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    Love is the byproduct of a chain of decisions that you decide to be romantically emotional about. If the decisions change, the corresponding emotions will change, too.

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    Love Is A Choice – NOT An Emotion

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    Like most people, I have often heard the all-too-common refrains, "you can't help who you love", "it just
    happened", or "one thing led to another". Most often, I hear this from women who are attempting to
    justify their ill-advised involvement in some situation that has come back to bite them in the behind.
    Ladies, I'm about to set you free!! None of these assessments is accurate. The truth is - you absolutely,
    unequivocally "help" who you love; it did not just happen; and one thing did not lead to another. You
    either made it happen or you allowed it to happen. Now, you're free because either way, the
    situation is in your control. For purposes of this entry, however, I will focus on the 'who you love' issue as
    it concerns unhealthy romantic love.
    Contrary to popular opinion, love is not accidental, incidental, or happenstance. It isn't random,
    arbitrary, or evolutionary. It happens by the sheer force of two independent wills focused in the same
    direction. It happens because the two people involved wanted it to happen, and have usually expended
    considerable effort to make sure that it did happen. Love is not a hole in the sidewalk waiting for you to
    blindly fall into it. Love is the by product of mental and physical time and effort deliberately put forth to
    create and continue feelings of infatuation and romance.
    We've all seen the situations where people have gotten involved in emotional and/or physical intimacies
    with someone they were "just friends" with. The usual protests go something like "I don't know how it
    happened", "I never intended for it to happen", or "I couldn't help myself". The facts are that these
    relationships never just happen. They occur after days, weeks, and months of finding big and small ways
    to perpetuate the ecstasy of illicit attraction.
    That fact alone begs the question, is it really love you've created? You might think it is. Your partner may
    even agree. The truth is you've created a fantasy that can only survive in the bubble of the manipulated
    realities you've invented. That's why the magic dies under the stresses and strains of real life. No longer
    able to shield your "love" from the side effects and consequences of real life, you usually soon find that
    your "love" fades.
    In short, true love is a series of choices that you get emotional about. It is not merely an emotion or a
    feeling that you just helplessly fall into like a hole in the sidewalk. True love is deliberate. It lasts, not
    because of how you feel about eachother - but because of your dedication to your commitment to
    eachother.
    Speaking the truth in love,
    Deidre

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