The Game Quotes

“In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn't fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you have to recognize it, stand up, and put in the time and work it takes to get to it. This isn't because the universe is cruel. It's because the universe is smart. It has its own cat-string theory and knows we don't appreciate things that fall into our laps.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“Without commitment, you cannot have depth in anything, whether it's a relationship, a business or a hobby.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“If there was anything I'd learned, it's that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“Men are not dogs. We merely think we are and, on occasion, act as if we are. But, by believing in our nobler nature, women have the amazing power to inspire us to live up to it.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“After all, everyone's favorite subject is themselves.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“The strong live off the weak and the clever live off the strong.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“It’s not lying, it’s flirting.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“One of the things I'd learned ... was how to take a compliment. Just say, "Thank you." It's the only response a confident person can make.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“there are only so many ways to get rejected or ignored. It doesn't hurt at all anymore because why should someone who's a complete stranger have any control over your sense of selfworth?”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“And yet I wasn't sure what his weakness was. We all do that as we get to know someone. Like a tabloid editor, we search for both greatness and weakness, jotting down notes in our heads for future exploitation. We are never comfortable with those who have no visible flaw.”
― Wayne Elise, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“I've never trusted collaborations, because most people in this world are not closers. They don't finish what they start; they don't live what they dream; they sabotage their own progress because they're afraid they won't find what they seek.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“There are certain bad habits we've groomed our whole life -- from personality flaws to fashion faux pas. And it has been the role of parents and friends, outside of some minor tweaking, to reinforce the belief that we're okay just as we are. But it's not enough to just be yourself. You have to be your best self. And that's a tall order if you haven't found your best self yet.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“To win the game was to leave it.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“In fact, every woman I met seemed disposable and replaceable. I was experiencing seducer's paradox: The better a seducer I became, the less I loved women. Success was no longer defined by getting laid or finding a girlfriend, but by how well I performed.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“One of the reasons I became a writer is that, unlike starting a band, directing movies, or acting in a theatrical production, you can do it alone. Your success and failure depend entirely on yourself.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“There is a downside to casual sex: Sometimes it stops being casual. People develop a desire for something more. And when one person's expectations don't match the other person's, then whoever holds the highest expectations suffers. There is no such thing as cheap sex. It always comes with a price.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“A rich man doesn't need to tell you he's rich.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“We get stuck in old thought and behavior patterns that may have been effective when we were twelve months or twelve years old, but now only serve to hold us back. And, while those around us may have no problem correcting our minor flaws, they let the big ones slide, because it would mean attacking who we are.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“But who are we, really? Just a bundle of good genes and bad genes mixed with good habits and bad habits. And since there's no gene for coolness or confidence, then being uncool and unconfident are just bad habits, which can be changed with enough guidance and will power.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“I think the existential dilemma is: We're social animals, so we all wrestle with a sense of inadequacy. But when we realize that we're not as inadequate as we thought we were, and when we realize that everybody else also thinks they're inadequate, then that ache goes away and the idea that we're not a person of value disappears to some extent.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“We were all searching outside ourselves for our missing pieces, and we were all looking in the wrong direction. Instead of finding ourselves, we'd lost our sense of self. Mystery didn't have the answers. A blonde 10 in a twoset at the Standard didn't have the answers. The answers were to be found within.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“We have this idea that love is supposed to last forever. But love isn’t like that. It’s a free-flowing energy that comes and goes when it pleases. Sometimes it stays for life; other times it stays for a second, a day, a month, or a year. So don’t fear love when it comes simply because it makes you vulnerable. But don’t be surprised when it leaves, either. Just be glad you had the opportunity to experience it.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“That's when I started to leave it behind. I realized that I got my entire validation from women. Women became like gods to me, but false gods.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“For all the self-improvement books I had read, I still wasn't above shallow validation-seeking. None of us were. That's why we were in the game. Sex wasn't about getting our rocks off; it was about being accepted.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“I want to learn martial arts," he said docilely, "so when I want to kill
someone, I can do something about it.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“If he wants me to stay away, he should leave me alone.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“If a woman has been married three years or more, you come to learn that she's usually easier to sleep with than a single woman.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“You know what else I did?' he yelled after me as I left. "I fingered her!"

I turned back to look at him. He made me laugh. He pretended to be so confused and helpless, but maybe he was smarter than all of us.

'The inside of a vagina isn't at all what I thought it would feel like,' he shouted excitedly. 'It feels very organized.'

Maybe not.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

“The right lifestyle is something that is worn, not discussed. Money, fame, and looks, though helpful, are not required. It is, rather, something that screams: Ladies, abandon your boring, mundane, unfulfilled lives and step into my exciting world, full of interesting people, new experiences, good times, easy living, and dreams fulfilled.”
― Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists