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    Peaceful Relationships
    Peaceful Relationships
    Peaceful Relationships
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    Peaceful Relationships

    By Wendy Hill

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    This book is a collection of teachings and experiences from a Native traditional healer. Wendy shares her people's history and her own personal experiences of bringing peace into situations where it was desperately cried out for. It's a self-help book to give you ideas and different ways of thinking to help bring you back to peace within. If you have never known peace then this book will explain how to achieve it, and how to be very defensive about maintaining this essence of the spirit.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTellwell Talent
    Release dateMar 30, 2020
    ISBN9780228830139
    Peaceful Relationships
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    Wendy Hill

    Wendy Hill is a Native woman from the Cayuga Nation which is one of the Six Nations/Longhouse people. Wendy's spiritual knowledge began as a child through her dreams and spiritual experiences. She was raised through her people's traditional ceremonies and continues her ancestors' spirituality. At twenty years old she had a near death experience and was given insight to her abilities as a healer. Today she works as a healer and peace-builder in many different Native communities in North America. She travels extensively motivating community wellness and healing, as well as awareness of the earth changes. She does hands-on healing for pain and illness, as well as emotional, mental and spiritual healing. Wendy continues to enlighten and share guidance, direction and healing wherever she goes.

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      Book preview

      Peaceful Relationships - Wendy Hill

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      Peaceful Relationships

      Copyright © 2020 by Wendy Hill

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the author, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other non-commercial uses permitted by copyright law.

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      ISBN

      978-0-2288-3014-6 (Hardcover)

      978-0-2288-3012-2 (Paperback)

      978-0-2288-3013-9 (eBook)

      Table of Contents

      Foreword

      Introduction

      Peace or Skenoh

      The Peacemaker

      Treaties

      My First Teacher

      Conflict

      The Teachers From the Inside

      Relationships: Teachings From an Elder

      Teachings of the Good Message

      The Learning Process

      All My Relations: We Are All Related

      Peace Building

      Tools to Help with Peaceful Relationships

      Conclusion

      Foreword

      T

      his book is dedicated to

      my late mother Vera, who had many difficulties in her life and still chose to be a loving, kind, and peaceful lady. She tried on a daily basis to be an example of a kind and peaceful human being. I’d also like to acknowledge my siblings for being loving and kind to me and giving me a great childhood memories. Lastly I want to acknowledge my daughters Brandy, Kiana and Kaylee, who have shown me how much love we can have in relationships, even with such unique personalities, I love them all dearly. My grandchildren are my precious family members who are such a blessing to me and their loving relationship is irreplaceable.

      Introduction

      A

      FTER I WROTE MY FIRST

      book, Understanding Life... What My Ancestors Taught Me Through My Dreams, I was very relieved to be done with it and satisfied that I had listened to the spirit world. About a month into my freedom of not thinking about this big responsibility of writing and completing this, I had another dream. In the dream, my guide came to me and told me how happy and proud of me they (the spirit world) were with me listening to them. I wrote my first book not because I like to write; I wrote because they asked me to write the teachings that they gave to me through my dreams. Then they said, We want you to start the second one, and we want you to write about how to have peaceful relationships.

      I was very upset because it took me ten years to write the first one, and it pestered me every time I wasn’t writing. It was like that high school or college assignment that you need to get done, but instead you’re having fun. So now I was told I had to write another one, and she explained why. They told me it was the inability to have peaceful relationships with others and self that is the root cause of addictions, mental illnesses, and violence. They said if people knew how to have peaceful relationships and to be at peace in their life, they could be healthy.

      Many people weren’t taught how to be at peace with life but instead were angry with how their lives had unfolded. Being angry when things go wrong is the normal for many people. Experiencing so much trauma and abuse can cause much anger and fear. This was very present in the past generations, as well as today. Our parents are our first teachers about many things, and many parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents have been through many horrific events. I know my ancestors were; they were hunted just because they existed. The colonizers wanted to rid this land of any Indigenous people so that they could have this continent for themselves.

      I know that many people have a horrific survival story. It’s this history that many people are being affected by, causing anger and dissatisfaction with their lives. One time, I was given a short but powerful message while dancing in a sun dance. A spirit came to me while I was dancing and praying to help to stop the war across the ocean. This grandfather spirit said to me, Every time you open your mouth, ask yourself, ‘Am I creating peace or war?’ He told me to make my home peaceful and my family loving and accepting of each other. When I am done getting my family peaceful, I should go to the next family so they can become peaceful and accepting of each other. He said, When you can get to the people in your community and in your lands, only then can you go across the ocean to try to bring peace to other lands and people. So the message was to start with my own home.

      Many times, the understanding of why we had to experience the events in our lives doesn’t come to us until later in life, and only if we are open to the lesson. We often end up with negative thoughts about situations and people and feeling like a victim. This thought of being a victim and blaming someone, the government, the church, family, etc., only gives us an avenue to direct our anger or hate; it doesn’t help us to live in a peaceful state. This way of thinking keeps us angry and eventually makes us sick. Our bodies are meant to be at peace and calm, not tightened from the anger or stress.

      If you reflect on your own life and our relationships, you will know if you’re good at relationships, or not, by looking at the ones you have or don’t have in your life. Use this as an indicator of your ability to relate to others. We need to ask ourselves, How much responsibility for these good or bad relationships are because of my behaviour, attitude, etc.? How am I contributing to this relationship? Would I be a friend to me? Am I someone I find interesting or helpful? These are all helpful questions to ask yourself, and if you don’t see anything wrong with yourself, then ask people close to you. Maybe your children, siblings, parents, friends, coworkers — ask them if there is something they could change about you. What should you change? Or to be very direct: What don’t you like about me? Then stand back and be open to whatever you hear, because you asked. You might want to ask, Can you tell me in the nicest way possible? These questions will help you to start to take an honest look at yourself and to transform into the person you want to be.

      There are many policies and procedures developed for centuries by the Europeans to divide and conquer, not only Native people, but really everyone. This process of dividing people begins when we start school and we aren’t allowed to help our fellow students. Sometimes divisions start sooner, by our parents if they teach us racism, or favouritism of children or grandchildren. In school, if a person was struggling with a question asked by the teacher, and you tried to help them answer, you were probably discouraged and disciplined for it. This starts our unhealthy and uncaring attitude that we develop but are not comfortable with. As we go through life, we get used to the idea that it’s every person for themselves, it’s a survival race, and there is no room for compassion, love, and caring, or you get in trouble or taken advantage of.

      When I think back to my school days, I can remember the students who stood out; they were the ones who felt awkward with others. I believe to this day they felt awkward because it was an unnatural way of being unhelpful toward each other. We are made from love, and we are all about love. What is uncomfortable is the way school and the workforce try to condition us to be uncaring, disconnected, and competitive toward each other. A physical example is within an office space and everyone is separated by those little partitions. This has been the reason we have so much hurt, lack of trust, disconnection, racism, and many dysfunctions. This makes it difficult to have peaceful relationships, not only with ourselves, but also with others who believe different things than us or look different. We have been impacted in many ways to fear each other and to judge each other. All these tactics have worked to keep the people divided, but it also can prevent us from having a connection with a higher power, IE., Creator or God. This is the downfall of all these policies and tactics of colonization. Since our spirit is part of the Creator, we also lose a part of ourselves in this way of thinking.

      In the times of survival, you needed people; they were seen as an asset, not a burden. This needing each other is what helped our people to learn to get along. It’s like that island mentality; it’s such a small living space that you will keep running into them, so you might as well deal with the problem rather than trying to ignore it. To be able to deal with problems in a respectful way is how peace can be maintained. There is no use in holding a grudge if you’re going to keep running into the person, so learn to forgive.

      What is peace? Why is it important to have? How do we get there, and once we get there, how do we maintain it? How do we know when we have it or don’t have it? These are all-important questions, and hopefully I will be able to answer these questions. Peace is a powerful force within our spirit. It is an essential need for the spirit within. My teaching about spirit and life is that every living force has a need to have peace. Even though science has tried to understand and explain life through its research processes, many of its techniques have been inhumane when it comes to animals and life forces. This is why it’s been difficult to accept all the results, especially when it comes to understanding each other and life. If you look at the image that has been given to nature

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