CHAPTER 9:

GENDERED
CLOSE
RELATIONSHIPS
PREPARED BY: GROUP 5

RAMIREZ, ALJIVER
MAQUISO, JANE MAXEIL
SAMSON, MICO
SAMORIN, CHARIBEL
PABUAYA, SIMON JESNARD
PAJUELAS, RAYMUND
SUBTOPICS
THE MEANING OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
THE MALE DEFICIT MODEL
THE ALTERNATE PATHS MODEL
GENDERED STYLES OF FRIENDSHIPS
FEMININE FRIENDSHIPS: CLOSENESS IN DIALOGUE
MASCULINE FRIENDSHIP CLOSENESS IN DOING
THE MAN DATE
FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN WOMEN AND MEN
GENDERED ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP
GENDER MODES OF EXPRESSING AFFECTION
GENDERED PREFERENCES FOR AUTONOMY AND CONNECTION
GENDERED RESPONSIBILITY FOR RELATIONAL HEALTH
WHEN FOCUSING ON FEELINGS MAKES US FEEL BAD
I PROMISE NOT TO EXASPERATE MY HUSBAND. NOT!
GENDERED POWER DYNAMICS
THE MEANING OF PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS

• Personal relationships are those in which partners depend on

each other for various things from affection to material assistance.

Expect affection, companionship, time, energy, and assistance

with the large and small issues in life.

Regard each other as unique individuals who cannot be replaced.

 MODELS OF PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS
JOHN
Differences in masculine and feminine
orientations to close relationships usually—
but not always—coincide with male and
female approaches to relationships.

JENNA DOE
Some scholars argue that masculine
orientations are inferior to feminine
ones, while others think that the two
styles are different yet equally valid.
MALE DEFICIT MODEL BARRIERS:

01 02
The male deficit model maintains that men are not
adept at intimacy because they are less interested.

NEED TO BE “IN
COMPETITION
CONTROL”
minimizes the ability to share forbids self-disclosure and
vulnerabilities and openness
weaknesses

03 04
HOMOPHOBIA
LACK OF SKILLS &
POSITIVE ROLE MODEL
inhibits displays of affection and
FOR MALE INTIMACY
avoid appearing weak an
tenderness toward other men vulnerable in order to maintain a
competitive edge.
 THE ALTERNATE PATHS MODEL

01 02
Does not presume masculine people  Masculine people do express
lack feelings or that it’s unimportant to closeness, but not in same way
them. Suggests socialization feminine people do. Both styles
constrains men’s comfort in expressing equally valid
GENDERED
STYLES OF
FRIENDSHIPS
Paul Wright pointed that women tend
to engage each other face to face
and men usually interact side by
side.

By this, Wright meant that women

are more likely than men to
communicate directly and verbally
with each other to share themselves
and their feelings.

Wright suggested that the crux of

friendship differs between the sexes:
For men, greater emphasis is placed
on doing things together; for women,
greater emphasis is placed on talking
and being together.
 FEMININE
FRIENDSHI
PS: •
•
Women "engage" in emotion
Women develop a closeness

CLOSENES •
in self discloser by "talking"
Talk - primary way to build
and enrich friendship

S IN
• Share everything
• Communication
• Breadth: don't restrict, invite
each other into many parts

DIALOGUE •
of their lives
Women are more likely to
refrain from taunting and
poking fun at someone else
out of a fear that this might
hurt their friend’s feelings.
MASCULINE FRIENDSHIPS: CLOSENESS IN DOING

• - Share space.
• - Do things with others.
• - Men are more likely to use humor to taunt a friend,
viewing this as innocent fun.
• - "Teasing each other" friendly competition.
• - Men are deficient in their ability to expression
emotions/care.
• - Bond non verbally through sharing experiences.
THE MAN
DATE:
According to Jennifer Lee (2005),
“the man date is two heterosexual
men socializing without the crutch
of business or sports.

WHAT QUALIFIES FOR IT TO BE

CALLED A MAN DATE?  

• . 
A man date is sitting across the table
from each other while talking and
dining; eating together in a sports bar
while watching a game is not.
 
A man date is taking a walk together in
a botanical garden; jogging together
isn’t.
 
A man date is attending a showing at an
art gallery; attending a baseball game is
not.
FRIENSHI
PS • Friendships between
sexes pose unique

BETWEE challenges and offer

special opportunities
and growth.

N • Another tension in
friendships between

WOMEN
women and men
arises from
segregated
socialization.

AND
MEN
GENDERED ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIPS

DESPITE OUR CULTURAL DIFFERENCES WE HAVE

FOLLOWED THE SAME CULTURAL SCRIPT FOR
ROMANCE WHICH TELLS US THAT:

• Feminine women and masculine men are desirable.

• Men should initiate, plan, and direct most activities in a

relationship.

• Women should facilitate conversation, generally defer to

men, but control sexual activity.

• Men should excel in status and earning money, and

women should assume primary responsibility for the
relationships.
 ING
ROMANTI
C
INTIMAC
Y
Like other relationships in our lives, romantic relationships
play an important role in fulfilling our needs for intimacy,
social connection, and sexual relations.
 GENDERED PATTERNS IN
COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS
Gendered orientations influence four primary
dimensions of long-term love relationships:

Modes of expressing care.

Needs for autonomy and connection.

Responsibility for relational maintenance.

Power
 GENDERED MODES OF EXPRESSING
AFFECTION

Masculine mode of Feminine mode is emotionally

expressing expressive and talk focused.
affection is instrumental and
activity focused.
 CULTURAL BIAS FAVORING FEMININE MODES OF
EXPRESSING LOVE

01
• GAY AND LESBIAN
COUPLES TEND TO
SHARE
03
PERSPECTIVES ABOUT
HOW TO
• LESBIAN PARTNERS MUTUAL
COMMUNICATE
ATTENTIVENESS
AFFECTION.
02 TO NURTURING AND EMOTIONAL OPENNESS
MAY EXPLAIN WHY LESBIANS REPORT MORE
• GAY MEN GENERALLY SATISFACTION WITH THEIR ROMANTIC
ENGAGE IN MORE RELATIONSHIPS THAN GAYS OR
EMOTIONAL HETEROSEXUALS DO.
AND INTIMATE TALK THAN
STRAIGHT MEN BUT LESS
THAN
WOMEN OF ANY SEXUAL
 GENDERED PREFERENCES FOR AUTONOMY &
CONNECTION

Feminine: Connection & Masculine: Autonomy

Stronger impact when a man’s comfort

Demand- withdraw pattern
zone is challenge

Masculine individuals tend to want greater

autonomy and less connection than feminine
people, whose relative priorities are generally the
reverse.
 GENDERED
RESPONSIBILITY
FOR RELATIONAL HEALTH

Lesbian couples share Heterosexual couples –

responsibility for assume woman has primary
relationship responsibility for relationship
 WHEN FOCUSING ON FEELINGS MAKES US FEEL BAD

01 03
Women, on average, pay more Experts advise ladies to break
attention to emotions than men. out of their unpleasant emotions
This enables women to connect by going someplace, doing
with their emotions and work with something, or focusing their
their feelings. attention elsewhere.

02 04
Women have a higher proclivity to Highest levels of satisfaction
dwell on their emotions than when both responsible for the
males. Excessive brooding may relationship
cause women to get trapped in
unpleasant emotions and
emotionally slide downhill into
despair.
I PROMISE NOT TO EXASPERATE MY HUSBAND. NOT!

Interdependency, or Dependability is one If one or both of you

being able to depend of the top qualities can’t depend on
on each other, is part people look for in a each other, the
of what makes a spouse / husband viability of your
marriage special and and it should be. marriage is
successful. threatened.

01 02 03
 GENDERED POWER
DYNAMICS
Gender dynamics are informed by People who adhere to traditional views likely to
sociocultural ideas about gender and the experience decrease in self-esteem and marital
power relationships that define them. satisfaction when the woman makes more
money.

Dyson (2003) says that many

41% better men work and
black men feel threatened by
women stay home.
successful black women
25% unacceptable for women
(especially their partner)
to be the major breadwinner.
THANK
S!
PREPARED BY: GROUP 5

RAMIREZ, ALJIVER
MAQUISO, JANE MAXEIL
SAMSON, MICO
SAMORIN, CHARIBEL
PABUAYA, SIMON JESNARD
PAJUELAS, RAYMUND