DEVELOPING

CONCERNS FOR OTHERS

LENIE ROSE B. NOVAL BEEd II - C

EMPATHY

Empathy is at the heart of what it means to be

HUMAN. The concept of empathy is used to refer
to a wide range of psychological capacities that
are thought of as being central for constituting
humans as social creatures allowing us to know
what other people are thinking and feeling, to
share their thoughts and feelings and to care for
their well-being.
3 KINDS OF EMPATHY ACCORDING TO THE DANIEL GOLEMAN’S
ARTICLE ENTITLED “THREE KINDS OF EMPATHY”

1. COGNITIVE EMPATHY
This is simply knowing how the other person feels
and what they might be thinking. Sometimes called
perspective-taking. Cognitive empathy, also known as
empathic accuracy, involves having more complete and
accurate knowledge about the contents of another
person’s mind, including how the person feels.
3 KINDS OF EMPATHY ACCORDING TO THE DANIEL GOLEMAN’S
ARTICLE ENTITLED “THREE KINDS OF EMPATHY”

2. EMOTIONAL EMPATHY
This happens when the person feels physically
along with the other person as though their emotions
were contagious. Emotional empathy makes someone
well-attuned to another person’s inner emotional
world, a plus in any of a wide range of callings, from
sales to nursing, for any parent or lover.
3 KINDS OF EMPATHY ACCORDING TO THE DANIEL GOLEMAN’S
ARTICLE ENTITLED “THREE KINDS OF EMPATHY”

2. EMOTIONAL EMPATHY includes three components:

A. The first is feeling the same emotion as another person;

B. The second is personal distress which refers to one’s own

feelings of distress in response to perceiving another’s plight;

C. The third emotional component is feeling compassion for

another person.
3 KINDS OF EMPATHY ACCORDING TO THE DANIEL GOLEMAN’S
ARTICLE ENTITLED “THREE KINDS OF EMPATHY”

3. COMPASSIONATE EMPATHY
With this kind of empathy we not only understand
a person’s predicament and feel with them, but are
spontaneously moved to help, if needed.
Parents Raising Children with Empathy
The following are five guideposts based on research and the wisdom of
practitioners from the Making Caring Common Project of Harvard
University Graduate School of Education

1. Empathize with your child and model empathy.

2. Making caring for others a priority and set high ethical
expectations.
3. Provide opportunities for children to practice empathy.
4. Expand your child’s circle of concern.
5. Help children develop self-control and manage feelings
effectively.
Teachers Raising Children with Empathy
The Making Caring Common Project of Harvard University Graduate
School of Education likewise came up with research-based strategies to
help educators promote a culture of empathy within their schools.

Five Essential Steps to use in Schools

1. Model Empathy.
2. Teach what empathy is and why it matters.
3. Practice.
4. Set clear expectations.
5. Makes school culture and climate a priority.
COMPASSION

When children develop empathy this can lead to

compassion. When you sympathize, you understand what
the other person is feeling without exactly feeling it but
when you empathize you feel what the other person is
feeling. The feeling of empathy can trigger compassion and
take action to relieve the suffering of another person.
COMPASSION

This is pakikiramay among Filipinos. It involves two

things: intention and action. Intention is simply opening
your heart to others and action is what you do about it.

Compassion is from Latin word passio which means to

suffer with the prefix com, meaning together and thus to
suffer together or to suffer with.
COMPASSION
Cassell (2009) reported the following three requirements for
compassion:

1. “That the troubles that evoke our feelings are serious;”

2. “that the sufferers’ troubles not be self-inflicted –that
they be the result of an unjust fate;” and
3. “we must be able to picture ourselves on the same
predicament”
COMPASSION
Kanov, et al. (2004) consider compassion to be comprised
of three interrelated elements which are:

1. Noticing.
2. Feeling.
3. Responding.
Compassion Deficit Disorder

It is the child’s tendency to act without empathy or

regard to others. Diane Levin, a Boston professor of early
childhood education, introduced the concept of compassion
deficit disorder which seems to be displayed by children
especially of the young generation.
Compassion Deficit Disorder
According to her, the compassion deficit
disorder can be attributed to:

1. Children are spending increasing amounts of time with

more and more technology and screen exposure at a
young and younger age. This results in their lack of
opportunity to develop social skills.
2. Children’s exposure to violent and anti-social models
can teach them anti-social lessons that they bring to
their relationships.
3. Children play with toys that are realistic replicas of
what they see on screen. These toys can trigger children
to imitate what they saw on television rather than
encouraging them to engage in the rich, creative play of
childhood.
Compassion Deficit Disorder
According to her, the compassion deficit
disorder can be attributed to:

5. Many families are experiencing stress that they resort to

the screen of technology to occupy their children and would
need not spend a lot of time watching over them. They
become occupied with what they watch, behave and pose
no bother at all.
6. There are also instances that parents structure too much
what they want their children to engage in. This prevents
the child to organize or learn to organize activities that can
enhance interactions with other children.
Compassionate parenting is an essential component of
positive parenting. Positive parents show compassion by:

• Guiding and teaching your child by role modeling kind and

compassionate behavior.
• Avoiding labeling children (i.e., “the brainy one,” “the leader,” “the
failure,” etc.), as doing so is hurtful and promotes both sibling
rivalry and self-fulfilling prophecies. Time and time again this
reminder is made for parents to avoid labeling their children, not to
play favorites, and respect each child’s nature.
• Being sensitive to your child’s developmental stage. Different
developmental stages have different needs which parents must be
aware of.
Compassionate parenting is an essential component of
positive parenting. Positive parents show compassion by:

• Practicing regular, open communication. Many parents are too busy

or stressed that they no longer have time for their children or they,
too, are as focused on their gadgets and everybody is into one’s own
solitary activity. It is not the quantity of time that matters but the
quality.
• Providing affection and emotional warmth. Provide unconditional
love. Parents should love without strings attached. Practice positive
discipline, which is warm and democratic, and never violent.
• Empathizing with your child’s feelings.
• Empowering autonomy on order to support creativity,
empowerment and self-determination.
Compassionate parenting is an essential component of
positive parenting. Positive parents show compassion by:

• Teaching respect for other living creatures by teaching him/her how

to care for and show kindness to animals. A child who respects
plants and animals has a great capacity for respecting and showing
compassion to fellow human beings.
• Showing optimism and help your child to believe in him/herself and
the future.
 Activities and Exercises for Teachers to Use with Learners

1. Play is the business of children.

2. The teacher can create a “volunteer” helper position in the classroom.
3. The teacher can encourage acts of kindness by helping kids focus on
them.
4. Story telling is a magnificent strategy to reach out to students.
5. Children can be encouraged to continue writing letters to medical
frontliners or the military, or those who lost their parents under
difficult situations.
6. Make children act it out (get kids role-paying in scenarios requiring
compassion.)
7. Engage the entire class in brainstorming an imaginary crisis scenario
and how thy can help.
8. Teach children, especially the older ones, loving kindness meditation.
9. Tap the power of technology.
10. Model, Model, Model.
 Cultivating empathy and
compassion in today’s generation Self-compassion involves
of learners can be the likely “self-kindness versus self-
antidote against bullying and judgment; a sense of common
aggressive behavior. It begins at humanity versus isolation, and
home and continue at school. mindfulness versus over-
identification”. It is away of
recognizing imperfection and to
see oneself from a comforting
rather than a critical perspective.

Self-compassion has been

found to be related with reduced
feelings of anxiety, depression,
and rumination.
THANK YOU!