Drop the Struggle: A Transformative Approach to Achieving Your Potential in Sport and Life
By Alison Maitland and Jenna Ashford
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Is there something holding you back from being at your best in your sport? You might be struggling with nerves and anxiety, confidence, motivation, or maybe facing a setback? Perhaps you have some strategies that work in the short-term, but the effects wear off and you are left in the same place as you were before.
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Drop the Struggle - Alison Maitland
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A brilliant practical guidebook and psychological kitbag for athletes and coaches written by authors who really get what it's like to be on the frontline of performance, busting unhelpful sports psychology myths and media cliches along the way.
Cath Bishop, Olympian, Culture Coach and Author of The Long Win
An opportunity for Athletes, Coaches, Parents and anyone else wanting to unlock their full potential, with useful toolkits along the way and help think more clearly through life’s obstacles.
Kat Ratnapala, England Netball Future Roses Head Coach
Drop the Struggle is a fabulous well-written, easy-to-understand book that can help you bring out the best version of you in life and sport. Alison and Jenna are skilled sport psychologists who tackle key mental skills in understanding yourself, your performance and life; they are underpinned by the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) theory. A fascinating read with lots of techniques for personal growth. I couldn’t put it down and can’t wait to try some of the techniques myself!
Paul Thompson MBE, Coach of World and Olympic Rowing Champions
Psychology doesn't have to feel like something remote and academic; nor should it involve forcing yourself to think in a particular way. Drop the Struggle is a great place to understand how instead to work alongside your way of thinking, and maximise you at your best.
Annie Vernon OLY, Olympic Silver Medallist and World Champion Rower, Award-Winning Author of Mind Games
Acceptance and commitment therapy applied to sports psychology is genius! Drop the Struggle should be in the kit bag of every student-athlete and on the bedside table of every coach and every athlete-parent.
Dr Pippa Grange, Psychologist and Culture Coach
Understanding how your mind works and how to unlock your true potential – in sport and in life – is a transformational journey to embark on. In this incredibly powerful and practical book, Jenna and Alison will help you find your path as you learn the skills to stop struggling and start thriving. A game changer!
Katie Mobed, Olympic Sport Psychologist
A fantastic book and an ideal training companion that can easily fit into your kit bag. Drop the Struggle provides a toolkit that enables you to challenge thoughts and feelings and use them positively to obtain the skills required to achieve your goals, transforming the impossible into the possible.
Nicki Kelly, World Record Holder and Ocean Rower
This is the book that I wish I’d been given when I was younger. An accessible guide and tool that makes the psychological side of the game that little bit less daunting. Having had the pleasure of working with both Alison and Jenna before, I look forward to applying their expertise to my work, life and sport once more.
Adam Wilson, Chair of Behind Every Kick
This is an amazing resource for all sportspeople, from the Olympian to a junior athlete. It gives the reader a completely different way to think about the mental side of sport. I am really looking forward to applying it to people I work with.
Greg Searle, Olympic Gold Medallist and Inspirational Speaker
Love this book and wish I had it years ago to give to those starting their sporting career! A hugely practical, positive and progressive guide for anyone navigating the ups and downs of their sporting journey. Athletes and non-athletes alike will be inspired to change their mindset on performance – through the thoughtful explanations, impactful practices and encouraging case studies. This book clearly signposts the way to becoming a better performer.
Neasa Russell, Paralympics Ireland Sports Director and Chef de Mission (Paris 2024)
Drop the Struggle gives you a great set of tools to help on your journey. Very clear and relatable, it is sure to be of use to anybody looking to improve the mental side of their life.
Ben Taylor-Matthews, Head Professional, Bristol Real Tennis Club
Implementing the acceptance and commitment approach outlined in Drop the Struggle in my own leadership career has had an immeasurable impact. The Yellow Tail Moth story is particularly poignant, learning to accept my feelings and my own vulnerability as a leader. I progressed quickly into my current Chief of Staff role with an ease and confidence I had never felt before. And now I have a huge toolkit of strategies for when I get knocked off course, as I no doubt will in the future.
Gillian Ormston, Chief of Staff, Thames Valley Office for the Police and Crime Commissioner
A practical guide in simple language that makes sports psychology accessible and understandable for all. A worthy addition to any kit bag whether you are an athlete, coach, parent or anyone else who wants to reach their potential.
JOELIE CHISHOLM, COO GB SNOWSPORT
Jenna and Alison have used the tools from Drop the Struggle with coaches and players across the pathway at Saracens Mavericks. We’ve seen the positive impact on wellbeing and performance that this approach has. Recommended reading for all netballers!
SACHEL GRANT, PERFORMANCE PATHWAY LEAD, SARACENS MAVERICKS
DROP the STRUGGLE
DROP the STRUGGLE
A transformative approach to achieving your potential in sport and life
Dr Alison Maitland and Jenna Ashford
Every possible effort has been made to ensure that the information contained in this book is accurate at the time of going to press. The publishers and author(s) cannot accept responsibility for any errors and omissions, however caused. No responsibility for loss or damage occasioned to any person acting, or refraining from action, as a result of the material contained in this publication can be accepted by the editor, the publisher or the author.
First published in 2023 by Sequoia Books
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©Alison Maitland & Jenna Ashford 2023
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Print: 9781914110269
EPUB: 9781914110276
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Library of Congress Cataloguing-In-Publication Data
Name: Alison Maitland & Jenna Ashford
Title: Drop the Struggle/Maitland & Ashford
Description: 1st Edition, Sequoia Books UK 2023
Subjects: B: Philosophy, Psychology, Religion
Print: 9781914110269
EPUB: 9781914110276
Library of Congress Control Number: 2023916300
Print and Electronic production managed by Deanta Global
For Helen Cunningham who believed that the only boundaries are the ones we put there ourselves.
And for Ivy Ashford, who has her whole life ahead of her. Let this book remind you to make those boundaries limitless.
Contents
Introduction
Out with the old, in with the new
Taking action (this bit is really important!)
Who we are
Time to reflect
Part I Developing your skills
1 Your Thinking and Observing Mind
Our brain is built for survival
Thinking vs Observing Mind
Get to know your two minds
What’s in your kitbag?
2 Play in the now
Time-travelling thoughts
How well do you stay in the moment?
Getting practical about being mindful
Grounding and stabilising our thoughts
Playing in the now requires practice
Flexing your attention
Think of it like training Matty
What’s in your kitbag?
3 Drop the struggle with your thoughts
What are thoughts?
Dropping the struggle
Getting better at dropping the struggle
What’s in your kitbag?
4 Accept being uncomfortable
We all face pressure
The relationship between pressure and performance
Our response to pressure is the problem
Are you willing to do something different?
The struggle switch
Saying yes to your feelings
What’s in your kitbag?
5 Do what matters
The journey ahead
The destination – where am I going?
The purpose – why am I going on a journey?
Finding your Values Compass
How do I get there? My sport roadmap
Make a commitment
What is holding you back?
What’s in your kitbag?
Part II Applying the training
6 The confidence choice
The truth about confidence
Do what matters: Confidence as an action
Drop the struggle: It’s normal to doubt yourself
Play in the now: Pay attention
Accept being uncomfortable: The stuck loop
What’s in your kitbag?
7 Create the energy to succeed
Using the Values Compass for motivation
Do what matters: Focus on small actions
Drop the struggle: Give your mind a name
Accept being uncomfortable: Urge Surfing
Play in the now: Move in slow motion
What’s in your kitbag?
8 Embrace setbacks and failure
Setbacks are to learn from
Drop the struggle: I am not my story
Accept being uncomfortable: The discomfort of setbacks
Play in the now: Drop anchor
Do what matters: Go in the right direction
What’s in your kitbag?
9 The onward journey
Enjoy the journey
Choose to stay on track with The Choice Point
A dose of self-compassion when things don’t go to plan
Pack your kitbag
Time to dream big
Notes
Index
Introduction
Whatever it is that has brought you to this book, welcome.
You are here because you’re involved in sport. You want to overcome some of the mental challenges that inevitably come with the highs and lows of sporting performance.
You might have a particular challenge that you are grappling with – lack of confidence, fear of failure, inconsistency, a mental block or simply feeling you’re not fulfilling your potential. Or perhaps you are a coach, partner, parent or supporter of an athlete who is struggling with mental barriers.
It’s a frustrating place to be. We are here to help.
If you’ve tried to get over your mental hurdle, you might be confused and frustrated about why your efforts are not leading to any consistent changes. Or it may be that you have been burying your head in the sand for a while, hoping that one day you’ll wake up and be miraculously free from the psychological struggle.
Either way, the important thing is that you’ve picked up this book. You’ve done the hard part. Now is the time for change.
This is a book for anyone, no matter your level or your sport, no matter your previous experiences with psychology and no matter what your starting point is.
We are here to help you find a long-term solution to your current challenges. To Drop the Struggle while keeping hold of all the things necessary to perform at your best. This book will teach you a sustainable way of dealing with difficult thoughts, managing your emotions and harnessing them to help you perform to the best of your ability, as often as possible.
The solutions in this book are not quick, short-term fixes. You’ll have to do something different. You must let go of old ways of thinking and step into new thought patterns. Think of it like a journey up a mountain, you are at the bottom, looking up. It seems daunting, and you’re not sure if it’s even possible. This book encourages you to take the first few steps and see what a difference it makes. If you find that the journey is rewarding, you may choose to continue. You will likely veer off the path, trip up and want to turn back. But that’s all part of the journey. And with persistence and an open mind, you will make it to the top. It will be worth it.
Out with the old, in with the new
Much of traditional sport psychology focusses on positive thinking. Great if you are able to think positively in your current situation, but what if you’re not? What if you’ve been injured and have to take time out, or you’ve been dropped or excluded from a squad? Or perhaps you are making mistake after mistake, but know you are better than that. You may be suffering from crippling nerves or a loss of confidence, and all the thoughts you have are negative ones.
No matter how much we tell you positive thinking helps, the wonderful machine that is your mind will take your thoughts in all different directions. We are not going to go over old techniques like visualisation, boosting your self-esteem, challenging negative thoughts or relaxation. While these have their place, we want you to try something new. Through research¹ and our own experiences, we now know that there is another way; another way that can and will transform your life and sporting career if you work hard to make it happen.
The technical term for the approach you will learn in this book is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
We will explore what this means; but for now, just know that ACT interventions have shown to lead to higher levels of performance² and improved general psychological well-being.³
This book isn’t about getting rid of thoughts or feelings, but it’s about changing your relationship with them. Drop the Struggle isn’t about removing thoughts from our mind or feelings from our body; it’s about handling them more effectively, so they don’t stop us from being the athlete we want to be. That way we can train and compete to the very best of our ability. From our experience, it’s hard to enjoy what you are doing while you’re trying not to think about something. You can’t be your best self if you are attempting to escape from certain thoughts or feelings.
Let’s do a quick experiment. You’ll need a pen for this …
Complete the sentence: ‘the thoughts and feelings I’d most like to