Interview

Topic: Experience of sadness in house wives

Interviewer: Assalam o Alaukum! Haal Chaal k bad, kya name hai apka?
Bakhtawar: Mera name Bakhtawar hai
Interviewer: Kitni umar hai apki?
Bakhtawar: : Meri umar taqriban 52 saal hone wali hai: Aap shadi shuda? Or kitne saal hog ye
shadi ko?
Bakhtawar: : Me shadi shuda ho or meri shadi ko 32 saal ho gye hai
Interviewer: Ap susral walo k sath rahi hai ya un se alag?
Bakhtawar: : nai alag ghar me rahti ho apne miya k sath 2 bache sath rahte hai aik beta or beti
Interviewer: Insaan ghar me rah rah kr kaye bar udaas ho jata hai to ap ne kabhi aisa mahssos
kiya?
Bakhtawar: : ha ho jata hail kai bar
Interviewer: kya koi recent waqiya share kare gi jb aap ne khud ko udaas mahsoos kiya ho?
Bakhtawar: : Mujhe hal hi mein udaasi mehsoos hui jab mera beta kaam ke silsile mein Lahore
chala gaya tha aur wo 10-15 din baad aata hai. Uski yaad mujhe kabhi kabhi udaas kar deti hai.
Iske ilawa, meri 4 betiyon ki shadi ho chuki hai, aur unki yaad bhi mujhe udaas kar deti hai. In
sab mamlat mein mujhe ehsaas hota hai ke mere kareeb ke log mujhse door hain aur mujhe unki
yaad mein udaasi mehsoos hoti hai. Baqi to aur khaas koi baat nahi hai jo mujhe udaas kar sake.
Baqi to aur khaas koi baat nahi hai jo mujhe udaas kar sake. Main apni family ke saath hoon aur
unki khushi mein apni khushiyan dhoondhti hoon. Udaasi ka ehsaas to hota hai, lekin main apne
zindagi ke achhe palo par tawajjo deti hoon taki mujhe khushi aur sukoon mil sake. Jab mere
beta kaam ke liye Lahore gaya, mujhe ek ajeeb sa lacharpan mehsoos hua. Uske muskurahat aur
shararat bhare chehre ki yaad mujhe har waqt satati thi. Uska door rehna mujhe apne zindagi ke
ek aham hisse se mehroom kar deta tha. Lekin phir bhi, maine apne aap ko samjha ki yeh uska
career ka hissa hai aur mujhe uski kami ko samajhne ki zarurat hai. Uski kami ko mehsoos karte
hue bhi, maine uske liye duaen bheji aur apni shiddat aur hosla uske safar ki kami ko mehsoos
karne mein kamayabi se samjha. Meri betiyon ki shadi hone ke baad, unki yaad bhi mujhe kabhi
kabhi udaas kar deti thi. Lekin phir maine socha, yeh to ek naya safar hai, ek naya rishta. Unki
khushi mein meri khushi hai aur main unki nayi zindagi mein shamil hone ka intezaar karti hoon.
Main unhein duaon mein yaad karti hoon aur unki zindagi mein khushiyan aur samriddhi ki
kamna karti hoon. Mujhe kabhi kabhi mehsoos hota hai ke mere kareeb ke log mujhse door hain,
lekin phir main sochti hoon, doori sirf fiziki hoti hai, dil se to hum sab ek hain. Main unke saath
apne khushiyon aur ghamon ko baantti hoon aur unke saath apni khushiyan dhoondhti hoon. Yeh
soch kar, mujhe ek ajeeb sa sukoon mehsoos hota hai aur main apni zindagi ke har pal ko puri
shiddat aur khushi se guzarti hoon.
Interviewer: Apki life me koi aisa waqiya hai jo apko sab se zayada udaaas kr deta ho?
Bakhtawar: : Meri zindagi mein sabse zyada udaas karne wala waqia betiyon ki shaadi ka hi
hai. Unki rukhsati ke waqt dil ko bohot takleef hovi. Jab mere betiyon ke ghar jana parta hai, to
dil ko bohot bhar aata hai. Unke saath guzre palon ki yaadon se dil bhar aata hai. Aur agar unki
taraf se koi buri khabar aaye, to udaasi aur bhi zyada hota hai. Betiyon ki khushiyan mere liye
bohot ahem hoti hain, lekin unki duri or yad dil ko udaas kar deti hain. Main unki khushiyon
mein khush hoti hoon, lekin unki yaadon mein bhi udaasi mehsoos hoti hai. Udaasi ka ehsaas har
maa ke liye natural hota hai, lekin main khud ko sambhalne ki koshish karti hoon aur apne dil ko
hosla deti hoon. Betiyon ki khushiyan meri khushiyan hain, lekin unki yaad mujhe udaas kar deti
hain. Betiyan ghar ki shaan hoti hain, unke aane se ghar mein khushiyan ka silsila chalta hai,
lekin jab woh apne ghar jaati hain, dil ko ek ajeeb si adhuri pan ka ehsaas hota hai. Unki
muskurahat, unki baatein, sab kuch yaad aata hai aur dil ko ek ajeeb sa dukh hota hai. Shayad
isiliye kehte hain, betiyan toh parayi hoti hain, lekin unki khushiyan apni hoti hain. Main unki
khushiyan dekh kar khush hoti hoon, lekin unki yaadon mein bhi doob jaati hoon. Har maa ko
apne bachon ki khushiyan dekh kar khushi hoti hai, lekin unki judai ka ehsaas bhi kuch khaas
hota hai. Jab betiyan apne ghar jaati hain, unki kami ko mehsoos karna to ek natural feeling hai.
Unki yaadon mein doob kar dil ko sukoon milta hai, lekin ek ajeeb si udaasi bhi hoti hai. Shayad
yeh maaon ka qatra qatra gham hai, jo unki khushi se juda hota hai. Lekin phir bhi, main apne dil
ko samjhati hoon, aur kehti hoon, yeh toh ek naya safar hai, ek naya muqam, jahan meri betiyan
apni zindagi ke naye pehluon ko dekhne ja rahi hain. Main unki khushiyon mein khush hoon, aur
unki yaadon mein bhi. Unki judai ka gham toh hai, lekin phir bhi, unki kami ko mehsoos karte
hue bhi, main unki kamyabi aur khushi mein apni khushiyan dhoondhti hoon. Betiyan ghar ki
raunaq hoti hain, aur unki khushiyon mein hi meri khushi hai. Udaasi ka ehsaas to hota hai, lekin
uss udaasi ko khushi mein tabdeel karne ki koshish karti hoon, taki unki judai ka gham, unki
khushi mein tabdeel ho sake.
Interviewer: Apke zaati talauqat pr saadnness kis tarah asar andaaz hoti hai?
Bakhtawar: koi khass nai main bas apne kaam mein masroof rehti hoon aur apne miyan ke saath
baatein karte hue khana pakati hoon. Jab udaasi hoti hai, to main apne kaam mein aur zyada
dhyan deti hoon aur khud ko aur zyada masroof kar leti hoon. Khana pakana ya ghar ke kaam
mein masroof reh kar mujhe thori tasalli milti hai, lekin dil mein udaasi ka ehsaas phr bhi rehta
hai. Miyan ke saath baatein karte hue ya unke saath waqt guzarte hue mujhe kuch sukoon milta
hai, lekin agar udaasi ka ehsaas hai to wo bhi andar se mehsoos hota hai. Main apne kaam mein
masroof reh kar apni udaasi ko chhupa leti hoon. Ghar ka kaam karne mein mujhe sukoon milta
hai. Khana pakana, ghar sajana, yeh sab mere liye ek terhan ka therapy hai. Jab main apne kaam
mein masroof hoti hoon, to mujhe lagta hai ke main apne zehan ko shaant aur tawajjo dilwa rahi
hoon. Kaam karne mein itna masroof rehna mujhe udaasi se door rakhta hai. Main apne miyan ke
saath waqt guzar kar bhi sukoon mehsoos karti hoon. Unke saath baatein karna, unki muskurahat
dekhna, yeh sab mujhe dil ko sakoon deta hai. Lekin phir bhi, kabhi kabhi udaasi ka ehsaas hota
hai, jo andar se mehsoos hota hai. Apne kaam mein masroof rehna mujhe ek ajeeb si distraction
bhi deta hai. Main apne zehan ko kaam mein laga deti hoon taki wo udaasi ki taraf na jaaye.
Kaam karne mein itni masroofiyaat hoti hai ke kabhi kabhi main apni udaasi ko bhool jaati hoon.
Lekin phir bhi, wo udaasi ka ehsaas rehta hai, bas andar hi andar daba hua. Shayad yeh ek
tareeqa hai mujhse khud ko distract karne ka, taki main apne dard ko kam kar sakoon. Miyan ke
saath waqt guzar kar mujhe thori tasalli milti hai. Unki baatein sunna, unke saath waqt bitana,
mujhe sukoon aur khushi deta hai. Lekin phir bhi, udaasi ka ehsaas kabhi kabhi guzarta hai.
Main unki khushiyon mein apni khushiyan dhoondhti hoon, lekin phir bhi, andar se ek ajeeb sa
dard rehta hai. Shayad yeh maaon ka fitrat hai, ke apne bachon ke door hone ka gham hamesha
dil mein basa rehta hai.
Interviewer: Apke kuch zaati taluqat jo apki udaasi pe asar andaas krte ho?
Bakhtawar: Nai aisa to kuch nai hai, Meri zaati taaluqat par udaasi ka asar kam hota hai, lekin
kabhi kabhar narazgi ka ehsaas ho jata hai jo kuch dino mein khud ba khud theek ho jata hai.
Yeh to har ghar mein hota hai, aur kisi bhi rishte mein choti moti narazgiyan hoti rehti hain. Jab
narazgi hoti hai, to udaasi ka ehsaas bhi ho jata hai, lekin phir bhi wo masla khud ba khud hal ho
jata hai. Har ghar mein preshaniyan aati hain, lekin unka hal bhi hota hai. Main apne mizaaj ko
sambhalne ki koshish karti hoon aur choti choti narazgiyon ko dil se door karne ki koshish karti
hoon. Is tarah, mera mizaaj aur udaasi par asar kam hota hai aur ghar ka mahol sukoon se bhara
rehta hai.
Interviewer: Udaasi apki ghar ki zemedari pe kis had tak asar andaaz krti hai?
Bakhtawar: Udaasi ka asar ghar ke har kaamon par hota hai. Jab main udaas hoti hoon, to
mujhe lagta hai ke ghar ke har kaam me dil chaspi khatam ho jati hai. Har cheez ek mushkil lagti
hai, aur mujhe lagta hai ke main sab par kafi zyada bojh dal rahi hoon. Kaam karne ke bawajood
bhi, mujhe mazeed gussa aur chidchada pan mehsoos hota hai. Udaasi ka ye asar mere ghar ki
mahol ko bhi mutasir karta hai. Mere ghar walay bhi meri udaasi ko mehsoos karte hain . Ghar
mein ek bechaini si mahsoos hoti hai, jaise ke kuch kami hai, jise pura hona chahye. Har cheez
alag hi lagti hai, jaise ke koi rukawat hai. Is halat mein, ghar ke har ek banday kaam karte hue
bhi apne andar ke udaasi ko mehsoos karte hain aur is se ghar k mahool mein ek ajeeb si bechani
peda ho jata hai. Udaasi ek aisa ehsaas hai jo ghar ke har kone tak apna asar dikha deta hai. Jab
main udaas hoti hoon, to mere ghar walon ko bhi meri halat ka andaza ho jata hai. Unhein bhi
meri udaasi ka ehsaas hota hai, aur woh bhi apne andar ke ehsaas ko chhupane ki koshish karte
hain. Ghar mein ek ajeeb si bechaini chhayi rehti hai, jaise ke koi aasman se gir gaya hai. Har
cheez mein ek ajeeb si khamoshi hoti hai, jaise ke kuch kehna chahti hai, lekin kuch keh nahi
pata hai. Is halat mein, ghar ke har ek shakhs apne andar ke udaasi ko mehsoos karta hai. Kaam
karne ke bawajood bhi, unka mann udaasi se bhara hota hai. Har kadam par ek ajeeb sa bojh
mehsoos hota hai, jaise ke duniya ka sara bojh unke kandhon par hai. Lekin phir bhi, woh apne
kaam mein lage rehte hain, apne farz ko nibhate hain.
Interviewer: Interviewer: Jab apka mood thek ho to ghar me kesa mahsoos krti hai, ghar k kaam
kese hote hai?
Bakhtawar: Jab mera mood theek hota hai, to ghar mein mujhe kaam karke khushi milti hai.
Main ghar ke kaam ko anjaam dene mein masroof rehti hoon aur isme mujhe khushi milti hai.
Masha Allah, main ghar ko buhat ache se dekhti hoon aur apne bachon ka khayal rakhti hoon.
Main apne ghar ko hamesha saaf-suthra aur khushnuma banane ki koshish karti hoon. Jab mood
theek hota hai, to main aur mere bachay outing pe nikal jaate hain. Park jaana, shopping karna ya
kahin ghumne jaana mujhe buhat pasand hai. Bahar ja kar naye logon se milna aur naye tajurbe
hasil karna bhi mujhe khushi deta hai. Is tarah, jab mood theek hota hai, to ghar mein kaam karne
mein mujhe khushi milti hai aur main apne ghar ko aur bachon ko pyaar se dekhti hoon. Mood
ka theek hona ghar ke mahol ko aur bhi khushnuma banata hai. Jab main apne kaam mein
masroof hoti hoon, to mujhe ek alag sukoon mehsoos hota hai. Ghar ko sajane-sawarne mein lag
jana, bachon ke saath waqt bitana, yeh sab mujhe khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Main apne ghar ko
ek aisi jagah banane ki koshish karti hoon jahan sab khush aur musarrat se reh sakein. Jab mood
theek hota hai, to main aur mere bachay bahar nikal kar naye tajurbe hasil karte hain. Park jaana,
kisi naye jagah explore karna, yeh sab mujhe buhat pasand hai. Bahar ja kar naye logon se milna,
unke saath baatein karna, yeh mujhe nayi energy aur khushi deta hai. Har ek naya tajurba mere
liye ek nayi khushi ka zariya ban jata hai. Ghar ke kaam mein masroof rehna, bachon ke saath
waqt guzarna, aur bahar nikal kar naye logon se milna, yeh sab mujhe mere mood ko theek karne
mein madad karta hai. Jab main apne ghar ko dekhti hoon, to mujhe ek ajeeb si khushi aur fakhr
mehsoos hota hai. Mere bachon ki muskurahat aur khushiyon se bhari aankhon ko dekh kar dil
ko sukoon milta hai. Aur jab hum bahar jaate hain, to har ek naya tajurba mere liye ek nayi
khushi ka zariya ban jata hai.
Interviewer: Agar kaam ko bilkul dil na kare to kya krti hai?
Bakhtawar: Jab mera kaam karne ka dil bilkul nahi karta, to main apna dil behlaane ke liye
mobile istemal karti hoon. Main Facebook aur YouTube pe jaati hoon aur videos dekhti hoon.
YouTube pe recipes dekh kar mujhe khushi milti hai aur kabhi-kabhi main naye khane banana ki
koshish bhi karti hoon. Mobile istemal karne se mujhe thoda sa araam milta hai aur dil ko tasalli
milti hai. Kabhi-kabhi main social media pe dost se baat bhi kar leti hoon ya unki posts dekhti
hoon. Is tarah, jab kaam karne ka dil nahi karta, to main apne mobile ka istemal karti hoon taake
apna mood thoda sa acha kar sakoon aur dil ko tasalli de sakoon. Mobile ka istemal mere liye ek
tarah ka distraction ka kaam karta hai. Jab kaam karne ka mann nahi hota, to mobile pe videos
dekhna ya social media pe waqt guzarna mujhe dil ko thoda sa aaraam aur tasalli deta hai.
Recipes dekh kar ya naye khane banana ki koshish karke mujhe khushi aur thodi si dil ko tasalli
milti hai. Mobile pe dost se baat karna bhi ek tareeqa hai apne dard ko bhoolne ka. Social media
pe dost se baat karna ya unki posts dekhna bhi mujhe apne dard se door kar deta hai. Dosto ke
saath ki hui baatein ya unki muskurahat dekh kar dil ko thoda sa aaraam milta hai. Is tarah,
mobile ka istemal mere liye ek chhota sa escape ka zariya ban jata hai jab kaam karne ka mann
nahi hota. Lekin kabhi-kabhi main samajhti hoon ke mobile ka istemal bhi ek tarah ki addiction
ban sakti hai. Zyada waqt mobile pe bitane se kaam mein kami aati hai aur dil ko asal masail ka
samna nahi hota. Isliye main kabhi-kabhi apne aap ko rok kar apne kaam mein masroof ho jaati
hoon.
Interviewer: Ghar me free time me kya krti hai?
Bakhtawar: Jaise pahle bhi bataya me mobile use krti ho facebook youtube wagera drame dekh
lena tv dekh lena or neend ko bhi pura kr leti ho Mobile ka istemal karke main apne aap ko kuch
waqt ke liye alag duniya mein le jaati hoon, jahan meri duniya ki fikron aur ghamon ka koi asar
nahi hota. Facebook aur YouTube pe drame dekhna mujhe dil ko tasalli aur thoda sa aaraam deta
hai. In dramon mein doosre logon ke dard aur masail dekh kar apne masail ko kam mehsoos karti
hoon. TV dekhna bhi ek tarah ka distraction hai jisme main apne aap ko kho jati hoon, aur apne
dil ko thoda sa aaraam milta hai. Neend ko pura karna bhi ek aham hissa hai mere dil ko tasalli
dene ka.
Interviewer: Farig ooqat me kis kisam k khayalat or sooche aati hai?
Bakhtawar: Farig waqt mein mujhe ghar ke kaamon ke ilawa bachon ki aur unke future ki fikar
hoti hai. Main unki parwarish aur taleem ke bare mein sochti hoon aur unke liye behtar
mustaqbil ki fikar krte hue unki madad karti hoon. Bachon ki khushi aur tarbiyat mere liye sab se
ahem hai. Saath hi, apne ghar ke kaamon ke bare mein bhi sochti hoon aur unko behtar banane ki
koshish karti hoon. Susral ki aur apni betiyon ki bhi fikar hoti hai, unki khushiyon aur mushkilat
par sochti hoon. Unki khushi aur mohabbat mere liye bohot ahem hai aur main unki madad karte
hue unki khushiyon mein hissa ban'ne ki koshish karte hoon. Jab farig waqt hota hai, to in sab
masail aur fikron ka samna hota hai aur main apne dimagh mein in sabko hal karne ki koshish
karte hue guzarti hoon Bachon ka mustaqbil mere liye ek ahem zimmedari hai. Unki parwarish
aur taleem mein meri shiddat aur lagan hai. Main unhein behtar insan aur behtar musalman
banane ki koshish karti hoon taake wo zindagi mein kamiyabi aur khushiyan hasil kar sakein.
Unke liye behtar taleemi sahoolat aur unka sahi tarbiyat kaafi ahem hai, isliye main unki har
kisam ki madad karte hue unhein sahi raah par chalne mein unka saath deti hoon. Ghar ke
kaamon ke ilawa, apne susral ki aur apni betiyon ki fikar bhi mere dil mein rehti hai. Main unki
khushi aur mushkilat ka ehsaas karti hoon aur unke saath khare khare mushkilat ka samna karti
hoon. Unki khushi aur mohabbat mere liye sab se ahem hai aur main unhein har tarah se madad
karne ki koshish karte hue unki khushiyon mein hissa ban'ne ki koshish karte hoon.
Interviewer: Ghar k halat se mutmain hai?
Bakhtawar: Jee, Alhamdulillah, mein apne ghar ke halat se buhat mutmain hoon. Mere ghar
mein sukoon ka mahol hai jo mujhe khushi deta hai. Mere husband aur bachon ke saath achay
rishte hain, Ghar ke kaamon mein madad karna aur apne bachon ka khayal rakhna mere liye aik
khushi ka bais hai. Ghar ki har tafreeh aur khususiyaat mujhe bohot pasand hain aur mein har
lamha unka. Apne ghar ke mahol se mutmain hona bohot ahem hai aur mujhe yeh khushi hai ke
Allah ne mujhe ek itna pyara ghar diya hai.
Interviewer: Apki zaroorto k pura hone na hone ka udaasi pe asar prta hai?
Bakhtawar: Nahi, mere zaroorat puri na hone se udaasi nahi hoti. Mein samajhti hoon ke har
cheez apne waqt par hoti hai aur agar kuch abhi tak pura nahi hua hai, to shayad woh mere liye
abhi zaroori nahi agar kuch abhi tak pura nahi hua hai, to shaayad uski kami mujh par waqti toor
pr asar dalti hai lekin phe sab khud ba khud thek ho jata hai. Lekin maine ye bhi samjha hai ke
agar kuch abhi nahi mila, to ye meri zindagi ka aik hissa hai, aur shayad behtar cheezon ke liye
jagah ban rahi hai. Main umeed rakhti hoon ke jo kuch bhi nahi mil raha, wo mujhe behtar
cheezon ki taraf le jayega. To agar zaroorat puri nahi hoti, to shaayad Allah ke marzi hain ke
abhi mujhe intezaar karna chahiye. Aur agar woh zaroorat abhi puri nahi hui, to mujhe yakeen
hai ke waqt ke saath saath sab kuch apne aap theek ho jayega. Har cheez ka apna waqt hota hai,
aur kabhi kabhi humare liye behtar hota hai ke hum us waqt ke aane ka intezaar karein. Mein is
baat par yakeen rakhti hoon ke agar kuch abhi tak nahi mila, to shayad us cheez ki zaroorat abhi
mere liye nahi hai. Shayad wo cheez ya mauqa mere liye bhi aane waale waqt mein hai, jab
mujhe uski zaroorat hogi. Allah ki marzi mein hi sab kuch hai, aur agar kuch hamare liye nahi
mila, to shayad wo humare liye behtar hai. Mein umeed rakhti hoon ke agar kuch bhi nahi mil
raha, to Allah mujhe us cheez ki taraf le jayega jo mere liye behtar hai. Or jab zaroorat puri nahi
hoti, to main yakeen rakhti hoon ke waqt ke saath saath sab kuch apne aap theek ho jayega. Har
musibat ka hal waqt ke saath ata hai, aur agar kuch abhi tak pura nahi hua hai, to shayad uska
waqt abhi nahi aya hai
Interviewer: Ap k khayal me bahir aana jana or logo se milna julna apki udaasi ko krta hai?
Bakhtawar: Haan, aapki yeh baat bilkul theek hai. Bahir aana jana aur logon se milna julna
udaasi ko kam karta hai. Ghar mein ruk kar insaan apni sochon mein uljha rehta hai, uski duniya
chhoti si ho jati hai. Lekin jab bahir jaate hain, toh zehan khula rehta hai aur naye naye soch
milte hain. Main bhi yahi mehsoos karti hoon. Jab ghar se bahir nikalti hoon aur logon se milti
hoon, Har mulaqat apka dhayan bata deti hai. Logon se milna, unki baatein sunna bande ko relax
kr deta hai Aur jab main ghar wapas aati hoon, toh mood bilkul fresh hota hai. Isi tarah, bahir
jaana aur logon se milna julna mere liye ek tarah ka udaasi kam krne ka zariya hai jo mere zehan
ko taaza kar deta hai aur meri udaasi ko kam karta hai. Bahir jaana aur logon se milna julna mere
liye ek behtareen tareeqa hai apni udaasi ko door karne ka. Jab main ghar se bahir nikalti hoon,
toh mere andar ek nayi energy aur umeed ki roshni aa jati hai. Logon se milna, unki baatein
sunna, aur unke saath waqt guzarna mujhe khushi aur sukoon deta hai. Har mulaqat ek nayi soch
aur ek nayi josh ke saath meri duniya ko rangin banati hai. Logon se milna aur unke saath waqt
guzarna mere liye ek tarah ka stress reliever hai. Jab main unki muskurahat dekhti hoon aur unki
baatein sunti hoon, toh meri duniya mein ek nayi taza hawa chalti hai. Unki khushiyan dekh kar
mere dil ko bhi khushi aur sukoon milta hai. Aur jab main ghar wapas aati hoon, toh mood bilkul
fresh hota hai aur main apne kaam mein bhi zyada focus kar pati hoon.
Interviewer: Jo oorte job krti hai un pe udaasi ka kya asar hota?
Bakhtawar: Job karne wali aur ghar mein rehne wali, dono ki zindagi mein udaasi ke asar alag-
alag hote hain. Ghar mein rehne wali aurton ki udaasi zyadatar ghar ke masail se judi hoti hai,
jaise ke bachon ki parwarish, ghar ke kaam, aur rishtedaaron k masail wagera. Jabke job karne
wali aurton ki udaasi ke asar alag hote hain. Unko ghar ke masail ke alawa job ki zimedariya bhi
hoti hain. Unhe dono taraf ke masail ko dekhna padta hai. Office ke kaam, aur phir ghar ke
masail, in sab cheezon ka saamna karna unke liye mushkil hota hai. Ghar mein rehne wali aurat
jab udaas hoti hai, toh uska asar zyadatar ghar ke mahol par hota hai. Lekin job karne wali aurat
ko agar udaasi hoti hai, toh wo apne kaam par bhi tawajja nahi kar pati, aur is se unke
performance par bhi asar hota hai. Dono taraf ke masail dekhna aur unka saamna karna kisi bhi
aurat ke liye mushkil hota hai, chahe wo ghar mein kaam kare ya job karne wali ho.
Interviewer: Kabhi udaasi ko barhane wali cheezo ko dhoondne ki kosish ki?
Bakhtawar: Nai aise to kbhi nai kiya Jab kisi koi bat samjha rahi ho or wo uski bhali k liye ho
to won a ssamjhe to acha nai lagata bas isi qisam k masail hi hote hai ghar k. or Agar ghar walo
se appreciation na mile inlaws ki taraf se to udaasi hoti hai Main samajh sakti hoon ke ghar ke
masail kabhi kabar udaasi ka sabab ban sakte hain. Jab kisi ko samajhaya jata hai aur wo
samajhne ki bajaye galat fehmi mein rehta hai, to yeh sachayi mein dukh aur udaasi ka sabab ban
sakta hai. Yeh ek aam masla hai jo ghar ke logon ke darmiyan hota hai, aur isse kisi bhi rishte ko
asani se nahi bachaya ja sakta or agar ghar walon se expected appreciation na mile, lekin in-laws
ki taraf se appreciation milti hai, to yeh bhi dil ko dukhi aur udaas karne wala masla ho sakta hai.
Har shakhs apne kareebi logon ki tareef aur support ka intezaar karta hai, aur agar yeh milna
band ho jaye to dil ko udaasi mehsoos hoti hai. Ghar ke masail aur in-laws ki taraf se na milne
wali tareef ya support se udaasi ka ehsaas natural hai. Lekin is par amal karne ka behtar tareeqa
yeh hai ke hum apne expectations ko realistic rakhein aur dusron se ummeed na rakhein.
Bakhtawar: Kabhi udaasi k waja ko khatam krne ki kosish ki?
Nimra: Ghar ke masail to hamesha rahte hi hai hain, aur inhe ek dam se khatam karna mushkil
hai. Ye masail to hamesha se chal rahe hain, aur inka hal tabhi mumkin hai jab har shakhs, chahe
wo sasural se ho ya bahu, ek dusre ki samajh aur izzat karein. Mujhe to lagta hai k Ghar ki udaasi
ko khatam karne ki koshish mein, samajh aur mohabbat ka hona zaroori hai. Sasural walon ko
bahu ki qadar aur uske jaiz haqooq ka ehtiram karna chahiye. Jab dono taraf ka samajh aur aapas
mein madad karne ka irada ho, tab hi ghar ke masail ka hal mumkin hai. Ismein sabse zaroori hai
ki har shakhs ek dusre ko samjhe aur izzat de. Bahu ko apne haqooq milne chahiye aur sasural
walon ko bhi bahu ki qadar karni chahiye. Tabhi ghar ki udaasi ko kam kiya ja sakta hai aur ghar
mein aman qaim ki ja sakti hai.
Interviewer: Aap kese apni udaasi ko overcome krti hai?
Bakhtawar: Baatie zayada share apne miya se share krti ho Miyan se baat cheet karna, apne dil
ki baatien share karna aur unki raay lena, yeh mere liye ek ahem tareeqa hai apni dil ki baatien
express karne ka. Miyan se apni khushiyan, gham, aur tamaam masail share karna mere liye ek
aham tareeqa hai unke saath apni zindagi ka har pal baantne ka. Unki saath-guzaar har pal mere
liye maayne rakhta hai, aur main unse har cheez ke baare mein apna opinion lena chahti hoon.
Miyan se baat cheet karke, unki raay lena, aur apni dil ki baatien share karna mujhe unke saath
aur bhi qareeb le aata hai. Unki support aur guidance mere liye bohot ahem hai, aur main unki
raay ko hamesha ahmiyat deti hoon. Unke saath har baat share karna, meri zindagi ko aur bhi
rangin banata hai, aur humara rishta mazboot hota hai unse se baat karke, main apni dil ki
baatien khul kar keh sakti hoon, aur unki samajh aur support se mujhe sukoon milta hai. Unki
presence mere liye ek aham sahara hai, jisse main har mushkil aur khushi ko baat sakti hoon.
Humara rishta vishwas aur samajhdari par mabni hai, jisme har ek baat share karna mere liye
zaroori hai.
Interviewer: Kya udaasi aik aam se cheez hai ya koi khatarnaak bat hai?
Bakhtawar: Mujhe to jab bhi udaasi ho, main apne miya se baat karti hoon. Unse apni dil ki
baatein share karke mujhe bohot acha mehsoos hota hai. Unki samajhdari aur saath hone se meri
udaasi kam hoti hai. Hamari guftagu se mujhe ahsaas hota hai ke main akeli nahi hoon aur koi
mere saath hai, jo meri pareshaniyon ko samajhta hai aur mujhe sahi raah dikha sakta hai. Miya
biwi ke darmiyan guftagu aur samajh bahut ahem hoti hai, aur yeh mere liye buht bara sahara hai
udaasi se nijat pane ke liye. Miya se baat karke, mujhe ek aisa saathi milta hai jo meri har baat ko
samajhne ka pura irada rakhta hai. Unki sunehri guftagu se meri udaasi mein kami aati hai aur
main apne masail ko unke saath share karke unki madad le leti hoon. Unki samajhdari aur
sujhaav mujhe ek nayi roshni deta hai aur main unki salah par amal karke apni zindagi ko behtar
bana leti hoon. Miya biwi ke darmiyan guftagu aur samajh ka hona zaroori hai taake rishta
mazboot ban sake aur dono partners apne masail ko saath mein hal kar sakein. Jab main apne
miya se baat karti hoon, toh mujhe ahsaas hota hai ke hum ek doosre ke liye hamesha maujood
hain, chahe koi bhi mushkilat aaye. Unki saath hone se mujhe himmat aur hosla milta hai ke
main har mushkil ka samna kar sakoon aur udaasi ko door kar sakoon.
Interviewer: Kya har oorat udaasi ko mahsoos krti hai?
Bakhtawar: har aik ka apna apna khayal hota hai lekin aam tor par, zyadatar aurtein udaasi ko
mahsoos karti hain. Ghar ke zimmedariyon, bachon ki parwarish aur susral ka sakht mahool ki
wajah se, bohot si aurtein apne zehni tor par pareshan aur udaas mehsoos karti hain. In masail ka
samna karna aam hai, Lekin, kisi bhi aurat ki udaasi ka sabab alag ho sakta hai. Kuch ko rishton
mein masail, naukri ki pareshani, ya sehat ki tangi se udaasi hoti hai. Baaz aurtein apni marzi ke
khilaf shadi ki majboori ya susral mein tasub ki wajah se udaasi mehsoos karti hain. Har aurat ke
zindagi mein mukhtalif pehlu hote hain jo uski udaasi ko mukhtalif banate hain. Lekin ek baat
aam hai udaasi aur zindagi ke challenges har aurat ko ek na ek waqt zaroor guzarte hain.
Interviewer: Koi asia mashwara dena chahe jo udaasi ko khatam krne me madadgar sabit ho?
Bakhtawar: Mere mutabiq to udaasi ko door karne ka aik asan tareeqa bahir outing par jane ka
hai. Bahar jane se insaan ke zehan mein naye khayalat aate hain aur dil ko sukoon milta hai.
Dusri madadgar cheez hai apne bacho or betiyo k bacho se baatie krna poote potiyo ko khilana.
Baat cheet karne se dil ko sukoon milta hai aur aksar masail ka hal bhi nikalta hai. Dusre ghar
jaane se bhi udaasi kam hoti hai. Naye mahol mein rehne se aur doosron ke saath waqt guzarne
se dil ko sukoon milta hai aur udaasi ka ehsaas kam hota hai.