Clients For Life
Clients For Life
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The distinction between a client and a customer is more than semantic. The professionals
relationship with a client has a consultative aspect to it there is give-and-take to clarify needs,
identify problems, and recommend solutions.
Professionals who are staff or functional managers within corporations can also profit from the
concepts in this book. Human resources or finance specialists who report to line executives, for
example, face the same challenges that outside professionals do in creating value, and they are
held back by similar barriers.
Throughout the book, the authors have used historical advisers as well as highly accomplished
contemporary professionals to illustrate the journey from expert for hire to trusted adviser.
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path to becoming an integrated, fulfilled professional who offers far more than just
expertise to clients. You can evolve from a knowledge worker, an expert for hire, to a
wisdom worker, a trusted adviser.
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includes related skills; such as critical thinking and problem solving. The ability to synthesize sets
the business adviser apart from the subject matter expert who relies mainly on analysis. Judgment
is often-but not always-the culmination of a particular engagement or advice session, drawing on
all the learning and synthesis you have undertaken.
Conviction and integrity constitute two important character attributes that are common to all
of the extraordinary professionals studied. Conviction comes into play as the adviser begins to
offer opinions, recommendations; and judgments in earnest. Conviction, however, does not
exist in a vacuum; it is based on a set of compelling, explicit personal beliefs and values. Properly harnessed, it is a powerful force that can motivate and energize both professional and
client.
The attribute of integrity comprises a constellation of skills and behaviors that build trust,
including discretion, consistency, reliability, and the ability to discern right from wrong.
Without this trust, -it is unlikely you will develop a collaborative relationship.
There are other qualities, of course-motivation, optimism, tenacity, determination, analytical skills,
and so on- that are valuable for professionals and indeed necessary to be a successful expert. The
seven identified, however, are the ones that truly stand out and make a difference in a
professionals effectiveness. They enable you to go beyond expertise and become a broad-based
adviser. These are the qualities that foster the development of the insights and relationships that
lead to consistent value creation for clients, and they are the characteristics that great advisers
themselves have intuitively developed.
These attributes build on and interact with each other to create a whole tat is greater than the
sum of the parts.
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youll still have done your job. Ultimately youll probably choose not to work with clients who
arent really interested in points of view that contradict their own.
There are three distinct types of independence that great professionals exercise:
1. Intellectual independence great advisers always find an appropriate way to say what they
think.
2. Emotional independence staying calm and centered while the client or the organization is
hitting the walls can be difficult. Furthermore, since your livelihood or promotion
prospects often hinge on the outcome of your work, you may start to hang on every nuance
of mood or emotion that your client expresses. You have to be involved yet detached at the
same time.
3. Financial independence the best advisers are highly paid, but act as though they are not
being paid and dont really need the money.
Independence has to be tempered with an attitude of selflessness. This is a mindset in which
the adviser, while preserving integrity, concentrates on serving the client and meeting her
needs. This mindset has to be active throughout all day-to-day activities, manifesting it in
effective, empathetic listening during meetings, responding rapidly to client requests, and
developing proposals that truly reflect the clients agenda rather than the advisers sales quota
for that quarter.
Selflessness has many dimensions to it:
o A focus on your clients agenda rather than your own
o An understanding that you are there to serve and to support your clients needs
o A willingness to share or even relinquish control in the relationship
o A conviction that your responsibility as an adviser is to supply the right questions; your
client has most of the right answers
o Respect for clients
o Self effacement the less public credit you try to take, the more private credit your
client will give you
o The ability to see your clients needs, undistorted, just as they are
One of the most important things a professional can do to cultivate selfless independence is to
develop and articulate her own beliefs and values. These fuel your conviction, which is
necessary for the independence part of the equation.
o Be clear about your ethical principals
o Develop a mindset of independent wealth this means that you do the right thing
without regard to the monetary outcome. Cultivate an abundance mentality.
o Take a hard look at your client list. Saying no is a powerful way to focus your practice
and ensure youre spending time with motivated clients who appreciate you.
Professionals need to say no to client engagements that arent fun, arent learning
experiences, and dont allow you to truly add value and do great job.
o Constantly reflect on your clients needs and how to fulfill them
o Be prepared to help your clients with any of his needs. Constantly tune into ways you
can help and serve.
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Commonly defined as the ability to perceive other peoples emotions and thoughts, empathy
enables us to:
o Understand the character, perspectives, motivations and values of the people we work
with
o Form deep, meaningful, personal and professional relationships
o Respond to others in appropriate and effective ways.
Empathy enables you to learn about your clients, making you more innovative and effective as
a professional. It also helps you create a rapport with your clients, allowing you to constantly
exchange expectations about the work that youre doing.
Empathy enables you to tune into your clients mood, frame of mind, and concerns.
Understanding emotions is the first aspect of empathy: individuals who are good at this know
when to oppress their point and when to change the subject.
Empathy is also the ability to understand thoughts, to hear rather than just listen.
Professionals who excel at developing broad-gauge relationships are skilled in yet a third type
of empathy, contextual empathy, or the ability to understand and appreciate the context in
which a client operates. What are the forces and pressures acting on the client at the moment?
How are her relationships with peers? With the boss? Whats happening in the marketplace
or on a personal level that may be affecting her moods, though processes, and sensitivities?
Taking this a step further, you need to examine the emotional, rational, and political contexts of
your clients thinking and decision-making processes.
There are three fundamental preconditions for the exercise of empathy:
o The right attitude you have to be interested in order to be empathetic. The second
element of the right attitude is genuine interest in learning. Humility is the final part of
having the right attitude. Many great client advisers have grown and become open and
empathetic through humbling experiences that they went through.
o Self-awareness and emotional self-control It is widely accepted that self-awareness
and the ability to regulate your own emotions are fundamental prerequisites to the
practice of empathy. Emotional self-control can follow once you achieve self-awareness.
o The practice of specific empathetic listening skills- Great client advisers are superb
listeners. Their ability not only helps them gain information critical to their work, but
gives their clients breathing space and allows them to think through issues on their own.
Empathy also underpins their personal and professional relationship with the client and
helps it grow over time. Here is an interesting fact people speak 200 to 250 words per
minute, whereas we can digest something like 300 500 words per minute. This is why
listening can make us feel impatient.
Here are some suggestions to improve your empathy skills:
o Put yourself into unfamiliar situations where you have neither mastery nor control
where you have to listen and observe more than usual.
o Travel when you have left the cocooned existence you call your home, you are
suddenly exposed to a raft of new sights, smells, tastes, points of view, and sufferings.
o Accept occasional failures or setbacks and learn from them.
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o Gain an understanding of your own basic strengths, weaknesses, and personality type.
The Myers-Briggs can be extremely helpful to professionals as it helps you understand
key aspects of your behavior and thinking processes.
o Learn to distinguish between observations and judgments
o Always listen at the most involved level. The highest revel is engaging in empathetic
listening, during which you listen deeply, actively observe, interpret nonverbal cues, and
sense the underlying messages behind the words. Practicing affirmation affirming and
paraphrasing what your client has said to you can help sharpen your focus on
listening.
o Recognize and eliminate your personal filters
o Think hard about what your client is going to say
o Ask guiding questions that help clients find their own answers. These questions help
clients clarify the issues for themselves and develop their own solutions. Guiding
questions move the discussion beyond the basic facts and get clients to reflect on key
issues and desired outcomes.
o Seek honest feedback from clients about your performance and the conduct of the
relationship
Professionals who excel with clients develop an understanding of personality types and adapt
their communication styles appropriately. They know that some people are fact-based and
task-oriented and want to get right to the point; others are reticent to express their views and
have to be carefully drawn out; still others value the social nature of your meetings and want to
dwell on personal and not just business topics..
Great professionals vastly expand their universe of relationships by being students of character
and by consciously and methodically adapting their communications to each individual client.
Deep Generalists: Building Knowledge Depth and Breadth
According to leadership authority Warren Bennis, the professionals who develop into really
great advisers are deep generalists. They develop a unique blend of knowledge depth and
breadth. Professionals who become deep generalists are able to add value in a greater variety
of ways, more often and more consistently, than the average practitioner.
A deep generalist is someone who has a core expertise onto which he layers knowledge of
related (and sometimes unrelated) fields. The result is a business adviser with technical depth
rather than a technical specialist.
Extraordinary professionals love to learn and become skilled at learning. Becoming a deep
generalist doesnt happen overnight. Its a slow evolutionary process. It involves acquiring deep
expertise and then adding sometimes simultaneously, at other times sequentiallycomplementary knowledge.
Developing your core expertise comes first. Deep expertise alone doesnt create the kind of
lasting client relationships that this book is about, but it will engender respect and credibility
and become the starting point for relationships.
A prerequisite to becoming a deep generalist is to cultivate a learning attitude. This attitude,
and its consequences, can be summed up by an ancient but still fresh Zen proverb: When the
student is ready the teacher will appear.
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Having a student mindset is not enough. You have to be ready to earn, often by unlearning old
precepts or concepts that are no longer valid. Students who are ready rapidly identify and
incorporate new information and ideas. Ready students are constantly on the lookout for
people and experiences they can learn from, and they know these teachers can appear at any
time.
The knowledge acquisition strategies of client advisers are fundamentally different from those
pursued by experts, both in terms of what they learn and how they learn it. There are three
learning arenas:
1. Core expertise most professionals spend the vast majority of their learning time just trying to
keep up with new developments in their fields. These professionals seek to drill deeper onto
the core of knowledge that defines their expertise.
2. Ecosystem Every professional applies his expertise to some larger ecosystem. Often this
ecosystem is the world of business and management, although many professionals also work in
ecosystems such as healthcare or government. In this wider zone of learning, many experts
drop out.
o In addition there is a personal ecosystem that you must be aware of. It comprises
information about your clients aspirations, goals, and values as well as professional
status and familial situation. This kind of mastery is precisely what enables you to
develop tailored, innovative solutions and truly stand out in your clients eyes.
3. Personal interest You never know how your personal interest learning may one day connect
with professional opportunities and your effectiveness with clients.
In the last two categories- ecosystem and personal interest- great client advisers engage in
exploratory learning. Some people retain their youthful curiosity and inquisitiveness and remain
explorers as adults. Play is often the mechanism that allows us to explore as adults.
If you want to develop into a deep generalist, a final aspect of learning to consider is how to
learn, which is a function of both attitude and the specific learning strategies you adopt. The
most effective learners cultivate an attitude of mindfulness which means cultivating a flexible,
open intellect.
You can accelerate your learning by using the following knowledge acquisition methods: direct
expertise, study, observation or modeling.
The first key difference in the learning habits of ordinary versus extraordinary professionals is
that the latter spend more total time dedicated to active learning and knowledge acquisition.
The second difference between the learning habits of experts and of advisers is in terms of
where they spend their time. Experts spend the majority of their time becoming more expert in
their chosen subject. Advisers also continue to cultivate their expertise, but they work to give it
increasingly greater context.
Client advisers thus spend perhaps as much as one-half of their learning time in the exploratory
learning zones, ecosystem and personal interest, whereas typical experts might spend only a
small fraction of their time there. Experts do the vast majority of their learning experientially,
whereas advisers supplement their experience-based learning with reading and study; they
develop acute observation skills that enhance their ability to learn under a variety of
circumstances; and they use successful individuals around them as role models.
The highest value seems to be created by individuals who take a multidisciplinary approach,
despite the fact that we are all endlessly pushed to specialize.
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Developing in-depth knowledge about your client is the best and quickest way to get in a
position where you can contribute insights and create the foundation for a long-term,
collaborative relationship. Client learning occurs on three levels, and at each succeeding level
you become more and more valuable o the individual you serve. From the broadest to the
narrowest, the three levels are:
1. Your clients industry,
2. Your clients company and organization: As you build knowledge about your clients strategy
and operations, your ability to suggest new ideas and solutions increases dramatically.
3. Your client: Its important to know your client both personally and professionally. You
develop an understanding of her strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. You learn when
to push hard and when to step back. At this level of client learning you are in a unique
position to add extraordinary value.
When you have mastered all three of these levels, your ability to anticipate client needs, bring
fresh solutions and ideas, serve as a sounding board, and provide comfort and reassurance to
your client at its peak.
Your goal has to be more than just developing general knowledge about your client. You need
to learn things about his organization and his company that even he doesnt know; you need to
be in a position to actually teach him aspects of his business.
There is no formula for developing the breadth of knowledge that is characteristic of great
professionals. The authors however, have observed certain habits and practices among the
advisers they studied.
o Learning through teaching: The best learners like to teach, and teaching helps them
learn. When you teach something, you have to organize and systematize what you
know. This process solidifies your thinking, pinpoints the gaps, and forces you to go
deeper into the subject matter.
o Exploring: A consultant has to understand how an area of focus be it information
technology, logistics, or personnel fits into the clients broader business strategy.
When educating yourself about history and culture it needs to become a longer-term
habit; collecting a few unrelated facts or random trivia wont help much.
o The role of play: Contemporary research on play has produced evidence that adults who
engage in play have superior cognitive abilities. There appears to be a correlation
whether or not one leads to the other.
o Powers of observation: Extraordinary professionals have well-developed powers of
observation. No matter where they are at work, with their families, or at play they
are always listening and watching. Its not enough to listen carefully and watch closely;
you have to keep wondering why and trying to develop explanations for what you see.
o Knowledge acquisition as a daily routine: Learning has to be like exercise or diet: it
should be embedded in your lifestyle. Reading new things immediately is a good
strategy that many effective learners employ. If you pile up articles, books and papers,
with the intention of reading them at some future date, youll rarely get around to
them.
o Enlarging your professional focus and experience: Many of the effective professionals
studied continued to develop their original expertise their distinctive competency
but they also layer new knowledge on top of it.
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constantly screening these issues against the ultimate purpose at hand. You have to ask,
Which issues will really affect the outcome I seek? second, you need to distinguish between
symptoms and causes.
The ability to frame and communicate the critical issues gives an edge to any professional.
When it comes to communicating your ideas and conclusions, you have to consider that most
people are able to absorb and remember three main points during any major presentations or
discussion.
Once the foundations are in place, there are five specific techniques that you can use to
undertake synthesis and develop the big picture for your client.
o Develop simplifying frames. Framing is the essence of synthesis. It organizes and
explains complex phenomena by reducing them to a few, simple dimensions. A good
frame highlights the most relevant aspects of the issue or problem, shows how they
interrelate, and then connects to your overarching purpose or goal. Often, frames
provide a picture or visual representation that makes it easy to rapidly understand the
key relationships. The essence of framing is a reduction to basic components and
drivers. Two well-known frameworks that have become influential are:
The growth-share matrix of the Boston Consulting Group categorizes businesses
in a companys portfolio as to market share and growth as stars, question marks,
cash cows and dogs.
Stephen Coveys time management model (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective
People) classifies all of your activities along two dimensions: degree of
importance and degree of urgency.
o Use analogies and metaphors. Storytelling is a powerful communications form that is
heavily based on the use of analogy and metaphor. They are effortlessly digestible and
easy to remember.
o Develop multiple perspectives: part of the essence of synthesis is looking at the world
with the broadest possible view. Professionals require a number of perspectives that
help them develop the big picture. First, every constituency involved in the problem you
are trying to solve has a particular point of view, and you need to understand it. There is
a second type of perspective that great client advisers acquire, which we call a
multidisciplinary perspective. The challenge is to understand and appreciate the
perspectives of other corporate functions, such as marketing or manufacturing, and
other disciplines like economics or organizational behavior.
o Reverse your thinking: reverse thinking is a form of synthesis that involves completely
rearranging the pieces to create a new whole. As in the case with other tools for
synthesis, there is no cookie-cutter approach to developing reverse thinking. You can
start the process, however, by asking a series of questions that challenge the status quo:
Why does this have to be done this way? What if we turned this process on its head?
o Look for patterns and commonalities: One of the best ways to develop your pattern
thinking is to organize and codify. Part of recognizing patterns is the ability to see
commonalities.
There are some additional habits that can help the tools and techniques used to cultivate
your powers of synthesis work and facilitate your ability to see the big picture.
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one half the battle; even if you dont make particularly good ones, you can muddle along and
survive whereas a poor judgment can put you out of business, for good. The exceptional
professional, therefore, constantly examines his clients thinking and behavior to help prevent
these wrong turns.
Here are five of the most important judgment traps that professionals should be aware of as
they advise their clients:
Weak premises: Starting out on the wrong foot.
o Many clients approach a problem or decision with wrong or partial facts at the outset,
resulting in a chain reaction of faulty thinking. The two most common errors that bias
clients are anchoring the decision maker allows himself to get anchored on a specific
starting number and availability, the tendency to use the most available, recent or
vivid information. Clients can get anchored in many ways for example, in their old
growth paradigms.
o Whatever happens to be the most available, recent, and vivid data can also bias us. This
perception bias can operate when managers go out and talk to just a few customers and
then draw sweeping conclusions about their companys products and positioning.
Confirmation: Seeing what you want to see
o Many people start out wanting to confirm consciously or unconsciously what they
already believe and tend to ignore subsequent evidence that contradicts their beliefs.
The confirmation trap is often triggered during mergers and acquisitions.
Overconfidence: Underestimating what it takes to succeed.
o This is probably the most common and fatal judgment trap. Business success can breed
overconfidence (Robert Sobel). Several other classic judgment traps that are related to
overconfidence include an over-reliance on rules of thumb and a misunderstanding of
base-rates. We tend to simplify our experiences and reduce them to easy-to-remember
rules and guidelines. Problems arise when these cherished rules just dont apply.
Misunderstanding or ignoring the underlying statistics regarding an event is also
common.
Prior commitments: Making new, inappropriate commitments based on previous ones.
o Prior investments or decisions can unduly influence the formulation of new
commitments once we take a stand or position; we often resist changing our mind. In
his classic book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini cites many
examples of how even very small prior commitments can induce level-headed
individuals to agree to things that make no sense.
Groupthink: Believing its Us against them.
o Corporate organizations often suffer from groupthink, and it can lead their managers to
make poor judgments.
You need to be constantly vigilant for signs that your client is about to fall into one of these
judgment traps. Here are some specific actions you can take as an outside professional to help
your client avoid lapses in judgment:
o Always vigorously challenge your clients assumptions. Introduce as much contradictory
information as you can and ask lots of disconfirming questions whose answers might
undermine the initial premise.
o Keep yourself up-to-date on key statistics and research in your field.
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o Be careful how you ask and frame questions. Many professionals ask questions that are
biased and reflect what they think or what they feel their clients already believe.
o Try to identify independent thinkers who can help challenge your clients thinking.
o Finally, dont ever let yourself be used to simply confirm something a client already
believes. Your collusion may help undo your client.
What is sound judgment and how does a professional develop it? The elements that contribute
to sound judgment can be expressed in a formula with three basic parts:
Judgment = (Facts) X Experience X (Personal Values)
o The facts about the issue at hand too few and youll be hip shooting, too many and
youll risk overanalyzing the situation, represent the first major input. Experience, which
fuels intuition, is the mechanism by which the adviser adds to and processes these facts.
Good decision makers then filter the resulting options through a strong set of personal
beliefs and values.
o Historically good judgment was associated with age and experience. Most researchers in
the field embrace the cognitive model and believe that solid judgments can only be
reached through a highly logical, step-by-step, rational process, focusing, almost
exclusively, on the factual inputs described in our judgment formula. Another smaller
group of scholars believes that judgment is essentially intuitive, and that most realworld decisions are made with little analysis. Based on the authors research into
professionals and the clients who employ them, they believe that the best decision
makers blend these two approaches cognitive and intuitive and they add a third
dimension, which is the personal value system.
Great professionals excel at a number of specific practices that underpin sound judgment. They:
1. Frame the problem
o The first critical step is to identify the right problem and frame it correctly.
Diagnosing the wrong problem is one of the most common mistakes that
professionals make, regardless of their field.
2. Engage in creative but selective fact gathering
o After a minimum threshold of key facts is reached, having more information
does not increase the quality of decision making. In certain business
situations where time is of the essence, gathering more information can
actually decrease the quality of decisions because key actions are delayed as
managers conduct more and more analysis.
3. Use intuition to leverage facts and personal experience.
o Intuition is a powerful tool for making judgments. The first key component of
intuition is the subconscious analysis of patterns. We often experience it as
gut feel, but a better description would be experience feel. After we have
seen, many, many similar cases, we develop an ability to sense whether a
new example fits- or diverges from the patterns we have come to
recognize. Developing your powers of observation will help sharpen your
judgment skills. In order to leverage your experience, you have to cultivate
the ability to observe intensely what is going on around you.
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o The second step in using intuition involves imagining how the decision will
play out. Very skilled professionals can rapidly simulate scenarios in their
minds.
o The intuitive part of judgment also involves the ability to identify analogous
situations. These analogies help make better judgments and enhance our
understanding of the immediate decision we have to make.
4. Incorporate your personal values and standards.
o Judgment that is consistent with your own character is also based on having
a strong, explicit set of personal beliefs, and values that guide your decisions.
5. Dont be mislead by your experience
o Although it would be very natural for us to learn from our experience,
memories are reconstructed after the fact and sometimes not very
accurately. We tend to see what we want to see. There are three major
pitfalls that prevent us from learning from experience:
We claim credit for all successes
We minimize and dismiss failures
We distort actual events in our favor
o You can enhance your ability to learn from experience by doing a few simple
things. First of all, keep track of your advice. Second, think about how past
events might have turned out differently. Research has shown that you can
reduce hindsight biases by looking at how the results of decisions could have
been different.
Here are some suggestions for improving your decision-making ability:
o Over-invest in problem identification. It is a dangerous mistake to accept your clients
first problem statement at face value.
o Examine alternative problem definitions. Be creative in examining all the root causes of
the issue at hand.
o Make sure the problem is really a priority
o Ask disconfirming questions. You can avoid the confirmation judgment trap by asking
questions and collecting data you suspect might disprove the initial hypothesis.
o Develop both standard and outlandish alternatives.
o Engage in prospective hindsight. When a hypothetical event is stated as a reality people
are far more creative in coming up with reasons for why it could happen, and the quality
of their thinking improves dramatically.
o Understand your clients tolerance for risk and uncertainty.
o Enhance your ability to reach for patterns in your experience. Get your peers to share
stories and anecdotes. Stories are a powerful way to enhance your experience.
Good judgment flourishes in the absence of bad judgments. Great professionals help their
clients avoid the many subtle judgment traps that can lead to poor decisions. Then they actively
exploit each part of the judgment equation in a balanced fashion. They combine known facts
with their experience and assess the alternatives through the lens of their beliefs and values.
By becoming a deep generalist. Cultivating your powers of synthesis and developing good
judgment, you will be well on the road to becoming a good thinker. If you are not only able to
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demonstrate sound judgment yourself but also help your clients arrive at their own good
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Daily conviction is also strengthened by honing your judgment skills. When your judgments are
informed equally by fact and experience and tempered by your value system, your confidence
in your own opinions and views will rise.
There are, in addition, several enablers of your daily conviction -skills that enable you to be
convincing and persuasive when you express a view. These include:
o Empathy for your audience. No matter how you plan your communication, you have to
be prepared to change tactics on the spur of the moment.
o Communication skills. You wont convince anyone of anything if you can't communicate
effectively. You have to be able to organize your thoughts and summarize the key points
you are making both before and after you elaborate on your arguments.
o Energy. Clients have to sense your energy when you speak or write-your enthusiasm and
belief need to be tangible and genuine.
Sometimes, professionals have trouble being convincing. The lack of conviction is due to selferected barriers. Here are four typical ones:
o "I'm not an expert. Often, professionals feel they can opine only in areas where
they possess deep expertise. The best client advisers, however, combine knowledge
depth and breadth with a broad-based understanding of their client's industry,
company, and organization. This combination enables them to provide useful advice
and perspectives that go beyond just the technical details of the assignment. They
know that simply asking good questions and applying common sense are often more
powerful than expertise.
o I might be wrong. Of course you might. But when you believe something is true or
right-based on your assessment of the facts and your intuition-you have to express,
conviction.
o "I don't have enough information. You will never have all the facts. You can always
frame your opinion with some qualification-"This is my preliminary view" -but it still
has to be conveyed with conviction, not insecurity.
o "My clients conviction is far greater
Just like corporate leaders, professionals have to win over others to their point of view in order
to be effective, but because they're outsiders, their task can be even harder.
There are a number of specific things you can do to increase and intensify your own conviction:
o Get in touch with your core values and beliefs. Try to summarize what you've learned.
Can you create a list of five or six core values that implicitly guide your behavior and
decision making? Can you identify three or four of your beliefs that you follow in your
professional life?
o Use your integrity to screen your convictions.
o Employ logic as well as facts. If your conviction is based on solid principles and well reasoned logic-and you have some key facts at your disposal as well-you will be far more
effective in persuading clients than if you just bombard them with statistics.
o Have a clear message.
o Focus on your passion. People who are passionate are convincing. That's why it's so
important for professionals to identify and gravitate toward an area of interest that
really excites them.
o Choose to believe. The beliefs and values that drive your conviction have to come from
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within you, but often it requires an act of will and a conscious choice to decide that you
will never compromise your integrity or that you will apply a standard of excellence to
everything you do professionally.
o Test and challenge your convictions. Convictions don't have to remain unchanged
throughout your entire life.
If you get in touch with your own beliefs and express yourself with conviction that is
surrounded by passion, energy, and clarity, you'll be surprised at how effective you can be with
your clients. You will become energized, and your other strengths will be amplified and
sharpened.
What Money Cannot Buy: Creating Trust through Integrity
A lack of trust in business and personal dealings carries many costs. Corporate managers and
public officials, for example, are reluctant to share information that could empower the
organizations, resulting in sharply reduced employee loyalty. Transaction costs, such as legal
fees and overly detailed contracting, are major expenses for both corporations and individuals.
And because of a fear that they will be sued, many employers refuse to give recommendations
for former employees-the two parties, in essence, don't trust each other. Litigation against
large professional service firms, once rare, has become commonplace.
Great professionals, however, never concede their integrity in order to win. They may be bold
and determined in pursuit of their objectives, but integrity and their clients' needs-not selling
the next assignment, not earning a large bonus, not pleasing their boss-come first. And if there
ever is a conflict between the two-between what a client wants and what the professional's
integrity dictates-integrity always wins out.
Trust between a client and a professional is both a necessity and an important asset for both
parties: if there is mutual trust, everything works better, faster, and more smoothly. Trust is
complex: in some situations, it means "I believe you are competent to perform this service"; in
others, "I know you will act in my interests, not yours."
If we examine any business relationship with a high degree of trust-several factors stand out
that uniquely affect the level of trust that a client has in you. The first major quality that
underpins trust is integrity. An additional factor that builds trust: competence
These three factors-integrity, competence, and risk can be combined into a trust formula:
Integrity X Competence
Trust =
Risk
Your clients' perception of each factor in the equation will raise or lower the trust they place in
you.
Integrity is a state of wholeness in which you act in accordance with a set of coherent values or
principles.
Integrity has several main dimensions to it. The first, according to Yale law professor Stephen
Carter, is discernment between right and wrong. Just acting consistently with your beliefs is not
enough; you have to have beliefs that are ethical and moral.
Discretion is a second dimension of integrity that is of particular importance to clients. It is not
surprising that people in positions of responsibility and authority look for advisers who can
keep confidential information to themselves. In corporations and professional firms, an
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Carefully making promises. Here are some suggestions for how to keep
commitments:
Dont be cavalier with promises
If necessary, make conditional agreements
If you cant keep a promise, let the other person know as early as possible
Learn to say no,
o Demonstrating loyalty - Loyalty means having an allegiance to your client and putting
her agenda before your own. It's also important never to criticize anyone who is not
present. You win the trust of the people you're with by showing loyalty to those who
aren't there.
o Nurturing trust on a daily basis- Stephen Covey's metaphor for this reservoir of trust is
the emotional bank account. When an action reinforces trust, you have made a deposit;
when you do something to undermine trust, such as letting someone down, you make a
withdrawal. You have to make lots of deposits, regularly, to sustain trust.
o There are no Minor commitments- Each promise you make, large or small, should be
treated with the same seriousness
o Knowing what you stand for. By definition, integrity is a wholeness or completeness that
is underpinned and bounded by a set of beliefs and values. What are your principles?
What do you stand for? What guides your professional and personal life?
o Being prepared to talk on TV - What if you were interviewed on television and asked
about something you did? Would you feel comfortable explaining it? You should have
nothing to hide; you should be comfortable sharing details of your professional conduct
with a client, without embarrassment or defensiveness.
o Reducing your clients risk First of all, you have to demonstrate consistency and
reliability right form the start, even for the smallest of things. Showing integrity itself, in
other words, reduces risk. Second, you can either implicitly or explicitly guarantee your
work. The words well work on this until youre satisfied can be the occasional
reminder of the fact that youll stand behind your work and strive to address any issues
that they may have with your performance.
Sometimes, even though you feel you have demonstrated a high level of integrity and
competence, trust is lost. Here are some principles to remember about losing trust:
o Clients don't inform you when they stop trusting you. Its always hard to pinpoint when
your client stops trusting you. Often a client cant even articulate that shes lost trust in
you. Its useful to hold a frank and open discussion with your client when the
engagement ends, something that is easier to do if you set the expectation up front,
that youll be having this discussion three or six months down the road.
o Clients dont care why you let them down.
o Sometimes, repairing a lapse in trust can enhance your relationship. If you let a client
down, you may be able to recover her confidence. How you react to the incident and
the way in which you go about remedying it are critically important. Some cardinal
rules for dealing with a breach of trust:
Admit that you've made a mistake. Own up to the lapse.
Don't make excuses-no one wants to hear them.
Provide value added compensation to the client
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Learn from the incident, and let your client know that you are learning from it.
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o The Wrong Problem - The great client advisers we've studied constantly ask themselves:
Am I working on the right problem? Have I defined the problem correctly?
o The Wrong Adviser - Smart, well-educated professionals feel that they ought to have
something intelligent to say about everything. The really smart ones, though, know
when not to give advice, and they admit when there is a mismatch between their
expertise and experience and the client's problem. One of the best ways to earn respect
and trust from a' client is to be honest about your capabilities and to recommend other
qualified professionals if you're not the right person for the job.
o Vicariously Exercising Power or Expertise - Professionals sometimes invoke the name
and authority of their client to obtain respect and support in the organization. At other
times the client executive himself may use the expertise and opinion of the
professional adviser to shore up his own position.
o Too Much Bad News Clients have a limited "bandwidth for bad news." It's at the beginning, when they are receptive and open. You have to choose your battles carefully
o Staying in a bad marriage -Sometimes the personal chemistry between professional and
client is just plain lousy. If you find yourself in a bad relationship with a client, try to
ascertain if its fixable or whether you are just incompatible.
o Accepting opinions and judgments at face value - Great professionals constantly
challenge what they see and hear. They accept very little at face value, especially when
it comes to people's character and competency. You can make business mistakes, and
this is natural-there's always risk in business decision making. But you don't want to
misjudge people. You become a trusted confidant of that individual, privy to highly
confidential information. Others may now hesitate to open up to you for fear that what
they say may get passed on to their boss. If you dont have broader support in the
organization, it will be harder to get your ideas implemented, even if you have a strong
energetic client.
Here are the six types of ineffective professionals:
o Agenda pushers these are professionals who are focused on what they want and need
rather than on the clients agenda.
o One size fits all these professionals grab on to one solution that works one place and
then try to sell it everywhere.
o Gurus these are professionals with a set of acclaimed hot ideas that they market
from coast to coast in speeches and seminars. But many leaders felt that they are
ineffective as valued client advisers and can even mislead an organization. The
outstanding professionals, in contrast, offer advice and insights that are more specific
and practical. They address your context.
o Crowd pleasers these are the advisers who tell their clients exactly what they want to
hear.
o Crowd followers Out of insecurity, lack of imagination, or just plain conservatism,
some professionals always advise their clients to go with the crowd, and they stick to
preconceived notions about the right solution.
o Recyclers clients want services tailored to their particular situation, not recycled,
boilerplate advice.
Just as clients recognize types of advisers, many of the extraordinary professionals with whom
the authors spoke pointed out several kinds of ineffective clients.
o Some clients go through the motions of hiring professionals, listen carefully to their
recommendations, but never act on the advice theyre given,
o There are those clients, who just never listen. They have a retort for everything you say.
o If a client constantly demonstrates bad judgment, it becomes impossible to advise them.
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probably discover that there are a number of actions you can take to enhance and
strengthen both the client relationship and your ability to add insight.
o Determine what role you're currently playing with each of your clients-expert for hire,
steady supplier, or trusted adviser.
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