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a note from the author. . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
an honest moment. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
just start . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21
believe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33
nashville . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47
edinburgh . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57
your people . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69
your talents. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 81
your words. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 91
say yes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97
say no. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 107
hold on. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119
let go. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 125
at home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 133
around the world . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143
every day you have. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151
everything you have. . . . . . . . . . . . . 157
the why. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
the rhythm . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 177
jesus. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 191
good-bye. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 199
thank you . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 203
sounds good to me. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 205
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an ho ne t mo ment
s
March 2013
My dining room table, Nashville, Tennessee
Im not brave. I lack courage. Im thirty-three years old, and I sometimes cry when I leave my
parents home in Georgia to drive back to my little brick
house in Nashville. I have never jumped out of a plane, and
I only ride roller coasters when Im trying to impress a boy.
Some people live for an adrenaline rush. I live for a
sugar rush.
I dont think it is fun to risk, to gamble, to possibly lose.
I like safety, smart choices, and learning the easy way. Tell
me its a bad idea and Im going to believe you.
A few months ago, my friend Lyndsays car ran out of
gas. (Something that does not happen to me because I do
not let my gas gauge go below a quarter of a tank. I never
once saw the low gas light come on in my first car. I dont
know if it even worked. Never risked it.) But Lyndsay is a
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an honest moment
works. I dont think you need me to tell you what to do.
I think you know. I think you just need a little pregame
warm-up. A little something to oomph you along. An understanding of the map you are holding.
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an honest moment
state. Maps of the places youve been that you never want
to forget and maps of the places you want to go to.
Your life, start to finish, is a map. And we are HERE.
Thats all I know. I dont know where youve been and I
dont know where your map will take you. I only know there
will be moments when you feel like the map has turned or
changed and moments when you realize youve read this
map wrong all along. You will crumple it up and throw it
down, only to return to it for direction once you finish your
cryfest. I get it. I know.
But its your map. Not my map. Or my cousins map.
Or your spouses map. Its yours. And there is something
so sweet about God doing life that way. Giving you your
own rivers to cross and mountains to climb and forks in
the roads of your life that I will never come to. You get to
be brave right there, in each of those places. Bravery begets
bravery. If youll be brave, Ill be brave. And when I am
brave, you feel like you can be too. We are holding hands
and I promise I wont let go.
Lets all be brave.
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just st art
March 2013
Mountain Brook Starbucks, Birmingham, Alabama
I think the hardest thing about writing is
the blank page. Or computer screen. Its said to be a writer
is to have homework every day for the rest of your life. You
remember that feeling, dont you? When you have a paper
to write or an assignment to turn in and you know you can
do it if you can just. get. started. I find the same to be true
if Im creating a presentation for a conference Im speaking
at or if Im trying to write a message on a Fathers Day card.
I know what I want to say. I just often dont know where to
start.
My favorite hamburger in Nashville is the turkey burger
with a gluten-free bun at Burger Up in 12South. Its always
cooked perfectly, and they have this honey mustard aioli
that will just bless you. The owner of Burger Up is Miranda.
Shes a bit of a legend in our neighborhood for taking a boring stretch of street and adding some substantial eateries. I
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just start
whether its a new book, a new restaurant, or any other
dream you may have. To start the journey toward that
thing ... I dont know what it is for you, but its not a journey to courage. The moment you take that first step, the
moment you start, little seeds of courage, the ones I believe
are already planted there right now, begin to sprout in your
heart. You arent headed out to find courage. Its in you, it
is blooming, and it is with you as you travel and say yes to
things that seem scary. Remember, its not only the X that
matters; its getting there.
At my home church, the high school students host and
run the middle school retreat. Its a really neat experience.
As an adult leader a few years ago, I loved watching my sister Sally, an eighteen-year-old senior, be the retreat director. She nailed it. It was the only middle school retreat I
ever attended, but Im pretty sure she was the best retreat
director ever. The coolest part about being an adult leader
was I literally just had to supervise, not really plan or lead.
It was awesome.
We were at one of those retreat centers that have cabins
and bunk beds and two showers for every twenty p
eople,
and it was as rustic as you are picturing.
And I loved it. Yes, I absolutely love retreats. You know
why? I love when all my friends are trapped in the same
place for days at a time. Is that weird?
On the Saturday night of this middle school retreat, I
crawled into my little twin bunk, shoved up next to another
twin bunk, and closed my eyes. It wasnt thirty seconds
later that I felt someone tap my shoulder.
Because we are a people who love to prank, I was
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just start
before she actually got up out of her bed, it grew feet, didnt
it? Feet that brought her to me.
Somewhere, at some point, she started being brave
probably before she even realized it. It wasnt when she told
me. It was long before, when something in her heart began
to beat with a different rhythm.
You just have to start, my friend. That thing that is
whispering on your insides? That conversation you need to
have or that place you need to go? That job you want to try
or that ministry you want to attempt? That major you want
to pick at college or that mission trip you want to go on?
Youve got to start somewhere.
So do.
Tell somebody you want to be brave.
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cereal guesses right. Terrible winning percentage, I know.
But they dont lie for me like they do for Pastor Pete.
Also, on a personal note, this is my favorite time of the
Sunday night events. I get to talk to every student and connect with him or her week after week. As silly as it sounds,
this is a big part of my ministry, and I love it.
Last week, Pastor Pete was out of town, so a new volunteer, Paul, stood with me at the cereal table. I tell Paul how
Pastor Pete and I have this little guessing thing we do, and
I suggest he and I try it for a little while. So we start guessing some of the students cereal choices. Im totally off my
game and go 0 for 7 right off the bat, which leads to a lot of
students rolling their eyes and my confidence going down
the drain. Ouch.
Paul and I decide to take a break from guessing. We just
start chatting as the students keep getting cerealwhen,
out of the corner of my eye, I see one of my college buddies,
Will, mix Cocoa Puffs and Cheerios, and I think that is just
a crime against all things cereal. I turn my head, point my
finger, and say, No sir, Will, that is gross! Because apparently I believe Im allowed to guess and judge cereal choices.
A few minutes later, as Paul and I continue to chat, he
looks at me and says, I dont know that Ive ever told anyone this, but I think I want to write a book.
And there is the moment, right there among college
kids and sugary carbs and inappropriate cereal combos. The
moment when courage stopped bubbling only on the inside.
The moment when Paul believed enough in himself and in
the God who made him that he took a step of courage. He
started.
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against Goliath. Everyone is stunned because David is a
kid and the rest of the Israelite army, full of adult dudes,
is afraid of him. Davids response shows us the importance
of the daily steps of courage that lead to the bigger story.
But David said to Saul, Your servant has been
keeping his fathers sheep. When a lion or a bear came
and carried off a sheep from the flock, I went after it,
struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When
it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and
killed it. Your servant has killed both the lion and the
bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of
them, because he has defied the armies of the living
God. The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the
lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the
hand of this Philistine.
Saul said to David, Go, and the Lord be with you.
1Samuel 17:3437
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Ive dreamed of this book for a long time. I want to tell two
stories with my life.
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that first step. Make that first move to research or learn or
pray about the thing that is like a God-struck match lit on
your insides.
Maybe for you, its writing a note. Singing a song. Making a phone call. Having a conversation. Composing a story.
Writing a check. Booking that trip. Sending an email. Going
on a date. Reading a book. Signing up.
Im trying to list as many options as possible, but you
know the thing God is doing in your life better than I do. Its
time to get quiet before the Lord and ask him what it looks
like for you to live a life of courage today. To start.
Just start.
By the way, Mallory didnt go to Auburn. She went to Australia with YWAM. We would often skype and talk about
that day at the middle school retreat when God changed
everything in her plans. After completing her course, Mallory came back home and married a great, godly guy, and
now they have a daughter. They are missionaries in the
Middle East. Every day they tell p
eople about Jesus in a
country that is closed to Christianity.
Just look at that. Look what her courage started.
And I can tell you firsthand that the moments of my
greatest fearsthose times when I was sure I was going to
wimp out under the pressure of it allhave also been the
open doors to the greatest changes in my life. So I step out,
full of fear, but trusting that God is on the other side in new
and wonderful ways. And so far? He always is.
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be liev e
October 2012
12South Frothy Monkey Coffee Shop, Nashville, Tennessee
I have a lot of respect for tennis players.
Tennis players like themselves a lot. They have a strut. A
swag. They may play for a tennis team, but when it is time
to swing the racquet, its just one. Alone. Dont hear me saying they are self-centered. Thats not (always) true. What I
am saying is that tennis players are confident enough in
themselves that they are willing to walk out on a court
alone and win. Alone.
I grew up playing soccer. I adore soccer. Im one girl on a
field of eleven. I can play and have an impact, but if we lose
the game, I can look around the field like, Sheesh, girls.
What just happened there? Because, you know, it couldnt
be my fault. Ahem.
Im about to get my brag on. Prepare yourself.
Im a good soccer player. In my prime, I could kick a soccer ball with a decent amount of power. Once in high school
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believe
on that field, certainly less than the goalie on the other
team. So it was always team play for meshare the wins,
share the losses.
But Im not that girl anymore. Im not the happy-onthe-outside-insecure-for-days-on-the-inside girl. The lies
are gone (for the most part), and instead I see the truth
of how God made me and who he made me to be. I dont
fear failure because it doesnt define me. Neither do my successes. I used to want to hide in the moments that asked me
to be brave.
Now I want to take a penalty kick.
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believe
a star crosses the screen. The more you know, p
eople. The
more you know.
Heres something I know: I shouldnt believe in me, at
least not in the way they think I should. Ive been me long
enough to know that I am not someone to be believed in.
I screw up. I hurt p
eoples feelings. I care too much about
some things and not enough about others.
I get lost. I am not perfect. And I dont want to pour my
hope or trust into someone as faulty as myself.
So while Im grateful for what Hollywood is saying, I
dont think it is totally true.
I believe in the me God made and in the me God can
make. I believe he made me on purpose and didnt make any
mistakes when it came to my creation. I believe he is doing a
good work in me, and in you. And that though I am flawed,
God is loving me and refining me and reminding me that
God in me is where I can place my trust.
And that is the place where I find my courage. Its like
if you drive down This Is How God Made Me Road until
it intersects with This Is Who God Can Make Me Avenue,
there is a pile of courage waiting there. (I swore I wouldnt
do cheesy map-related sentences like this, but can I just this
once?)
The better you know you, the better you can find that
intersection and the better you can resist temptation to sin
or wimp out. I know my tendencies and fears, and I also
know my gifts and hopes. Its where those meet that I often
find God cheering for me to make the brave choice.
You have to believe in the One who made you. I am
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believe
were my best friends, and most of my favorite memories
from that season of life involve those p
eople and that place.
In all the teaching and training and time spent in
church, at some point in my younger years, my theology got
skewed and I started to believe that Christians somehow
got rankednot based on their sin or their bank accounts,
but based on their calling.
You want to be a missionary? You get 5 out of 5 stars.
Top notch. Cream of the crop.
You want to be a Hollywood movie star? You get 1 out
of 5 stars because, you know, youll probably be really rich
and famous, and that just cant be Christian. Or you want
to have a normal job at a bank? Okay, thats 2 out of 5 stars,
because you can witness to p
eople in the drive-through.
Sorry you arent 5 out of 5, but you are still totally a Chris
tian; you just arent sacrificing as much as the missionary.
God still loves you so much, but you just arent as awesome
or something.
Every other job or calling falls somewhere in this range.
My little confused Christian mind was sure that God ranked
people like this. I dont know where I got this idea. It wasnt
a lesson taught in my tenth-grade Sunday school class or
something my parents instructed us on over dinner. But I
remember how it felt.
My sister Tatum got saved when she was eleven. I was thirteen then. So I had been on the Jesus train for a while, but
it was all new to her. And Ill tell you what, Tatum had one
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believe
4. And who says what you are doing right now right here
isnt Gods work?
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believe
admit that you, like me, are prone to get lost and that Jesus
is the way, the truth, and the life.
Were going to explore a lot of sides of courage. Like
peering at some sort of kaleidoscope crystal, no two p
eople
are going to see the same thing when they look for a brave
moment. God is that creative.
Its not your job to see the same refraction of light and
color on the wall. Its your job to be brave enough to look
through the kaleidoscope, even if what you see surprises
you.
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believe
made you unique. He believes in all the dreams bubbling in
your heart. He believes in your ability to take hold of the
tiny ledge that is your next call to courage.
I believe in you too. I believe you have picked up this
book for a reason. You want to be brave. In your middle
placeI like to call it the knower, somewhere between
your chest and your backboneyou know you want to be
brave.
You arent the runt. You arent a subpar Christian. You
havent sinned your way out of your calling, and you havent
lost your chance to make a difference for Christ.
You are one of a kind, made on purpose, deeply loved,
and called to be courageous.
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