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 Objects and behaviors (external) that are
often confused as needs, which are
Any word that follows "I need you to..." is
actually strategies to meet needs (internal):
(with some possible needs listed in parenthesis) a strategy to meet a need and is being
Money (autonomy, sustenance, support)
stated as a demand:
Sex (intimacy, expression, play) Obey Give
Touch (intimacy, affection, companionship) Comply Be Responsible
Conversation (expression, understanding, connection) Conform Listen
Time Together (connection, fellowship, closeness) Relent Love
Food (energy, comfort, relief, nourishment) Respect Accept
Exercise (health, recreation, play, stimulation) Validate Listen
Work (purpose, meaning, sustenance)
Car (mobility, autonomy, convenience)
House (protection, comfort, shelter)
Chocolate (chocolate is, in fact, a need :) ) Words that imply intent and assume facts
not in evidence (feelings & needs):
Needs that contribute to our Lie
Ignore
physical well-being: Cheat
Abandon
(with some possible strategies listed in parenthesis) Manipulate
Misbehave
Steal
Disobey
Energy (food, stored calories, oxygen) Attack
Nourishment (vitamins, minerals, nutrition, water)
Vitality (exercise, nutrition)
Rejuvenation (sleep, rest)

Adapted from Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D.