Plus-Size: A Memoir of Pop Culture, Fatphobia, and Social Change
By Mekdela
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Plus-Size - Mekdela
Plus-Size
©2021 Mekdela
All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
print ISBN: 978-1-09839-836-1
ebook ISBN: 978-1-09839-837-8
This book is dedicated to the plus-size community and anyone who has ever felt like they didn’t fit in.
Contents
Plus-Size
Shallow Hal
Drop Dead Diva
Online Dating (On Both Sides of the Atlantic Ocean)
The Mindy Project
Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body
Obesity,
the Medical Industry, and the Health
Conversation
The South
The Good Place
What Decolonization Means to Me
Third Culture People in Film:
My Big Fat Greek Wedding and Bend it Like Beckham
The Spice Girls
Charmed
Muriel’s Wedding
Pandemic Reflections: One Year Later
Young Adult Books that Build Character
Mekdela, Cultural Producer & Social Influencer
(Or What I Want My Legacy to Be)
Plus-Size
Sometimes I think the most American thing about me is that I am considered 20–30 pounds overweight (according to the racist one-size-fits-all measurement, BMI or Body Mass Index. Seriously, whose bodies do you think it is based on?) I am sometimes shocked to hear that the average American woman is now my size—a size 14 in clothing (more recently, the average American woman’s size has gone up to a 16–18, according to Forbes). But then I feel a sense of belonging and community even though my body type appears to be in the minority in the California cities I have been to or lived in. Growing up, my immigrant parents tried to nag me into losing weight, for social reasons I suspect, but under the guise of health. They would encourage me to eat less, a single apple for dinner, or not to eat at all. I think that this is the only time that I have ever felt ashamed of my body and a pressing urge to lose weight and obtain a normal
BMI (again, BMI is not an exact science and what is normal
varies for different bodies). But for the most part, I have embraced my curvy, busty body and who I am because being like the majority has never been high on my list of priorities. If I was going to be unique in this way, then by gosh, I was going to own it.
For me, being plus-size means de-prioritizing society’s beauty ideals and celebrating people in different and often targeted bodies like mine. It means celebrating our inner beauty and strength in addition to reclaiming our outer appearances. It means taking insults from complete strangers and finding the fortitude and composure to keep moving through a world not made to accommodate us. It means building a community with other people that have been othered in this way and supporting them as well as receiving support from them. When I was in high school, I auditioned for a 2010 beauty pageant, and my introduction was I want to become the Rose Queen so that I can be a role model for other plus-size women of color and change the world.
I love following plus-size fashion magazines, pages, and models on social media and finding the latest trendy styles and outfits that fit my body. I feel a sense of belonging and community with other plus-size women because I understand how our sizes are stigmatized and how that hinders us in several aspects of our lives. Not that long ago, it was very difficult to find clothes in plus sizes, and plus-size clothing did not have the same quality, tailoring or style as straight-size clothing (straight-size clothing encompasses women’s sizes 0-12 and plus-size clothing is size 14 and up). According to Plunkett Research, 70% of American women are a size 14 or larger, but only 18% of the clothing sold in 2016 was considered plus-size. Even today, clothing stores (including plus-size retailers) do not sell plus-size clothes that are as fashionable and well-tailored as straight-size clothes. This is due to sizeism or discrimination against larger bodies and a bias in favor of smaller bodies that embody Western beauty ideals. I have felt this discrimination most acutely in the dating arena and I’ve noticed how it has affected other plus-size women.
I have seen how White women, who are the standard of beauty in American society, are highly desirable and coveted, provided they have thin bodies. I’ve noticed how White women that are plus-size do not receive this same status of ultra-desirability by virtue of their larger bodies. My solidarity with plus-size White women is due to sizeism, fatphobia (revulsion or hatred directed toward fat people), and how they shape the ways we navigate the world. This is coming from a plus-size Black woman from an immigrant African background, who is marginalized in several other aspects. But sizeism is the common ground that makes me feel at home in the plus-size community. However, I soon discovered that sizeism and fatphobia do not affect everyone equally.
In 2015, there was a cultural shift. Lane Bryant launched its I’m No Angel
social media campaign featuring six plus-size models all around the average American woman’s size at the time, or size 14–16. The campaign featured plus-size models Marquita Pring, Ashley Graham, Candice Huffine, Victoria Lee, Justine Legault, and Elly Mayday. As per usual, I was delighted to see my body type represented and very supportive of this campaign and the ideas it espoused, such as ‘beauty comes in all sizes.’ After this campaign, there was an explosion of plus-size representation in the mainstream media, and not just from the familiar outlets I followed. However, it largely came in the form of Ashley Graham’s career as a plus-size model taking off. Before this, the plus-size magazines and outlets I followed showcased diverse representations of plus-size women from size 14 to 28 and beyond. I was seeing Black, Brown, and White plus-size models in my social media feeds. But in the mainstream media, there was and continues to be only one representation of plus-size women—relatively smaller White women with hourglass figures, namely Ashley Graham. Ashley Graham represents the most privileged kind of plus-size woman—White and smaller at a size 14–16. I can acknowledge my privilege as someone with a size 14 hourglass figure—I am able to shop in straight-size stores like Forever 21 and Target, and I fit into the size large; although I have the distinct impression that size large clothing was not made for my body. I can also shop at plus-size stores like Torrid and fit into the smallest sizes. The mainstream media’s focus on Ashley Graham worries me because it has created a new