The Road Back to You Quotes

“The Enneagram is a tool that awakens our compassion for people just as they are, not the people we wish they would become so our lives would become easier.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Once you know the dark side of your personality, simply give God consent to do for you what you’ve never been able to do for yourself, namely, bring meaningful and lasting change to your life.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“The Enneagram doesn’t put you in a box. It shows you the box you’re already in and how to get out of it.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Risking vulnerability and love is what takes courage.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Anyone who says they’re “trying” to be a good Christian right away reveals they have no idea what a Christian is. Christianity is not something you do as much as something that gets done to you. Once you know the dark side of your personality, simply give God consent to do for you what you’ve never been able to do for yourself, namely, bring meaningful and lasting change to your life.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“your number is not determined by what you do so much as by why you do it.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“How, as John Calvin put it, “without knowledge of self there is no knowledge of God.” “For”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Ironically, the term personality is derived from the Greek word for mask ( persona), reflecting our tendency to confuse the masks we wear with our true selves, even long after the threats of early childhood have passed.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Either way, always maintain a compassionate stance toward yourself as God does. Self-contempt will never produce lasting, healing change in our lives, only love.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Sooner or later we must distinguish between what we are not and what we are. We must accept the fact that we are not what we would like to be. We must cast off our false, exterior self like the cheap and showy garment that it is”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“May you recognize in your life the presence, power, and light of your soul. May you realize that you are never alone, that your soul in its brightness and belonging connects you intimately with the rhythm of the universe. May you have respect for your individuality and difference. May you realize that the shape of your soul is unique, that you have a special destiny here, that behind the façade of your life there is something beautiful and eternal happening. May you learn to see your self with the same delight, pride, and expectation with which God sees you in every moment.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“the source of most of your problems is you.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Human beings are wired for survival. As little kids we instinctually place a mask called personality over parts of our authentic self to protect us from harm and make our way in the world. Made up of innate qualities, coping strategies, conditioned reflexes and defense mechanisms, among lots of other things, our personality helps us know and do what we sense is required to please our parents, to fit in and relate well to our friends, to satisfy the expectations of our culture and to get our basic needs met.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Atticus tells her, “Before I can live with other folks I’ve got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“I love a lot of people, understand none of them.” Flannery O’Connor”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Information is not transformation.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Sadly, the unlived lives of parents sometimes push their children toward destinies not of their own choosing.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Don't try to change people. Love them. Only in acceptance can people embrace healthy transformation.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Stop fantasizing about the ideal relationship, career or community and getting stuck in longing for it. Instead, work hard for what’s possible and see it through to completion. Don’t look for beauty and meaning only in the extraordinary or unusual but in the ordinary and simple as well. When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say to you. Don’t embellish and get swept up in your feelings. In the words of Jack Kornfield, “No emotion is final.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Whenever possible, perform acts of anonymous service.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Neuroscientists have determined the brain’s dorsolateral prefrontal cortex is associated with decision making and cost-benefit assessments. If MRI brain scans had been performed on my friends and me one summer’s night when we were fifteen, they would have revealed a dark spot indicating a complete absence of activity in this region of our brains.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“...if you want someone who is efficient, ethical, meticulous, reliable, and does the work of two people, then hire a One!”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Most people don’t ever anticipate that a sudden change in cabin pressure might occur in their home, triggering the hope that an oxygen mask would fall from somewhere overhead to replace the air that shock has just sucked out of their lungs.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“The good news is we have a God who would know our scrawny butt anywhere. He remembers who we are, the person he knit together in our mother’s womb, and he wants to help restore us to our authentic selves.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Ones’ passion to improve the world goes bad when they start to believe that in order to be loved they have to be perfect and not make mistakes.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Every business needs a loyal skeptic who isn’t afraid to ask hard questions or point out the flaws in a plan. A room full of overcaffeinated, risk-tolerant entrepreneurs may not like it when a Six asks a question that pops the balloon on their big idea, but someone has to be the voice of anxiety!”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Because Sixes are conscientious, they tend to take on too much work, which leaves them feeling stressed out, resentful and pessimistic. When it all becomes too overwhelming they can overreact, which can ripple out and freak out other people.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Sixes make terrific friends or partners when they’re spiritually healthy and growing in self-knowledge. Loyal to a fault, Sixes mean it when they say, “Until death do us part.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Sixes are sharp, analytically minded troubleshooters. They love being on the underdog team trying to resurrect a company or failing program, particularly when others say it can’t be done.”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery