Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
Written by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Narrated by Henry O. Arnold
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About this audiobook
Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even themselves—in order to live life to the fullest.
- Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control?
- Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits?
- Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems?
In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries. You'll learn the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life.
This updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, answers the most common questions on the science behind establishing boundaries:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!
Henry Cloud
Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author whose books have sold over 10 million copies. In 2014, Success magazine named Dr. Cloud one of the top 25 most influential leaders in personal growth and development. He graduated from Southern Methodist University with a BS in psychology and completed his PhD in clinical psychology at Biola University.
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Reviews for Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition
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What our readers think
Readers find this title to be a life-changing, practical, and insightful book that offers valuable advice on setting boundaries. The majority of reviewers highly recommend it, praising its helpfulness, practical tips, and personal experiences shared by the author. They appreciate the book's relevance to both Christians and non-Christians, despite some mentioning discomfort with the frequent biblical references. Overall, this book is seen as a blessing and a must-read for anyone looking to improve their relationships and establish healthy boundaries.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Great pointers ruined by religious dogma.
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Not a religious person, so the references through me off. However does make good points.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Helped me a lot with my struggles, opened my eyes and gave me motivation for the future !
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- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5It might be a good book, im not sure, but I personally couldn’t finish it. Practically every sentence is “backed” by bible. Every other sentence is “chapter … verse …” . After some time it gets really annoying. Also the whole idea to back up the book with bible seems a little extra. There aren’t any case studies or psychological approach to it, just verses of bible after every sentence.
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- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5This sucked like horrible honestly, the whole book is just trying to convert you into being a Christian and it’s overall just f-ed up
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Really good content - I’m not a church goer, so I found all of the references to bible verses a little distracting and not necessary. There are some good lessons to learn and I appreciated the wisdom nuggets!
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Excellent book. It can change your life Definitely 5 stars
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Some good advice, but this was much more Christian than I was expecting. Stupidly, I only read the intro to the books blurb and I didn't realise this is an extremely Christian take on boundaries. I don't wish to offend anyone, but the constant references to Bible verses to back up the points being made are tiring and irrelevant if you are not a Christian. The writing and production are good, but if you don't want or need a Bible verse to inform your thinking then there are more helpful books out there.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Amazing, hit the soul, body & mind it is exactly what I've needed to hear for way too long. Why have I never found this till now? At the beginning of the year I prayed to God asking what I need to work on the word boundaries came up so I searched the internet and found different versions of these best of all they are Christian authors. God bless you tremendously for writing this you dealt well with issues from marriage, parenting to church relationships & work & more. This book will get read over and over until changes happen. Amazing book you will not be dissappointed everyboduly needs to learn when to appropriately draw the line and not to feel guilty doing it whether its with your child, spouse or mamma... Great job done. I recommend this to the world whether you are Christian or not.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A must read for every person. This book will teach you how to govern your life and improve all your relationships.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Highly recommend because it gives a new perspective on how to take control of our own lives.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5It was the Light I needed to see clearly again. Through the lens of scripture, I can see how things were meant to be. I now understand what is within my locus of control and what is outside it. Living a new life with appropriate boundaries will take a lot of practice but it's a journey I'm willing to embark on. This was a great listen. The Truths cut across every area of life. I recommend it.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is beautiful work. I enjoyed every bit of it. The h*ters who are complaining are just being ungrateful. The writer wrote from his POV. Go write your own book instead of writing negative comments/reviews here. If you're not a religious person there are other books that suit your needs. Just quit bringing down someone's hard work?
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I found this audiobook very helpful. I listened to some parts twice.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Everyone needs this book! Very great audio!!! Enjoyed this updated version that includes boundaries & technology.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The book used Biblical principles to outline why we need to set limits in our lives. It helped me to examine myself more clearly and take responsibility instead of placing blame.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book taught me so much in just 17 chapters. I wish that I had read this book when I was younger!!!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Amazing read, rad this book and life will never be the same!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Amazing, much needed and wonderfully written by the author highly recommend.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very informative! I have problems with boundaries and can't wait to try some of their ideas! Lots of information packed into a very short book!
- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5Wow... A "boundaries" book that does NOT specify it's Christian/bible oriented sounds extremely sketchy!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5That book is a blessing. I find so many answers that I’ve been looking for... thank you.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Necessary for every human on the face of the earth, regardless if you're victimizing yourself, or the offender to others. Boundaries keep us all alive and healthy! Haha. SOOO GOOD. Thank you for writing this, Cloud & Townsend!!! Great read, too - enjoyable!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Truly a beautiful and helpful read ! Highly recommend to Christian’s and non-Christian’s alike
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The best book I have ever read about this theme- lot of practical tips and personal experience, which let to see that "you are not allone in that".Brilliant work!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This audiobook was so helpful to me that o had to purchase a physical copy. Henry and John make great points based on biblical and practical experiences collected from the lives of many of their clients. They remind us who our father is and who we are to him, what and who we are responsible for, and what and who we are not responsible for. This book is a fit for everyone who seeks to improve their relationships with themselves, with others and especially with God.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5There are very few books that have been impactful as this book has been. Highly recommend! I think I need to read it again.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Life changing. So thankful to have the opportunity to read this jewel of a book that has helped me understand what true love looks like. Thank you God for opening my eyes.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very insightful. I’m not religious but this book has made me want to explore my faith. I have applied some of the teachings from the book and they have greatly impacted my life positively.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This was loaded. Learnt a whole lot about myself that I had never really paid attention to