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    Surviving A Relationship Break-Up: Counselling Service Tip Sheet

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    Edith Cowan University Student Services Centre

    Surviving a Relationship Break-up


    Counselling Service Tip Sheet

    Its inevitable you are going to feel bad after a relationship ends. Just about everyone, at some time in their lives, experiences this type of pain and loss and it is normal. Healing from a break-up means going through the dumps in most cases. You may feel worse if: You didnt see the break up coming It wasnt your decision to break up

    You still see your ex partner on campus It was your first serious romance Theyve moved on with another relationship They felt like your only real friends But here are some tips to help you survive your relationship break-up...

    Now its just me


    Its important to keep the break-up in perspective. Think about what you still have - your health, your friends and your family. It may sound corny but try and take one day at a time. And it is often true that a year from now you will feel very differently.

    Remember number one!


    If you were unhappy in the relationship, try and recall why. If you were happy and they left you, what have you lost if they did not appreciate you? Let someone find you who appreciates you!

    What can I do now?


    1. Call a good friend or family member and speak to them for an hour or two - your real friends and family will talk to you.

    2. If you are really feeling bad, invite Remember those other your friend or family member to interests? come over for the night. You may have spent months or years with 3. It may help to talk to someone neutral your significant other and devoted your and objective, such as a counsellor. energy into making that person happy. In 4. Talk it out or write down your thoughts some cases this may mean you neglected this can be a brave and steady the hobbies you had or the friends you way through it. socialised with as a single person. Being 5. Give yourself some realistic time to on your own means having an opportunity to get back into the hobbies that made get over it why set time limits? you smile before and re-establish good 6. Take gentle care of yourself eat, connections with friends. rest and exercise. 7. Do some fun things as soon as you Remind yourself feel able. 1. You are a good person and when the 8. When you are ready, reflect on some time is right you will meet someone of the things you have learnt, given again. and gained from the relationship. 2. You are better off alone than in a bad relationship. 1. Try not to isolate yourself and withdraw from those that care about you. 3. The hurt will go away day by day. 4. Remember the last bad relationship you had prior to this one ending. Remember how miserable you felt when you were breaking up then? You probably got over that and with time you will get over this one. 5. The main thing is to take one day at a time.

    3. Dont take revenge. It will only Rebound relationships prolong your hurt. After breaking-up it may be best to look 4. Dont try to be friends again with your inward and see if there is anything you ex too quickly. need to take care of before jumping into 5. Dont bottle up your feelings. Let them a new relationship. You will probably be vulnerable after a break-up and you may out slowly with trusted supports. be tempted to go for a rebound-relationship 6. Dont wind yourself up with so you will not be on your own. It is best to unanswerable questions of why? take things slow however, especially during or dwell on your faults. the first month after a significant break-up. 7. Dont feel lost in grief a counsellor Take care of all the things you didnt do when you were in the relationship. Concentrate may help if you cant stop. on your health, your uni studies, your finances and better relationships will follow. And when you do enter a new relationship, never forget to nurture your individuality neglecting to do so may contribute to co-dependence on your next partner and can eventually lead to resentment in both individuals. If you are a whole and happy person in your own right, you will not need a relationship to complete you; rather it will be the icing on your cake!

    References
    This tip sheet was adapted from: Surviving Relationship Breakup (ANU Counselling Service) and http://www.survivingbreakup. com. More information is available from: Relationships Australia (http://www.relationships.com.au) Family Relationships Online (http://www.familyrelationships.gov. au) ReachOut: Friends and Relationships Fact Sheet (http://www.reachout.com.au)

    What not to do

    2. Dont over use alcohol or harming substances to escape the pain. They will only make you even more depressed and lead to further problems.

    Acknowledgements
    Editors: Peta Morris and Mel Johnston

    Please note that this tip-sheet provides information and guidance only - it is not a substitute for professional counselling and support

    Reception: Mount Lawley Campus: Building 3, Room 128 Joondalup Campus: Building 18, Room 418 South West Campus: Building 1, Room 121 Telephone: 9370 6706 Email: counselling@ecu.edu.au

    ECU Counselling Service Appointments available at all campuses

    CRICOS IPC 00279B

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