The Looking-Glass Self
The Looking-Glass Self
The Looking-Glass Self
In the early 1900s, Thomas Cooley argued that the self-creation dynamic is similar to that of a mirror.
In imagination we perceive in another's mind some thought of our appearance, manner, aims, deeds,
character, friends, and so on, and are variously affected by it.
People's self-image is shaped by others, but this only happens through the mediation of their own
minds. One's perceptions of others' judgments can be highly inaccurate - for example, on a dance
floor, many people who see themselves as "good" dancers may be perceived as "bad" dancers, but
will nonetheless react as if they are good dancers.
The eye-gouging effect refers to the individual's selective application of looking-glass self - i.e. the way
they filter their self out among a large group of people.
To summarize, the relationship and alignment between the perceived and actual responses of others
is heavily dependent on context, and people generally select whose responses do and do not matter
to them.
According to Cooley, people learn to use the “looking-glass” — and thus learn who the self is —
through primary groups such as the family. Primary groups are “characterized by intimate face-to-face
association and cooperation (McIntyre, 1998).
They are primary in several senses but chiefly in that they are fundamental in forming the social
nature and ideals of individuals. The result of intimate association, psychologically, is a certain fusion
of individualities in a common whole, so that one’s very self, for many purposes at least, is the
common life and purpose of the group” (Cooley, 1998).
That is to say that Cooley believed that primary groups were strong agents of socialization and that in
primary groups, people learn to read what others are thinking and to discover what happens when
they adjust their behavior according to what they are thinking (McIntyre, 1998).
However, there remain two main controversies in how sociologists investigate self-image that the
looking-glass self addresses (Squirrell, 2020):
1. To what extent is the self-image shaped by society and circumstances, and to what extent is
the self a reflection of one’s essential qualities?
2. What frameworks can be used to understand how the environment shapes the self?