or making self-dep- NORMALIZE MISTAKES.
recating comments,” explains Hannah Montana said it best:
therapist Laura Sgro. In other Everybody makes mistakes. So
words, being too hard on yourself. when you’re having a “why did I
Though negative self-talk do that?” moment after forget-
is super common, that doesn’t ting to turn in an assignment on
make it any less damaging: time or flubbing your lines during
Studies show it can increase the big audition, take a deep
stress and anxiety and lower breath…and remind yourself that,
self-esteem. well, nobody’s perfect.
Whether you’re criticizing the “If you’re an overachiever or
way you look or you’re beating hold yourself to high standards,
yourself up for forgetting your it’s easy to criticize yourself for
chem homework, that naysaying making a mistake or feeling like a
voice in your head can seriously failure,” says Sgro. “It’s important
get in the way of you living your to remember that we all make
most confident, peaceful life. mistakes. And they don’t have to
But there are ways to keep define who you are as a person—
your inner critic from running the or your worth.”
show. Let’s discuss…
SELF-TALK SECRET:
SELF-TALK SECRET: NAME YOUR INNER CRITIC.
NOTE YOUR TRIGGERS. That voice in your head might
Negative self-talk can definitely feel real in the moment (“Ugh,
be triggered by specific scenarios why didn’t my crush text me
(like dropping the baton during back? I’m so awkward”) but, truth
your regional track relay), but is, it’s just fear/anxiety/self-doubt
Time to dial down
your inner critic might also trying to protect you. the negative self-
have a habit of showing up on When you give that inner
a schedule…like every time you critic a name, you can take away talk—and raise the
study for a geography test or its power by reminding yourself
shop for new clothes. it’s just a voice…not who you are
volume on your
For Josie M., 16, it was social as a person. self-worth.
media that brought on the bad It might feel silly at first to
vibes. “When I scroll TikTok before say, “Thanks for the input, Frank,”
bed after a long day, I start com- but it actually works: “Finding BY A MAN DA KO H R
paring myself to other girls and a random name helps the voice
beating myself up for not looking feel separate from you and can
a certain way,” she reveals. make you feel more in control of
By noting what caused the whether you want to listen to it,”
frustrating feels, she made a sim- says Sgro.
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SELF-TALK SECRET: what’s going on or just share that
PLAY THE REFRAME GAME. you haven’t been feeling like your
When we get consumed by nega- most confident self.
tive self-talk, we tend to frame “I felt terrible that I didn’t
things in a way that leaves us feel- score a goal that would have
ing worse. But there are ways to changed the outcome of my
shift those spirals into something team’s game,” says Priya J., 15.
more neutral…or even uplifting. “I talked to my coach about it,
“Ask yourself, ‘What would a who told me about different pro
more helpful response be?’” soccer players who had missed
advises Sgro. Say you’re struggling goals. It was nice to feel like I
to review your AP history unit wasn’t the only one—and that you
before an upcoming exam. could mess up sometimes but still
Instead of thinking “I’m not be a good player.”
good at history,” try replacing And if you catch yourself
that thought with “I’m struggling in a pattern of near-constant
with this. What can I do to make it negative self-talk? Reach out to a
easier to understand?” Now you’ve school counselor or ask a parent
helped silence that criticism—and to help you search for a mental
given yourself a next step. health professional who can
support you.
SELF-TALK SECRET:
IMAGINE YOU’RE TALKING SELF-TALK SECRET:
TO YOUR BESTIE. CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESSES.
If your best friend was staring Ugh, you didn’t make varsity
in the mirror and complaining volleyball. Or get selected for that
about the way she looked, would college-level summer writing pro-
you jump in and criticize her? No gram. Instead of letting a setback
way. You’d probably point out all define how you feel, remind your-
the amazing things about her. self of all your talents (like how
So even if it feels cringey, much your serve has improved this
be your own bestie. Next time year) *and* all your wins (like when
you start to feel down about your poem got chosen for the
something, hype yourself up by school’s literary mag).
reminding yourself why you’re “Sometimes before bed I
wonderful. Even say it out loud or remind myself of something
write it down. And while you’re at awesome I did that day,” admits
it, your fave playlist and a mirror Sydney P., 17. “I just say it in my
dance party never hurts. head as I’m falling asleep.”
As you retrain your brain to
SELF-TALK SECRET: challenge your own criticism,
FORM A SUPPORT SYSTEM. remember that it’s perfectly
When you can’t quiet the voice in normal for negative self-talk
your head on your own (or even to pop up. And when you do
when you can), there’s no shame start getting down on yourself?
in seeking out the people who Acknowledge what’s happening,
think you’re pretty great—and redirect your thoughts and don’t
leaning on them for a boost. be afraid to reach out for help.
Whether it’s your bestie or a Bc your new self-talk mantra?
family member, open up about Trust the process. I got this.
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Not anymore
Yes, it is possible to beat cramps—forever.
H E A LT H
As anyone who’s ever been keep those pesky cramp-causing IS IT PMDD? ate and the activities you did
bloated, crampy, broken out, hormones in check. Bloat, boob soreness and that day. Review the journal
headachy and beyond tired cramps are enough to with your doctor so she can
make anyone cranky…but determine if your headaches
knows, PMS is officially the Every month, what if it’s more? A small are definitely PMS-related.
worst. So what’s happening I get so bloated. percentage of people who
to your body, anyway? Your menstruate have some-
guide to conquering period It’s so uncom- thing called premenstrual I get the wildest
pains once and for all... fortable. dysphoric disorder (PMDD),
which is essentially an
mood swings
T H E CAUSE : When you don’t extreme version of PMS. ever!
get enough fluids, salt can stay PMDD is tied to the TH E C AU SE : Some hormonal
My cramps are in your body tissue and cause menstrual cycle, but it changes can mess with the
you to retain water. And fluctu- can be severe enough
killer! ating hormone levels can make to cause dramatic mood
brain’s serotonin, a chemical
that improves mood. The result?
T HE CAUSE: Every month, the the problem worse, so you swings, anxiety, a feeling
of hopelessness, trouble A serious meh attitude.
inner lining of the uterus builds may spend the days before your
concentrating, change in TH E C U R E : “Avoid caffeine.
up to prepare for a possible period feeling like a walking It can make you anxious,
appetite, trouble sleeping
pregnancy. If no fertilized egg water balloon. or oversleeping and more. worsening mood swings,” Dr.
appears, the uterus sheds its If this sounds like what Hirsch says. Calcium may be
lining and starts from scratch T H E CUR E : Cut down on salty you’re going through, the cure to crankiness, so get
for the next month. When that foods and drink lots of H2O talk to your doc. lots of dairy, leafy greens and
happens, hormones called pros- (newsflash: Consuming water nuts, plus plenty of sleep and
taglandins are released to help doesn’t make you bloat). Fiber exercise. And if you’re super
the uterus squeeze out the old also can help, um, move things depressed around your period?
lining. Behold: serious cramps. along, so opt for smart snacks Talk to your doc immediately.
T HE CURE: Get moving! like bran cereal, apples, rasp- the amount of junk food you You don’t have to seriously suf-
Exercise can lower prostaglan- berries or nuts. eat can really help fight other fer every month—there’s help.
din levels. Just can’t bear the symptoms,” Dr. Hirsch says.
thought of hitting a treadmill? I just want to eat
Switch to yoga or walking.
My skin is
*all* the food. My period=seri-
A bath, a warm compress or freaking out.
a heating pad also can help T H E CAUSE : Experts aren’t
ous headaches.
TH E C AU SE : Yep, blame your
curb cramps. “Anything with 100% sure why hormones TH E C AU SE : Again, the drop hormones. Right before your
heat can relax the muscles and trigger cravings, but the vari- in hormones is to blame here, period, your body may produce
make you feel better,” says ances can make us want to tear causing severe headaches or extra androgen, a hormone that
pediatrician Dr. Larissa Hirsch. If through a bag of potato chips. migraines (beyond awful head- kicks oil glands into high gear.
your cycle is pretty predictable, T H E CUR E : Satisfy your crav- aches that usually affect one TH E C U R E : “Keep skin clean,
load up on magnesium-rich ings with healthful, filling foods side of the head). but don’t wash too often,” Dr.
foods (pumpkin seeds, spinach, (think: plain yogurt with a swirl TH E C U R E : “Take ibuprofen Hirsch advises. Even though you
chickpeas) the day before you of honey and topped with nuts or acetaminophen early on to may feel greasier than normal,
expect your period to ward off and fruit, a starchy veggie like a prevent headaches,” Dr. Hirsch too much scrubbing can irritate
cramps before they hit. If period sweet potato or some unsalted says. It may help to keep track skin, leading to even more
symptoms are causing you to popcorn sprinkled with grated of your headaches by jotting breakouts. Just wash twice
miss school or your fave activ- Parmesan cheese) or indulge in down when they occur, what a day with an acne formula
ities, talk to your doctor—she smaller portions of your fave was going on and what makes cleanser, then spot treat with
may prescribe medication to snacks. “It’s hard, but reducing them better, plus the food you salicylic acid.
3 things ACUPUNCTURE LAUGHING

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Bananas also can help (and some insurances scroll through hilarious
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FOR STUDENT-
ATHLETES, YOUR
COACH CAN BE
YOUR BIGGEST
CHEERLEADER…
OR A SERIOUSLY
TOXIC PRESENCE
IN YOUR LIFE.
HERE, A CAU-
TIONARY TALE
ABOUT COACHES
WHOSE HARMFUL
BEHAVIORS CAN
CAUSE YOU TO
LOSE YOURSELF
IN THE NAME OF
WINNING.
P
icture this:
You’re a track star
who has earned a WHEN
Tough L
college scholarship
to one of the most success-
ful running programs in the
country. You’re working hard,
adjusting to the strains of
being a collegiate athlete and
trying your best to crush it on
the track and in the classroom.
Then, your coaches tell you
you’re just not good enough.
GOES
They test your body fat per- BY S A R A H WA S S N E R F LY N N
centage and suggest you lose
weight. Your role on the team
may depend on it, they say.
The comments make you feel
awful about yourself. Just eat- And it’s a narrative that’s relate. As a high school runner, new body, I struggled. My times
ing a cookie overwhelms you been seen on the high school I had a toxic relationship slowed. I didn’t win as easily
with guilt. Before long, your level, too. Reporting by with my coach that almost as I used to (in fact, I wasn’t
love for running is replaced Runner’s World magazine destroyed me—emotionally winning much at all). But I felt
with stress and anguish, and highlighted the toxic culture of and physically. more pressure than ever to do
you quit the team. high school running. Coaches, well. After all, colleges were
This is the scenario alleged subscribing to an intense, FE E LI NG TH E P RE SSU RE recruiting me for scholarships.
by six female runners at the win-at-all-costs mentality, can It all started with a major And if that wasn’t enough,
University of Oregon who left encourage behavior such as growth spurt: Just after my coach always seemed
the team after accusing their over-training and under- winning a state championship *so* disappointed in me. He’d
coach of body shaming and eating—which can lead to in cross country my junior year throw up his hands in disgust
using body fat and bone long-term mental and physical of high school, I grew—and when I clocked slower intervals
VGAJIC/GETTY IMAGES.
density scans to suggest when health struggles. grew. Seven inches and several in workouts. He ignored my
athletes needed to slim down. When I read about the pounds, to be exact. And when anguish and told me I was too
(The head coach of the pro- struggles these athletes are I began my senior season in emotional, too difficult and
gram has since been replaced.) going through, I could totally what was basically a brand wasn’t working hard enough.

H E A LT H
CROSSING THE LINE

How do you know if your coach is displaying toxic behavior—or just
tough love? Here are some red flags to look for.
TOUGH LOVE: Subbing you out after a bad play.
TOXIC: Not speaking to you for a week after you missed a few shots.
TOUGH LOVE: Having the team do an extra interval at the end of a

killer workout.
TOXIC: Blasting you in front of the team for not trying hard enough
when you don’t hit your pace.
TOUGH LOVE: Taking you aside and addressing your poor attitude.
TOXIC: Ignoring you if you cry or show emotions during or after a
game or telling you to “suck it up” when you’re having an especially
rough day.
TOUGH LOVE: Sending the entire team into the weight room for a
“bonus” strength sesh that leaves you sore for days.
TOXIC: Singling you out for an extra set because you spoke up.
enough, like I had the power to W H AT ’S O K … A N D

just will myself to run faster. WHAT’S NOT
The thing is, I was probably Despite my setback, I wound
up getting a scholarship to
ove
working harder than ever,
but at that point, little was run in college, which I did for
actually in my physical control. the next four years. My college
It was a period of growth and career wasn’t flawless by any
change that I simply needed to means, but working with
ride out. patient coaches who believed
As hard as that time was, I in me ignited my true joy and
T O O FA R was lucky to have the support

of my family and friends who
reminded me that I was more
passion for competing—and I
continue to race as an adult.
Sadly, dealing with unnec-
than just a fast runner: I was essary pressure and stress or
also an honor roll student and even abuse inflicted by a coach
an editor of my school’s news- is a narrative common among
paper—and I would have been many high school athletes.
accepted into college even Whether you’re a swimmer,
At 17, I didn’t have the track by paramedics. Doctors without a super impressive dancer or tennis star, you may
perspective to realize that said it was dehydration, but athletic résumé. find yourself going through
what was happening to me was now I recognize the episode Fortunately, in time, I was something similar, like dealing
just an adjustment period—and as a panic attack. I’d become able to recover both physi- with a changing body or feel-
that it wasn’t my fault. So I so lost in my self-loathing and cally and mentally. I got used ing like a failure because, well,
turned my frustration inward worry about impressing my to running with my taller, your coach basically tells you
and blamed myself. I had dark coach and being the best that heavier, more muscular frame. as much.
thoughts. I grew angry. I literally could not breathe. I became more confident in my Don’t get me wrong: There
Once, after a particularly abilities both on and off the are millions of awesome
bad race, I bolted to my room, M ORE TH AN M Y TI M E track. And though I tried to coaches out there. And some
locked the door and threw my Like so many other girls, I was set some boundaries with my of the best coaches are far
running shoes so hard against far too intimidated and far too coach during my senior year, from the warm-and-fuzzy type.
my wall, they left a dent. In naive to stand up to my coach. I think he was pretty much But there are also some people
another race, I passed out cold I believed him when he told me done dealing with me. After I in positions of power in sports
200 meters from the finish line my poor performances were graduated from high school, who either take advantage of
and had to be carted off the the result of me not trying hard we never spoke again. Continued on page 76

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She’s your per-

sonal cheerleader, B OO K MOTHER-
your shoulder to DAU G H T E R MA NICU RES.
cry on and your Splurge on a spa day with
best friend in the
side-by-side mani/pedis
whole wide world.
in a sweet spring shade.
We rounded up the
Can you say “peri-
sweetest ways to
winkle purple”
show your mama/
three times
gran/always-there
fast?
aunt how much
you care.
JUST SOME
Remember that diner you
S M A L L W AY S T O M A K E H E R two used to swing by every
Saturday after practice? Go
M O T H E R ’ S D AY indulge in a nostalgic lunch

(two grilled cheeses with
extra pickles, pls).
AMAZING SCREEN YOUR SHOW.

Because nothing says
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B Y L E N A G E N O V E S E A N D K AT H L E E N O ’ N E I L L
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PAINT BY NUMBERS. YOU DROP.
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Numbers—then get crafty THE HOUSE. lets for the win.
with your built-in BFF. Whether it’s unloading
the dishwasher or folding SURPRISE HER WITH
BOND OVER BOOKS. laundry, devote some time A SLIDESHOW.
Pick a read from her TBR to checking chores off her Pop your fave photos of you
list, then discuss your deep- to-do list. two into a PowerPoint set
est thoughts and sequel to a sentimental tune. Brb,
predictions. ORDER FROM shedding a tear to T-Swift’s
AN OLD FAVORITE. “The Best Day.”
G ET
G R AT E F UL .
H OST HI GH TEA
FOR T WO. Grab a few sheets of
colored construction
Prepare an herbal
paper and cut into
blend and serve it up
strips of equal size. Jot
with a plate of
down the v. specific
shortbread cookies. Did
TAKE A CLASS reasons why you’re
you just come up with
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TOGETHER. thankful for Mom—then

a brand new Sunday
Has she always wanted to fold up the strips, place
tradition? Yes, yes
try pasta-making or pot- them in a Mason jar and
you did.
tery? Snag a spot in a local cue all the feels.
(or online) course.

TOUGH LOVE UM, IS IT OK TO…?
Continued from page 71 spot on the starting squad—or worse, get Continued from page 45
kicked off the team. We are taught from
their authority or may not be adequately a young age that the tougher you are on want to rock a fit that makes you feel con-
equipped to handle the many ups and downs the field, the better. But emotions are real, fident when you know you’ll be chatting
the average teen athlete experiences. and if you aren’t dealing with your feelings ’em up? Work it, girl.
There are those who go to extremes, they will sabotage your performance.
like coaches at the University of Oregon, “A great coach looks to develop the GET JEALOUS?
to set unrealistic standards for their ath- whole athlete: mind, body and spirit. If Envy is an emotion we all experience so,
letes. Or those, like my high school coach, any of those three aspects are lacking, an yep, it’s perfectly OK to feel pangs of “ugh,
who continue to push and even shame athlete’s performance can be negatively I wish that was me” when bae gets paired
their fragile athletes until they crack. impacted by the type of coaching taking up with that hilarious girl in science lab or
So how do you know if your coach is place,” says life coach Wendy Jones. “You when your crush comments an inside joke
just being tough on you—or is actually have to learn to trust your own intuition. on another girl’s Instagram pic.
bordering on abusive? If something feels wrong, it’s important to But while a little jealousy is nbd, con-
It’s not always so black and white, have the communication skills to bring it sistent comparing likely means you’re not
says Martise Moore, a sports confidence to the coach or another adult.” secure in yourself or your relationship (or
coach. “It’s OK for your coach to push you Granted, coaches are human. And your S.O./situationship is simply giving off
out of your comfort zone, dismiss your they’re entitled to bad days and bouts of less-than-reassuring energy). Try opening
excuses, give you hard workouts and frustration, just like you are. But if their up to your crush about how you’re feel-
change your position—all so that you can negative role in your world is becoming ing…or open your heart to a plus one who
become a better player,” she says. “But routine (or if they continue to pile on puts you first.
if your coach uses humiliation or abusive undue pressure), know that you have the
language to ‘motivate,’ that’s a red flag.” power to shift that dynamic. Because, POST ABOU T THEM ON
when it comes down to it, a coach should SOC IAL MED IA?
BEI NG YO U R B E ST be there to boost you, support you and lay Everyone has a different vibe when it
This tricky dynamic is made even more a foundation that sets you up for success comes to going public on your posts (and
complex if a girl feels like speaking up not only as an athlete—but in life as well. all that matters is that you two are on the
about her coach will make her lose her I wish mine had. same page), but try for a happy medium.
That too-cute pic of you two posing before
prom? Post it. But save the play-by-play of
Stand up, speak up last night’s dinner date for your personal
photo reel, not your story.
Coach turning toxic? Confidence pro Martise Moore offers
KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN?
advice on advocating for yourself.
Yes, it’s OK to flirt with your adorable new
neighbor while harboring your secret crush
CONFRONT YOUR COACH TALK TO THE ATHLETIC on that cutie from drama club. But when
“Don’t lead with emotions or excuses,” says DIRECTOR you’re ready to make a commitment to
Moore. “Be respectful and confident in your Your coach has a boss. In most cases, someone, time to dial down the single vibe.
tone—and state the exact behavior you that’s the athletic director (AD), whose “Ask yourself: Would they be hurt if
want them to change, along with how it main job is to maintain a safe and appro- you were talking to other people? And
makes you feel when they do it.” For exam- priate environment for the coaches and would you be upset if they were doing it
ple, “When you call me ‘too emotional,’ I feel the athletes. It may be intimidating to to you?” says Conley. If the answer is yes,
shamed and useless. Is that what you want?” schedule some time with the AD, but they focus on solidifying your current relation-
can help you come up with a plan. “Stu- ship status (or lack thereof) before putting
TELL YOUR PARENTS dent feedback helps the director perform yourself out there with anyone else.
More than likely, your parents will have their job better,” says Moore.
your back no matter what. It’s impor- G RA DUATE HIGH SC H OOL WI T H-
tant to keep them in the loop about any IF ALL ELSE FAILS, WALK AWAY O UT CRUSHING ON ANYONE ?
questionable behavior so they can step in if If your coach is promoting a toxic culture One hundred percent. Think of everything
necessary. “In general, your coach will see and your voice is going unheard, know you’re set to accomplish this year: acing AP
your parents as peers—and together they that there’s no shame in leaving the team. bio, beating your swim team record, mak-
can come up with a resolution,” shares “There are other teams, other coaches ing core memories with your best friends.
Moore. (And if your parents are pushing and other sports,” says Moore. “Leaving a And, yes, it’s more than OK to do it all with-
you, too? Consider talking to a guidance toxic environment does not make you a out a plus one. In fact, your independence
counselor or another trusted adult.) quitter or a loser—it makes you strong.” might make you even stronger and more
self-assured when you *are* ready. And
that’s seriously worth waiting for.

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5 tiny ways to
1
spring clean
y o u r w h o l e l i fe
1 Just you stepping into sunny szn, 9
Declutter your desk. one tidy to-do at a time. Streamline your streaming.
Wipe down your keyboard, then Whether it’s Heartstopper or
wrangle stray papers with your Young Royals, see it through
cutest binder clips. to the end.
2 10
Purge your purse. Srsly, Starbies Tidy up that TBR. Narrow down
straw wrappers, it’s time to go. your list to 5 titles, then hit the
library for a low-key reading sesh.
Sort through your sock drawer. Your 11
pug-themed peds miss each other. Score some new stationery.

What’s better than felt-tipped
pens on a blank page?
4
Banish the dust bunnies. You + a

vacuum = unstoppable. 12
Fine-tune your following list.

Or, if you aren’t ready to hit
5
unfollow just yet, make friends
Wash your emotional support with the mute button.
water bottle. One trip through the
dishwasher and good to go, girl.
13
Clear your cal. Stick to things

6
you love like band practice
Clean your cosmetic and babysitting, but scale way
brushes—the right way. back on whatever drains your
Massage a drop of dish soap social battery.
into each one, rinse gently and
lay on a clean towel to dry.
14
Ditch the doom scroll. Set time

7
limits on your most addictive apps
Glow up your GRWM. If your (we recommend 30 minutes daily)
skincare is more than 3 to 4 steps, and enjoy the IRL.
it might be time to simplify.
15
8
Rethink your routine. Swapping
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Level up your locker. screentime for a mindful

A custom collage *and* your meditation before bed is the
Papier planner? We see you. downtime you deserve.

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ARIES TA U R U S
Direct and quick with your You take your time forming
responses, you can’t stand an opinion—and the most
wasting time on filler words effective way to express it.
or babbling on and on and on You’re cautious about half-
(example: You got mad at this baked thoughts or jumping
sentence). This makes you to conclusions.
shine in brainstorm settings WATCH OUT FOR: Taking
and, unsurprisingly, people things just a little bit *too*
look to you as a leader. slow. Even the most thought-
(AND HOW TO TURN IT

WATCH OUT FOR: Cutting out confrontation can leave
people off. Not everyone is a friend confused if it takes
as lightning fast as you with you six weeks to address
INTO YOUR SUPERPOWER)

their words—and interrupting an issue. Saying something
can give quieter people the sooner (even if it’s a little
sense that you just don’t want bit clunkier) is better than
to hear them speak (even if waiting for the perfect set of
that’s not your intent). words to share how you feel.
WHETHER YOU’RE A SMOOTH-TALKING

SAG OR COOL AS A CAPRICORN IN
EVERY CONVO, MERCURY IS HERE…
AND IT JUST WANTS TO TALK.
BY LILY JOHNSON
M
ercury is best known for its harsh retro-
grades (as anyone who has ever blamed
it for a no good, very bad day knows). As
GEMINI CANCER
the planet ruling how we communicate,
Mercury is also Gemini’s rul- You’re great at listening and
Mercury has a huge say over our relationships— ing planet, so this placement remembering details. When
even the most compatible sun signs can clash makes communication feel you’re one-on-one with
fiercely if their Mercury signs aren’t aligned. extra breezy. To others, you someone, you make them
Our Mercury signs play a crucial role in how we come off as funny, playful feel extra special.
speak, listen or even interact with others. They and super entertaining. WATCH OUT FOR: Clamming
can also explain any difficulties we have in sharing WATCH OUT FOR: Emotional up in conversations. If you
how we truly feel. exhaustion. Keeping people find yourself holding back,
Find your Mercury sign on an app like Co-Star laughing and engaged still practice speaking your mind
or using a website like astrology.com. (Note: You requires energy—and it gets a little more—even if that
will need to know your exact time and location tougher during Mercury means you occasionally
of birth, so time to dig up that birth certificate.) retrograde, which hits you overstep. Putting yourself
Because tuning into your Mercury sign can help harder and makes you just out there means convos
you not only know your strengths, but also spot a tad tongue-tied. Look won’t always go 100%
for those who value you smoothly (scary, we know),
any pitfalls that could spell trouble down the line.
even when you don’t have a but the right people won’t
Take that, retrograde.
fantastic joke on hand. make you feel bad for it.

2020
LEO VIRGO LIBRA SCORPIO
You treat talking like an Your communication looks You’re great with balancing You ask a lot of questions—
art form. Whether you’re (at least to the outside a conversation, keeping the more probing, the bet-
writing a persuasive essay world) effortless. You’re dynamics even and steady. In ter. You broach topics other
or presenting it, you’re detail-oriented and orga- moments others would find people are afraid to and can
very self-aware with your nized. Whenever someone tense, somber or unbearably convert small talk into spill
language and keep people needs something planned, awkward, you intuitively seshes with ease.
tuned to every sentence. you’re the one firing off texts. know what to say to smooth WATCH OUT FOR: Diving
WATCH OUT FOR: Overthink- WATCH OUT FOR: Burning
feathers, comfort someone too deep. While some might
ing when someone loses yourself out. It’s natural for or break the ice. find the introspective Q’s
interest or moves on (looking you to jump into leadership WATCH OUT FOR: Keeping refreshing, others might
at you, Mercury in Aries roles, but just because you everything surface-level. not be ready to go that far—
placements). It’s natural to can doesn’t always mean you Try sharing more—even if especially if they don’t know
feel a bit disheartened when should. When Mercury retro- it’s a little bit risky. Feel like you well. Not everyone who
that happens, but unless it’s grade comes, it can really you can’t? Examine your keeps their cards close is
a persistent thing with that throw you off—and that only relationships more closely: boring or hiding something.
person, try to take their lack gets worse if you have too True friends will want to get Some just have a different
of rapt attention in stride. many major obligations. to know the real you. path to opening up.
S A G I T TA R I U S CAPRICORN AQUARIUS PISCES
Friends love that you tend You value brutal honesty You have a million interests— You’re the type who can
to be unfiltered, even goofy. whenever the situation calls and impress people with how come off as a little bit shy or
You embody speaking your for it. You can’t help it: If easily you can come up with pensive, but then you stun
mind in the most literal something could be better if new concepts. Your idea of a them with what you have
sense, which inspires others someone just spoke up, trust good convo is one that ener- to say when the time (and
around you to feel free to be that you’ll be the one to say getically darts from subject inspiration) is right.
themselves, too. it (even if it’s not actually to subject, like a seamless WATCH OUT FOR: Channel-
WATCH OUT FOR: Stinging
your problem to solve). game of pickleball. ing everything into your art.
jokes or remarks. Saying the WATCH OUT FOR: Stating WATCH OUT FOR: Stealing While it can be tempting to
first thing that pops into more problems than solu- the show. The bigger the dwell in your feels until you
your head may sometimes tions. People are more open group, the more compromises write the best breakup song
lead to hurt feelings, even if to feedback when they feel you might have to make, like ever, it’s better to reach out
that’s the opposite of your like there’s something they letting others switch subjects when you feel like you’re
intentions. Make a gaffe? can do about it. And make it or slow down the pace. If this struggling and need support.
Own up to your mistakes feel collaborative by trouble- feels dull, prioritize more one- (And we bet you might feel
instead of calling someone shooting together (so your on-one time with the people even more inspired once
too sensitive. answer isn’t the only option). who engage you the most. you’ve opened up to others.)

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...you wear the exact

dress as your ex’s date.
Like, even the same color.
—IV Y R .
..................
I wanted to do a my classmates square I returned it, a girl in I was watching my
...the DJ calls you out
screen detox during in the face. She was my homeroom asked crush play softball and
a long weekend off surprisingly under- me why I had left a after her team won, for not knowing the
school, so I had my standing about it, but I picture of myself in she came to give me a “Cupid Shuffle.”
phone on Do Not Dis- still can’t believe I gave the back of the book. double high-five, but —M IL A C.
turb. The night before her a bloody nose. The picture she was accidentally slapped ..................
classes started again, —TI A B. referring to was a me. Everyone couldn’t
I *finally* caught up childhood printout stop laughing. ...you try to get a dance
with my messages… I desperately needed of me and my sister —ELL A G . circle going but nobody
and realized I had a book for my English as babies in diapers. I really participates.
missed one from one lit class—and luckily had been using it as a I was texting my crush —FRA NC ESCA F.
of my guy friends my school’s library had bookmark. the time for our study ..................
asking me to prom. it. A few weeks after —JORDY N F. group to meet when
We ended up going I realized I was out of ...you text your BFF that
together, but I felt pads. I typed to my you’re bored but send it
super bad for making mom, “Code red, need to your date instead.
him sweat it out for pads!” When she got — JESS Y.
four days. On the first warm day of the season, home, she didn’t have
— E M IL E E A . them—I had texted my
my friends and I decided to have an crush. If that wasn’t
My gym class was all-out picnic at the park. We were bad enough, he came
taking cute pics, and I was so excited ...you do a last-minute
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doing a volleyball to our study session

unit, and I was stoked to post them on my Insta—until I with a bunch of differ- shoe change to brand
to show off my skills. ent size notepads and new heels and end up
realized that I had a piece of salad in tripping in the middle
When it was my turn said, “Wasn’t sure what
my teeth in every single snap. of the dance floor.
to serve, I hit the ball kind we need for study
—MI SSY Q.
as hard as I could…and group, but here.” —JOJO W.
accidentally hit one of —G A BBY D.

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