SOL 1 Seminar - Family (Teacher's Guide)
SOL 1 Seminar - Family (Teacher's Guide)
SOL 1 Seminar - Family (Teacher's Guide)
Family
Seminar
Level 1
Teachers Guide
Made in Colombia
Printed in Colombia
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Contents
Forward
I. The Family
II. The Family Member and Their Proper Roles
III. Protecting Self-esteem
IV. Seven Steps to a Successful Courtship
V. Strengthening Communication in the Family
VI. The Blessing of God upon the Family
VII. The Leader and the Family
VIII. Abundant Life
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Forward
The material you now hold in your hands was birth out of our own experience within the church through
the leaders that we developed over the years, in ministry. Even though we knew from the day our church
opened in 1983, that we would be a cell church and would have an immense effect on our city, it was not
until sometime in 1990 that the Lord removed the veil to expose to us, the vision of the government of
twelve. In the wake of this revelation, the church experienced a growth explosion that has superseded all
records on church growth with no waning in sight. Along with the excitement of growth, as pastors we
were challenged to develop these new believers that the Lord entrusted to us.
During this time God gave me a Rhema word for our ministry: "I will give you the ability to quickly train
people." This was a word we truly needed because up until then it was taking at least two years to train a
cell leader. The demand was great and the process was just too long. But after that word, the heavens
opened up and a special anointing was released upon each person that was helping us in the ministry.
Now, the entire congregation, from the least to the greatest, reeled with motivation; they wanted to be a
part of the vision. The mind of the people, even ours, was powerfully impressed with the vision of growth,
but the necessary components were not in place for the most advantageous operating system.
A formula has been developed and implemented as a result of the word the Lord gave, thanks to the team
of pastors and leaders that Jesus gave us. How would we actually train faster? What tools would be used?
The best possible method was being created for our use according to the results we saw as we went
along. We then decided to put them into motion as a part of our vision.
For many years prior, we did not want to be away from the church because we felt that our vision was
still being established. Neither did we want to teach about church growth until we had a congregation to
back it up. Now that God has allowed us to become one of the largest churches in the world, with an
average of 25,000 leadership school students, we can only thank God for His mercy to our country and
for having lifted up our church as the leader of that great spiritual awakening which has been able to
influence the nations of the earth. It is our prayer that this material blesses your life, your church and
your ministry. May each one of you fulfill God's purpose in your lives.
Teaching Objectives
The student will learn God's plan for the family and its importance in the life of every human being.
Key Text
Genesis 1:28
God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule
over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground."
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A life of holiness should lead to multiplication when this happens authority comes. A couple
united in harmony, being led by the Word of God, is as powerful as a well organized army.
The secret is to always work as a team. When Eve wanted to be independent she opened the
door to the tempter. But had she first consulted with her husband, things would have been
very different.
D. God Set Guidelines - Genesis 2:15-25
v. 15 - Man should provide for his home and protect his family.
He is like the guardian angel over his house. The strategy of the adversary is to attack him
with vices of negative or unclean thoughts, evil desires and sinful conduct. If the enemy is able
to influence man's will and keep him enslaved to sin, it becomes easier for him to attack the
rest of his family (Mark 3:27).
vs. 16-17 - Man should be obedient.
God allows mankind to go through certain trials that will ensure Him of their true, heartfelt
love.
v. 18 - Fellowship.
The woman is the perfect complement to man's life and has the ability to fulfill all his
expectations.
v. 19 - Man determines his family's destiny.
He decides the outcome or destiny of his children. Fathers can make their children either the
happiest people alive or the most miserable because his words have authority over his family.
v. 21-23 - From the two He made one.
The miracle of marriage has its roots from the creation of mankind for the woman was created
from the same nature or substance of the man. When a couple is able to understand their roots
and their destiny, they will be able to work as a team and take advantage of all the things
available in order to be truly happy.
v. 24 - Protection of intimacy
Every couple needs to protect their intimacy. The best way to mature is to have the challenge
of having to make it on their own.
v. 25 - Transparency.
With sincerity and integrity, a couple can reach the highest pinnacles of family harmony.
What good is it to build a home and have no family to live in it after you are gone? Napoleon,
despite all his efforts, was not able to create a dynasty. Thousands of wealthy people would give
half of everything they own, just to hear the cry of a newborn babe in their family.
Children are the inheritance that God will give us. When a man dies without children, his home is
still not built.
A warrior is happy as he sees his arrows fly where he himself is not able to go. Good children are
like arrows headed for the targets that their parents point them toward. What marvels can a man
accomplish, if he has affectionate children who fulfill the wishes of their father and pay heed to his
counsel!
C. A Blessed Family - Psalm 128:3
Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house and your children like olive plants around
your table. The vine is a type of happiness and fruitfulness. These are the two abilities the Lord
has given wives. Children are like olive plants. The olive tree represents the anointing of God,
which is what strengthens families to conquer all. The meaning behind the anointing with oil is
that God will fight for us.
D. Conjugal Love - Ephesians 5:28
The standard that God set for each man is very high: love your wife with the same love that Christ
loved the church and gave Himself as a sacrifice for. This was all for the redemption of the
church. Marital love must be fed daily with words, attitudes and nice details. You must fight to
protect the members of your family from any emotional wounds. There must be a firm commitment
by both spouses to never allow the flame of romantic love to die down or burn out.
E. The Womans Leadership - Titus 2:4
Paul emphasized working with homogeneous groups. In the scripture he encourages women to
develop in ministry and to be trained so that they can teach other women. The best way to do this
is in groups made strictly of women where the issues discussed can be specifically designed for
that group. The two foundational issues far women's groups are love toward your spouse and love
toward your children.
In general, children have the tendency to believe that they know best. But it is the parent's duty to
guide them down the path of truth, with love and by their example. The world may offer many
alternatives but there is only one way to the Father; Jesus. If we can help them enter into an
intimate relationship with God, as parents, we have fulfilled a large part of our responsibility. We
should also seek to invest time in their lives as they grow up. Parents should look for bridges of
communication to cultivate their relationship with their children.
C. Providing for Your Family - 1 Timothy 5:8
A human's life develops in cycles. During the first cycle, the parents are the ones working and
providing for all the needs in the home. In the second cycle, the children are the ones with the
strength of providing for their families. This is the time within the cycle when they should honor
their parents with the necessary provision, to avoid being classified by God as "Worse than an
unbeliever. Whoever carries the responsibility of providing for their home should do so with an
attitude of faith and a generous heart. In doing so, the inherent blessing in the relationship will not
be lost through any negative comments.
D. Moral Values - Colossians 3:21; Ephesians 6:4
We should have balance when we discipline our children. It should not be too drastic, but the other
extreme of excessive permissiveness should also be avoided. Both extremes are dangerous
because it could damage or spoil the children as was the case with the sons of Eli. He never
disciplined them and this brought about early death. 1 Samuel 3:11-14
E. The Virtuous Woman - Proverbs 31:10
The virtuous woman builds her house. She is the center of the home. She is able to discover the
talents and gifting of her children, discerns good business decisions for her husband, knows where
to raise her children and has the ability to bring prosperity to her home.
F. The Ideal Marriage - Mark 10:6-9
We can say that the divorce rate within Christianity is minimal, thanks to those covenant vows that
the man and the woman spoke as they joined their lives in marriage before God. Since the Lord is
a covenant God, He is keenly aware of those lives coming together under His blessing. He
watches over those who are truly trying to fulfill His commandments.
There are many reasons for divorcing: infidelity, lack of love or communication, false
expectations, etc. But those who have the blessing of God will have the strength to overcome any
obstacle.
G. Gods Unconditional Love - Psalm 27:10
In general, humans have many spiritual voids that stem mainly from childhood and were caused
from a variety of reasons or circumstances: For some, parental neglect, due to abandonment, is a
factor. For others, indifferences and stress in parenting became the reason. Even though the
parents may have forgotten their primary responsibility of protecting their children, God does not
forget. He comes in and takes over the responsibility abdicated by the parents. For that reason,
God is always waiting with open arms to comfort each one of His children.
Conclusion
The origin of the family goes back to the origin of mankind and is part of God's plan for all humanity. That
is why God's plan is to restore the family with the purpose to rebuild that which the enemy tried to
destroy.
Evaluation
It is important that your students understand the origin of the family and the importance of their own
families. This lesson can be evaluated by having the students analyze their own families (See students'
assignment).
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Recommended Methodology
For this lesson, it is important to clearly explain the issues discussed. Open discussion with question and
answer format, relevant to the subject, is recommended.
Students Assignment
The students should do reports about their own families evaluating their family's current condition and
any possible.
Application
During this week, take time to thank God for the family He gave you. Seek to reach out with loving arms
to each family member living at home. Make lists of each one of their qualities and thank God for their
lives.
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Teaching Objective
For the student to understand what the duties are, for each of the individual family members.
Student Objectives
1. The student will explain what the father's role is.
2. The student will explain what the mother's role is.
3. The student will explain what the children's role is.
Key Text
Ephesians 6:1-4
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"which is the
first commandment with a promise "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the
earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of
the Lord.
redemption. If an earthly father gives only the best to his children, how much more will our heavenly
father do so with each one of you? In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus set a high standard for each of
His disciples: "Be ye perfect as your Father in heaven is perfect" (Matthew 5:48).
We will become outstanding leaders when we first become excellent fathers.
Paul said, "For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and
on earth derives its name" (Ephesians 3:14-15). God is the solid foundation of the family. The word
"family" originates from the root word "paternity " God wants to restore true paternity in the family
through the men, by having them take back their authority as fathers, who build relationships with
their children which establishes their family's destiny.
A father who is led by God shows character qualities different from those learned in the world.
A. Merciful Father - Luke 15:20
It is exciting to see how Jesus revealed the Father's heart to us through the use of parables. For
example, in the parable of the prodigal son, the father is anxiously waiting to forgive his son when
he returns, in spite of his rebelliousness. He had always been waiting for his return and when he
saw him arriving from afar, he ran out to meet him and embraced his son with a blessing. That
was one of my first experiences as a new Christian. I sensed that my Father's arms were opened,
extended to me, wherein I could take my refuge. I did not hesitate to place myself right there.
This brought so much security and emotional stability to my life that I never wanted that moment
to end. Anyone wanting to love another person must first receive love from the Father.
B. Father of Multitudes - Genesis 17:5-6
"Abram" means exalted father, but his new name "Abraham" means father of multitudes. God was
pleased by the faith of this great man and knew that he would raise his children in the fear of God.
It pleased Him to multiply his descendents for a thousand generations.
C. A Father Who Blesses His Children - Genesis 27:27-29
The blessing is the path that the father prepares for his children. Every word proceeding from his
lips activates the spiritual realm causing things to move in order to fulfill the words he spoke over
his children. I highly recommend that fathers speak daily blessings over their children. They
should pray for their divine protection, spiritual peace, financial provision, family harmony and the
anointing for multiplication.
D. An Exemplary Father - 1 King 9:4-5
David was known as a man after God's own heart. One of the best descriptions of his life is found
in Psalm 15.
v.1 He was committed to the House of God
v.2 He led a life of permanent integrity
v.3 He never spoke evil about anyone nor accepted gossip about others
v.4 He kept his word and never took it back
v.5 He was transparent concerning his finances
E. A Substitute Father - Esther 2:11
When Esther became an orphan, Mordecai, her uncle, took on the role of her father. He cared for
her and trained her up as his own daughter. Even though the emotional void in Esther's life may
have been great, he was able to fill it in such a way that she eventually became a woman in her
own right knowing how to trust in God. She grew in her faith and later won the support of her own
people. God was able to use all of this to make her a queen in the midst of a pagan nation. This
later worked to save the lives of all the Jews living in that country.
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A. Galatians 6:7-9
The home is like fertile soil where the words spoken in the past have grown, bringing all their
consequences with them, into the present. What we plant today will bring its fruit tomorrow.
Today, society is faced with the deterioration of the family's nucleus. It is one of the greatest
crises of humanity. Many things like TV, radio, magazines and the like, have had the type of
influence that has cut a line of corrosion right down the middle of the human family. Because of
this, protection must remain at an all time high and even more so for couples who become
involved in ministry. When this is done, it will leave a positive effect on everyone, especially the
children as they too develop the desire to follow the parent's example. As a couple, we need to
sow good things into the lives of our children (as the world is ever before them which sow seeds
of evil and despair).
B. Motivate them to become positive individuals
Positive is my word of choice when I describe a life of faith that is not easily churned by
circumstances. To me a positive person is someone that has learned to speak the Word of God
only. The opposite of positive is negative.
Parents, I admonish you to teach your children to be positive. Meet with them and teach them the
message of truth so that they may learn to see all things with eyes of faith.
C. Teach them integrity
Children are formed and trained from a very young age. When Paul wrote Titus 2:7, he affirmed,
"In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity,
seriousness..." (NIV) For instance, teach them to be considerate of the emotions of others; they
should never play with someone's feelings. Teach them that betrayal towards his or her friends is
showing lack of integrity also. The primary example comes from the family itself because you are
to be examples for your children.
D. Help them in the spiritual area
Just as we must feed our physical body, our spiritual being must be nourished also. Spiritual
nourishment comes from the study of God's Word and our ongoing life of prayer. Each one of my
daughters has developed the habit of having time of intimacy with God daily. They also journalize
all the teachings they receive through His Word. Their commitment with the Lord is to first feed
their spiritual life and then feed their physical bodies. I recommend that you meet with your family
daily, for at least fifteen minutes, and share something from the scripture. This habit will bring
strong unity in the family.
E. Motivate them to have a surmounting spirit
A crisis plaguing our society today is the fact that we are overly saturated with information that
has diminished the human spirit. Conquest has been replaced with a spirit of conformity and mere
subsistence. We don't want that for our children, so let's motivate them to influence that sphere of
society, in which they are involved with, the example of their Christian living. This world is in a
desperate search for stability within the family, not another electrical appliance or a faster
vehicle. We know that people will only find what they need through Jesus Christ. So let's
encourage our children to be ambassadors of Christ at work or in school.
F. Help them have a balanced self image
Parents should help each one of their children with their self-esteem, keeping in mind their own
struggles with self-acceptance at one time or another:
Speak words of blessing to them each day - Honor them for their accomplishments
Do not embarrass them when things don't go as planned
Help them to see adversity as small steps toward making those better people
Help them to see that they are God's special treasures
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Conclusion
There must be an understanding that God's purpose is to establish priestly families and that each family
member is to make the effort to evoke the presence of God in their homes so that God's Spirit can keep
our families in harmony.
Evaluation
The class can be tested in the form of a quiz or section test. But the important thing to look for is a
change of attitude from the students with regards to their own families (this is something that only they
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can accomplish). While preparing the lesson, pray to God that He will produce a change in the lives of
each one of your students.
Recommended methodology
A question and answer session is important while paying particular attention to questions reflecting on the
attitudes of the students.
Students Assignment
Make a table or chart specifying roles for each family member with the purpose of identifying wrong
attitudes and praying that God would change your family. This is an important project for the teacher to
effectively identify the specific problems in the families of the students.
Application
During the week you are going to pray for each one of your family members and you are going to bless
them, taking authority so that each one may fulfill their proper roles in the family.
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8. For meditation:
a. Before knowing Jesus, how was your relationship with your father, mother and brothers and
sisters, how has it changed?
b. If your relationship with any of the members of your family is not right, ask God to give you an
attitude of forgiveness in your heart that you may be able to restore that relationship.
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Teaching Objectives
To bring about a change of attitude in the students as they identify the types of emotional problems
affecting them.
Student Objectives
1. To identify the emotional problems in the students life caused by the family.
2. To determine the steps necessary to change those conditions.
Key Verse
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
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Purpose
The Lord made a great exchange on the cross of Calvary: He took all of our evil and gave us all of His
good. What would you think if you saw a man bring in and old, beat up car to a dealership, asking to trade
it in; and the manager replies, "No problem, just give me your old car and I will give you a brand new
one." Let's say that you are that person and he gives you a new Mercedes Benz and says that you don't
owe him anything but to sign on the dotted line making the car yours! In a similar way, this is what Jesus
did on the cross. He took our life of sin, completely destroyed by evil, where no matter what medicine we
took, nothing was able to solve our emotional, spiritual and physical ailments (Isaiah 1:6). We knew we
needed a complete transformation.
That's when we decided to come to Jesus saying, "Lord, here's my life, I want to trade it in." Jesus
replied, "No problem, bring your life with the good and the bad, and do away with it at the cross."
If you can understand the power of the cross, your life will never be the same. Jesus redeemed us from
the curse, destroying it (the curse) completely on the cross of Calvary.
In Deuteronomy 28:15-68, you will find 53 verses that speak of the effects of the curse that come upon
those who do not obey the voice of God, who do not keep and do His commandments. On the other hand
Paul taught that our redemption had been complete (Galatians 3:13).
life and causes God's blessings to become manifest in each one (Romans 5:8, John 3:16). If God is
for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8:31).
He restores material blessings: "I will restore to you all the land,.." (2 Samuel 9:7). In other words,
God will restore to you everything the enemy took, because of your faith. In just one day, this
man's whole life changed. He went from a life of scarcity and poverty to a life of abundance. When
the favor of God reaches our lives, He restores us and pours out rich blessings upon our lives.
Like the prophecy of Joel 2:25-26, "Then I will make up to you for the years that the swarming
locust has eaten, the creeping locust, the stripping locust and the gnawing locust, my great army
which I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat and be satisfied and praise the name of the
LORD your God, who has dealt wondrously with you; then my people, will never be put to shame."
(NASU).
Paul said, "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for
those who love him"(1 Corinthians 2:2-10)
"You shall eat at my table" (2 Samuel 9:7). Not having anything to be ashamed of and being able to
share all of your desires with Him is one of the greatest privileges anyone could have. This is
what God has made available to any one of us who believes. All those who were invited to eat at
the king's table had to sit with him each morning so that the king would see their faces. If
someone was not present, it was due to some illness or tragic circumstance. What is "the table?" It
is when we enter into the intimacy of prayer with Him. At His table we hear the voice of God
speaking, full of promises that are within our reach, they are ours now and we accept them by
saying "amen," Paul said, "But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ" (2
Corinthians 2:14).
B. The child always turns to the Father - Luke 15:17-19
In this story, the son represents how separated our lives are from the Father God. We misuse our
spiritual blessings continually and each day that we remain apart from Him, our state worsens.
The steps the son eventually walked out, exemplifies how we need to seek spiritual restoration:
He came to his senses: He stopped in his tracks and reconsidered the foolishness he was
committing.
He made a decision: He had the courage to seek a second chance.
He had a repentant heart: He didn't even seek the privileges he once had but wanted to be
received, at least, as a servant.
C. The father restores the son - Luke 15:20-24
v.21 The father accepts his son's confession.
v.22 He restores all of the son's rights and privileges.
v.23 He performed an act of redemption the fattened calf is a type of Christ,
v.24 The son goes from death to life, from a life of perdition to a fruitful one.
D. The restoration of the woman - Isaiah 54:1-17
God is as much a loving Father as He is an understanding husband. Before giving the woman
words of comfort, in the first two verses He offers some suggestions:
v.1 Shout for joy, because you will overcome barrenness.
v.2 Project yourself because you will grow in accordance to your faith.
v.3 Promise: You will be enlarged greatly and conquer nations. God, as a loving father, brings
the past to light to give us a better future.
v.4 Fear brings confusion, outrage brings shame. God will heal your memories from the
afflictions of your youth.
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hatred toward someone, now you have to express it. Or, if you blame yourself for it and
say you will never forgive yourself for it, this is the time to do so, regardless.
f. Find a substitute: When Jesus saw the void that He was leaving in His mother's heart, He
called John to take His place. This shows that substitution is just as powerful as forgiving
the actual person.
g. Take each and every one of the arguments Gad is revealing and cancel them out on the
cross of Calvary.
h. Stand in your parent's place and confess their sins: Do it as if you had committed them
yourself. This is essential to void generational curses.
i. Confess the Word: Every argument that you cancel should be backed by the Word of God.
Jesus did this when He defeated the adversary.
j. Speak a prayer of faith: Consecrate your life, from the moment you were conceived, by
asking God to make that intimate moment of your conception holy. Bless your entire
gestation period also. Confess that, when you were born, God's hands received you and
that's why your life is secure in Him.
Note: The leader needs to know that the student is only getting started in the class and should
continue at home. In most cases, the healing continues and takes even more time. Each one
should learn how to continue their self-deliverance, in the name of Jesus, so that each day
they get more revelations about bondages from the past that they need deliverance from.
F. Taking every burden to the Lord
Now that we are Christians, we should freely speak with God about removing all those things that
hurt and affect us. His word bids us to "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I
will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). God will always be ready to listen when we express our
burdens. Talk to the Lord about the things in your heart so that you will receive His promise: I will
give you rest.
Conclusion
Make sure all students were ministered to because the strength of your leadership depends on how
healed their lives are.
Evaluation
The students' own testimonies will be your best evaluation of success. No one can give what he or she
has not received. Before someone can be used in the area of restoration, first they must have gone
through it themselves.
Recommended Methodology
Be clear and concise in order to take advantage of as much time as possible to minister to the group.
Students Assignment
With paper and pencil, write down all the wounds you need to OVERCOME. In an act of faith, take them to
the cross, and then destroy the sheet of paper as a symbol that all those arguments have been cancelled
Application
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From now on, the student knows what to do to heal his wounds. So, from this moment forward, each time
they are wounded, they will forgive and take it to the cross.
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Teaching Objectives
The student should have an understanding that the value of courtship lies in the fact that it takes its
direction from God Himself. This way the lives within the relationship are protected and set on the path to
fulfilling His purpose.
Student Objectives
1. Identify God's purpose for their emotional state.
2. Explain and discuss reasons why a single person should abstain from sexual intercourse until
marriage.
3. Explain why they (the students) are God's masterpiece.
Purpose
In today's society, courtship is based on physical attraction. Nowadays, entering into an emotional
relationship is pretty easy, but due to lack of maturity, young people are exposing themselves to being
hurt emotionally.
In order to understand the proper relationship between a male and female, it is important to understand
its inception. When Jesus answered a question about marriage, He said, "But from the beginning of
creation, God made them male and female" (Mark 10:6). In order to speak about relationships or marriage,
we need to start at the beginning the book of Genesis.
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We don't actually know how long after the creation of man God decided that it was not good for him to be
alone and gave him a partner, a helper. The interesting question is who thought of giving him a partner
first? Man or God? If we look closely, we can see, it was not Adam's initiative, but God's.
God made man for woman and woman for man and it is through this relationship that procreation begins.
Therefore I urge you, brethren...to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to
God (Romans 12:1).
"Then I passed by you and saw you, and behold, you were at the time for love" (Ezekiel 16: 8).
Romantic love has its proper time. There is a time for a person to get emotionally involved with
someone of the opposite sex, nonetheless, it is important that every young person understands the
normalcy of this stage and not attempt to hurry it or postpone it for too long.
Never allow anxiety or eagerness to have its way because it can lead you to make regretful decisions.
Conclusion
The first step that every believer must take in life is that of seeking God's perfect will. Why? Because
God knows what's BEST AND His will is good, acceptable and perfect. You must decide to follow these
seven principles in order to have a successful courtship. For those who are fathers of families even now,
teach your children this truth.
Application
Discuss each of the points learned in class and make them a part of your personal life and family.
Tell the students that if they have failed to follow any of these steps they can repent, ask the Lord for
forgiveness and start a new.
Evaluation
The class will be evaluated during a workshop.
Recommended Methodology
Break off into seven work groups. Discuss each one of the principles and later make a presentation to the
whole class.
Students Assignment
Make a chart comparing these seven principles, established by the Lord, and your personal life.
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1. According to Mark 10:9, what is God's purpose for your life emotionally?
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Teaching Objectives
a. The student should understand what communication means and the importance of being a good
communicator.
b. To help our students become excellent communicators; first towards God, then in their family and
later with their disciples.
Student Objectives
1. Define what communication means.
2. Explain the elements of communication.
3. Identify what destroys communication.
Key Verse
Matthew 12:37
For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned."
Purpose
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One year we were about to begin our annual convention in Bogot. The opening day I found myself being
upset with my wife. A situation cropped up between us and caused us to become at odds with one
another. Our point of views went in completely opposite directions. Even though we discussed this
sensitive issue, we could not come to an amiable resolution. With that, I chose the easy way out. I chose
to ignore her, not taking her into account on any level.
The meeting began as usual with me greeting the people. Right after a guest saxophonist completed his
repertoire, I introduced my wife so that she could address her portion of the meeting. To my
embarrassment, the first words out of her mouth were, 'dear friends, today my husband and I had an
argument'. The unexpected shock of those words almost knocked me over! She continued `but while the
music was playing, God gave me the prophetic interpretation.
He said, My daughter, I permitted what you went through today with your husband. In the same way you
were hurt by his indifference, it is the same insensitivity that my own children show me by allowing days,
weeks and even months to go by without any type of communication with the Holy Spirit. I want to
restore that relationship starting today', After my wife shared that word, a tremendous breaking came
upon the audience of eighteen thousand and in the midst of tears, they asked God for forgiveness for their
indifference toward Him.
They even yielded to a time of restoration between the family members. That entire opening day ended
up being filled with a supernatural move of God. It led me to understand that the basis for excellent
communication starts with cultivating a close relationship with the Spirit of God.
Numbers 13:31-33. Because of their unbelieving attitude, ten of the twelve spies gave bad reports
and a whole generation was lost and died in the wilderness.
Numbers 13:30. Caleb and Joshua had a different spirit and therefore a different attitude for which
God rewarded them. They were permitted to enter the Promised Land.
Out of anger, Moses beat the rock that God commanded him to speak to. Because of this outburst
of anger (angry attitude), he was not able to enter Canaan.
D. The power of words
The worst insults are generally made in moments of anger or desperation. We know that the
mouth speaks from the abundance of the heart (Luke 6:45). Our words either dignify us or put us
to shame. Sometimes men forget that women are fragile vessels and the easiest way to destroy
them is through offensive, demeaning words, words that prompt humiliation or violence.
Nevertheless, Jesus taught us the correct way to treat our wives: Ephesians 5:25 says, "Husbands
love your wives as Christ loved the church."
The relationship between Christ and the church be-came a great example of what a proper
relationship should be.
Jesus always expressed words of love and hope towards each one of His disciples.
He spoke words of protection: "Fear not little flock, because it has pleased your father in heaven
to give you the kingdom."
Your words determine the type of person you are, good or bad (Matthew 12:35).
Avoid trivial conversations that bear no fruit (Matthew 12:36). Your words will either save you or
condemn you (Matthew 12:37). Your words should be motivating and joyous (Colossians 4:6).
Avoid offending with your words. In a conversation, these may be only 6% of your words but they
can and will become unforgettable (James 3:2).
These two passages speak much about words. First, they speak of having wisdom to address each
person according to the circumstance at hand, and secondly they explain that we become perfect
when we don't hurt others with our words.
Sadly, many good messages are ruined because preachers don't finish on time. It is better for
people to wish you had spoken more instead of less.
B. Precise
Avoid getting off the subject and take advantage of every second God gives you to share with
others. It may be the only opportunity that you have. Discernment will give you an effective word
that will supply the needs of those listening. Solomon said that it was good to speak the right
words at the correct time. Paul advised Timothy to know how to handle well the Word of God, as a
soldier handling his weapons.
C. Anointed
The anointing comes as a result of our intimacy with God. It is our duty to bring down the
presence of God wherever we go because the eyes of God are upon the righteous of the earth and
His ears are attentive to their cries. Every believer has the full backing of the angelic host. Jesus
told His disciples that He cast out demons by the Spirit of God. He worked in harmony with the
Father and everything He did was to bring the Kingdom of God to the people so that they may
receive life.
Evaluation
We understand that it would be impossible to have an excellent marital relationship if communication with
our spouse is poor. Communication is a great blessing and foundation that we should be working on to
enrich our marriage with.
1. Do you look into your spouse's eyes when they speak to you?
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Conclusion
In order to have a good level of communication, we should be concise, clear, precise and anointed. We
need to understand that everything we share must be to edify, motivate and support. Good communication
is a weapon we can use to reduce conflicts and improve our family's relationships.
How To Minister
Lead the students in prayer, and tell them:
Identify everything that has affected your development as a communicator.
Restore your intimacy with the Holy Spirit.
Decide to mend any differences with your spouse or other family members.
Visualize your family and self, as the best communicators of eternal truth.
Improve your vocabulary.
Become your best at public relations.
Evaluation
At the beginning of this session, have the student write down on a sheet of paper, what the
communication level in their home is. Let them re-evaluate it and at the end of the lesson, compare it to
what they have learned.
Students Assignment
Let the student have a workshop in their own home by practicing a more effective method of
communication to improve their family's relationship.
Application
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Review the words that you use to address your loved ones; change how you address those whom you do
not have good communication with.
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1. Define communication:
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7. Perform a mirror test to evaluate how you transmit a message. Confirm the clarity of your spoken
words to them by asking them to recite back to you what was spoken. Did they actually hear what you
intended to say? Did you communicate it precisely and did they receive it that way? A mirror will give
back to you exactly what you put before it.
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Teaching Objectives
For the student to understand the blessings of marriage kept for those who are faithful to God.
Student Objectives
1. Explain what blessings are and their characteristics.
2. Speak about the differences between a blessing and a curse.
Key Verse
3 John 2
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is
getting along well.
In divine harmony, (v.27) God is triune; Father, Son and Holy Spirit and the three are one and
never disagree. In the same way, God created marriage for the couple to live in perfect
harmony.
They were placed by God as kings over all creation (v. 28).
They were taught the principle of seedtime and harvest (v.29).
They were given provision (v.30)
3 John 2. The triple blessing. "Beloved, I pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good
health, just as your soul prospers."
Proverbs 10:22. The full blessing. "It is the blessing of the LORD that makes rich, and He adds no
sorrow to it.
I have been able to share with thousands of people around the world and from what I can tell,
everyone wants a better life, even those who think that spirituality should have nothing to do with
material things. We need to learn that God gave us all things in abundance for us and for our
enjoyment.
B. God is the Father of abundance - 1 Corinthians 2:9
God's blessings are always beyond what our minds can perceive. The things that eye has not
seen, nor has ear heard, are the things that God has stored in His secret place and they will only
be manifested to those who by faith, get to see them, touch them and confess them as if they
already were their own.
God is not poor and He is not selfish, therefore, He always gives in abundance. He never
considered giving mankind just a small portion of the earth along with a few animals. He was very
generous and gave man the whole earth so that both he and his children could live in it and enjoy
it forever.
If man had not been so selfish and stingy of heart, I am sure every human being could live like a
king. But because of sin, man lost all of his privileges.
C. The purpose of God is to Bless you - Deuteronomy 28:1-14
The blessing of God is tied to obeying His Word.
v2. Every type of blessing will be upon you.
v3. You'll be blessed wherever you go.
v4. Blessings will be upon your children, your neighborhood and your work.
v5. Blessings will be upon your family basket.
v6. All your activities will be blessed.
v7. You will always find a way out of all your problems.
v8. You will be blessed in all you do.
v9. You will be called into ministry.
v10. God will exalt you and give you honor.
v11. Wherever you live, you will prosper.
v12 You will be a great businessman able to help others.
v13. You will be lifted up to places of honor and authority.
D. Jesus redeemed us from the curse of ruin - Deuteronomy 28:16-68
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The existence of blessings Are real as curses are. In the book of Deuteronomy, chapter 28, Moses
wrote a whole chapter about the blessing and the curse. We have some excerpts on that chapter.
Verse 15 says that not obeying the Word of God exposes the person to many types of curses.
These are four times more numerous than the blessings.
v16. It will find you wherever you go.
v17. It will affect the families' basic provision and supplies.
v18. It affects your children, contaminates the place you live in and stops production in
your business.
v19. Brings instability to your life.
v20. Affects your health, emotions and everything you work to do.
v21. Death will surround you and your family.
v22. Every type of sickness will attack you.
v23. Heaven will not listen, the earth will not respond to you.
v24. Because of you the whole territory will be dry and arid.
v25. You will not be able to stand up for yourself and will flee all the time.
v28. Mental crisis, lack of vision and spiritual confusion will be the norm.
v29. You will be far from prosperity but near to oppression.
v30. You will lose your wife and belongings in an instant.
v32. Your children will be trapped in vices and you will not be able to help them.
v33. Others will enjoy what you have worked for.
v37. No one will want to imitate you.
v38-43. You will not see the fruit of your ministry.
v44. You will live enslaved to debts.
v47. You will be affected by ungratefulness.
v48. You will live in absolute poverty.
v62. Your ministry will decrease until it disappears.
v65. Evil will find you no matter what country you're in.
v66. Uncertainty, fear and insecurity will be permanent in your life.
v67. You will be very inconsistent and unreliable.
v68. You will go back to the world thinking that it will end your problems, but you will
find that no one cares about you there.
we should not be deceived by this depiction. Jesus died completely naked. He exhibited His shame
because He was taking our place to make us completely free of any and all curses.
"For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sake He
became poor, so that you through His poverty might become rich." 2 Corinthians 8:9.
If Jesus died for my poverty and misery, I don't need to suffer any of this again because it would mean
I was doubting what He did for me on the cross. If I thought that renouncing material things would
help me win God's heart then my salvation has a price. Because I am trying to earn my salvation by
works. If I did so, then it will be the same as living under the law and not under grace.
"For it is by grace you have been saved through faith; and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of
God, not by works, so that no one can boast". Ephesians 2:8-9
Galatians 3:14. We inherit the blessings of Abraham. v 29. Being a Christian gives me the legal right
to partake of all the blessings given to Abraham.
Conclusion
The easiest way to go, is to run from Go and the surest way is to walk with God. He set before us the
curses and the blessings. Success and prosperity, depends exclusively on us. Let us be wise and choose
to walk by the sure way: submitted by the Word of God
Evaluation
Using a quiz, evaluate the blessings claimed for marriage. Also, verify that they (the students) know how
to distinguish between a blessing and a curse.
Recommended Methodology
Question and answer sessions help in getting the students involved, sharing what they have learned gives
the teacher the opportunity to give explanations to clear up any doubts.
Students should identify the type of oppression they are under at this time. Explain how they can have the
full blessing of God upon their lives.
Students Assignment
Students should review the lesson at home and take time to cancel any of the curses they may have
identified in their lives, and claim the blessings.
Application
Declare daily, the blessings of Deuteronomy 28:1-14 and appropriate them and confess them for yourself
and your household.
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Teaching Objectives
For each one of the students to understand that the home is the foundation for a successful ministry. He
who is faithful in the least will also be in the greater. God puts His trust in those who know how to give
their families the right priority.
Student Objectives
1. Let the student share a testimony of what God has done with them as a family
2. Give at least three reasons why having a family that is in harmony and well balanced can help your
ministry.
Key Verse
"Deacons, likewise, are to be men worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not
pursuing dishonest gain. They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience.
They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons. In the
same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and
trustworthy in everything. A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children
and his household. Those who have served well gain an excellent standing and great assurance in their
faith in Christ Jesus". 1 Timothy 3:8-13
Purpose
For the student to have full certainty that God desires consecrated families and that the chief purpose of
the church is to restore families in order to save the nation.
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Conclusion
Someone being trained for ministry, should ask God to use them in a special way for restoring their own
family, and the homes of their relatives and disciples. And may their lives and leadership be a fountain of
inspiration for many.
Application
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Be sure there are no arguments left standing against your family. Keep your prayer life sensitive to divine
direction, where God can show you the needs in your family in order to pray for them effectively.
Evaluation
Make a list of what may be considered an argument against you and study the scripture that could be
used to cancel it out.
Recommended Methodology
The lecture method would be best for presenting this lesson.
Students Assignment
Make a list of family members who are not believers. Identify what arguments may exist against them so
that you can cancel them out by faith and declare salvation for your family.
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1. According to the Bible, what was God's purpose for creating the family?
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2. What are the main requirements for any leader according to 1 Timothy 3: 1-7?
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3. How can I let God build my home according to Psalm 127?
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Teaching Objectives
For the student to understand how to live according to Gods plan for his life.
Student Objectives
1. Define what Abundant Life means.
2. Explain how to attain the Abundant life.
3. Explain how to live the Abundant Life.
Key Verse
Ephesians 3:20
"Now to him who is able to do immeasurable more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that
is at work within us."
Purpose
The abundant life comes from the internal to the external, from the spiritual to the material, from the
invisible to the visible. Jesus taught that it was useless for a man to gain the world and lose his soul that
no ransom was enough to pay for his soul. He was telling us that no material success, no matter how
great, can be equal to the spiritual riches that only God can give.
The abundant life is a combination of spiritual, moral and material values. It is not God's desire for us to
benefit from spiritual blessings, on the other hand live a life of material scarcity. On the contrary, the
work of redemption restored everything man had lost due to sin. Paul said that Jesus, although He was
rich, became poor so that through His poverty, we would be made rich. (2 Corinthians 8: 9). The abundant
life is for you to enjoy good health. And by His wounds you were healed, f1 Peter 2:24).
The abundant life is enjoying the gift of salvation given exclusively through Jesus. (Ephesians 2:1) And
you were dead in your trespasses and sins. But we can also say that the abundant life is seeing our family
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saved. Paul told the Philippians jailer: "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your
household" (Acts 16:31).
path of destruction and death. Because of being in this condition, we were ignorant to the fact that the
wonderful life found in Jesus, was possible for us too.
Conclusion
We can only conquer our abundant life through the cross. It was there that Jesus canceled every curse
and argument that was against us. Therefore we need to walk with a renewed mind.
Evaluation
Within a test you will be able to evaluate the proposed STUDENT OBJECTIVES.
Recommended Methodology
Explain the content of the lesson using practical techniques on how to memorize bible verses. Index cards
may be used.
Students Assignment
The student should completely memorize the BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONAL REFERENCE of this lesson.
Application
Read a book about the renewing of the mind. Read all the words that speak of abundance and claim them
for your own life.
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6. How can I receive from that abundant life according to John 10:10?
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7. I should renew my mind, Explain according to Romans 12:2.
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