Self awareness

Meaning- Knowing one’s own

Attitudes- opinion
Feelings- emotion
Motives- purpose
Desires- needs
 Self awareness
Why self awareness?
To know our strengths and
limitations
To reinforce the strengths
To challenge the limitations
To grow
 How to create self awareness?
• Seeking feedback from others
• Taking self scoring tests
• Reflecting on one’s own feelings and
behaviours
 Self analysis
Think for a moment and identify
• the areas you normally excel
• the areas you normally face difficulties
• Kind of people, events, and things you like the most and those you
dislike
• The people, events that bring you happiness/sadness
• The nature and extent of openness you have with others
• The people you want to control and want to be controlled
• The people you want to include and those you want to be included
• The people you consider as significant and those you want them to
consider as significant
 Self analysis
• Ask people who know you well about
• Your strengths
• Your limitations
• Your behaviours needing modifications
• The behaviours to be improved
• The behaviours to discontinued
• The behaviours to be learned.
 Self Concept
• The totality of a
complex, organized,
and dynamic system
of learned beliefs,
attitudes and
opinions that each
person holds to be
true about his or her
personal existence"
 Self concept
• It is my individual sense of how I perceive
myself.
• Self concept is the basis for self
awareness.
• This is the foundation to opt for change.
• Matching what I want to be and what I
perceive myself creates positive self
concept.
 People with Strong and Weak self
concept are characterized by
• Strong self concept • Weak self concept
• Flexibility • Rigidity
• Courage • Fearfulness
• Trust • Suspicion
• Initiative taking • Lack of initiative
• Confidence • Lack of confidence
• Positive thinking • Negative thinking
 Components of self-concept
• Physical aspect of self-concept relates to that
which is concrete: what we look like, our sex,
height, weight, kind of our cloth, car, home, etc.
• Performance aspects of self concept, how we
perform, accomplish, and grow.
• Social self-concept describes how we relate to
other people
• Transpersonal self-concept describes how we
relate to the supernatural or unknowns.
 Coping with threats to self concept
• I hold my position rigidly
• Do not listen to people
• Misinterpret what other people say
• Stop talking and begin withholding
• Feel that no one understands me
• Don’t want to negotiate
• Easily irritated
• Do not want to probe the causes
 Defence mechanisms
• Denial- to avoid the feeling of inadequacy
• Projection- behaving myself as a victim
• Displacement – blaming others and disowning
• Masochism- blaming the self to avoid others
accusations
• Identification- help others to avoid dealing with
own inadequacies
• Compensation- demand from others that you are
OK
 Self esteem
• It is the feeling I have about my self
concept.
• A subjective appraisal of himself as
intrinsically positive or negative to some
degree
• Example: I perceive I am an introvert and
I feel proud of it.
 Self esteem is based on your
attitudes like
• Your value as a person
• The job you do
• Your achievements
• How you think others see you
• Your purpose in life
• Your place in the world
• Your potential for success
• Your strengths and weaknesses
• Your social status and how you relate to others
• Your independence or ability to stand on your own feet
 High and low self esteem
• High- feeling of worth, happy, good,
confident, courage- results in motivation
and drive to excel
• Low- feeling of helplessness, lack of
motivation, depressed, fear,
meaninglessness
 How can we have high self
esteem?
Some suggestions
– Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
– Celebrate your strengths and achievements.
– We are so used to negative feedback that we are
more aware of our weaknesses.
– Set achievable targets and get regular feedback.
– Change the way you talk to yourself - stop putting
yourself down.
– Be sure that you are not judging yourself against
unreasonable standards.
– Beating yourself for your weaknesses is self-
defeating.
 Realistic View of self esteem
• do not think of yourself more highly than
you should (no superiority attitude).
• have a sober view of your strengths.
• do not exaggerate your weaknesses and
look down on yourself.
• do not excuse or rationalise your
weaknesses.
• Have a realistic view of both strengths and
weaknesses
 Student Assignments
• Locus of control
• Self efficacy
• Johari window
• Emotional intelligence
• FIRO-B
• MBTI
• Transaction analysis
 JoHari Window
Known to self Not known to self

Known OPEN- Known to me and BLIND- Known to others

to others known to others but Not known to me

Not HIDDEN- Known to Me UNKNOWN- Neither

but not known to others known to me nor known to
known others.
to others
 Minimum openness- Ineffective
personality
Open Blind

Hidden Dark
 More openness- Effective
personality
Open Blind

Hidden Dark
How to widen the OPEN corner
Open Seeking Feedback Blind

Self Disclosure

Practice New Behaviours

Hidden Dark
 Self efficacy

• Advocated by Albert
Bandura
• Meaning
• Belief in one’s own
capability for
accomplishment
• It is a “Can do”
attitude
What does Self Efficacy theory say?

Individuals who believe they can cause

an event
Can have more active and self-
determined life course.
Are not threatened by environment
Take adaptive action
Withstand stress
 Individuals with high and low self
efficacy are
• High self efficacy • Low self efficacy
• Active • Inactive
• Courageous • Fearful
• Competent • Inefficient
• High self esteem • Low self-esteem
• Optimism • Pessimism
• High social integration • Isolation
• High motivation • Low motivation
• More effort • Low effort
• Longer persistence of goals • Shorter persistence
• Higher goals • Lower goals
• Great results • Low results
 Questions to think ???

Is your self efficacy domain

specific?
Or
Is it a general self confidence
 Test your self efficacy (on a scale of
1(low) to 5 (high)
1) I can always manage to solve difficult problems if I try hard enough.
2) If someone opposes me, I can find means and ways to get what I want.
3) It is easy for me to stick to my aims and accomplish my goals.
4) I am confident that I could deal efficiently with unexpected events.
5) Thanks to my resourcefulness, I know how to handle unforeseen
situations.
6) I can solve most problems if I invest the necessary effort.
7) I can remain calm when facing difficulties because I can rely on my
coping abilities.
8) When I am confronted with a problem, I can usually find several
solutions.
9) If I am in trouble, I can usually think of something to do.
10) No matter what comes my way, I'm usually able to handle it.
 Emotional intelligence
• Daniel Goleman
 Emotional Intelligence
Knowing one's emotions ... is fundamental to emotional intelligence.
People who know their feelings are better pilots of their lives.
Managing emotions ... people who are effective in managing their emotions
can cope better with life's adversities and can bounce back faster
than those who are poor in managing their feelings.
Motivating oneself ... people without emotional intelligence lack self-
restraint and would just do whatever their impulses suggest. In
Goleman’s words, they "suffer a moral deficiency". Emotional self-
control, delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness underlies
accomplishment of every sort.
Recognizing emotions in others ... emotional self-awareness is the first
step to empathic sensitivity. In other words, if we are in touch with
our own feelings, then we can empathise with others and sense their
needs.
Handling relationships ... the art of relating to others includes the skill in
managing emotions in others. For example, the ability to calm
distressing emotions in others can help resolve many conflicts.
Test your emotional intelligence

Assess your emotional quotient using this form. Respond to all the statements given below.

SCALE 1 2 3 4
Not at all Little bit To some extent To a great extent

Awareness I am aware of my feelings

of self
emotion
I am aware of the reasons for
my feelings

I am aware of my emotions

I am aware of the causes of my

emotions

Understandi I understand the feelings of

ng others’ people with whom I interact
emotions
I value the feelings of people
with whom interact

I understand the emotions of

people with whom I interact

I respond empathetically to the

emotions of people with whom
 Locus of control
Answer the following question
• The events in my life are the outcome of-- – - - -------

• (a) My own action/behaviour which can be controlled by

me

• (b) Others’ action, my fate, supernatural forces, or

chance, which I cannot control

• Chose one of the two statements above as your answer

 Locus of Control
 Julian Ratter
(1916-)
 the extent to which
individuals believe
 that they can
control events that
affect them.
 Types of locus of control
• Internal locus of • External locus of
control control
 Locus of Control
• Internals • Externals
• events or outcomes • Events/ outcomes
result primarily from result from powerful
their own behaviour others, fate, or
and actions. chance.
• Confident of their • Low self confidence
capabilities • Expect others to help
• Work hard to get them.
outcomes
Role efficacy