Assertiveness: A Workshop For Teachers Lic. Mariana Porta
Assertiveness: A Workshop For Teachers Lic. Mariana Porta
Assertiveness: A Workshop For Teachers Lic. Mariana Porta
CLASSROOM CONTEXT giving feedback keeping discipline supporting your choices setting expectations
INSTITUTIONAL CONTEXT teacher -- parent teacher -- student teacher -- colleague teacher -- supervisor teacher -- staff member
Mini Quiz
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DEFINTION 1
Assertiveness is a kind of behavior. It is specific to a person in a situation. It is based on free will. It is socially effective. It is culture-dependent.
TASK 1
You are in a queue at the movie theater. Somebody comes in and jumps the queue right in front of you. What do you choose to do?
Nothing. You just bear it. Vent comments out loud such as some people are such/so . but you dont face the person. Face the guy bluntly and furiously, after all who does he think he is? Approach the man and politely but firmly tell him that he should take his turn at the end of the line. Other
ASSERTIVENESS DEFINITION 2
Assertiveness
is defined as behavior which enables people to act in their own best interest by expressing their thoughts, feelings, desires and opinions directly, honestly and appropriately.
ASSERTIVENESS DEFINITION 3
Assertiveness
Respecting yourself and others Developing healthy relationships Giving others a chance to change their behavior Feeling better about yourself Preventing conflict Defending basic human rights
10.
The right to be treated with dignity and respect The right to reject requests without feeling guilty The right to experience and express feelings. The right to stop and think before acting. The right to change an opinion. The right to ask for what you need. The right to do less than you are able to do. The right to be independent. The right to decide over your own body and property. The right not to behave assertively.
RIGHTS
BIDIRECTIONAL MODEL
OVERT
EXPRESSION
ASSERTIVE
AGGRESSIVE
PASSIVE
PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE
COERCION
NO COERCION
COVERT EXPRESSION
PASSIVE BEHAVIOR
Passiveness
is having respect for other's rights while having no respect for your own. Ex. denial, isolation
AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR
Getting
PASSIVE AGRESSIVE
It
is having no respect for anyone's rights. Ex. Sarcasm, malicious comments, rumor, manipulation, double messages.
Task 2
Cultural differences. Positive reward to nonassertive behavior. Irrational Beliefs and Ideas Roadblocks or Myths
ABC
Cognitive Model
Spiders bite people Spiders can kill Spiders are powerful Spiders are quick You never know when a spider can bite you. This spider could come after me.
A
stimulus
B
mental process
C
overt behavior
Task 3.
Dismiss the thought that there is any acceptable reason for misbehavior . Decide which rules you wish to implement. Determine negative consequences for noncompliance. Determine positive consequences for appropriate behavior.
TEACHER TALK
"Tish, I like the way you raised your hand before speaking. Ana, please start putting your project away. It's been five minutes since I asked you to clean up. "I give up. If this group doesn't want to listen, its your problem, not mine."
1. Eye contact and facial expression: Maintain direct eye contact, appear interested and alert, but not angry. 2. Posture: Stand or sit erect, possibly leaning forward slightly. 3. Distance and contact: Stand or sit at a normal conversational distance from the other.
4. Gestures: Use relaxed, conversational gestures. 5. Voice: Use a factual, not emotional tone of voice. Sound determined and full of conviction, but not overbearing. 6. Timing: Choose a time when both parties are relaxed. A neutral site is best.