PERSONAL

DEVELOPMENT
STUDY NOTES
SELF-CONCEPT
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
How do you perceive yourself?
1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with
score 14-16 or somewhat weak ( score of 10-13) and very
weak (below 10).

2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but

other people consider as your strength? What are these?
Check with a partner.
How do you perceive yourself?
Example: a lady can say “I and ugly” yet other consider
her very charming. Or conversely, one can have the illusion
of saying “ I am very intelligent or competent” when most
of his ideas sound reasonable or illogical to most of the
people. There is indeed a big difference between what you
see in yourself (real self-image) and what is projected in
the eyes of the others (your social image).
How do you perceive yourself?
3. How realistic is your self-image?
4. To what extent does it reflect your real self?
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror.
What do you see? Do you see your ideal
self or your actual self?
Your ideal self is the self that you aspire
to be.
Your actual self is the one that you
actually see.
The actual self and the ideal self are two
broad categories of self-concept.
Self-Concept
-refers to your awareness of yourself.
It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In
other words, it connotes first the identification of the
ideal self as separate from others, and second, it
encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual
self that engage in to reach the ideal self.
The actual self is built on self-knowledge.
Self-knowledge is derived from social
interactions that provide insight into how
others react to you. The actual self can be
seen by others, but because we have no way
of truly knowing how others view us, the
actual self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we
want to be. It is an idealized image that we
have developed over time, based on what
we have learned and experienced. The ideal
self could include components of what our
parents have taught us, what we admire in
others, what our society promotes, and what
we think is in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two
selves which is complex because there are
numerous exchanges between the ideal and
actual self. These exchanges are exemplified in
social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted,
and are derived from outcomes of social
interactions from infant to adult development.
Alignment is important.
If the way that I am (the actual self) is
aligned with the way that I want to be
(the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of
mental well-being or peace of mind.
If the way that I am is not aligned with
how I want to be, the incongruence, or
lack of alignment, will result in mental
distress or anxiety. The greater the level
of incongruence between the ideal self
and real self, the greater the level of
resulting distress.
Personal
Effectiveness
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Personal Effectiveness
-means making use of all the
personal resources – talents, skills,
energy and time, to enable you to
achieve life goals.
Your knowledge of yourself and how you
manage yourself impacts directly on your
personal effectiveness. Being self-aware,
making the most of your strengths, learning
new skills and techniques and behavioral
flexibility are all keys to improving your
personal performance.
Our personal effectiveness depends on our
innate characteristics – talent and experience
accumulated in the process of personal
development. Talents first are needed to be
identified and then developed to be used in
a particular subject area (science, literature,
sports, politics, etc.)
Experience includes knowledge and
skills that we acquire in the process
of cognitive and practical activities.
Knowledge is required for setting
goals, defining an action plan to
achieve them and risk assessment.
Skills are also determine whether real
actions are performed in accordance
with the plan. If the same ability is
used many times in the same
situation, then it becomes a habit that
runs automatically, subconsciously.
Here are some skills that
will greatly increase the
efficiency of any person
who owns them:
1. Determination
It allows you to focus only on achieving
a specific goal without being distracted
by less important things or spontaneous
desires. It may be developed with the
help of self-discipline exercise.
2. Self-confidence
It appears in the process if personal development, as a result of
getting aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences.
Self-confidence is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing,
gait, and physical condition. To develop it, you need to learn
yourself and your capabilities, gain positive attitude and
believe that by performing right actions and achieving right
goals you will certainly reach success.
3. Persistence
It makes you keep moving forward regardless of
emerging obstacles-problems, laziness, bad
emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs or
overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed
with the help of self discipline exercise.
4. Managing stress
It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the
environment and other people. Stress arises from the
uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of
information creates the risk of negative consequences
of your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively
changing environment.
5. Problem-solving skills
They help cope with the problems
encountered with a lack of experience. It
increases efficiency by adopting new ways of
achieving goals when obtaining a new
experience.
6. Creativity
It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry
out a specific action that no one has tried to use. It
can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but
usually the speed of action is greatly increased
when using creative tools.
7. Generating ideas
It helps you achieve goals using new, original,
unconventional ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object
formed by the human mind, which can be changed before
being implemented in the real world. For generating ideas
you can use a method of mental maps, which allows you to
materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas, which
in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas.
Portfolio Output No. 1 – Talent/Variety Show
Presentation
Write about your experience as group
leader/member in your talent show activity in
two (2) paragraphs with a minimum of five
(5) sentences each paragraph.
Build on your strengths
and work on you
weaknesses
MY BANNER – THE TREASURE WITHIN ME
Portfolio Output No. 2
Write about your banner.
1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and
talents?
2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or
compensate for your weaknesses?
3. How can you further enrich your assets and strengths?
4. Where and how do you use it to your best advantage?
Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not
recognized or probably recognized but not given
appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a
weakness in communications, personality or ability.
Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take
action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading,
attend personality development sessions or whatever
appropriate remedies to your perceived weaknesses.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses,
recognize your own talents and abilities, build on
them, utilize them to your greatest advantage. This is
where you can build your name and popularity.
Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and other
blind singers did not brood over their physical
handicap. They recognized that they have a golden
voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent and
now they have won international fame in the field of
music.
YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR
FUTURE
There are three kinds of people in this world:

The first is the Moviegoer. This person watches the movie of their
lives, admires some parts and criticizes others. Aside from that, they
do nothing else. All she says the whole day is, “I like this thing and
but I don’t like that thing.” The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely
no control of their lives --- except to comment about it. Moviegoers
are the most pathetic, miserable people in the world.
The second is the Actor. This person does not only watch
the movie of her life. She actually realizes she’s the Actor –
and can control a big part of her life. She can actually make
or break the movie – by how well she delivers her lines and
how she portrays her character. Actors are a happy bunch,
realizing they’re the start of the show and enjoy some level
of control. But many times, they wish the movie would end
in another way – but realize that they have no say in such
things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not
only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she
actually creates the entire movie from her mind.
She determines what she will say, what she will do,
and how the movie will end. She realizes she has
enormous control over her life, and sees to it that
the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
Portfolio Output No. 3
Questions:
1.) Who are you among those three people? and why?
2.) What does the story tries to convey about getting to
know everything?
3.) How does knowing oneself better make a person accept
his/her strengths and limitations, and improve the way he
deals with others?
Portfolio Output No. 4
Portfolio Output No. 5
Write about your thoughts, feelings, ideas, dreams and opinions for the whole week.
You may use these guide questions as you write in your journal.
1. How do you find this week? What are the positive things that happened? What are
those things that made you irritated or upset?
2. What are the ups and downs of your day? What may be the greatest lesson you can
learn from them? What actions have you done well and what actions you can do better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for yourself, your family,
your community, your country?
4. As you close the day/week, what are the small and big things you are thankful of? Who
are the people that made your day/week extra special?
Developing the
Whole Person
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Assess Aspects of your Development
Directions: Draw a large circle on a blank sheet of
paper. Divide the circle into 8 segments. In each
segment, write some descriptions of the different
aspects of yourself as follows:
1. Physical Self
Describe yourself. Try not to censor any thoughts
which come to your mind. Include descriptions of
your height, weight, facial appearance, and quality
of skin, hair and descriptions of body areas such as
your neck, chest, waist, legs.
2. Intellectual Self
Include here an assessment of how well you reason
and solve problems, your capacity to learn and
create, your general amount of knowledge, your
specific areas of knowledge, wisdom you have
acquired, and insights you have.
3. Emotional Self
Write as many words or phrase about typical
feelings you have, feelings you seldom have,
feeling you try to avoid, feeling you especially
enjoy, feelings from your past and present, and
feelings which are associated with each other.
4. Sensual Self
Write how you feel as a sensual person. What sense do
you use most - sight, hearing, speaking, smelling,
touching? How do you feel about the different ways
you take in information – through the eyes, ears,
mouth, nose, pores, and skin. In what ways do you let
information in and out of you body?
5. Interactional Self
Include descriptions of your strengths and weaknesses
in intimate relationships and relationships to friends,
family, co-students and strangers in social settings.
Describe the strengths and weaknesses which your
friends and family have noticed. Described what kind
of son or daughter, brother or sister you are.
6. Nutritional Self
How do you nourish yourself? What foods do you
like and dislike? What do you like and dislike
about these?
7. Contextual Self
Descriptors could be in the areas of maintenance of
your living environment: reaction to light,
temperature, space, weather, colors, sounds and
seasons and your impact on the environment.
8. Spiritual Self or Life Force
Write words or phrases which tell about how you feel
in this area. This could include your feelings about
yourself and organized religion, reactions about your
spiritual connections to other, feelings about your
spiritual development and history, and thought about
your metaphysical self. Think about your inner peace
and joy. Think about your spiritual regimen or routine.
Portfolio Output #5: Personal Assessment of
Aspects of Development with Plan of Action
Write about the 8 segments of your development. What are the words or
phrases which represent aspects about yourself which you like? What are
the items which you consider to be weaknesses or areas for improvement?
What words which are neutral or factual, such as “5 feet 4 inches tall, 120
pounds”? Do some categories have more minus than plus areas? The larger
proportion of minus to plus areas you have, the more effort will be needed
to achieve positive self-esteem. If the vast majority of your minus responses
are in one or two areas, your self-esteem is likely to be good but has a few
self-estimates which needed to be improved. Name some ways in which
you can improve the minus areas and further enhance the positive aspects.
ASPECTS OF THE SELF
The self-concept is represented by several aspects of the
self. It is conceived as collection of multiple, context-
dependent selves. This construct believes that context
activates particular regions of self-knowledge and self-
relevant feedback affects self-evaluations. A deeper look on
the different aspects of self can identify specific areas for
self-regulation, stability and improvement.
THREE BASIC, BUT VERY DIFFERENT
ASPECTS OF THE SELF

In a nutshell, an individual is composed of

three basic, but very different aspects of the
self. All three aspects of the self work together
in perfect harmony when attention is paid to
all three simultaneously.
Physical Or Tangible Aspects-
• as they relate to the body (height, weight, facial appearance, and quality
of skin, hair and descriptions of body areas such as your neck, chest,
waist, legs)
• ➢ Many individuals put a strong emphasis on the physical aspect of the
self. The body is tangible, obvious, and we respond to it easily. More time
and money is spent on enhancing the physical component than either of
the other two aspects. This does not mean, however, that the body is
healthy or strong. The body provides a place to house the spirit (often
experienced as feelings) and the mind (often experienced as thought).
Intellectual And Conscious Aspects
• as they relate to the mind (include how well you reason and solve problems, your
capacity to learn and create, your general amount of knowledge, your specific areas
of knowledge, wisdom you have acquired, and insights you have.)
• ➢ It may be important to some that their mind can be prominent and well
educated. The mind is important, as it is the part of the self that directs the other
two aspects. The mind learns what to do and communicates the information to
the body and the feelings. What the mind believes, the body manifests or acts on,
and the emotions feel, or respond with. People store both healthy and
destructive thoughts and beliefs and responds to life's circumstances in the most
prominent manner. The mind provides access creativity and serenity which are
necessary for such processes as prayer, forgiveness, acceptance, and passion.
Emotional and Intuitive Aspects/ Spiritual Self or
Life Force as they relate to the spirit and feelings
• Emotional relates to typical feelings you have,
feelings you seldom have, feelings you try to avoid,
feelings you especially enjoy, feelings from your past
and present, and feelings which are associated with
each other.
• This aspects of self affects your state of being, and
they are very important in dealing with people and
events.
• The human emotions are the most feared aspect of the
self, as individuals are reluctant and unprepared to
manage them. Managing feelings is like trying to hold
water in the palm of your hand. They are illusive and
deceptive. A decision made under emotional stress and
strain usually impacts emotions negatively. Negative
emotions that are not managed are stored and repressed.
Repression is destructive to a content self since all
feelings, not only negative ones are stored away.
Accessing feelings when they are needed now becomes
difficult, leaving the individual numb and hopeless.
• For instance, a girl realizes that she is giving much
attention on the physical aspects and less attention on her
intellectual self. In this way, she can discover how much
money and time spent maintaining her physique and its
consequences in her grades. By this honest evaluation of
herself, she can plan effective actions to improve her
study habits. She can start seeking for help and for
related books to read or browse articles to help her
improve her study habits.
Sensual Self
• Relates to our senses.
• How we use our senses, how we react or receive
information and in what ways do you let
information in and out of your body.
Interactional / Social Self
• Relates on our relationship with other people
particularly those with your peers and family.
• Relates about your strength or weaknesses in a
relationship (as child, siblings, friend or partner).
Nutritional Self
• Relates to nutritional status.
• What are the foods you take to keep your
body healthy? Exercise made?
Contextual Self
• Relates to your reaction to light,
temperature, space, weather, colours, sound
and seasons and your impact on the
environment.
 Intuitive Aspects/ Spiritual Self or
Life Force
• relates to your faith and relationship with the creator
Creativity relates to your feelings about yourself and
organized religion, reactions about your spiritual
connections to others, feelings about your spiritual
development and history, and thought about your
metaphysical self. Think about your inner peace and
joy. Think about your spiritual regimen or routine.
• These other aspect of yourself has also great
contribution to your holistic development. These
must be develop together with the 3 basic aspect
(physical self, intellectual self, emotional self or
aspect). All Eight aspects of development should
be given equal attention in your development to
be holistically developed.
• These other aspect of yourself has also great
contribution to your holistic development. These
must be develop together with the 3 basic aspect
(physical self, intellectual self, emotional self or
aspect). All Eight aspects of development should
be given equal attention in your development to
be holistically developed.
Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
• It’s 1990 in the province of General Santos in the Philippines. Manny
Pacquiao is 12 years old. Pacquiao often speaks of his debt to his
maternal uncle, Sardo Mejia, who introduced him to boxing after he
dropped out of school. It was this moment that would spark an
unforeseen passion and drive in Pacquiao to be one of the best boxers
in the entire world. According to his autobiography, he describes
watching Mike Tyson’s shocking defeat to James “Buster” Douglas in
1990 on television with his uncle as an experience that “changed [his]
life forever.”
Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You

In his hometown, he set up an open-for-all

boxing match and beat every opponent who
came. He was well on the road of transforming
himself from a lanky school dropout to a junior
boxing champion.
 Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
• Despite his success, his family was still living in
extreme poverty and hunger. They became so desperate
to the point that his father had to kill his pet dog for
dinner. Pacquiao couldn’t forgive his father for what he
did so he left home, slept on cardboard boxes, and sold
bread on the streets just to make a meager living. At
that point, he also used boxing and won matches for $2
each, as a means of escaping poverty.
 Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
• He soon moved to Manila and continued winning several boxing
matches, but given the increased standards of living, he wasn’t
making enough to survive. He soon got a job at a local gym doing
gardening, cleaning and construction while boxing on the side. He
trained crazily all day and all night when possible, waking up the
earliest and leaving the gym at the latest possible time. Early on, his
perseverance and determination to be a part of the boxing world
swayed him to cheat and add on some weights to meet the
featherweight class requirements.
 Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
• As the fights got more serious, Pacquiao started getting more
famous as well. He would beat fighters from South Korea, Japan
and Thailand and at the very young age of 19, he won his first
World Champion title by beating Chatchai Sasakul, the reigning
World Boxing Council (WBC) World Flyweight Champion at
that time. The turning point for Pacquiao came when he won
against world-class featherweight boxer Marco Antonio Barrera
at the Alamodome in Texas with a TKO.

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 Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story
Will Inspire You
• After that fight, he was recognized internationally as a
force to be reckoned with. Today, at 37, he is one of the
most respected boxers. Despite his loss during the
Mayweather match, he still has won the hearts of many
boxing fans both in the Philippines and worldwide. His
one-of-a-kind story will continue to inspire and it will
always portray the journey of what millions of Filipinos
continue to aspire for.

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 The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
• Pia Alonzo Wurtzbach was crowned “Miss
Universe” at the 64th Miss Universe 2015 pageant
held at Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. She is an actress
and model of German-Philippine origin. She is Miss
Philippines 2015. She symbolizes the deadly
combination of beauty with brains. Pia is a beauty-
writer, chef and make-up artist.
 The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
• Pia Wurtzbach was born on 24 September 1989 in Stuttgart, Baden-
Württemberg, Germany. Her father is a German and mother is a
Filipino. She has a younger sister. She was named in keeping with the
Philippines' tradition. Her middle name 'Alonzo' is her mother's
maiden name. She took her secondary education from ABS-CBN
Distance Learning School in Quezon City. She studied Culinary Arts
from the Centre for Asian Culinary Studies, San Juan, Metro Manila.
Pia ventured into the world of glitz and glamour at the tender age of
fourteen.
 The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
• She joined an acting and modelling agency for children, 'Star Magic
Talent'. She got a break in television when she featured in K2BU, a
series for teenagers, the romance collection, 'Your Song' and the
concert programme, 'ASAP'. She has acted in films; 'All My Life', 'All
About Love' and 'Kung Ako Na Lang Sana'. She was the brand
ambassador for 'Avon Teen' for a period of five years. She has graced
the cover of several prestigious fashion magazines. She writes for the
2bU column of 'Inquirer Lifestyle'. She is popular as Pia Romero, her
screen name.
 The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
• Pia is a pageant title-holder. Her first beauty contest
was the 'Binibining Pilipinas 2013'. She was the 'first
runner-up'. She participated in the 'Binibining
Pilipinas 2015' as a representative of Cagayan de
Oro and won the title, paving the path for bigger
victories.
The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
• Pia Alonzo walked away with the “Miss Universe” title
at the Miss Universe Pageant 2015 held on December 20
at The Axis, Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. The 26- year old
beauty set the stage ablaze with her poise, incredible
class and talent in her exotic gorgeous ball gown and
costumes. She was crowned by her predecessor, Paulina
Vega. As Miss Universe, Pia aspires to lead the youth
and to spread awareness about HIV, especially in
Philippines.
Portfolio Output No. 6 – Success Stories
1. Can you identify with any of the characters
mentioned – Manny Pacquiao and Pia Alonzo
Wurtzbach? In what ways?
2. What lessons can you learn from the character
you have chosen?
3. How would you like your life story to be told?
Share/write your own future story.
Portfolio Output No. 7- My Recipe Of Success
Instruction: Make your own recipe of success.
It must directed to the achievement of your
goal. Identify your goal (you may refer to the
previous activity of aspects of self-inspired by
the success stories) and break it down into a
recipe.
Example
Knowing which wolf to feed is the first step
towards recognizing you have control over your
own self. Have you ever had thoughts, feelings or
acted in ways that were unacceptable to yourself
but felt powerless to control? The purpose of this
story is to help you find ways to manage your mind
so that you can live your life more in accordance
with what your own judgment says is best for you.
As we grow up, we gradually become aware
of the many things in the external world
which are largely beyond our ability to
control. These include other people in general
and most events in our lives. Initially this is
difficult to accept, but a more shocking
realization is that there are many things about
ourselves that we seem powerless to control.
Some of these are our own thoughts, feelings, and
actions which unfortunately can be the source of
much distress. It may be thoughts such as “I cannot
stop hating my teacher for not giving me high
grades.” It may involve an emotion e.g. “My
girlfriend left me and I cannot stop feeling sad,
lonely and unloved.” It can also be in the form of a
behaviour such as the inability to control one's
craving for food such as cakes and chocolates.”
But are we indeed really powerless to control our own
maladaptive thoughts, feelings and actions? The
grandfather’s answer "The one you feed" is deceivingly
simple. The results of psychological research indicate that
there are at least four important concepts or ideas implied
by the answer:
1. The mind is not the unitary entity it seems to us but
consists of different parts. For example in the story there
are the two wolves and the “you” that chooses between
them.
2. These parts of the mind/brain can interact and be
in conflict with each other i.e. the two wolves fight
for dominance over our mind and behavior.
3. The “you” has the ability to decide which wolf it
will feed.
4. Having made a choice, “you” can decide
specifically how to “feed” or nurture the selected
wolf.
Portfolio Output No. 8
Instruction: Write your thoughts, feelings and opinions on the
following questions. By taking time to do this, you will learn to better
manage your mind, feelings, and actions and consciously feeding the
good wolf in you.
The STORY OF THE TWO WOLVES gives rise to a number of
questions.
1. How aware are you of the two different opposing “wolves” operating
within your mind, one of which leads to pain and a diminished sense of
life and the other to a joyous, meaningful, and fulfilling life?
2. When was the time you feel disappointed by
the choice of behavior because you knew that
there was a more positive option but you just
didn’t choose it?
3. What ways or techniques or exercises do you
use to strengthen yourself so as to increase its
potency to choose and hence control your life?
4. In what specific ways do you
feed the negative wolf?
5. What specific ways do you use
to feed the positive wolf?
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