More Than Okay-ish
By Nancy Shaw, Sara Sidwell and Michelle Riccetto
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*Previously published as How to Get Your Shift (minus the 'f') Together – Updated Dear Reader & Preface sections.
An Unorthodox – but Effective! – Approach to Self-Help (and Achieving Your Dreams)
What if you could break free from everything holding you back (including yourself)?
What if you were able to align your values, goals, and actions?
How would it feel if you could finally get and stay ahead financially?
Sara Sidwell has held executive-level positions for over three decades as a top-tier analyst. As an entrepreneur, she served as the CFO for two thriving startup businesses in the transportation and construction industry.
Michelle Riccetto has a BA from the University of Texas and an MBA from the University of Boston and is currently a marketing executive at a leading creative agency in Canada.
Together, they draw from their raw, firsthand experiences, providing insights and exercises that will teach you the skills to break free from daily struggles that leave you feeling stuck—your ideals, actions, and goals out of alignment. All written in a non-judgmental style designed to make you laugh, cry, reflect, and grow.
You are not born with all the knowledge and skills you need to succeed. Like how to walk, talk, or ride a bike, it's something you learn through trial and error.
In More Than Okay-ish, a bite-sized, empowering, modern guide, you will learn actionable strategies and skills backed by experience and scientific data, including the keys to:
- Identifying and capitalizing on your inner strengths (You have more than you realize.
- Staying authentic, being resilient, and keeping going when things get tough.
- Overcoming common obstacles blocking you from success by utilizing new personal growth tactics.
- Snatching back control of your finances and creating a solid financial foundation for the future.
- Creating, not waiting for new opportunities to switch careers or become an entrepreneur.
- Standing up for what's right for you on your terms.
- Avoiding the dangerous impact of stress and FOMO on decision-making.
…plus, easy-to-follow chapter exercises specifically designed to get you going.
The Guide: sharp wit + blunt truths + relatable stories + actionable strategies = measurable results
With More Than Okay-ish, get the key skills you need to empower yourself to take control of your life, unleash your inner strength, and remain authentic as you create the future you've always envisioned.
Isn't it time to create an intentional life that's More Than Okay-ish? Grab your copy today.
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More Than Okay-ish - Nancy Shaw
Preface
"Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don't
have the strength."
— Teddy Roosevelt
Glamour < grit.
If you are reading this book because you are looking for help breaking free from everything holding you back and creating a new life full of authenticity and endless possibilities, you are exactly for whom this book was written.
Here, you'll learn valuable skills and tips often not taught by parents, teachers, or professors that you’ll need to help break free from the daily rinse-and-repeat cycles that leave you feeling stuck with your ideals, actions, and dreams out of alignment.
Cumulative chapters supported by easy-to-follow exercises are specifically designed to help you get going. Along the way, you’ll find hard-earned insights, blunt truths, inspiration, and hopefully some validation that it’s not just you—life really is fucking hard.
Instead of false promises, this book will call it like it is. You’ll gain the necessary knowledge to build a solid foundation to support and organize your ambitions, enable you to chase your dreams, and empower you to reach your life's personal and financial goals. You will learn how to disconnect from external pressures and influences and keep the focus on you, where it matters.
The solid foundation you'll create will help keep you grounded, grateful, and mindful of who you are and where you've been, and find appreciation for you and your life right now. So, you stay authentic as you create and grow.
While change takes time and patience, this book does not. It’s deliberately written to be more of a bite-sized, quick-access manual that you can use to jumpstart your self-development, build quick momentum to take those next steps or flip through when you need a push or a reminder. I’ve skipped the fluff, the long-winded stories, most of which are humble bragging, and instead, get to the point in a no-nonsense, straightforward, beginner-friendly way.
As someone who has struggled with crippling anxiety and panic attacks, I understand the gravity that mental health has on every aspect of our lives. I brought on Michelle Riccetto to co-author the book with me to blend in her candor and perspective as a mental health advocate and survivor of child abuse, intimate partner abuse, and sexual-based violence—as well as someone navigating life with PTSD and ADHD. Her honesty about her experiences across her social media platforms portrays a woman with a visceral and unrelenting drive to reduce stigmas and normalize conversations regarding mental health. I wanted to channel that energy into this book, as I felt it would resonate with others on their own healing journey reading this.
We are both testaments to the enduring resilience that lives within each of us—living proof of the value of the information shared within these pages.
Let's get started.
–Sara & Michelle
Chapter 1:
Welcome to the jungle.
Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
– Barack Obama
How I got here...
My love of music goes back to my earliest memories. As a little girl, I fondly remember singing along with my mother as she played the piano. In elementary school, this love of music prompted me to join the school band, where I played multiple instruments—the flute, piccolo, clarinet, and even the alto and tenor saxophones.
Music offered me more than just a hobby; it was both a passion and refuge for me. It could both ignite my soul and soothe it. Music and books were my safe space in an otherwise unhappy childhood. Within their creative refuge, my mind was able to escape the abuse, violence, neglect, and fear to survive another day in a world where safety and love eluded me.
During high school, I was exposed to heavy metal rock music for the first time. I went to a Judas Priest & Iron Maiden concert with my friends at Madison Square Garden. More than just a night out, this event would be pivotal for me in many ways. I felt alive again with the energy of the music, the crowd—of New York City. I felt something again. And I felt like I wasn’t alone anymore.
This powerful music spoke to me during a difficult time of my life and provided a much-needed outlet. Not only was I navigating the hellscape of being a teenager in their formative years, but I was going through major life transitions and emerging from the survival mode the abuse and trauma forced me into.
It was also during this time that Guns n’ Roses released Welcome to the Jungle.
The intense and emotionally charged vocals of Axl Rose, with the raw energy of their powerful guitar riffs, not only perfectly captured the era of rock known for its leather, long hair, and rebellion, but it also ignited my creative spark. One that had laid dormant so I could focus on just trying to survive.
So, with this new energy and passion, I went and bought a bass guitar and taught myself how to play by ear. Within six months, I joined an all-female heavy metal band.
Hanging out with the band, practicing, and writing songs consumed my life. I wrote instrumentals and song lyrics and sang backup vocals on top of playing bass. I found myself eagerly devoting hours upon hours to songwriting. Staying up late at night and hurriedly scribbling on napkins and receipts whenever an idea or lyric came to me — the band and our music were my everything. I felt seen, supported, and free to express myself without judgement. At the time, like many teenagers and young adults before me and after, I knew that I wanted to do this for the rest of my life.
I continued to pursue my career in music for years, often broke, but overall, I was happy doing what I loved. As the years progressed, I married a wonderful man and my best friend, and together we had a beautiful daughter. But even her birth did not stop my dream of making it big in the music industry. At least, not right away.
During the first year of motherhood, I reveled in being both a mother and a musician. My daughter brought new levels of energy and inspiration to my creativity and expression. While being on the road presented a plethora of challenges for a young family, I was married to a great man and father that supported my ambitions. The music career I always dreamed of really did seem possible.
But then sometimes life throws you a curveball and really fucks everything up.
Though I did end up divorcing my husband, that would not be the ol’ curveball. My husband and I were really good at being best friends. We built a beautiful and loving family but lacked the romantic love and connection we both wanted from a spouse. We remained a family unit, best friends, and fully involved in each other’s lives. The curveball would come in the form of cancer. My daughter and I would lose her father and my best friend at a young age. We were on our own.
The music industry is a tough gamble and a fickle business, even without the added challenge of being a single mother. Splitting my time between trying to be a good mom and being a productive member of the band proved to be too much. I lived in a constant state of exhaustion and financial stress — always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I knew that to support my family, I was going to have to make a hard choice.
After everything I’d been through, I knew my daughter’s well-being and providing her with a healthy, stable home life came first. By the sheer act of having children, we make the commitment to putting their needs and best interests first — even if it means sacrificing something significant on our end.
At the time, it felt like I had to let my dream of becoming a successful musician end to ensure my baby girl’s well-being. As far as I knew, I would never reach for that dream again. But with my determination to do right by her, I began looking for other ways to make a living that provided a better family life and were more sustainable and conducive to raising a child.
Stability, that elusive minx.
Fueled by the burning need to secure a new source of income, I hung up my leather jacket and went back to school part-time, graduating with a degree in finance and psychology.
Finance is not known for sparking late-night debates or as an expressive outlet for impassioned souls. Unlikely, you’d get invited to a hipster coffee shop or bar to listen to a tortured CFA or financial analyst funnel their rage and rebellion on commodity pricing or estate planning into slam poetry or an original acoustic number. But even to my surprise, I liked finance and discovered another side to myself and another way to show the world who I was—only now as a (badass) businesswoman. Gone were my days of ripped jeans and studded belts; I was about to be an office warrior with cardigans.
With a BS degree in hand and a strong sense of responsibility for my daughter, I began my search for a position that would financially provide for my little family, meet our immediate needs, and would not drain the life out of me every day. Take care of the necessities. Stop being broke. Not hate my job with a