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They carried provisions for the soldiers, nursed them, and even fought alongside them if it was
necessary. It became a common sight to see women helping their husbands in the fields, carrying
on trade and business independently, and going out of their homes to satisfy their needs. A full-
fledged partner the predominant idea in the teachings of Islam with regard to men and women
is that a husband and wife should be full-fledged partners in making their home a happy and
prosperous place. They should also be loyal and faithful to one another, genuinely interested in
each other’s welfare and the welfare of their children. A woman is expected to exercise a
humanizing influence over her husband and to soften the sternness inherent in his nature. Once
a woman came to the Prophet (pbuh), with a complaint against her husband. He told her:
‘There is no woman who removes something to replace it in its proper place, with a view to
tidying her husband’s house, but that God sets it down as a virtue for her. Nor is there a man
who walks with his wife hand-in-hand, but that God sets it down as a virtue for him; and if he
puts his arm round her shoulder in love, his virtue is increased tenfold.’
The shari’a (Islamic Law) regards women as the spiritual and intellectual equals of men. The main
distinction it makes between them is in the physical realm based on the equitable principle of
fair division of labor. It allots the more strenuous work to man and makes him responsible for the
maintenance of the family. It allots the work of managing the home and the upbringing and
training of children to woman – a mission, which has the greatest importance in the task of
building a healthy and prosperous society. It is a fact, however, that sound administration within
the domestic field is impossible without a unified policy. For this reason shari’a requires man, as
head of the family, to consult with his family and then to have the final say in decisions concerning
it. In doing so, he must not abuse his prerogative to cause any injury to his wife. Any transgression
of this principle involves for him the risk of losing the favor of God. That is because his wife is not
his subordinate, but she is, the queen of her house, and this is the position a true believer is
expected to give his wife. In contrast to these enlightened teachings of Islam in respect of women,
the Western talk of women’s liberation or emancipation, is actually a disguised form of
exploitation of her body, deprivation of her honor, and degradation of her soul!
Obviously, if the Muslims have abandoned the guidance of the sharia, it cannot and should not
be taken in any way as a defect in the Sharia itself, rather, it is the fault of those who have
deprived themselves of this guidance. Keeping this basic point in view, here are some guidelines
regarding this issue: It is evident from studying the relevant materials found in the Noble Qur’an
and the Sunnah that Islam treats the relationship of marriage as a bilateral contract between a
husband and wife, each of them having some rights and obligations. The Noble Qur’an is very
clear on this point when it says:
(And the women have rights similar to their obligations…)
(Al-Baqarah 2: 228). It is clear from this verse that the obligations of a wife towards her husband
are no less than the rights she enjoys. The Noble Qur’an has summarized.
the obligations of a husband towards his wife in a short phrase where it has made it mandatory
for a husband to keep her with fairness.
(Al-Baqarah 2: 229). In another place, the Noble Qur’an instructs husband in the following
words:
( And live with them (wives) in fairness.)
(An-Nisaa’ 4: 19).
They are invited to cooperate with each other in solving the problems they face day to day. For
this purpose, it is advisable that as cooperating friends, they should divide the necessary work
between them according to their mutual convenience. The woman should look after the
management of the house while the man should be responsible for outdoor economic activities.
This division of work was the practice of the Muslims in the days of the Prophet (peace and
blessings be upon him). Even lady
Fatimah, the beloved daughter of the
Prophet (peace and blessings be upon
him) used to perform all the housework
with her own hands, while `Ali, her noble
husband, carried out the economic
activities. The Prophet (peace and
blessings be upon him) never objected to
this; rather, he encouraged his daughter
to perform all these tasks. It is true that
from a pure legal point of view, a wife may
refuse to cook meals or do other
housework, but on the other hand, the
husband may refuse to give her
permission to meet her relatives. And if
both of them are restricted to such a crude
legal relationship, an atmosphere of
mutual understanding and bilateral
cooperation cannot develop between them. Therefore, a wife should not consider the
housework to be a disgrace to her. In fact, her active contribution to her own housework is the
basic source of strength for the family system within the society.
It is a great service, not only to her family but also to the nation as a whole, because the
betterment of the nation depends on a smooth family system. It is strange that when an air
hostess serves meals to hundreds of strangers in an airplane, it has been taken today as a symbol
of liberalism, progress and emancipation, but when a housewife renders much lighter services to
her own family, it is considered a disgrace or sign of backwardness. Today Western countries are
facing the terrible situation of family breakdown. Their leaders are greatly disturbed because of
this drawback, which is caused by the lack of mutual cooperation between husband and wife and
their failure to determine the functions of the spouses according to their natural, biological and
religious requirements. In short, a wife is not legally bound to render the household services,
however, it is advisable that she performs these functions as a means of cooperation with her
family and an honorary service to the society as a whole, for which she deserves great reward in
the Hereafter. At the same time, the husband should always remember that the housework
undertaken by his wife is not a legal duty obliged on her; rather, it is a voluntary service she is
rendering for the benefit of the family. Therefore, a husband must always appreciate the goodwill
of his wife and should not treat it as a legal claim against her. Moreover, he should not leave all
the housework to her alone. The husband should provide her with servants wherever possible,
and should himself assist her in performing these functions.
It is reported in a number of authentic hadiths that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon
him), despite his great responsibilities, used to render many domestic services with his own
hands, like milking goats and washing his clothes. We do not find anywhere in his Sunnah that he
ever ordered any of his wives to do such work. However, his noble wives used to do these services
voluntarily without any specific command from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
It is not correct that all the books or literatures written on this subject only stress the obligations
of a wife. In fact, all the books of Islamic jurisprudence discuss the rights and obligations of both
spouses simultaneously. The husband is required not only to provide maintenance, but he is also
required to treat his wife “fairly” as the Noble Qur’an mentioned, so much so that Muslim jurists
have observed that a husband cannot travel for more than four months at one time without the
permission of his wife. However, unfortunately many Muslims are not aware of the teachings of
their religion and due to their ignorance; they commit errors in their behavior towards their
wives.