154ways To: Create Sexual Tension

154 Ways to Create Sexual Tension CR James
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Create Sexual Tension
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Hello my friend...
Thank you for purchasing 154 Ways To Increase Sexual Tension.
You've made a very wise decision.
What you are about to read is what I call a brainstorm list, which means I focused on creating as
many items as possible.
The hidden goal of this list is to ingrain the belief that:
There are lots of ways to create sexual tension!
So because it's a brainstorm list...
1) I didn't focus on creating things on the same order/level.
In other words, if this was a list of ways to burn calories, I would be OK with writing working out for
one entry and listing doing push-ups as another. Even though, doing push-ups is a type of work
out. They're not on the same level, but it's a brainstorm. The idea is to not censor yourself.
2) I also didn't go into massive detail with each item. That means there could be items that you
want more examples for or a deeper explanation. I apologize in advanced. That's really not what
this kind of report is all about. Besides, some of the items have been fully explained in other
reports. (Normal reports I'll spend 10-20 pages explaining one thing making sure it's crystal clear.)
The truth is you don't need to know every possible way to create sexual tension to be very
effective. So even if you're unsure of 1or 2 ways, then that shouldn't stop you.
Note: If you would like for me to create a report that contains

detailed (example-rich) explanations of these items (or a
particular item) then let me know. (Of course, that would be a
different report - with a different purpose).
This one is scan-able. It's short. Even if you only understand 15 things, that's still a lot! (Plus, there
are variations that you can do with each one.)
That's way more than what the average guys knows. If you ask the average guy to give you a list of
ways to build sexual tension, he'll give you 2-5 ways at the most. And he'll struggle to come up with
those.
My hope is that you see the incredible value in a having a very short report that contains a long
list of proven sexual tension concepts. I hate to have to restate this, but I actually test stuff.
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We do live in a world where people create books and informative material just because they like
being in the role of a teacher -- or because they enjoy writing -- or for some other reason.
I have a background in engineering. I'm logical. I'm practical. More importantly, I imagine being in
my reader's shoes when I create reports because when I personally read/learn something I plan on
taking action. I put stuff to the test. I want results.
According to what I believe, there's no way I can gain your trust if I'm not passing on information
that you can actually use and get results.
That's what makes this report so valuable. It's 5 years in the making based on experience. There's
no way I could have created a report (that has this much value) 5 years ago! Even if it was 150
pages!
As a tool, I want you to add to the list (making it more valuable for you). It should be a growing
report that becomes more useful over time. By the way, if you add items to this list, don't hesitate to
include a section of 'untested' items that could work... just as long as you plan to try it out...
So here you go...
It took a month of constant adding to the list and now it's FINALLY done. I say that to
demonstrate that this report GREW as time went on.
And for you, it should continue to grow...
*** Update: As of October 15, 2010 another 77 ways were added just to
show that the list can continue to grow.
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1. Pseudo Rejections - This was first mentioned in Super Seduction Power. The most appropriate
use of these tactics is when the woman feels she can get it any time she wants. And an on a
'supply and demand' level, the value of sex has been reduced in her mind. When a women has this
belief, it makes building sexual tension difficult or impossible. Tactically, a pseudo rejection is very
easy to execute. All you have to do is say something like: 'Last night I wanted to make love to you,
but I was tired. I'm sorry. I know it's been awhile. I haven't forgot about you.' The goal is to get her
to experience the feeling of being rejected (even though she never asked you for sex).
2. Working Out (looking better, improve, pheromones) - Again, this is proof that my objective was
to list every possible thing imaginable that could build tension. So trust me, I'm not trying to insult
your intelligence by listing obvious things. With that said, working out builds sexual tension in
several ways (looking better, being perceived as someone who cares about his health, being
perceived as someone who cares about his appearance, being perceived as someone who cares
about improving.) In addition to that, the healthier you are, the sexier you will smell - on a
pheromones level.
3. Sexy Framing - This concept was mentioned in one of the GHH Volumes. To be brief, it's all
about explaining the difference between sexy women and unsexy women - by some standard that
you put out there. The tension is created when she attempts to 'act out' your definition of sexiness,
which by default could be an action that leads to sex or by placing her in a 'eager to please'
mindset.
4. Feeling Sexy via Sexy Outfit. Most guys have benefited from this whether they realized it or
not. The feeling of sexiness is a sexual tension increaser for women. So if a girlfriend ever bought
a outfit - that made her feel sexy - and eventually she got turned on, it's because of the relationship
between horniness and 'feeling sexy' that take place with women.
5. Eating healthy. Eating healthy pretty much works on the level that working out does. It can
especially affect how you 'smell' to women - on a pheromone level. It's always a could idea to
remember that as a species, there are key factors that women scan for in a mate. For the most
part: "Extremely Healthy Man = Extremely Healthy Babies". So the better you are taken care of
yourself, the more attractive you're going to be to the opposite sex. For the most part, a fit-looking
woman with nice curves, healthy teeth, smooth skin and silky hair are evidence of a 'healthy
woman' - so she's going to be attractive to you. She also 'smells' better on a pheromone level.
6. Sexual Matching. This works purely on her ability to detect the pattern - even if she's not
consciously aware of it. If every time she has sex, it's an incredible/great experience, it's a tension
builder for wanting it more in the future. People like doing things that are fun. People like doing
things that feel good. Taking it a step further, if she wants hug-like soft sex and you bang it silly,
that's not sexual matching. Sexual Matching is all about identifying what type of sex she wants at
the moment and giving it to her.
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7. Touching and Caressing. If you've been in a relationship before, then you've probably created
sexual tension by this method. When done the right way, it's one of the easiest ways to get a
woman turned on. When done the wrong way, it's one of the easiest ways to get a woman turned
off.
8. Watching Sex. This is the process of getting aroused through watching others have sex - either
on TV or live.
9. Fantasizing about sex. Thinking about sexual fantasies. Thinking of past sexual memories.
Thinking of future sexual encounters. Thinking of a time when she 'watched sex' - either on TV or
live.
10. Chic flick / Love Story. When women get turned by being exposed to concepts of love (new
love, reuniting love, etc.) in a chic flick, subplot in a movie, book or whatever.
11. GP Tactic. The 'Good Pussy' Tactic was first introduced in GHH Volume 2. It's all about getting
her motivated to have sex for the purpose of 'showing off' the quality of her vagina (either the
tightness, the wetness or some quality -- or combination of qualities -- that is framed to represent
'vaginal superiority').
12. Making her feel sexy via compliments. Self explanatory.
13. Increasing Metabolism. Doesn't apply to all women. But in general, the metabolic rate has to
do with the speed of internal processes. Most people associate it with 'losing weight' (the rate of
burning calories). It's more than that. If you understand the true definition, then you'll realize that it
also has to do with speed of horniness because 'getting horny' requires a chain of chemical
processes that take place in the body. So simple terms: If you speed up her metabolism, then she's
going to be capable of getting horny faster and more often.
14. Associating sex with being desirable. Getting her motivated to have sex because it
represents her being desirable in some way (that is meaningful to her).
15. Love Association. Getting her to crave the feeling of love through sex. If she feels extremely
loved during sex (and this is something she wants from the guy), then she will be conditioned to
crave having sex with him (the event that allows her to feel loved) - whether the guy was
intentionally trying to create this love-association or not.
16. Sexual Incompleteness. The best way to understand this technique is to recall the feeling you
had when you saw a really good TV show or movie that ends in a cliff-hanger. You have this
burning urge to see the next episode (or sequel). It creates tension. If a woman expects sex (or
some form of affection) and it doesn't happen, she's left feeling incomplete. The craving/tension
has been increased. Other methods of tension building is often required beforehand to create
tension in this way.
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17. Gradual Affection. If you ever cuddled and caressed a woman over a few hours, and all of a
sudden she wanted to have sex, then it's because you slowly increased the sexual tension via
gradual affection. It's not limited to actual touching. It could include gradual compliments (verbal
caressing), physical rubbing or a combination of both.
18. The feeling that it's been awhile. Most women (and guys) have a concept [existing program]
of 'it's been awhile'. Normally, this thought/perception leads to a feeling of wanting to have sex. The
presupposition is 'it's time for me to have sex'. When this thought is impressed (whether true or
untrue), she creates the feeling herself that now is the time. Since it's a perception-driven feeling, it
can be manufactured via reminding (increasing awareness), exaggerating or creating the
appearance in some creative way.
19. On and Off Methods. This is a general and one of the basic forms of creating tension (sexual
tension and orgasmic tension) Adding pleasure. Taking it away. Adding more pleasure. Taking it
away. The best way to understand this is to NOT look at sex as a series of penis thrusts, but rather
a series of 'putting it in' (adding pleasure) and taking it away (removing pleasure).
20. Hate/Love Swing. This is the more descriptive version of make up sex - emphasizing the
transition (swing) from 'hate/anger' to 'love/happiness'. Although 'make-up sex' is a concept for
most people, technically there are other 'swings' that happen that create tension. It's an emotional
version of an 'on and off' method.
21. Jealousy Swing. This is most appropriately used when the women doesn't appreciate the guy
or she is having trouble seeing how valuable he actually is. So any time a woman feels 'jealous'
(i.e. 'another woman STEALING the attention of a man that once gave her some form of attention),
it creates tension. Another cycle (or layer) of tension can be added by slowly releasing some of the
initial tension in the form of 'giving her some of her attention back' creating a
'jealousy-to-reassurance' swing.
22. Jealousy via social proof. This is where she becomes aware of how desirable (valuable) you
are because other women find you sexually desirable. Again, this is along the lines of 'supply and
demand'. Definitely one of the easiest ways to build sexual tension.
23. Sex Being the Next Step. This is where she is motivated to have sex purely because it feels
like the next thing to do.
24. Dramatic Increase in Sexual Value. This is somewhat of a 'swing' technique. Instead of
building tension via 'hate/anger' to 'love/happiness', it's from going from no value to having value or
going from value to lots of value. The interesting thing to realize is when you have 'no value' in your
relationship, you are essentially 'not a man'. And with new relationships, the woman is often 'hyper
sexual' (with little effort) because she's going from 'no-man/loneliness' to 'having a guy who cares
about her'. So, increasing your sexual value (especially, dramatically) has a similar effect of her
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falling in love for the first time all over again.
25. Eliminating turn offs. The idea is to identify things that turn her off and stop doing them. A lot
of common turn offs were mentioned in SSP. You can go beyond that by figuring out her personal
turn offs. Although, it's technically not a direct tension builder (in most cases), you should still treat
it as such.
26. Role Playing - This is classic dressing up and taking on roles. Obviously a certain amount of
tension has to be there in order for this type of tension building to take place.
27. Role Defining - This is fully explained in SSU Mind Control. It's a unique type of role playing
that isn't limited to bedroom activities and it has a much more powerful effect. For example: Saying
'Let's go out to dinner tonight, pretend we just met and we are overwhelmed at how amazing and
sexy we are to each other' is a way of Role Defining. Or in the bedroom, you could say: 'I hear you
are the Sexual Goddess. (She's obviously, going to say 'Yes.'). I also hear that you are the sexiest
woman on the planet. ('Yes. I am') I hear that your mission is give the guy the greatest sexual
experience that he has ever experience (Yes. That's what I am about to do).
28. Secondary Story. This is another easy way to get her turned on. If you 'know her' and 'have
finesse'. It's like porn. Watching porn for most guys is NOT a turn on. However, watching porn ---
that has a hot scene -- IS a turn on. Boring sex scene has little to no affect. Stories work the same
way with women. Just because you're talking about sex, that doesn't mean it's going to have an
affect on her.
29. Extreme Sexual Story. It's basically a sexual story that is massively shocking that sticks in her
mind. If you do it right, it works amazingly. It works on the part of the brain that attempts to make
sense of things. If something is really weird and shocking in can reply in your mind over and over
again, dozens of times in a single day. It can even leak into your dreams. So if the message is
implanted the right way, her own brain will create the tension for you. It's like she's watching a hot
porn scene over and over and over again. The brain's response to excessive watching of a
sexually charged scene is very predictable (for men and especially women).
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30. Touching and Grazing (i.e. during a massage). This is where you little graze near or on her
pussy during a massage. Some women have no idea that it was an accident, and the sensation will
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get her thinking about sex. Some women are completely aware of what you're doing, but have no
issues with it. If you have sexual value, most women will appreciate your subtle moves - and will
allow the tension to build. If you don't have sexual value, you're going to get called out and
perceived as being sneaky.
31. Polite Ignoring - This is best used as an 'Earth Bringer Downer'. It can also be used as a
'switch up' tactic. For example, let's say you visit your girlfriend and she has something sex on and
she is used to hearing you comment on how hot she looks. She eats up the compliment and
unknowingly you have released a massive amount of sexual tension. If you were to initiate, there's
no tension left. So when she declines you end up feeling 'teased'. Don't worry, you get 'training &
conditioning' points. So on another day when she's dressed sexy, and she expects to hear a
compliment, don't give it to her! Still be very polite and respectful to her. Be very upbeat. Once the
first 'switch up' occurs, she's on the hook. You're job is to navigate it properly and reel her in slowly.
If you initiate too early, it will register as a 'compliment' because that's what she is technically after.
Your job is to 'reel slowly' and let 'having sex' represent the compliment. As a hint: Positive NON-
SEXUAL attention (like a non-sexual/neutral compliment) is one the best ways to start the 'reeling
process'.
32. Attaching Wanting Sexual Attention to Sex. This could be thought of as part two to the
previous item. It's where you say something that gets her to associate 'having sex with you' as a
means of releasing the tension (of craving sexual attention or 'being desirable').
33. Framing Sex With You As The Prize. This can be one of the easiest ways to build sexual
tension. You can use virtual points. Use your imagination. The Smiley Face Technique is an
example of that (if you're familiar with it).
34. Framing Her as Sexually Superior. This has two parts. The first part involves a compliment
about how amazing she is sexually. Must be done right. The second part takes place when she
attempts to get those feelings back.
35. Getting her to Hypnotize You (or believe that she's hypnotizing you). This is a very specific
way of getting her to feel powerful and dominate. There's so many ways to build tension doing this.
The easiest way is to include a sexual theme, making it fun and have a mutual mindset of exploring
something new.
36. Getting her to thinking of masturbation. Self-explanatory.
37. Getting her to focus on what's great about sex. Self-explanatory.
38. Sexual Smell Association. There are lots of ways to use 'scent' as a sexual tension increaser
(cologne, candles, installing beliefs about scents, etc.)
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39. Getting her to order magazines that are sexy. Self-explanatory. Get her to order a magazine
that consistently has a sexual theme.
40. Talking about an article that has a sexual topic. Again, there are lots of ways to use this.
41. Placing her in a romantic environment (i.e. vacation, beach with candles, picnic with wine,
etc.) This is a classic - widely understood - way of building tension. Sadly, the majority of guys (out
there) see this as the only way to get a woman in the mood. Which is interesting, being that we've
covered 40 ways so far (with more to come) and there are tons of variations you can do with each
one. And that's not all. We didn't mention the concept of combining items. Nevertheless, this
classic way of building tension work incredibly great on so many levels (she expects it to turn her
on, it feels like the next step, women appreciate effort, the feeling of love & connecting, etc.).
42. Creating a sex game together. Self-explanatory. Plus, there are several ways to go about it.
For example: Day 1: Have a conversation about creating a sex game. Day 2: Say something like
'Maybe we should test what's out there first. We're smart and creative. I'm sure we could do better.'
43. Get Her To Brainstorm About an Aspect of Having Sex. There are lots of ways to do it. For
example, saying something like 'Do you know how being on top is your favorite position, well
there's a woman who is working on a book called the '50 reasons why being on top is the greatest'.
How come women are able to think of so many reasons why something is good about sex. A guy
doesn't try to list the reasons. A guy says: It's fun! 50 Reasons? I can't even think of 4! (smiling).
The idea is to 'have some conversation' where the end result is her thinking intensely about all of
the reasons and little details about why her favorite position is so great.
44. Kissing. Self-explanatory.
45. Sexual touching/breathing. Self-explanatory. Although some guys think it's the same thing,
this is not the same as caressing.
46. A compliment. (especially, a Super Compliment) This could be a very powerful tension builder
all by itself or it could be a key part of the tension building strategy.
47. Gradually building a sexual environment. This could be done somewhat overtly. It's not
quite the same as taking her to a romantic location. This one has to do with slowly converting the
existing environment into a romantic setting. (i.e. dimming the lights, lighting candles, etc.) When
done right, she'll melt into a state of arousal. When done wrong/awkwardly, you'll come off as
cheesy. If the light-dimming leads to her frowning her face and saying: 'What are you trying to do?',
then that's always a sign that she did NOT melt into a state of arousal.
48. Projecting good (ideal) dad traits... The brief explanation might not be enough to capture the
power of this, but it's one of the most unique ways of building tension that you'll ever do. If she
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sees (in an emotional way) you projecting good-dad-traits (i.e. playing with kids), it can create lots
of sexual tension amazingly fast.
49. Under-signals + other starved signals. Another extremely powerful way to build tension. I
created an entire report (The Laughable Answer) on this subject and still some readers didn't 'get
it'. The best way to understand it is to realize how often women are emotionally drawn to having
sex with a particular guy. He either (knowingly or unknowingly) represents an emotional high for
her (i.e. he gives her a unique form of attention or something along those lines). Some women will
say 'This new guy makes me feel alive!!!' If she is saying this about a guy, it's because he is
(knowingly or unknowingly) triggering feelings that she could have been 'starving for' for years! Sex
with him provides a cocktail of desired perceptions & intense unique feelings.
50. Convincing her that she's a horny fun girl. This is fun to do. It's self-explanatory. It could be
done on multiple levels. Basic Level: Just casually convincing her without any form of information
gathering. On an advanced level: With calm and systematic planning, you could use her desired
perceptions combined with under-signals to deeply plant the belief.
51. Setting up the difference between sexy women and average women. This is a slightly
different way of getting her motivated to be sexy (by your definition) because you've placed two
images in her mind. One: a sexy woman. The next: an unsexy woman. The tension is created
when the intensity of wanting to be sexy (by your definition) and/or not wanting to be unsexy. Any
time you have sex with a woman who is going 'all out' to please you and sexually impress you, then
you are dealing with a woman has a pre-existing concept of sexual pride. She wants to be seen as
'sexually fun'. This can be activated with any woman.
52. Using Dreams. This is more of a sexual tension building tool. That means you can use it to
activate her sexual mind in so many ways. If you're creative + plus understand the woman + you're
a good story teller, then this will be one of your favorite methods/tools.
53. Treating her as if she is a horny fun girl. Very powerful. Easy for some to execute. Not easy
for others. It requires that you believe (with every fiber in your body) that she is a sexually fun. You
have to actually look at her that way. You have to talk to her as if that's what you believe she is.
Unfortunately, most guys discover how powerful this concept is by doing the opposite. They end up
slowly training their partners to be sexually boring because they look at her as if she hates having
sex.
54. Looking at yourself and deeply believing that you are the man. Whether you take a
visualization approach, affirmation approach or whatever method you use to self-ingrain beliefs (if
that's even a concept to you), increasing your belief/certainty that you are a highly desirable guy
works like crazy - and that's prior to doing anything actionable. If you want women (or a particular
woman) to see you as being extremely irresistible, then you MUST see yourself that way.
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55. Teasing her with pleasure. Another basic/common tension builder. This could be done before
and during sex. It could be done during massages. It could be done verbally. Even if it's as simple
as saying: I bet you want me to give you some more? Do you want now?
56. Getting her to expect a future sexual experience. This is a great way to build tension for
woman who doesn't get turned on as fast as you. If you get her to expect a future experience, it
gives her time to think about it. A basic way of understanding this is knowing that it's easier for her
to agree to having sex tomorrow or 2 days from now verses two minutes from now (when there's
not enough tension).
57. Building anticipation for future surprise. This could thought of as how to build sexual
tension once you have done the previous item (Getting her to expect a future sexual experience).
Once it's set in her mind that sex is going to (or could) happen, you can throw hints at what she
could expect and saying things to intensify the feeling of urgency.
58. Building the value of sex by focusing on a particular aspect. This works to build tension by
getting her to focus on one (or a few) aspect of sex. For example, having a conversation about how
great it is to lay in the bed naked together kissing - during the moments before sex. You would
make that out to be the most amazing event. You're zooming-in and describing every little detailing
- just focusing on building the value of that event. The idea is to get her daydreaming and
fantasizing about the next time it will happen. (As a combo tactic, you could say: You know what,
the next time we have sex, let's do that part a little longer than normal. And when we're laying
there, remind me to tell you all of the reasons why you're the sexiest woman in the neighborhood.)
59. Make a joke, or compliment about something cool/funny/cute she does immediately after
sex. Self-explanatory. You could also build the value of after-sex. Kind of like the previous item.
60. Get her to impress you with her sexual abilities. There are so many ways to do this. If she
doesn't have any sexual abilities, then create one for her. You could say: 'Last night when you
were riding me, you did that awesome thing again. It made me cum instantly.' She now believes
she has a cool sexual ability (even though she's not quite sure how to do it.)
61. Create Cravings. Basic. Powerful. Yet rarely done creatively and skillfully. The idea is to give
her some sort of pleasure-reward for a specific action. For example, if she puts on something sexy,
get her in the habit of hearing an amazing compliment about how sexy she looks, then at some
point, in the future don't comment. (Although, it may seem as though we listed this before, we
didn't. This is a more general version. Polite ignoring is a specific way of doing it and usually takes
place when she is expecting.) Creating cravings isn't limited to 'her craving your attention' or when
she expects a compliment. I actually encourage you to do it during times when she isn't expecting
a compliment. You can create pleasure habits for something that takes place before sex, during
sex or an aspect of sex.
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62 Showing/Demonstrating that you love her. Doing something that shows that you love her.
The best way is to do this is by not thinking about the sexual benefits. Do it because you love her.
63. Showing/Demonstrating that you think she is special. Doing something that shows that you
think she is special The best way is to do this is by not thinking about the sexual benefits. Do it
because you really believe she is special to you.
64. Her going to a male strip club. (How's that for a transition? Hey! It's a brainstorm list. We've
talked about this.). Any way just in case you didn't know, her going to a male strip club is a
legitimate method that creates sexual tension. A lot of sexual tension! And as a reminder - for all of
these items - you want to think of all the possible ways to benefit from each item (if they apply).
65. Reading a romance novel. She's exposed to the sexual theme. They're made for women.
Reading a steamy scene in a novel is way more effective that watching an average scene (in a
movie or porn) with her own eyes.
66. Persona Driven. You can do this sort of thing if she has a sub-persona that's either highly
sexual or wild/crazy (a step or two away from becoming highly sexual). Anytime you create a new
persona or activate a pre-existing sub-persona, you care creating sexual tension. As a hint, it's
always best to treat her sub-personas as actually different people. If you get good at accessing a
sub-persona, then you can take a 2 step approach. Step 1: Access the right persona. Step 2: Build
tension.
67. Activating Your Sexy Sub-Persona. Everyone has sub-personas. You almost have to think of
yourself as being multiple people. Going from an annoying SP to a sexier SP, could be the
equivalent feeling of hanging out with a bunch of annoying unattractive women and suddenly
seeing a smoking hot girl walk in the room. She's going to appear even more attractive. Your sexier
SP could be a guy who is more serious. It could be a guy who is lot more fun. It could be both
depending on the situation. Activating your persona can be used in so many different ways.
68. Creating desire for attention. This is a more general form of getting her to crave attention
which means it's not limited to the 'creating cravings' method. This has two parts. Getting her to
crave sexual attention. Getting her to connect that craving with having sex.
69. Turning her down for sex. This is the big brother version of the Pseudo Rejection. Just like
most of these items, there is normally a time/situation where it works great. And often times, a
time/situation where it doesn't work at all (or not as good). The most appropriate use of this
technique is when she thinks she can get it from you any time she wants - which means 'the value
of having sex with you' has been decreased. Not good. So the purpose is create the appearance
that you're not always in the mood. The real (deeper) purpose is to get her to VALUE the act of sex
(with you) - on a 'supply and demand' level. When the right impression is made, it will builds
tension on 2 levels. In the short term it could make her want it more because she's being told no.
However, in the long term, it adds value to the 'act of having sex'. The bonus benefit: Doing this
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(or anything that makes her value sex more) makes all of the other Sexual Tension Tactics you do
more powerful/effective. (Stated In The Reverse: If she doesn't value having sex with you, NO
sexual tension technique will work!)
70. Training her to be uncertain about getting sex. This is the secondary goal of the previous
item (Turning her down for sex). Most women are masters at this. She flirts and still the guy is
uncertain about whether she really wants him. Whether he realizes it or not, it's the uncertainty that
creates tension. The whole 'He loves me. He loves me not' game could be seen as woman training
themselves to be responsive to this concept. When a guy is always available for sex (or perceived
that way), it makes it harder to value sex (on a supply and demand level AND on an uncertainty
level). There's no sexual 'He wants me. He wants me not' going on.
71. Changing the way you see women (in a beneficial way). It's not a direct tension builder. The
tension is actually created by your new actions (whatever they may be) that stems from seeing
women in a new way (whether it's being sexually fun, not-as-threatening, non-bitchy).
72. Helping her see herself in a better way. If you get her to feel more confident about herself,
her abilities, her sexiness and so on it leads to new actions (on her part), because 'new beliefs =
new actions'. This could have a short term and/or long term affect.
73. Helping her see sex in a better way. Again, 'new beliefs = new actions', the idea is to evolve
how she views sex. So she doesn't have to feel awkward/negative about sex in order to do this.
You can get her to love/appreciate sex even more than she currently. Always start with the
assumption that she can 'see sex as being more fun, exciting, pleasurable' than she currently does.
74. Helping her see her situation in a better way. In most cases, the real benefit is protecting the
current tension (pre-desire). If you set up a picnic with wine and candles and she see thinks: 'Wow.
He did all of this for me? then you build tension, but if she thinks to herself 'He knows I hate red
wine!', then it doesn't build tension. You could do a lot of things brilliantly, but if she doesn't have
the tools to describe her experiences in a positive way, her 'own thoughts' will wipe away all the
sexual tension points that you've earned. It's like getting your sand castle knocked over. (It's a thing
of beauty that took a lot of time - yet it's all gone in a matter of seconds.) Some women are always
sorting for 'what's not right'. If you bought her a brand new car, she would say 'How come you
didn't get me a red one?' So conditioning her to perceive life better not only makes her a better
person (or more equipped to mentally handle challenges), but she (on auto-pilot) starts to select a
better alternative for looking at things. In simple terms: It's easier to build sexual tension in a
woman who has a happy outlook.
75. Get Her To Brainstorm about sexual fantasies. Self-Explanatory.
76. Get her to want to please you in every way. Self-Explanatory. If this PARENT Belief is
created (or temporarily magnified), then pleasing him SEXUALLY is part of the package. Most
women don't need to be told that pleasing him in every way includes blowing his mind sexually.
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Although this could be a separate item, any non-sexual belief --- where pleasing the guy sexually is
part of the package -- is going to be an interesting way of building sexual tension.
77. Complimenting something during the sexual process. It's best to pick something that takes
place during the beginning of the process. And the key is making it unique. Here's an example: I
like the way you take off my boxers when we are about to make love. I can't explain it. Guys talk
about this all of the time because a lot of women will scratch your balls or [fill in another blunder]
Not you! You always -- without even trying -- have this amazingly sexy look on your face when you
peel off my boxers. You should teach a class on how to do it. Women would pay you $3000. There
would be manikins wearing boxers on top of their desks. Notice how it could been done playful.
Notice you built the value of this 'skill' ($3000 per student). Hopefully, you see the main objective.
And that is to get her to associate MORE VALUE to the act (peeling off boxers). In a fun way it
instantly trains her to BE PROUD of a simple act. It becomes so easy for her to feel proud + skilled
+ sexy doing something so simple ---> that just so happens to take place when the two of you are
about to make love.
78. Get her to brainstorm about being in a romantic environment - The idea is to find a reason
to get her to think being in a romantic environment. You could talk about someone you knew who
just went on a romantic getaway. You could watch a movie that had that element in it.
79. Not wanting to be perceived a certain way (i.e. boring wife). Most guys have benefitted
from this without realizing it. In other words, She reads a magazine article talking about a trend of
women becoming more and more boring and suddenly she has a desire to not be that way. As
result, she's more affectionate. If she stays in this affectionate mindset long enough, she will end
up (technically) turning herself on. (She's emotionally dry-humping you.)
80. Getting her in the mindset of seducing you. There are so many ways to do this. I don't say
that to tease you (by not revealing all of them), but rather to encourage you to spend a little extra
time thinking of ways to get her in the mindset. A simple method would be to (over the course of a
few days) periodically sprinkle in stories of women who seduced a guy in a way that makes the
woman appear superior, sexy and intelligent.
81. Drinking wine (or any other alcoholic beverage). This works on many levels. For one, the
general belief that women get horny by drinking. Two, anything that makes a woman more calm
and relaxed is going to lower her resistance - which makes it appropriately listed as a 'sexual
tension increaser' (and not a full blown seduction strategy) because unless she is drunk out of her
mind (and that's not what I'm referring to), it's not likely to be the only thing responsible for making
her want sex. Sexual value is still necessary.
82. Listening to the right music. This is another item that works on multiple levels. For one, it
could get her to associate the song with making love just because of the content of the lyrics. Two,
it could trigger the feeling of wanting sex based on hearing 'a certain type' of music before while
having sex. In other words, many women are "programmed" to believe that love-making music
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increases the mood. Three, the music acts as a relaxation technique. Since we just covered two
ways of relax a woman, you should that these methods are situational increasers. In other words,
they only because effective when they're mixed with other methods.
83. Thinking of sexual objects. This is straightforward. If she thinks about a sex toy - like a
vibrator then this is going to be a sexual tension increaser. In general, thinking of anything (object
or concept) in a sexually-charged way is going to be a sexual tension increaser.
84. Present tense converted pseudo rejection. Sounds complicated? Well, it's not. If you
remember, a regular pseudo rejection was the very first item mentioned in Volume 1. I wanted to
set the tone for how flexible you can be with this stuff. This one is different. For example - she tries
to kiss you, and you make it out to be as if she's asking for sex (or more than what it is). And tell
her now is not a good time. If she says 'I wasn't trying to have sex', you could say 'I'm sorry
Sweetie. Ignore what I just said' and then give her a hug. Quickly go back to respectfully talking to
her about something completely non-sexual. With this one, it could be done playfully or seriously
(as you really misinterpreted what she was trying to convey).
85. Last minute mind change. It's somewhat self-explanatory. You're going to change your mind
at the last minute. The real purpose is to get more future sexual sessions by turning her down for
sex at the last minute. I'm talking about the very last minute. It's like investing $100 and getting
$500 back two weeks later. Sure you lost $100 in the beginning, but you ended up getting more in
the long run. That's how a 'last minute mind change' works. You miss out on a sexual session, but
it sets the tone for getting her turned on quicker in the future. When used inappropriately, it could
backfire. When used at the right time (let's say she bails on you a lot and doesn't understand how it
feels or she has a misconception that you're her little sexual puppy dog who only gets treats on her
terms), it could be the greatest tactic for you - in terms of restoring balance.
Tip: In order to restore balance - or get a woman to start craving sex (when she believes she
controls it), she needs a 'shocking message' - one that gives her that 'totally caught off guard
feeling' of experiencing something she never expected. Caught off guard = quick change. On the
other hand, if you want to get gradual increases in sexual response, then all you have to do is
make gradual (barely noticeable) changes. Think of how the brain processes addictions. Smoking
one cigarette is not likely to cause an instant addict, because the 'impact' (high) isn't that strong. So
a person would need repetition to create the habit. On the other hand, hard drugs like crack
cocaine often create INSTANT ADDICTION. So if you want 'instant addiction' (in terms of getting
her to crave sex with you), then a 'crack cocaine-like' message needs to be impressed on her.
86. Sexual Googling. Have a conversation that sparks the desire to do research online about
something sexual. Once she is the research process, the idea is to allow the sexual
concepts/themes to increase tension because her mind is exposed to a sexually charged concepts.
There is an infinite number of ways to do this. The key is to come up with a really good reason
(something so strong that it would be impossible to research it -> maybe it's so outrageous, maybe
it's impossible to believe), then you want her to land on the right website (or type of website). And
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then from there the 'research process' (i.e. exposure) technically does the tension building.
87. Telling her she has a special glow during sex that's irresistible. The idea is to make her
feel special about herself during sex. Not a bad goal, right? The affect is great. For a woman with
little sexual confidence, the results could be more noticeable. In cases like this, there is a lot of
direct sexual tension being created. The affect you’re going after is a reaction of: ‘Wow. I never
realized that”, along with blushing.
88. Making her feel powerful through sex. This affects women on different levels depending on
the woman. The idea is to have a conversation (or a campaign of steady conversations) that get
her to associate getting sex from you with feeling powerful.
89. Getting her to want to experience an emotional bond. Self-explanatory.
90. Talking dirty to her. Self-explanatory.
91 Convincing her that she has a unique way of seducing that is brilliant. This is a more
specific version of getting her in the mindset of seducing you. The idea is to get her to feel proud of
her way that she gets you turned on.
92. Being affectionate during an unexpected (but appropriate) time. Let's say you're typically
affectionate on the couch and that's it...Although she still likes it, the sexual tension doesn't have
nearly the impact of doing it in other places. It should make sense? Isn't sex more thrilling when it's
done in a new/difference place. Why not take the same approach when getting her turned on. You
might not have to make any adjustments - other than 'caressing her back' (for example) in a
different room and/or at a different time.
It could be while she's cooking - while she's ironing - while she's cleaning - while she's on the
computer - while she's taking a bath.
93. Getting her to ask her friends a sexual question that sparks a debate. Are you starting to
see a pattern? Being more effective (than you currently are) is all about (1) having sexual value (2)
knowing ways to get her to think about sex (3) knowing how to affect her emotions (4) knowing how
to affect her perceptions (5) knowing how to affect her beliefs - accessing feelings/perceptions,
conditioning her to associate sex with a particular emotion or idea (6) caressing & physical
affection. Most of your efforts will be based on just these 6 simple things. As far as this item, it’s
self-explanatory.
94. Training her to feel appreciated during sex. Self-explanatory.
95. Strategic book recommending. You have to do the research ahead of time. And this one has
to be a real book. The idea is to get her to buy/read a particular sex book. And the idea is to let the
content of the book create the sexual tension. Saying something like a lot of women were talking
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about a book entitled, '265 ways to drive him wild'. They were saying it was really insightful. You
get the point.
96. Her wearing new sexy underwear (panties and bra). Technically, it's the result of how it
makes her feel that does the work. To get the most out of this, bring attention to it. The idea is to
get her to think about throughout the day.
97. Approval and disapproval. This was first mentioned in Super Lust Buttons. The idea is to say
something that communicates that you don't approve of her action (this should be real). Then
switch to saying something to give her the feeling of approval. The idea is to keep going back and
worth, but not in a mechanically obvious way. The real idea (purpose) is to categorize yourself in
her mind as someone who's opinion matters. This works really good when nothing happens
naturally that provides her with the opportunity to realize that you're not one of these Low SV Guys
who just agrees with everything she says (to keep peace)(fear of rubbing her the wrong way).
98. Her looking at your body (if she finds it attractive). This requires that she finds your body
somewhat desirable. You don't have to sculpted to perfection, for her to appreciate your body.
99. Carefree attitude. This is a classic tactic that most guys overrate and perform miserably. The
idea is to be calmly optimistic - not miserably/apathetic. It can be even more effective to switch to a
more ‘carefree attitude’ than normal. It can be done with or without a reason.
100. Changing the way you see her, specifically in some beneficial way. The goal is to
actually try to change your beliefs about her. An easy/quick way of explaining this would be to
pretend that she was more sexual, sexier, higher quality (in some meaningful way), more
interesting than you currently perceive her to be (if that makes sense). Get in the habit of treating
her this way. If you stick with to observe the results, I think you'll agree that it's one of the more
interesting ways to increase her desire. It may even seem as though everything is taken place in
your mind (and you're not doing anything differently) which would be a more sensible way of
explaining the results, but there are lot of things that happening.
101. Talking about turning her down in the future. This is another variation of creating the
appearance of a rejection. If you noticed we talking about turning her down in the past (Volume 1,
#1), turning her down in the present (#84) and now this item. All you have to do is make a
commitment to have sex and then cancel it. Just like previous variations, the goal is to ERASE the
idea that you’re always available for sex. If she rarely/never initiates sex, it would be impossible to
turn her down for sex. The only thing left is to use some sort of pseudo rejection.
102. Drinking Caffeine. Sometimes this can be the difference between her wanting to do it and
not. It works on two levels, giving her more energy and it increasing her heart rate (excitement
level). This item is like a spice (salt) – not to be consumed all by itself, but it could turn a bland
meal into a mouth-watering delicious dinner.
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103. Eating certain foods. Certain foods are aphrodisiacs – whether it’s the cocktail of vitamins
and minerals that work to assist in the arousal process or the belief that ‘a certain food’ is a turn on.
104. Adding value to sex conversationally. This falls under the category of things you should do
on an ongoing basis. The idea is to make sex seem more exciting. It’s good to do this after sex
(especially after a steamy session) and while you're laying in the bed together just reflect on what
just happened. So as you're out of breath, you can say something like: “Wow…..[breathing
heavily]…..what is it about sex that’s so amazing?” And then just look at her with a smile on your
face. Then continue…."it feels good..... it’s good exercise. You connect with the person you
love…..blah blah blah.”
105. Adding value to the actual sex act (directly). By this I mean using sex toys, playing sex
games and trying new stuff. This is a direct way of making sex more exciting. This also falls under
the category of things that should be done on an ongoing basis.
106. Authority framing. The idea is to find a quote from someone famous she admires. For
example, suppose there was a quote from Oprah saying that, "Women should be more
adventurous in bed”, or “women should do whatever it takes to please their partners”, then it’s
going to have a tremendous impact on her beliefs. And a change in beliefs leads to a change in
actions.
107. Making her curious about the next time you have sex. Self-explanatory.
108. Doing something that makes her want to try out a new sexual technique/move. By the
way, you'll hear (or have heard) me say 'do something that makes her want to XYZ'...for the most
part, you can inspire a specific action just by a simple story where someone (ideally, a woman) is
DOING THE XYZ and be admired/praised in some way. It's that easy. So for this one, talk about
someone's girlfriend/wife who wanted to try a new sex move on the guy. The idea is to make the
woman seem excited about it while subtly implying that she's fun/sexy/adventurous/etc.
109. Getting her excited about playing a sexual game. You can do this with the 'having a
conversation about someone else doing it and being excited by it' method.
110. The desire to have an exciting relationship. The idea is to think of ways to get her into this
mindset. You can take a quiz together. Talk about a couple who has a really good relationship.
Talk about a couple who has a really bad relationship.
111. Getting her curious about an aspect of sex (that everyone else is doing). This could be a
particular sex act - something to 'add' to the sexual experience - a new way of doing it, etc. The
idea is to imply that lots of people are doing it. You can even frame it as a trend.
112. Projecting an 'I expect things to go my way' attitude. This is a good way to project a
specific type of confidence that women find desirable. So technically it's a sexual value technique,
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but because it's essential to get the most out of getting women turned on, I'm going to include it
her, because much of your success is based on your mindset. The guy who 'expects things to go
his way' doesn't cry and complain about problems in life. Instead, he's calm. And when things go
his way, he doesn't over-celebrate. He's still calm. To women, this is extremely attractive for many
reasons. It's one of those traits that penetrates all layers of attractiveness. If you're not doing this
already, as an experiment, take it up a notch - even if you feel like you're acting. It's simple. When
something good happens, project an attitude as if you expected it. If something undesirable
happens, project an attitude as if things will get better (even if you don't know the plan, yet). When
you see how the woman responds, you'll probably never directly complain about anything again.
113. Have her go on a website to pick out a new sex toy on a site that has reviews. This is
just a specific way to get her to go on a site and read stories of women talking about how much
pleasure they experienced. For example: http://www.adameve.com
114. Talk about two girls competing for a guy by having sex (brilliant). This one is kind of self-
explanatory, but the idea is to paint the movie in her mind of two women fighting over a guy by
trying to outdo the other sexually. A woman who hears a story like this will have somewhat of a
predictable response. Intellectually, she'll say it's pointless to fight over a guy. Yet, they all have
experiences with a female rival. The sexual component is icing on the cake. If you do this right, you
should be able to get her heated up within a few hours, especially if you're somewhat skilled.
115. Strengthening her own wacky sex beliefs. I don't care what it is, if she says something
about something weird that gets her horny, embrace it. For example, if she says it seems like when
there's a full moon I end up getting horny. Don't say 'that doesn't make sense'. Instead say
something like: That's interesting, I think I've heard other women say that before. They don't know
why, it just always happens. And people think they're joking, but when they notice the full moon it's
only a matter of time before the ITCHING URGE to have sex takes over... As you can see, you are
strengthening the belief.
116. Display a casual attitude about sex. A problem that some guys make in their relationships
is they make 'having sex' out to be this HUGE DEAL to their partner. If she's not in the mood one
night, the guy freaks out. He acts like it's the end of the world. He complains to other "strugglers"
(guys who also get turned down a lot - which is the WORST thing he could do). Don't bond with
other guys in this way! You'll end strengthening the wacky belief (like the previous item) that most
women are like this -- or that's it's normal. You don't want to train your brain the wrong way. You
want to always display a casual attitude about sex (in a relationship or with a woman you're dating).
If she says tonight is not a good night, then it's really no big deal. Over-valuing sex is creepy.
Stalkers overvalue sex (and/or the girl). He might have hundreds of pictures of her on his wall. With
candles and all that weird shit. He might send her flowers every day. Learn from the stalker. Don't
send the stalker signal in your relationship or with women you are dating. Be calm about sex. If
she's tired, don't get paranoid as if she's never going to want sex again. Don't excessively talk or
joke about sex.
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117. Indirect stories of women blowing their man away in bedroom. The idea is to talk about
other women blowing away their partners in the bedroom. The key to being effective is
understanding that your goal is to trigger her thought - so that she ends up thinking I want to blow
my man away, too. If you heard me explain this before (or you already know), when a person hears
stories they identify with a particular character. Knowing this, you want to subtly make the woman
out to be sexy, powerful and intelligent (that's the real prize - a grab bag of feelings that most
people crave).
118. The feeling that she misses you. This one is underestimated and yet widely known. Two
people miss each other. They reunite. They have very passionate sex. The problem is how do you
recreate this if you're not in a relationship that naturally brings out this feeling. Here's a hint. Think,
pseudo rejection. One of the benefits of the pseudo rejection is the General Lesson - which is you
can recreate feelings. There's levels of skill involved in doing this, but to keep it simple, talk about
times when she missed you before or (as a recurring suggestion) tell her stories about another
woman who deeply missed her partner. It's kind of like when women get aroused watching a movie
(a visual story) of a woman falling in love for the first time. Technically, she (as the viewer) isn't
actually going through this, yet she ends up getting in love mode which leads to her being aroused.
119. The idea that you’re an amazing husband/father/boyfriend/partner. Think of ways to

spark this feeling. It could be watching a TV show. It could be hearing about another couple where
the guy is a loser. She becomes so amazed at how much of a dick this guy is that she starts being
more appreciative of you.
120. Expecting a reaction and not getting it. For example. if she expects you to be angry about
something and you show a surprising level a calmness (that she isn’t use it) it creates ‘tension’.
Some women will attempt to press your buttons even more to get the reaction she expects. You
can also create tension by being upset with her about something (that's unexpected). In this case,
it should be appropriate.. Let's say she does something that doesn't meet your standards and you
get upset...if your response catches her off guard, it can create a lot of tension. In fact, you may
have found yourself getting angry with her about something and suddenly she's surprisingly more
affectionate towards you. That's because this type of tension easily converts into sexual tension.
121. Sexual desirable parts of partner. This obviously doesn't work if she doesn't find a single
body part of you sexy. However, you can get more 'bang for you buck' (either way) by working out
more and/or explaining how another woman (past girlfriend, woman at work, etc.) admired
something sexy about you. You obviously have to be careful. So whether you enhance her
awareness of this or it happens all by itself, a woman thinking about a specific part (i.e. abs, overall
body, ass, lips, etc.) is going to turn her on.
122. Buy her a very small handheld video player and load it with steamy sex scenes and
instruct her to watch it while she’s alone in the bathroom. This is technically a combo method that
features a recipe of impressions: (1) being told what to do (2) being secretive and naughty (3)
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exposing her mind to sexual stimuli. There's so many ways this could be done.
123. Play a pretend game of master and slave giving her naughty assignments. This is kind of
like the general version of the previous item, except you're precisely framing yourself as an
authority figure. Plus there's more flexibility.
124. Get her to recall a time when she was extremely horny but couldn’t figure out the
reason. This is a very specific type of memory. The idea is to challenge her to figure it out. It may
help to have a conversation a head of time (earlier that day, or even 2-4 days prior) about how
most people will get extremely horny and yet they never know the real reason. Tell a story. For
example, there was a woman who was asleep while her husband was flipping through the
channels and he stopped at a movie that was showing a steam sex scene. And the next morning
the woman wakes up horny and initiates morning sex - telling him that it’s been awhile since they
had morning sex - when the real reason was the steamy sex that she unconsciously heard while
she was asleep (or at least that's probably the reason). The idea of that story is to introduce the
concept that a person can end up acting on sexual urges without ever discovering what actually
triggered it. Then from there, challenge her to figure out if something like this has ever happened to
her. The real purpose is to get her to think about being turned on. That's all you really want to do.
Because the more she thinks about being horny, the more the tension is building. If this (all by
itself) ends up getting her turned on, it could be the most ironic forms of building sexual tension so
far.
125. Get her to think deeply about what makes couples have a strong connection. For most
women, just thinking about the connection is a turn-on. In romance novels you'll find brilliant
examples of sexual tension created via a strong connection or more specifically, the idea that there
is a strong connection.
126. Helping her overcome a stressful situation. In many cases, releasing tension in one area
creates a certain type of tension in another area. For example, the moment you start having sex,
you are technically releasing sexual tension. However at the same time you are creating/increasing
ORGASMIC TENSION. Women getting horny via making up often experience the REFLIEF OF
STRESS (no longer fighting). However, that type of tension release creates sexual tension. This
time of tension hardly does anything all by itself. Think of it as an enhancer.
127. The feeling of reassurance. Sometimes make up sex has this built-in. This is as a specific
type of 'tension builder' than the previous type. In other words, any type of 'jealous tactic'
(intentionally or non-intentional) is only as effective as the opposite signal: reassurance [relief of
jealousy]. That movement creates tension, much like physical movements (thrusting, rubbing,
teasing) creates tension. So making her feel reassured could be done by clearing up false
information or by giving her a better perspective (eliminating self-induced jealousy). Just don't
overdo it. If you create 'over-reassurance' (in some women), it will be almost impossible to build
sexual tension.
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128. The feeling that her relationship is better than she initially thought. If you’re like me, you
VERY RARELY have arguments or major blows up. In fact, just hearing the constant reference to
make-up sex may make you feel uneasy, because you know you're not likely to benefit from this
intense type of love-making. Relax. You can still create steamy tension by doing something slightly
different. I have to say, this is simple, but brilliant. Because you're having 'steamy make up sex',
except there's no fighting! How is that possible? First of all, you have to think in terms of contrast.
Going from fighting to ‘we have a normal relationship' (i.e. making up) is technically no different
than going from ‘we have a normal relationship’ to ‘Wow! We actually have an amazing
relationship’. Plus, there's a built-in rule that says people in great relationships have great sex.
Think of make up sex numerically as going from - 5 to 5, and think of going from 'average
relationship' to 'amazing relationship as going from 5 to 15. Both have a NET contrasting difference
of PLUS 10. Remember, in most cases, the core element of tension is MOVEMENT. In simple
terms, you can build fast sexual tension without fighting, drama and arguing. Here’s an example to
start with…(but over time, think of ways to improve it). You could say something like: “You know
what, I just realized that we have an amazing relationship. We do X. We are always doing Y. We
both love to Z. The average couple will do ABC. However, we do DEF…” Keep stacking reasons
and examples. With the goal being to get her to think YOU'RE RIGHT we do have an incredible
relationship. As a hint, I would leverage the component that make up sex has which is the intense
emotions, so as far as doing this at the right time, it could be made more powerful by 'layering' it on
an unrelated intense emotional state (for example, someone at her job really pissed her off). You
can say: 'Sweetheart. You have to remember that she's single and Valentine's Day is next month.
Don't be angry with her. Be nice, she's been single for 2 years. You have an amazing relationship.
We both XYZ...blah blah blah.
129. Better massage than normal. Obviously this requires that you have a history of giving her
massages from time to time. The idea is to give her a better and longer massage than she expects.
To get the most out of this type of tension building, you might have to do the pre-step of 4-5
massage sessions ahead of time - where you are stopping at a point where she wants you to
continue. Leave on a high note. It's like you're training her to expect a certain length of time. When
you finally give her the 'better message' (or foot rub), it's going feel much better.
130. More kissing than normal. Along the same lines as the previous item. Self-explanatory.
131. Complimenting a body part in a unique sexual way. I've had guys tell me that any time
they mention anything sexual, it's turns their partners off. This is always going to be the case, if you
do it the wrong way, you have little sexual value, you talk about sex too much or a combination of
those things. I was in that boat before. Any guy can recover from it. But understand that if you can’t
talk about sex without her getting upset, you have a HUGE WEAPON missing from your seductive
arsenal….it’s like showing up to a sword fight with a butter knife. The ability to talk about sex is a
MUST HAVE weapon. In fact, you want to get better at pushing the limits. Anyway the idea is to
compliment a body part and make it unique and sexy. For example: Tell her that her lips have the
sexiest taste ever - or that they have a sexy level of softness. Something a little shocking and
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unusual.
132. Laying down in the bed and talking about things that keep her laughing, feeling sexy or
both. Hint: In order to turn her on this (subtle) way, it's best if she has memories of times when this
has happened without sex taking place. For most women, when they sense that the guy is doing
certain things (that she values) just for sex, it ruins everything. Women love to talk, laugh and relax
in the company of people who respect & value her. Laying in the bed while talking about
pleasant/funny topics is a simple thing that gives her so many things that she loves all at once. If
this act is INFECTED with thoughts that you’re ‘showing up’ just for sex, it ruins everything. Plus,
you end up framing yourself as a low SV character (the sexually selfish guy who can't connect with
women on a basic level).
133. The Super Pussy Technique. This is the cousin of the Good Pussy Technique (mentioned in
one of the GHH Volumes). The idea is to wait for her to eat something she normally doesn’t eat.
Plus it has to happen on a night when you two have sex. Let’s say she ate sushi for the first time
and later on you have sex with her, the idea is to display an exaggerated level of arousal and/or
orgasm - (basically, a non-verbal sexual compliment). The idea is to create the appearance of her
having a Super Pussy. Don't make it about what she's doing. There's a difference. This can be fun
to do provided that you don’t get too silly with it. Like don't fall off the side of the bed with a smiling
tongue hanging out of your mouth. Besides, just like any compliment, she has to be sold on it. She
has to believe that you just had a monster orgasm. If she says anything that confirms that she
acknowledges your "appreciation", then smile and visually pat yourself on the back. All you have to
do is now is make a reference to the sushi being the cause. Is there something in sushi that makes
you feel better. Eating sushi in the future becomes an opportunity for her to get a (non-verbal)
compliment.
134. Showing/demonstrating selflessness (or unexpected level of selflessness). Specifically,

something that benefits her. Classic examples are pulling out her chair and things like that, but the
idea is to go beyond those things. Those things are overused and fried-out in most women's mind.
Let's say, there's only one of something left, be sure to give it to her. Things like that. This is
powerful because it sends a double-signal. One, you're a quality guy. Two, it makes her feel
special about herself.
135. Relief of social isolation (or perceived social isolation/loneliness). This falls under the
general category of 'relief of emotional pain'. This specific way of building tension is something you
can't manufacture on your own. Otherwise, the first step would be to make her feel all alone in the
world. That would be crossing the line as far as I'm concerned. Even though, we're taking a highly
strategic approach, the overall goal (especially if you're in relationship) is to build her up (not tear
her down). Bring more happiness into her life. That's what real men do. In fact, this type of report
(and example) may not be the appropriate place to mention what I'm about to say but if I'm with a
woman who is feeling socially isolated, I'm going to be more concerned with making her feel better.
I wouldn't even be thinking about how could I convert that into sex. However, it's a legitimate
sexual tension increaser and that's why it's mentioned - especially when it's combined with a few of
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the other items we covered. On the flipside if she were to say 'Wow. You're the greatest. Let me
repay you with a blow job', I'm not going to turn her down - because I believe in letting women
express their gratitude. Seriously, women crave companionship, deep connections and attention.
Whenever a women seduces a guy, she does it in a way that turns herself on. She captures his
full-attention. She's sexually playful. It's an intense connection. Also, many women have the
fantasy of being watched by other guys. More guys watching = More attention = More turned on.
One of women's deepest human desire is security.
136. A break from the everyday routine. A lot of guys with notice a mysterious spike in sexual
arousal every time they go on vacation. It’s like they are dealing with a totally different woman. It's
funny to hear a guy describe his partner as having a low sex drive (as if she's biologically capable
of only getting horny once in awhile) yet every time they go on vacation, her sexual desire
mysteriously spikes. Now, either he's catching the tip of the wave ever single time - or - the oxygen
in his neighborhood is suppressing her desire - or - he's benefiting from 'a simple concept' that can
also be done without taking a vacation. The truth is it's not just about the new/different place. A lot
of the tension comes from the BREAK from the everyday routine. Of course, the combination works
great, but often you don’t need to have a full blown vacation to benefit from the DRIVER - if you
use a little creativity.
137. Dressing up (in more formal attire) – Again, this has a similar affect as the previous
example, where it has actually a combo affect. Although, it’s always beneficial for her to see you
dressed in a way that’s more appealing, the CHANGE (from how she is accustomed to seeing you)
often has a hidden and greater impact..
138. Being unsure of whether you are angry with her. If you've been in a relationship with her
for some time, then you ended up getting her turned on by this method - whether you realized it or
not. However, it's only a massive sexual tension increaser if she respects you and cares about
what you think.
139. Doing a new activity together (cooking, pottery). Self-explanatory.
140. Being respectful, yet unusually less compliant. In other words, you are doing things more
on your terms than normal while being respectful. There are different versions of this that we can
explore at another time when it's more appropriate to go massively into detail (with example after
example). But I still want to explain it enough so that you understand what it is meant. For example,
if she were to ask you for a back massage and you say 'No. I'm not going to give you one right
now, but I will give you the best foot rub you ever had', this is confusing to most women. They don't
have a frame of reference to deal with this. As far as the impact, it could be thought of as a unique
version of 'he loves me. he loves me not' - except you're not upset with her. You're just not doing
everything she requests (or doing things on her terms). This type of tactic works 10x better for the
guy who is extraordinarily compliant (i.e. the guy who does 95-100% of everything she requests).
For this guy, it would this item would be a great way to break the cycle of being a Controlled
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Partner.
141. Being unusually and mysteriously carefree. Sometimes this works because it catches her
off guard. And that leads her mind down a path of possible outcomes. She's thinking 'Why is he
more carefree?' And then she reacts to a potential outcome which leads to 'increased sexual
tension'. Who knows maybe she considered whether you were sleeping around and forced herself
to 'see a mental movie' of a woman seducing you at work. And then her thoughts keep spinning
creating a combined affect of several items on this list. Other times, it works for totally different
reasons. She could reacting more to the increased sexual value. To her, you appear more
desirable. Other times, it's a combination of things.
142. Making her more conscious and aware of her sexiness by a constant judging of
women. Here's another one that you've probably benefited from (if you're in a relationship). The
idea is to judge different women. It doesn't matter if you're bashing the woman or praising her, it
still makes the target woman evaluate herself a little more. And anytime you can get a woman (by
any method) to wonder what you think of her, it elevates your short-term sexual value and sexual
tension.
143. Not knowing where you stand. This is similar to the 'being respectful, yet less compliant'
method, where the tension is actually created by their own internal thinking. Whenever there's a
conflicting message, the brain tries to make sense of it. Just like many (not all) of these items, the
effectiveness of this method will be based on your sexual value + execution. To do this method the
right way, she needs to be uncertain about where you stand on something important related to how
you perceive her, something about her, the current situation or something along those lines.
144. Wearing a cologne, deodorant or some sort of scent that she finds sexy. This falls under
the category of 'very easy way to build sexual tension', because it just requires you to ask what she
likes or remembering if she offers her opinion. Step 2: Wear it. As a tip, if you're out shopping
together and you're getting her to smell a few colognes to see which one she likes (which would be
smart), don't say: Which one smells better? Instead rephrase it: 'Which one makes me smell
sexier?' or 'Which one makes me smell so sexy, it makes you want to sexually attack me?' That
way, you create an anchor/association with smelling the scent and 'seeing herself being sexual
towards you'. Now, will it actually make her sexually attack when she smells you in the future? Not
likely. So I wouldn't actually expect that. If that happens, it's probably because other things were at
work. The purpose is to smell sexy along with your recipe of 'sexual tension increasers'.
145. Criticize something she did as a sexual turn-off in a joking but serious way. This works
really great (which is code-word for 'I do it all the time and love how well it works'). It creates a
similar impression as being critical of other women - something that was just mentioned, except the
effect is closer to home. In addition to that, there's an urge 'to become sexier'. The joking tone
makes it easier to accept. As a tip, a joking/playful tone is hands down one of the best ways to
send messages! On the other side, a serious/angry tone (for most women) is the WORST way to
send a message. So if you want to tell her that she's doing something that is a huge sexual turn-off,
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use a playful way of saying it as if you're teasing her. The key of course is that she also has to be
engaged in the laughter. So I'm not talking about a joking tone that pisses her off (where you're the
only one laughing), I'm referring to a mutually playful tone.
146. Short cycle happy-serious swing. Huh? Yeah I know, wacky name. It's simple. Here's
another persona-driven tactic which means technically you're building tension via increased short-
term sexual value. The idea is to be more happier than normal (extremely playful)(happy about
life)(laughing a lot) for a period of time (1hr - 5hr+) then switch to a more serious persona (hardly
laughing)(but not angry)(just serious) for extended period. If you have a lot of pre-tension built up
and you're using this as the Final Spark (the Last ST Tactic before you initiate sex), you will see it
work almost instantly.
147. Evaluate another woman in an authoritative way. The idea is to be critical for an extended
period of time where it’s almost as if the woman is trying to meet your approval. Of course, you're
not going to be talking to the other woman directly. As far as being critical, it can be about anything.
It's best if it's something that you and the other woman have in common. It would be ideal if it's
something that you're naturally superior. For example, let's say you're a Head Chef and her friend
is in culinary school. Then find something that allows you to lecture the friend (even though,
technically she's not around). This method is not about making her jealous. Although that could
slightly happen, that's not the goal. It's more about your target woman seeing you in the role of an
authority figure - where another woman is trying to meet your approval. Ok, maybe it has a little
more of a jealous component. Even though, the woman you're criticizing is not around, you still
want to word things as if she is actually saying 'Ok. Did I do a good job?'. So if you're helping the
new intern at work and let's say that at some point she actually said: 'Please don't be mad at me,
I'm trying my best' then tell your female partner about the experience. Always leverage your
experiences. So the 'movie in her mind goal' is for the target woman to see this image of an
attractive/quality woman trying to aggressively meet your approval.
148. Eating more protein than normal. Technically, anything you do to increase your
testosterone is going to give you a more attractive scent to your partner. It's funny because up until
a few days ago, I never took the time to read through all of my h-files in one setting. When I did, I
was amazed at how often 'eating more protein' showed up. Everyone has unique scents that is
colored by his diet and health. This one is straight-forward. If you're not doing this already, I would
suggest eating high quality protein (like whey, fish, lean meats). The reason why I'm stating it as
'eat more protein' is because they may not be the same as increase testosterone. In other words,
there could be some undiscovered chemical in protein that affects your pheromones so it would
make sense to label it specifically. Although, I like to rely on science, I think it's more important to
rely on your own patterns (even thought you may never figure out the science behind it). So this is
one of the few items that I'm not completely sure if it work for you, but who knows it could be the
missing link. In general, I do know that overall improve health is more attractive on many levels.
149. Creating some sort of visual of a hot woman admiring your uniqueness. This is kind of
similar to a recent item where you are evaluating another women (for the purpose of painting the
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visual of a woman fighting to meet your approval). In that situation, the implication could be that
you're around a woman (who happens to want to please you - potentially as a result of HER
PERSONALITY). This one is different. Actually, it's a great tactic to combine with that one because
the story could be slightly altered to accomplish both tactics. Although, for clarification, this one has
more to do with the woman noticing something unique/impressive about you. She's admiring you
for a reason (that has to do with WHO YOU ARE). It's best to pick something that your woman also
thinks is great about you.
150. Create the visual of another woman doing something 'your woman' does when she’s
horny. By the way, this is not something you attempt if you're struggling with basic tactics (like
elevating your respect, manipulating pleasure, etc.). And it has nothing to do with you not being
able to pull it off. This tactic involves having a lot of respect for her and her boundaries with other
woman. For example, some women are so emotionally fragile, that the thought of another woman
being interested in you is enough to spin her into a place that is so massively off track that she's
completely unmanageable (on a social level) for an extend period of time. Other women, you can
talk in great detail about the wild stuff you did with your ex-girlfriend and she'll look at you as if to
say: "Too bad for her that she doesn't get to do that with you anymore." So you always want to get
better at knowing her personal boundaries (as far as talking about other women and other aspects
that are relevant to getting her turned on). So this one (like other techniques) requires you to push
past her 'comfort level' a little. Anything excessive (especially with certain women) is going to be
too much. And when I say too much, I'm referring more about respecting her emotionally - and less
about it being an effective technique. To help you understand this. Imagine someone telling you
that another guy at her job has a crush on her. He's a nerdy nice guy who is afraid to look her in
the eyes. You hear the story and smile. The guy is no threat. But you could be affected differently if
you hadn't had sex with her in 2 months and every argument ends with 'I hate you. I'm going to
bang my sexy stud co-worker again!' Assuming that you don't want your woman banging other
guys (which is reasonable to mention in this day and age), that might leave a different impression.
That could be going too far (past your 'talking about other guys' boundary). In fact, that could be
ENOUGH for you to cheat or end the relationship. Who knows? Even though she may have never
cheated, it could be enough to convince you that is cheating. She went too far with her words. With
this tactic, it's self-explanatory. You're going to tell her a story about another women who was
doing something your woman does when she is horny. (As a note, it helps to know what she does
when she is horny - especially things she is aware of). There are many variations to this tactic. To
keep it simple -- and just in case you don't know any signs -- you can use the following example,
instead. Here's a sequence of a set of conversations that you can use: (1) The new hot woman
who just got hired at your job (2) She's funny and wild (3) She flirts with everyone but in a playful
way. (4) She doesn't mean any harm (5) Yesterday, she grabbed Tom's ass during the meeting (6)
Everyone thought they were going to have sex afterwards the way they kept looking at each other
(7) Oh I never told you about Tom. He's [describe him kindly as a guy who isn't too attractive -
which should SWAP OUT and REPLACE her initial visual of Stud Tom getting 'fondled' in the
meeting - which creates contrast, confusion and other things.] And if you really think she could
handle it, you could throw in (8) I like Tom. We have two of the same shirts. (8b) I like Tom. He
wear the same hat and drive the same exact car that I do. You're basically saying the new hot
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woman is willing to have sex with a guy at work. And the proof is a time when she tried to screw a
guy who is the LESSER version of you. So even though there's a lot of firepower thrown at her, it
still is only as effective as the appropriate time. For example, if she becomes too spoiled, wrapped
up in her own world, her brain needs to be reminded that you're a man or you could use a quick SV
boost.
151. Making her feel sexy with a new outfit. It's best if she already likes it. That way you only
have to 'sell her' on one thing (that you ALSO find it to be sexy). So the formula is: new outfit that
she finds sexy + an amazing compliment from you. It's important to be able to step into the mind of
the woman. Women have this way of thinking of outfits in sort of a magical way. As if somehow she
is INSTANTLY TRANSFORMED into a new person - just because of the outfit. So you can get
away with saying: "Wow it makes you look much thinner" / "Wow. It makes you look classier and
powerful as if you own several companies". Play to her fantasies and biggest desires. Use
combinations. "Wow. It makes you look sexy and powerful" / "Wow! It makes you look sexy and
classy". You could get away with this if you were trying to flatter a buddy: Wow dude, that new hat
makes you look like a Porshe-owner who's 5 inches taller with ripped abs. And then the guy pumps
his fist as if one person's (out-of-touch-with-reality) perspective = reality.
152. Using drama to spark her sexual competitive button. One way to do this is keep talking
about case after case where a woman was fighting for a man’s attention and the guy was ignoring
her. Of course you can't tell these stories in the direct sense. You have to make something else the
topic. So on the outside, it seems as though you are talking about all sorts of various topics, but
secretly they'll all have a common theme (or sub-plot). By the way, this example doubles as an
effective delivery method for other 'messages' that you want to send from other sexual tension
items.
153. Making her compete with herself. Yeah, I know it may seem impossible, but it can be done.
For example, when I first met you I was BLOWN away (this should start of as a compliment that
makes her feel good). You have to get the tone right, if she gets slammed with the presupposition
too early, everything collapse. You're now faced with 'Oh. So you don't think I'm hot anymore?'
Don't make the topic: You used to be hotter. Make the topic: I still remember when we first me and
all of the details. Then as you continue to compliment how she used to be, it should start to appear
as though you are complimenting someone different. Of course, the idea is to get her in I still got it
mode - which makes this useful for guys who's been in a relationship with their partners for awhile.
Of course, this works when the woman has an once of competitive juice. Otherwise, the reverse
could happen where the tension is decreased because she feels unsexy as a result of the
comparison. This goes back to knowing her. If she's not as competitive (which you can rephrase as
a woman who is motivated by easy/free victories), then you can use a more complimentary
approach, although the tension increase is much less, it's better than a decrease. But what you
should focus on (regardless of how competitive she is) is ANY POSSIBLE WAY that you can get
her in a fired-up 'I still got it mode'. Once you make a woman jealous of herself you'll realize that
there are no limits to how you can build sexual tension. This has the exact same impact of the
mother who flirts with her young daughter's boyfriend. She's in I still got it mode. Except, for this
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method, there is no daughter. The younger/hotter girl is 'how she use to be.
154. Getting her in the mindset of wanting to talk dirty to you. This is not the same as talking
dirty to her. When you talk dirty to her, the action is simple: You talk dirty to her. This is about
planting a seed that makes her want to talk dirty to you - which you'll find to be much more
effective. For example, you could say something like: 'I read somewhere that certain women are
basically Dirty Talking Geniuses...except I can't remember what they actually called them (notice
how you are starting the process of building the value of these mysterious elite group of women).
Anyway, these women are able to talk dirty to a man -- without ever being taught how to -- and they
can say something in under a minute and within a few seconds the guy will get rock hard. They say
the interesting thing about this is most women think men get turned on easily. It's a myth. So the
women who are capable of getting a guy turned on, they were saying that you really don't realize
how artful these women are because it's like they have the guy on puppet strings (notice the subtle
play on her desire to have power over the guy) because the human body goes through a series of
biological processes to create an erection (end it with a unshakable fact). Here's the cool part: Any
woman hearing something like this HAS NO CHOICE but to at least consider how good she is -
which leads to practicing in her mind. It really doesn't matter how good she is or thinks she is,
because if you set it up the right way, she could anxious to PROVE that she is in this elite group.
Now, keep in mind (with all of the examples used) that the EXAMPLE may not be the best way for
your woman. So it may not work for your target woman, but at least think in terms of 'what you
could say' that would plant the seed. And if she's not good (or doesn't think she is) then she's going
to want to be curious. She'll search on the internet and at that point she's likely to discover a few
simple lines and then she'll want to test her powers. Keep in mind, this was tactic #154. Let that
soak in for a minute...
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As you can see, I included extra blank line to encourage you to fill in anything that ends up working
for you. Even if you don't actually write anything in those spaces, they still help to show that there
are more ways beyond what was listed....
That's really what this is all about.
Over the years, I had people ask me questions about sexual tension, presupposing that it was
ONE WAY to do it...
So finally I created a report (3 Sexual Skills) that encouraged guys to create a list of every possible
way they could think of to build sexual tension..
As an afterthought, I decided to share the list I created (to show that there are lots of ways)(to
show that I practice what I preach).
You don't have to share your list with anyone - including me. Just as long as you are making notes
about what works and constantly adding to it. That's all that matters!
Much success!
~ CR James
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12. Making her feel sexy via compliments. Self explanatory.

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36. Getting her to thinking of masturbation. Self-explanatory.

37. Getting her to focus on what's great about sex. Self-explanatory.

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44. Kissing. Self-explanatory.

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75. Get Her To Brainstorm about sexual fantasies. Self-Explanatory.

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89. Getting her to want to experience an emotional bond. Self-explanatory.

90. Talking dirty to her. Self-explanatory.

94. Training her to feel appreciated during sex. Self-explanatory.

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119. The idea that you’re an amazing husband/father/boyfriend/partner. Think of ways to

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134. Showing/demonstrating selflessness (or unexpected level of selflessness). Specifically,

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139. Doing a new activity together (cooking, pottery). Self-explanatory.

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